Understanding the Impact of Self-Deprecating Behavior in Dating

Dating is not about knocking oneself down or bombarding others with negative self-perceptions. The goal is for someone to appreciate both the positive and negative aspects of oneself. While moments of vulnerability can be connecting, continuously expressing self-doubt can lead to others viewing us negatively. People want to be accepted for who they are, but acceptance does not always translate to desire. Continuously portraying oneself as having no value can diminish others' desire. It's important to question whether our behavior paints a picture of value or devaluation and to address self-sabotaging tendencies in dating.