Authentic Parenting

Warning: This episode contains mature themes and sensitive topics. While I think the conversation is deep, important and rich, it could be triggering for some. Please use your best judgment and assess whether you are in the right state of mind to be exposed to such content at this point in time. Hope Edelman and Dr. Judith Rabinor on how mother loss shapes our identity and impact the way we parent. Losing a parent as a child is always traumatic. And its impact is long-term. Two short sentences but they say a lot. Especially for those of us who have become bereaved by a parental death before the age of 18. SOME KEY POINTS Why we don't like talking about grief How there is no getting over it when it comes to grief How not all loss is traumatic Hitting important life milestones and transitions as a motherless mother such as: Approaching, just turned or passing the age of your mom when she died and your child turning the age you were when your mother died MENTIONED LINKS AND RESOURCES Hope Edelman's website Judith Rabinor's webiste Ep. 290 : The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship with Judith Rabinor, Ph.D GET THE BOOKS Motherles Daughthers Motherless Mothers The AfterGrief The Girl in The RedBoots: Making Peace with My Mother OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE 194: The Dark Side of Motherhood 104: Overcoming Childhood Trauma 67: Not Like My Mother: Breaking Free from the Past 77: Loss, Grief and the Mysterious Meanings of Your Dreams 98: Healing from Trauma 99: Should We Forgive Our Parents? OUR SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit www.athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast OUT SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

