Bare Marriage

Relationship therapist Jay Stringer discusses the damaging impact of evangelical messages on honeymoons, emphasizing the importance of mutual care in sexual relationships. The podcast challenges harmful marriage advice and explores societal pressures on women's desires, highlighting the need for therapy and sexual education. It critiques evangelical notions of forgiveness and differentiation, emphasizing the dangers of unqualified pastors providing counseling on abusive issues. The conversation delves into the impact of evangelical messaging on marriages, promoting healthy beginnings and seeking expertise for better guidance.

Send us a textForgiveness is so often weaponized against victims in the church. But what does the Bible really say about forgiveness, especially when trauma is involved? How can we value our own mental health but also follow Jesus? This is a fascinating and healing conversation with Susannah Griffith, author of Forgiveness After Trauma.Our Sponsor:The Kingdom Girls NIV Bible. Meet the women in God's story! Designed for girls, but honestly--it's awesome for every woman! And it makes a great Easter gift. The Bible includes beautiful photos and write-ups on every woman who is mentioned in Scripture. Finally, a Bible that highlights God's story for women.  View a sample of the Bible here!To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Links We Mentioned:Susannah Griffith’s book Forgiveness After TraumaFind Susannah at her websiteFuture Speaking Events:Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! March 23, 2:30-4:30 pm. Q&A, crafts with toxic books, and more.More information here. Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textNatalie Hoffman joins us today to talk about her INCREDIBLE memoir All the Scary Little Gods. Natalie escaped an abusive marriage, and now coaches other women in similar situations.  In her memoir, she invites us to listen to the story from the point of view of Little Natalie, and using IFS (Internal Family Systems) to see it from all of her parts. And as we understand our stories, we make it so that we won't recreate the problems.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Links We Mentioned:Natalie Hoffman’s book All the Scary Little GodsNatalie’s website Flying Free, and her Flying Free podcastThe first podcast Natalie did with me–how Christian books made me stay in an abusive marriageNatalie joined us on our podcast about the book Lies Women BelieveRichard Schwartz' book No Bad PartsJenna Riemersma's book on IFS Altogether YouFuture Speaking Events:Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! March 23, 2:30-4:30 pm. Q&A, crafts with toxic books, and more.More information here. Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Explore the fascinating debate between complementarianism and egalitarianism in marriage. The hosts dissect common misconceptions and logical fallacies surrounding these concepts. They argue that many who claim to be complementarian often act in egalitarian ways, emphasizing mutual respect and collaboration. The discussion critiques traditional gender roles and advocates for a more equitable approach based on scriptural teachings. Listeners are encouraged to reconsider authority dynamics and the importance of shared decision-making for healthier relationships.

Celebrating three impactful years since its release, the discussion reflects on the powerful feedback and transformative stories sparked by the book. The hosts dive into the importance of evidence within Christian teachings and critique past messages on sexuality. They share personal journeys and community engagement, highlighting the reclamation of voices and empowerment, particularly for women. The conversation also focuses on evolving teachings, transforming discussions around intimacy, and fostering genuine connections in faith communities.

Send us a textWould our reaction to Christian marriage advice change if we realize how many people who write that advice are actually in abusive or destructive marriages? What if people in those marriages are more drawn to write marriage advice to process how they're feeling?Today we look at two different women that Focus on the Family have held up to be emulated. One is a woman who has written prolifically for them, and when you look at her articles and what she reveals about her relationship, a TON of red flags are present. The other is a woman whose husband was jailed for domestic violence, but then she prayed, he repented, and now they lead Love & Respect seminars together. And Focus on the Family thinks this is a positive message.Today Sheila Gregoire is joined by her husband Keith and by abuse educator Sarah McDugal.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store! Things Mentioned in the Podcast:The article in the Revealer about Elisabeth Elliot's marriageMy article detailing Focus on the Family's Facebook post praising the man who was jailed for domestic violence, as well as the letter I sent to Jim DalyMy article on TradWife influencers and my concern for themOur podcast on Power of a Praying WifeOur one sheet download on Love & RespectFocus on the Family's article "It's the Little Things"Our Open Letter to Focus on the FamilyFind Sarah McDugal:Follow Sarah on FacebookFind her at Wilderness to WildSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textLies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth taught concerning things about shame, trauma, and even what God is like. On today's podcast, we're joined by Becky Castle Miller, a doctoral student looking at emotions in the Bible, and Helen Blake, a licensed counselor in Sydney, Australia, to discuss some of the damaging teachings--and point us to a Jesus who understands and sympathizes with our struggles.Things Mentioned in the Podcast:To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store! Our Downloadable Onesheet:Download our One Sheet on Lies Women Believe, looking at the problems with the bookOther Things We Talked About:Last week's podcast on Part 1 of Lies Women BelieveFind Becky Castle Miller on InstagramScot McKnight's book King Jesus GospelSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Gretchen Baskerville and Natalie Hoffman analyze the harmful messages in 'Lies Women Believe' by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth. They critique the book's teachings on marriage, sex, divorce, and abuse. They discuss challenging evangelical marital ideologies, faith and temptation, communication patterns in marriage, traditional gender roles, trauma's impact on intimacy, and advocating for better teachings in churches.

Send us a textLinks to things mentioned:First, support us!Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Or, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation Check out our Merch!Our ResourcesSign up for Rebecca’s Friday emails The Orgasm Course (there’s also an add-on for husbands) She Deserves Better bookThe Studies We Looked At:Time Use and Feelings of Love “Women Get Worse Sex: A Confound in the Explanation of Gender Differences in Sexuality “Popular Psychology Through a Scientific Lens: Evaluating Love Languages From a Relationship Science Perspective”“Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Desire”, How to Understand Statistics Podcast (and how statistics can be misused): Want to be part of our research team?If you're a grad student, prof, or other academic, check out our job opportunities to help with peer reviewed research papers:Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textLinks to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriageOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation: https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruitsCheck out our Merch–including our Love & Respect His & Her mugs: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/his-hers-love-and-respect-ceramic-mugs/Sign up for Rebecca’s Friday emails: http://eepurl.com/z0VFnThe Great Sex Rescue: https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex: https://baremarriage.com/good-girls-guys-guide-great-sex/Gary’s article “Young Husband: It Might Not be Her; It Might be Her Situation” https://garythomas.com/2017/06/29/young-husband-might-not-might-situation/Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.