back from the borderline

mollie adler
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Feb 7, 2022 • 51min

learning to accurately label your emotions with psychoanalyst dr. jayce long

In this second part of my conversation with psychodynamic psychologist Dr. Jayce Long, we dive even deeper into the emotional patterns that shape our relationships and the path to genuine healing. Building on part one, where we explored the unconscious mind, this episode uncovers the ways in which unresolved childhood experiences continue to influence our adult relationships, often reenacting trauma in subtle yet impactful ways. Dr. Long offers insights into how attachment styles—particularly avoidant and preoccupied/disorganized—tend to attract each other, creating a dynamic that often leads to conflict. Together, we discuss practical tools for breaking these cycles and learning to approach intimacy and trust as a gradual process, rather than a quick fix.Key topics we explore in this episode include:The lasting impact of childhood and adolescent bullying on adult relationshipsNavigating conflict in family and intimate relationships while setting clear emotional boundariesUnderstanding the difference between healthy self-awareness and self-centerednessIdentifying and expressing core emotions—anger, sadness, fear, curiosity, love, and joy—by tuning into our bodies and embracing “complicated” feelingsHow perfectionism in our inner critic once served us, and why evolving beyond it is essential in recoveryHow giving unsolicited advice may unknowingly undermine our relationshipsMoving beyond the concept of “raging” at our inner critic, finding more nuanced ways to build self-compassionThis episode encourages listeners to develop a deeper connection to their emotions and break free from the patterns that keep them trapped in past trauma. Join us as we explore the nuances of emotional healing, offering practical steps for setting boundaries, cultivating trust, and navigating the complexities of self-growth and recovery.Follow Jayce on Instagram @darebeingwithCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Feb 4, 2022 • 1h 19min

understanding your unconscious mind with psychoanalyst dr. jayce long

n this episode, I sit down with contemporary psychodynamic psychologist Dr. Jayce Long to explore the power of the unconscious mind and how early, repressed experiences shape our adult lives. Dr. Long sheds light on how hidden memories and emotions from our past can fuel self-destructive patterns, leading to behaviors and symptoms commonly associated with various mental health struggles. Together, we dive into how these unconscious defenses impact us and how we can begin to break free. Throughout our conversation, Dr. Long addresses the impact of repression as an unconscious defense mechanism, keeping disturbing or painful thoughts at bay but ultimately driving toxic shame and self-sabotage. We discuss practical ways to work with the unconscious mind, including labeling emotions without judgment, using critical thinking to manage all-or-nothing thinking (or “splitting”), and understanding both healthy and maladaptive forms of dissociation.We also cover:Recognizing signs of emotional regression and age-stuck behaviorsUnderstanding how attachment styles, particularly disorganized ones, contribute to relationship strugglesBreaking generational cycles of trauma and healing from toxic family dynamicsUnpacking complex topics like the “paranoid-schizoid” and “depressive” positions, which help explain why we tend to label people or situations as “all good” or “all bad”Identifying unconscious signs of emotional abuse and dealing with drama addictionThe long-term harm of childhood emotional neglect (CEN) and the need for “parental mirroring” in healthy developmentDr. Long provides guidance on acknowledging and owning our needs, working through repressed anger and grief, and moving toward self-understanding and healing. This episode is an invitation to look deeply into the unconscious mind and gain practical tools to release long-held patterns, fostering genuine growth and transformation. Recommended resources:YouTube Video | Decoding Mother-Infant Interaction with Dr. Beatrice BeebeFollow Jayce on Instagram @darebeingwithCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Jan 31, 2022 • 1h 1min

tarot therapy for trauma recovery and shadow work with dr. elliot adam

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Elliot Adam, a seasoned tarot expert with over 25 years of experience, to explore the transformative power of spirituality, tarot, and mythology. Dr. Adam has guided clients worldwide, from Hollywood creatives to doctors and entrepreneurs, using tarot as a tool for accessing the unconscious mind and deepening self-understanding. We dive into the rich symbolism of tarot, examining how archetypes and symbols can illuminate hidden aspects of ourselves and help us move through repressed emotions and self-sabotaging thoughts. Dr. Adam connects the hero’s journey to the major arcana, showing how these timeless archetypes offer a roadmap for personal growth and transformation. Together, we also explore concepts of self-love, reframe our understanding of death, and discuss Carl Jung’s idea of “the shadow.” This episode invites you to look beyond the surface, using symbolism as a powerful lens for healing, self-acceptance, and a deeper connection with your true self.Resources directly mentioned in the episode: Book | Seventy-Eight Degrees of Wisdom: A Book of Tarot by Rachel Pollack Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Jan 20, 2022 • 1h 9min

are you emotionally overcontrolled or undercontrolled? (ft. dr. anita federici)

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Anita Federici, a researcher and clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience specializing in personality and eating disorders. Dr. Federici shares groundbreaking insights into why BPD is so often misdiagnosed, introducing the concepts of emotional undercontrol (UC) and overcontrol (OC)—a new way of understanding behaviors commonly associated with BPD.We’ll discuss the latest neuroscientific research, shedding light on the connection between “quiet BPD” and emotional overcontrol, and examine how these insights are transforming the approach to diagnosis and treatment. Dr. Federici also questions the utility of diagnostic labels, offering a fresh perspective on how to view and support individuals navigating these traits.Whether you’re seeking treatment options or looking to better understand DBT and other modalities, this conversation provides valuable guidance on finding the right program to meet your needs. Join us as we explore the evolving landscape of mental health treatment and the new frameworks redefining how we view and support emotional experiences. Recommended resources:https://behavioraltech.org/ (Marsha Linehan’s Behavioral Tech Website)https://www.youtube.com/c/DBTRU (Official YouTube page for the DBT clinic at Rutgers University directed by Shireen Rizvi) Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Jul 10, 2021 • 3min

→ your transformation starts here ←

You’re not broken. You’re at the edge of something.What if the symptoms, emotions, and struggles you’ve spent your life trying to fix weren’t signs of disorder—but messages? What if your darkest moments weren’t proof of failure, but the beginning of something deeper?Back From The Borderline isn’t just another self-help podcast. It’s a portal. A space where we go beyond surface-level conversations about mental health — beyond labels, diagnoses, and quick-fix advice — into the depths of depth psychology, mythology, archetypes, and the unconscious forces shaping your life. Real healing isn’t about “fixing” yourself. It’s about seeing yourself clearly. Maybe for the first time.If you’re tired of the same recycled mental health conversations… if you know there’s more to your story than a diagnosis and a pill…You’ve found your way here for a reason.Because anyone — even you — can come back from the borderline.Follow Back From The Borderline on your podcast player so new episodes drop into your feed every week.While you're here, why not jump straight into one of my most popular multi-episode deep-dives: ★ Childhood Emotional Neglect Series★ Toxic Shame Series★ Healing the Mother Wound★ Healing the Father Wound→ Ready to take this work deeper? Head to backfromtheborderline.com and click into my Patreon, where you can browse episodes by theme, access my full archive of exclusive meditations, listen ad-free, and unlock Pathwork exercises to bring this work into your life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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