The Importance of Positivity in Relationships

In relationships, it is important to have a variety of positive emotions that outweigh the negative ones. Having multiple positive emotions, such as joy, love, and gratitude, can help counteract the impact of negative emotions. The masters of relationships have five times more positive behaviors during conflict and a ratio of 20 to 1 outside of conflict. Turning towards your partner in moments of no conflict can lead to shared moments of humor and affection, which help reduce physiological arousal and flooding during conflict. Sharing laughter and showing understanding and compassion towards each other can greatly change the trajectory of the relationship.