
Proxy with Yowei Shaw
It's the knot you can't untangle - the problem so unique, it makes you feel alone. But what if you could talk to someone who gets it? On Proxy, we find that person. The perfect stranger to offer the insight to demystify the feelings that shape us all. Yowei Shaw (formerly of NPR’s Invisibilia) and her team of emotional investigators, at your service. Support the show on Patreon: patreon.com/proxypodcast Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com
Latest episodes

Aug 15, 2024 • 40min
Psychodrama: The 2nd Oldest Psychotherapy You've Never Heard Of, But Have Definitely Tried
Part 3 of Yowei's extremely meta quest to solve the mystery of proxy conversations. In this episode, Yowei learns about psychodrama, a psychotherapy that has similarities to proxy conversations and used to be a dominant modality in the U.S. and then died. Dr. Scott Giacomucci breaks down the mechanics of proxy conversations and tries his psychodrama techniques on Yowei. From the episode:
Dr. Scott Giacomucci is an expert in psychodrama and the director of the Phoenix Center for Experiential Trauma Therapy: www.phoenixtraumacenter.com
Download Scott's textbook about psychodrama for free: www.phoenixtraumacenter.com/social-work-sociometry-psychodrama-book/
Follow Scott on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@PhoenixTraumaCenter
Proxy is an independent podcast that relies on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon: patreon.com/proxypodcast. You’ll get our newsletter and exclusive bonus episodes. Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishaw Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

Aug 6, 2024 • 37min
Connor Ratliff's Dead Eyes
Part 2 of Yowei's quest to solve the mystery of proxy conversations. Why do they work? How? Can Yowei figure out how to explain the show to people who don't get it? In this episode, Yowei gets advice from actor, comedian, and proxy conversation expert Connor Ratliff. Over 20 years ago, Tom Hanks fired Connor from a small role in the HBO mini-series Band of Brothers - apparently for having "dead eyes." But is that really what happened? Connor made a podcast to investigate, and had 30 episodes worth of proxy conversations before talking to Tom Hanks himself. Check out Connor Ratliff's work:
Dead Eyes podcast: https://headgum.com/dead-eyes
Tiny Dinos podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tiny-dinos/id1742662792
The George Lucas Show: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH1XwfxXB--rl_Nqxvun8zQ
Proxy is an independent podcast that relies on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon: patreon.com/proxypodcast. You’ll get our newsletter and exclusive bonus episodes. Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishaw Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

Jul 24, 2024 • 1h 1min
The Incredible Healing Powers of Vicarious Restorative Justice
Yowei has a problem. She's having trouble explaining the show to people who don't get it. She knows proxy conversations work. But why? How? Part 1 of a 4-part quest to solve the mystery of proxy conversations. Yowei learns about a proxy conversation happening in a completely different context: restorative justice with proxy survivors and offenders. From the episode:
Alissa Ackerman is a criminal justice professor at California State University and the co-founder of Ampersands Restorative Justice: www.ampersandsrj.org
Alissa Ackerman's book Healing from Sexual Violence: https://safersociety.org/bridging-divides-dr-alissa-ackerman-honored-with-the-2024-gail-burns-smith-award/
Proxy is an independent podcast that relies on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon: patreon.com/proxypodcast. You’ll get our newsletter and exclusive bonus episodes. Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishaw Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

Jun 7, 2024 • 10min
Exploding the Myth of Meritocracy with Ofer Sharone [TEASER]
Teaser for full-length exclusive bonus episode on Patreon. An in-depth interview with UMass Amherst sociologist and professor Ofer Sharone about the stigma trap that laid off workers can fall into and how the myth of meritocracy impacts even people who don't think they believe in it. For the full bonus episode, go to patreon.com/proxypodcast. From the episode:Ofer Sharone's book The Stigma Trap: https://global.oup.com/academic/product/the-stigma-trap-9780190239244?cc=us&lang=en& Proxy is an independent podcast that relies on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon: patreon.com/proxypodcast. You’ll get our newsletter and exclusive bonus episodes. Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishaw Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

May 23, 2024 • 50min
The Layoff Trilogy 3: HR by Proxy
Explore the emotional aftermath of layoffs with a music project, unresolved tension with HR, confusion around layoff processes, HR practices and personal realities, and a journey to self-financing and closure.

May 23, 2024 • 42min
The Layoff Trilogy 2: Danger Day
Ofer Sharone, an expert on workplace issues, discusses the psychological impact of layoffs with Miles and Elliot, a trans couple facing unemployment. The narrative delves into their anxieties leading up to 'danger day' at work, highlighting the emotional turmoil and uncertainties faced by those suddenly laid off.

May 22, 2024 • 42min
The Layoff Trilogy 1: Layoff Girl
Former NPR employee Yowei Shaw discusses her feelings after being laid off, exploring emotional turmoil, identity crisis, societal shame, and rejection. She reflects on the impact of layoffs on individuals and the importance of sharing their stories. The episode delves into the historical context of job loss and the struggles of navigating layoffs, highlighting the emotional rollercoaster experienced by those affected.

May 15, 2024 • 1min
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Proxy is an independent podcast that relies on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon: patreon.com/proxypodcast. You’ll get our newsletter and exclusive bonus episodes. Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishaw Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com
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