Understanding Secure, avoidant, and Anxious Attachment in Children and Adults

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Secure attachment leads to a child feeling comforted and loved by their parents, creating a sense of safety to explore the world. Adults with secure attachment trust others, feel safe, and are able to take risks. Anxious attachment in children results from a lack of comfort upon reunion with parents, leading to a lack of self-trust and constant need for reassurance in adulthood. Avoidant attachment in adults manifests as a fear of being hurt, leading to a tendency to withdraw and control situations by distancing oneself emotionally.

Glennon and Amanda share why they love this wildly popular conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy and how it radically changed their approaches to parenting their kids (and reparenting themselves).

Dr. Becky Kennedy guides us through Attachment Styles, how our past comes alive in our present – and how to free ourselves and raise freer kids.

1. Why attachment styles are at the heart of our most intense conflicts (in ourselves and with others).

2. How to rewire our original mental coding (75% of which is complete by age 3), so we can have more peace.

3. How our physical and emotional attractions in adulthood are dictated by childhood attachments.

4. Why it’s never too late to initiate relationship repair, and the warning signs that we’re starved for connection.

5. How we can help our kids trust their instincts, use parenting as a path to grow in the ways we’ve always wanted to grow, and build empathy for our own imperfect parents.

For our other conversations with Dr. Becky Kennedy, check out:

130. Breaking Cycles and Reparenting Yourself with Dr. Becky Kennedy

131. How to Raise Untamed Kids with Dr. Becky Kennedy

170. The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy

About Dr. Becky:

Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and mom of three, named

“The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine.Dr. Becky is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be and founder of the Good Inside Membership platform, a hub with Dr. Becky’s complete parenting content collection all in one place. Her podcast “Good Inside with Dr. Becky” – was one of Apple Podcasts “Best Shows of 2021.”

TW: @goodinside

IG: @drbeckyatgoodinside

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