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We all have an inner voice and how it manifests differs from person to person. How well do you know your inner voice? Rather than silencing the negative self-talk-the chatter, we need to learn how to harness it. This is the central question of my guest’s brand new book Chatter: The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters and How To Harness It. Ethan Kross, Ph.D  is an award-winning professor and bestselling author in the University of Michigan’s top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, and NPR’s Morning Edition. His pioneering research has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, Harvard Business Review, USA Today, The Economist, The Atlantic, Forbes, and Time. In this interview Ethan reveals the hidden power of our inner voice and shows how we can harness it to live a healthier, more satisfying and more productive life.  The good news is we are already equipped with the tools we need to make our inner voice work in our favor. Yes, that inner critic can become your inner coach.  Key points:    When do we first become aware of our inner voice?  How does harmful mental chatter influence people’s emotional health and physical health? Does venting emotions reduce harmful mental chatter? And so much more   GET HIS BOOK Chatter: The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters and How To Harness It BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

In this Special Episode, my freind and colleague Laura Froyen and I answer some of listener questions about siblings.  Questions range from keeping the older sibling from parenting the younger, parent’s worry about bringing home a new sibling, coming up with win-win activities to do when kids have opposite preferences, as well as how to respond when your child says they “hate” their sibling and how to navigate when your kids are so close in age and they compare and want everything to be fair/same? SIGN UP FOR OUR WORKSHOP  We will be teaching a LIVE, dynamic two-part workshop to answer all of your sibling questions. All About Siblings  Learn more and get your ticket >>>https://www.eventbrite.com/e/182608967337 We are going to dive deep into the key mindset shifts you need to confidently navigate your kids relationships with each other. And you will add critical tools to your toolbox that will help them take ownership of their relationship and start solving their own problems so that you can stop feeling like a referee or hall monitor. The workshop is happening on: October 21st, @11am Central/12pm Eastern (90 min with Q&A) November 4th, @ 11am Central/12pm Eastern (90 min with Q&A) Find the time in your area.  You can get all the details and sign up now at authenticparenting.com/siblings  There is a 10% discount for patrons of of the Authentic Parenting podcast. If you are supporting the show on Patreon.com then you will receive a special code.  We hope to see you there! You don’t want to miss this opportunity to sit down and pick our brains on this complex topic. If you can't make it LIVE, the replays will be sent to you.  Get Your Ticket Now See you on the inside!  If you have questions, please contact us.   

There are so many therapeutic methods and healing modalities available these days.   One of them is IFS, or parts work. I have the honor of  speaking with the creator of IFS, Dr. Rick Schwartz. He's the creator of Internal Family Systems, IFS, a highly effective evidence-based therapeutic model. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, and more recently, corporations and classrooms. In this episode we talked about:  The myth of the mono mind The goal and the 4 main benefits of IFS It’s origin, growth and milestones Then Dr. Schwartz describes the parts and their roles  We do a live demo We all have different parts. Think of an inner critic, for example, as one part. They all serve a purpose, even the most destructive ones have protective intentions.  Parts are often frozen in past traumas when their extreme rules are needed When they trust it's safe to step out of their roles, they are highly valuable to the system.   GET HIS NEW BOOK No bad Parts   SIGN UP FOR THE SIBLING WORKSHOP All About Siblings-Two-Part Workshop Join us LIVE for this two-part workshop on: October 21, 12pm Eastern/11am Central November 4, 12pm Eastern/11am Central Learn more and get your ticket >>>https://www.eventbrite.com/e/182608967337 We are going to dive deep into the key mindset shifts you need to confidently navigate your kids relationships with each other. And you will add critical tools to your toolbox that will help them take ownership of their relationship and start solving their own problems so that you can stop feeling like a referee or hall monitor. The workshop is happening on: October 21st, @11am Central/12pm Eastern (90 min with Q&A) November 4th, @ 11am Central/12pm Eastern (90 min with Q&A) Find the time in your area.  You can get all the details and sign up now at authenticparenting.com/siblings  There is a 10% discount for patrons of of the Authentic Parenting podcast. If you are supporting the show on Patreon.com then you will receive a special code.  We hope to see you there! You don’t want to miss this opportunity to sit down and pick our brains on this complex topic. If you can't make it LIVE, the replays will be sent to you.  Get Your Ticket Now See you on the inside!  If you have questions, please contact us.    BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

Did you know that when we name our feelings the activity in the amygdala decreases? My guest Sarah Peyton and I start today’s conversation with this topic. She mentions Matthew Liberman’s research She talks about the panic-grief circuit of the mammalian brain and explains the phenomenon of alarmed aloneness.  Why she prefers the expression alarmed loneliness as opposed to separation anxiety and abandonment   Some key points: The signs of alarmed aloneness  Unconscious contracts what we make with ourselves and how can we release ourselves from those harmful agreements and live freely,  The hippocampus and the amygdala in forming traumatic memories  How do we show up for other people who show us that they need accompaniment? Of course our tendency is to offer advice and solutions. We all yearn for accompaniment, attunement, resonance. The difference between empathy and resonance  Sarah’s first book, Your Resonant Self, includes the foundational neuroscience concepts and client stories that help the reader pave a resonant practice path to self-compassion. Your Resonant Self Workbook builds onto the first book by adding the neuroscience of unconscious contracts, which supports an even deeper movement into self-warmth. GET HER BOOKS Your Resonant Self Your Resonant Self Workbook   BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

