Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn

How does a couple restore their sense of closeness and teamwork - even after a disclosure (or discovery) of the presence of porn. In this episdoe Vern explores how to find a way from being Adversaries to being Allies in this trying time!If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

In the hurt and pain that usually goes with the discovery of a husband's porn use - it is common for a wife to use an ultimatum to try to force change. At one level it makes sense but it can also have unintended consequences. In this episode Vern explores that question - when is an ultimatum helpful and when isn't it?If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

Recovery is about much more than avoiding triggers. In fact if that is your sole focus, it seems that more and more triggers appear around you. In this episode Vern outlines a tool called reframing which can change our perspective from seeing everything as a threat to be avoided.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

In renovation shows it is a popular idea to tear out walls and create an open concept floor plan. In this episdoe Vern describes how our compartmentalization (separate rooms) has worked against us in our desire to create a wholistic life of integrity. Today - tear down those walls!If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

How do you know you are making headway in recovery? In this episode Vern explores various ways to determine if you are making progress (beyond just clean time)If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

There is an AA saying - "don't go into your head without adult supervision". In this episode Vern talks about some of our best thinking which actually works against our desire to be free from porn.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

When Will Smith slapped Chris Rock in the face at the Oscars everybody freaked out. Makes sense. But when do you do when you see red? What happens when you have a strong flush of emotions that seek to derail your recovery? In this episode Vern talks what we can learn from the slap heard around the world?If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

What would a professional sex therapist have to say to guys in porn recovery? Monica Cook is a sex therapist from Sydney Australia and in this episode we explore the topic of healthy sexuality and porn.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

This episode is a thumbnail sketch of the lesson "Saying goodbye to Porn" in the Finding Traction Video Course - if you want to watch a free sample of this course you can go to the website bandofbrothers.careIf you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

Do you every feel like you are one of those white dry erase board that can't get clean? In this snapshot of one of the lessons in the Finding Traction Course, we talk about how we can return to a since of having a true pristine white board once again.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care