
The Place We Find Ourselves
The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as psychologist Dan Allender, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.
Latest episodes

Aug 13, 2018 • 35min
19 The Path To Healing: Why It's So Important To Find Kindness For The Younger You
Jason reflects on why he began engaging his story and what that process looked like for him. Jason began addressing his story as part of a story group... but (surprising twist) his father just happened to be a participant in that group! In today’s episode Jason talks about why his growing up years had such a big influence on his adult life, and what the path toward healing and wholeness has looked like. Support the podcast

Aug 6, 2018 • 35min
18 Why Your Story Makes It Hard To Hope
Hope is flat out agonizing. Hope requires that you groan inwardly while, at the same time, waiting expectantly. The alternatives to hope are a deadening of desire and a growing cynicism about what you can really expect from life in this world. Indeed, most hope is squashed by the simple phrase, “I’m just being realistic.” But our war with hope inevitably leads to God: will God respond to the cries of my heart? Support the podcast

Jul 29, 2018 • 39min
17 What It Looks Like To Actually Grieve Your Wounds
In my second conversation with Andrew Bauman, we engage the whole question of “What does it mean to actually grieve?” If you enjoy my conversation with Andrew, you may want to either pickup a copy of his forthcoming book called Stumbling Toward Wholeness or spend 37 minutes watching his beautiful film A Brave Lament which is also available on Amazon. We talk about both the book and the film today. Support the podcast

Jul 23, 2018 • 31min
16 Why Lament (Surprisingly) Leads to Life and Freedom
Explore the power of unfiltered lament in engaging with God during hardship. Learn how expressing genuine emotions can deepen faith and bring freedom and joy. Discover the significance of embracing sorrow and doubt in the journey of faith.

Jul 16, 2018 • 33min
15 Choosing Kindness: Engaging Stories of Shame with Andrew Bauman
One of the consequences of trauma is that we tend to do great harm to ourselves—and particularly to our bodies—after the trauma. Today, Andrew talks about the reality of self-contempt and the damage it does to our hearts. We discuss the necessity of honoring our stories with kindness and care, and the importance of engaging our bodies in the process of healing. We also talk about pornography in the context of our stories. Support the podcast

Jul 9, 2018 • 38min
14 How to Overcome the Shame of Sexual Abuse with Scott
In today’s episode, I talk to a fellow therapist named Scott. Scott leads groups for men who have a history of sexual abuse. Today, Scott talks about part of what it looked like for him to engage his own story of sexual abuse. In particular, we reflect on the importance of listening to our bodies in the battle to overcome the shame inherent in all sexual abuse. We end by talking about the necessity of coming to bless our bodies rather than curse them. Support the podcast

Jul 2, 2018 • 26min
13 Your Wounds and the Path to Healing
In today’s show we take a deeper look at how our hearts have been wounded and what the path to healing looks like. Guided by Isaiah 61, we see how our wounding is linked to the particular ways that we find ourselves enslaved. I conclude by reflecting on what is involved in walking the path of healing. The bottom line is that you don’t have to wait until heaven for the healing of your wounds. Support the podcast

Jun 25, 2018 • 50min
12 Why Trauma Makes It Hard to Trust Your Gut with Janet
One of the byproducts of trauma is that you lose a sense of being able to trust your body. You begin to distrust your gut knowledge of what is true because the people around you question your reality. In today’s episode, Janet explains how this has played out in her life, past and present. Support the podcast

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Jun 18, 2018 • 29min
11 Implicit Memory: The Thing That's Running Your Life
When it comes to how and why you react to things the way you do, nothing is more important than implicit memory. Do you ever feel intense emotion that you know is “more than the situation calls for”? Perhaps you think of these experiences as “over-reactions.” These intense emotional reactions are not over-reactions at all. They are directly proportional to how your brain interprets your experience through the grid of your implicit memory. Support the podcast

Jun 11, 2018 • 37min
10 The Trauma of Abandonment with Gary B
Gary Barcolow shares a childhood trauma that shaped his future decisions. The emotional impact of a tennis experience with his father leads to a shift towards joy and presence. A moment of surrender in the wilderness brings profound realization. Reflections on work-life balance and embracing vulnerability for personal growth.