The mother-daughter relationship is one of the most important—and complicated in the lives of most adult women. Helping my patients understand their mothers has helped me become familiar with parts of myself - and my mother - I might have never known if not for the stories I've heard, says Judith Rabinor, PhD,  We don't choose our mothers but as an adult you always have an opportunity to choose new pathways. It's never too late to let go of frustrated expectations and celebrate the connection you might have thought was doomed to disappointment and hurt. Your mother is the most important woman you have ever known.  I’d love to suggest some books that I have found helpful: Motherless Daughters: The legacy of loss by Hope Edelman Motherless Mothers: How mother loss shapes the parents we become by Hope Edelman The Emotionally Absent Mother,: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward    GET HER BOOK The Girl in The Red Boots: Making Peace with My Mother   BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

Stress is part of life. When stress becomes too intense, too much and too frequent it overwhelms our nervous system, and awakens stress imprints from our past and we lose the ability to effectively recover from it. And for the past year-and-a-half we have been all pushed to our limits and stress and overwhelm have been ever more present in our lives. With stress activation unhealed and unprocessed, we can go through life almost on autopilot. Listen to this fantastic conversation as Rebekkah LaDyne talks about developing mind-body tools for stress resilience.  Key Points: How parenting is an emotional experience and can place tremendous stress on our mind and body, especially if we have trauma history How there is beginning, middle and end to stress and how we often don’t allow ourselves to experience the end, and new stresses over lapse causing more overwhelm  How we can develop resilience by daily mind-body practices and there is no quick fix Why the key to well-being and resilience lies in befriending our body OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENHOY  194 The Dark Side of Motherhood 281 The Power of Self-Regulation 227 Moving Beyond Trauma with Illene Smith 203: Discovering Wholeness and Healing after Trauma with  James Gordon, MD 147: What Does Self-Care Really Mean?  113 Signs of Childhood Trauma in Adults  This episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens, the most comprehensive daily nutritional supplement. Check out the special offer for the listeners of the podcast athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting   GET HER BOOK Mind-Body Stress Reset by Rebekkah LaDyne   BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Have you ever considered looking into astrology for parenting advice or insight?  How can learning about your child’s horoscope guide you in terms of education, discipline, extracurricular activities, understanding their personality, how to support them, sleep and waking, technology, Briana Saussy, teacher, spiritual counselor, and ritualist says that astrology can give us flexible, playful and more profound information that other schematics and typologies and it can support parents with new insights into their children.  What stories do the stars tell about our children? Every person alive is born under a particular snapshot of the celestial relationships occurring at the time of their birth. The picture known as a natal chart offers a powerful tool for inside into your children's strengths, struggles, hopes and dreams.  Get her Book Star Child: Joyful Parenting Through Astrology    BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Leslie Pirscilla, founder of Latinx Parenting on how reparenting ourselves is important in breaking the cycles of inter generational trauma. We talked about ending the chancla culture-the power over way of raising kids. How forgiveness is possible for ourselves and for others. How non-punitive parenting while not easy but IS possible and any parent can learn to practice it.  About Latinx Parenting Latinx Parenting is a bilingual organization rooted in children's rights, social and racial justice and antiracism, the individual and collective practice of nonviolence and reparenting, intergenerational and ancestral healing, and the active decolonization of oppressive practices in our families.   OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENJOY 165: Breaking Free from Old Stories  283: The Hard Truth About Parenting The Conscious Way 281: The Power of Self-Regulation  122: Stop Hurting Kids In the Name of Discipline  269: Forgiveness with Fred Luskin    DOWNLOAD THIS FREE GUIDE Spanking: 15 Reasons Why Its Wrong   BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Communication in general is hard. Communication with kids is even harder. What do you say to your kids when you want to motivate them, get them to listen and cooperate without resorting to begging, scolding, lecturing, ordering, and threatening? Authors of the fantastic book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud are on the show today to talk about their new book: What Do You Say:How to talk to kids to build motivation, stress tolerance and a happy home.  OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENJOY   Ep. 251: How To Raise a Self-Driven Child with Dr. Stixrud Ep. 260: Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Ep. 278.:What Kids Need Most From You with Anna Seewald Ep.238: The Secret to Getting Kids to Listen and Cooperate  Ep. 167: (Coaching) How to Curb Back-Talk, Teach Respect and Responsibility without Punishments      BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com