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Gabor Maté: Why Your Trauma is Showing Up as Guilt, Fear, and Shame & How to Untrap Yourself from the Past

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Choosing Between Familiar and Unfamiliar Pain (pain either way)

We often fear the unfamiliar pain of breaking free from dependence and being our authentic selves, opting instead for the familiar pain of guilt and suppression for the sake of acceptance. The speaker emphasizes that in life, there is no pain-free option, and we must choose between the pain of conformity or the pain of being ourselves. They suggest that the long-term pain of not being authentic is more severe than the short-term discomfort of being true to oneself, leading to genuine independence and liberating relationships. Ultimately, we are presented with a choice between familiar pain, which we know, and unfamiliar pain, which we fear, highlighting the importance of embracing the discomfort of true self-expression for long-term fulfillment.

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