We enter into the world with a breath and the process of breathing continues automatically. We don't pay much attention to it unless of course something goes wrong. But the way we breathe has an enormous impact on our health. To quote my guest directly: "Breathing impacts every aspect of health-sleep, digestion, movement, mental well-being, disease and recovery. It's an extraordinary resource with life-changing potential. And it's simple, free and available to everyone." You are about to learn some great information and practical techniques that are key to healthy breathing and healthy living. In today's conversation Patrick McKeown explains the difference between functional and dysfunctional breathing, the effects of dysfunctional breathing on our health, he emphasizes the importance of nasal breathing, the roles and misconceptions about oxygen and CO2, teaches us to breath correctly to get more oxygenation to our brain and cells, for improving focus, concentration, sleep, and ease stress and anxiety, relax the nervous system, overall health and performance. and get this, it turns out breathing for women is different. This is such a rich episode, packed not only with great information but also practical tips that you can apply right away for example how to open a blocked nose. I asked him about mask wearing: is it good, is it bad, what does it do to us, as well and learned interesting things about dry lips, double chin, ADHD and breathing and mouth taping at night for better sleep. GET HIS BOOKS The Breathing Cure The Oxygen Advantage TODAY'S SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a "groundbreakingly frank" guide to adulthood. GET HER BOOKS How to Raise an Adult Real American How to Be an Adult BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Today's episode is a compilation episode. I have put together short clips from some of your favorite conversations to remind you of what's important in parenting, to give you a boost of inspiration and positivity. in the new year. I created this compilation episode so that you can start the new year with renewed energy and intention, a sense of hope and possibility, unshakable confidence that you are a good parent, courage to look within, a fresh perspective to keep your eyes on the big picture, a trust to be guided with your heart, a commitment to become comfortable with your own discomfort and befriend your emotions, willingness to examine your own patterns and shortcomings and of course a strong practice of self- compassion. You'll hear from Melisa Bernstein, Ned Johnson, Bill Stixrud, Ellen Gottlied, Bridgett Miller, Vanessa Lapointe, Howard Glasser, Laura Froyen and Laney- a thirteen year old girl. I really enjoyed putting this episode together. I hope you enjoy listening! 286: How To Talk to Kids with Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson 279 Awakening Greatness in Kids with Howard Glasser 284 The Hard Truth about Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb 208 How to Be a Confident Parent with Vanessa LaPointe 275 Don't Fix Yourself, Accept Yourself with Melisa Bernstein 226 Practicing Conscious Parenting with Bridgett Miller 238 The Secret to Getting Kids to Listen and Cooperate with Laura Froyen and Anna Seewald 298 How to Build Closeness with Your Kids BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Hello and welcome to the final episode of the year. I'm joined with my dear friend Kristy Lauricella from episode 300. And today we are going to reflect on the past year: lessons we learned, hardships we went through, challenges we overcame, habits we started, things we enjoyed, how we had fun, as well as we will share the top 10 episodes of the year, the most downloaded and listened to episodes of 2021. And we will reveal our word of the year for 2022. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Here are the two articles by Adam Grant There's a Name for the Blah You're Feeling: It's Called Languishing We're Living Through the 'Boring Apocalypse' My article on remote learning and the pandemic's toll on teen mental health Writing Class info All About Siblings-Two Part Workshop with Laura Froyen (available for purchase now)Use coupon code: authentic25 to save $25. The Sunflower Video Kristy's agenda book Laura Matteson artist and listener website Laura Mattesson on Instagram The 300th Episode Year End Episode of 2020 Year In Review: Powerful Questions To Help You Reflect TOP 10 EPISODES OF 2021 Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel How to Talk to Kids with Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud When Your Needs Are Not met with Yvette Erasmus The Power of Self-Regulation with Sarah MacLaughlin The Hard Truth about Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb When Kids Don't Listen with Anna Seewald How to Raise Kids Who Aren't A*holes with Melinda Moyer How to Master Difficult Feelings with Joan Rosenberg Simplicity Parenting with Kim John Payne The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship with Judith Rabinor BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Jessica Lahey talks about her own experience with alcohol, the role of genetics and other risk factors, and how parents can "inoculate" their children from a life of substance abuse. Who get addicted and why Genetics and personality traits Epigenetics The role of Adverse Childhood Experiences and trauma Why is it important to delay use? How to talk about it with kids How we can improve prevention GET HER BOOKS The Addiction Inoculation The Gift of Failure BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Welcome to episode 300. What an accomplishment! 6 years! 300 episodes. Hundreds of amazing guests. Global, diverse and phenomenal community! And one passionate host! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a listener. It's because of you that I'm here and that the podcast exists. Now let's begin this milestone episode hosted by my lovely friend, former guest of the podcast and a facilitator at our LIVE event Kristy Lauricella. A woman of great depth and a sense of humor. Special thanks to those of you who sent in audio messages. I absolutely loved them and they mean a lot. Here we go! Mentioned in Episode 300 The Upside Of Your Downside with Todd Kashdan, Ph.D Stop Hurting Kids in the Name of Discipline with John Rich, Ph.D The Power of Living with a Wide-Open Heart with Scott Stabile The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship with Judy Rabinor, Ph.D Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Peaceful Parenting and the Child's Perspective with Laura Markham, Ph.D MInd-Body Tools to Develop Stress Resilience with Rebekkah LaDyne The Hard Truth About Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb The Gift of Presence with Caroline Welch Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with Richard Schwartz, Ph.D Don't Fix Yourself, Accept Yourself with Melisa Benstein A Good Apology: 4 Steps to Make Things Right with Molly Howes, Ph.D Forgiveness with Fred Luskin, Ph.D The Power of Discord with Ed Tronick, Ph.D and Glaudia Gold, MD 3 Secrets to Thriving as a Single Dad with Justan Mitchell (Coaching) How to Set Firm LImits with Kindness BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

For the past 25 years Marc Brackett, Ph.D has been researching and writing about emotions and running around the world talking to people about their feelings. Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. "Our emotional state is one of the most important aspects of our lives. It rules everything else. Its influence is pervasive. Yet it is also the thing we steer around most carefully. Our inner lives are uncharted territory even to us, a risky place to explore. Our lives are saturated with emotions-sadness, disappointment, anxiety, irritation, enthusiasm and even tranquility. Sometimes-often-those feelings are inconvenient. The irony, though, is when we ignore our feelings, or suppress them, they only become stronger. " Key poiints: Why emotions matter? (5 key areas) The differnce between emotions and feelings Incidental feelings vs integral Charecterisitics of an emotion scientisit The RULER What's a Mood Meter GET HIS BOOK Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE 262:When Your Needs are Not Met 261: How to Master Difficult Feelings 216: Childhood Emotional Neglect 129: How to Listen to Children's Big Feelings 178: Raising Emotionally Healthy Kids Emotion Series from Eps. 148-158 (Anxiety, Anger, Boredom, Fear, on Tears and Crying) BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com