Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn

Sometimes courage is simply choosing to resist in the face of stiff odds. Using the example of the Ukranian resistance to the Russian invasion, Vern explores what it means to resist the incursion of porn into our life and asks the question - what's the alternative?If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

When we engage in porn it supercharages our sexual drive. Over time we actually can end up messing up our sexual drive and arousal process. The messes up the possiblity of a good normal sexual relationship. This episode outlines how that works but ends with the good news is that when we distance ourselves from porn, we can actually begin to return to a normal biological rhthym and a normal sexual response pattern. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

In this episode Vern cuts to the chase - if you haven't changed anything since the last time you acted out, your next time will look just like the last time! It's that simple.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

What is normal to experience in the first year of recovery? In this episode Vern interviews one of his coaching clients and talks about some of the challenges and experiences that one can expect in the first year.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

As we start a new year - it is a good time to ask the question -What would it feel like to have the best year ever and what do you need to do to make that happen?If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

A dike or levee is what keeps water back from flooding people's land and homes. In this episode Vern shares about the flooding in his home town - and how this flood is a powerful example that any dike (or porn recovery plan) is only as strong as its weakest links.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

Strong emotions, especially negative ones, are triggers for acting out with porn. If you are an avid sports fan, how do you deal with the negative emotions and desire to look at porn when your favorite team loses! Yes that may sounds silly but you real sports fans (like me) know it is a very real thing!If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

Porn serves a certain purpose in our life - that's why we hire it! In this episode Vern looks at why we use (or employ) porn and how we can find a better way to get these needs met.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

In this episode Vern likens our porn urges to a ticking stopwatch. What do we do when the stopwatch starts ticking? Better yet, is there a way to reset our ticking clock without relapsing!If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

Thee is a lot of talk in recovery circles about having an "accountability buddy" In this episode Vern talks about the lousy form of this (cop accountability) and proposes a better type of accountability relationship that is a lot more effective over time.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care