Authentic Parenting

Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. GET HER BOOKS How to Raise an Adult Real American How to Be an Adult   BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

Today’s episode is a compilation episode. I have put together short clips from some of your favorite conversations to remind you of what’s important in parenting, to give you a boost of inspiration and positivity. in the new year.  I created this compilation episode so that you can start the new year with renewed energy and intention, a sense of hope and possibility, unshakable confidence that you are a good parent, courage to look within, a fresh perspective to keep your eyes on the big picture, a trust to be guided with your heart, a commitment to become comfortable with your own discomfort and befriend your emotions, willingness to examine your own patterns and shortcomings and of course a strong practice of self- compassion.  You’ll hear from Melisa Bernstein, Ned Johnson, Bill Stixrud, Ellen Gottlied, Bridgett Miller, Vanessa Lapointe, Howard Glasser, Laura Froyen and Laney- a thirteen year old girl.  I really enjoyed putting this episode together.  I hope you enjoy listening!  286: How To Talk to Kids with Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson 279 Awakening Greatness in Kids with Howard Glasser 284 The Hard Truth about Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb 208 How to Be a Confident Parent with Vanessa LaPointe 275 Don't Fix Yourself, Accept Yourself with Melisa Bernstein 226 Practicing Conscious Parenting with Bridgett Miller 238 The Secret to Getting Kids to Listen and Cooperate with Laura Froyen and Anna Seewald 298 How to Build Closeness with Your Kids   BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

Hello and welcome to the final episode of the year. I’m joined with my dear friend Kristy Lauricella from episode 300. And today we are going to reflect on the past year: lessons we learned, hardships we went through, challenges we overcame, habits we started, things we enjoyed, how we had fun, as well as we will share the top 10 episodes of the year, the most downloaded and listened to episodes of 2021. And we will reveal our word of the year for 2022. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Here are the two articles by Adam Grant There’s a Name for the Blah You’re Feeling: It’s Called Languishing We’re Living Through the ‘Boring Apocalypse’ My article on remote learning and the pandemic's toll on teen mental health Writing Class info All About Siblings-Two Part Workshop with Laura Froyen (available for purchase now)Use coupon code: authentic25 to save $25.  The Sunflower Video Kristy's agenda book  Laura Matteson artist and listener website Laura Mattesson on Instagram The 300th Episode Year End Episode of 2020 Year In Review: Powerful Questions To Help You Reflect   TOP 10 EPISODES OF 2021 Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel  How to Talk to Kids with Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud  When Your Needs Are Not met with Yvette Erasmus The Power of Self-Regulation with Sarah MacLaughlin The Hard Truth about Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb When Kids Don't Listen with Anna Seewald How to Raise Kids Who Aren't A*holes with Melinda Moyer How to Master Difficult Feelings with Joan Rosenberg Simplicity Parenting with Kim John Payne The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship with Judith Rabinor    BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Jessica Lahey talks about her own experience with alcohol, the role of genetics and other risk factors, and how parents can "inoculate" their children from a life of substance abuse.  Who get addicted and why Genetics and personality traits Epigenetics The role of Adverse Childhood Experiences and trauma Why is it important to delay use? How to talk about it with kids How we can improve prevention GET HER BOOKS The Addiction Inoculation  The Gift of Failure  BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

Welcome to episode 300.  What an accomplishment!  6 years!  300 episodes.  Hundreds of amazing guests.  Global, diverse and phenomenal community! And one passionate host!  Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a listener. It’s because of you that I’m here and that the podcast exists.  Now let’s begin this milestone episode hosted by my lovely friend, former guest of the podcast and a facilitator at our LIVE event Kristy Lauricella. A woman of great depth and a sense of humor.  Special thanks to those of you who sent in audio messages. I absolutely loved them and they mean a lot. Here we go! Mentioned in Episode 300 The Upside Of Your Downside with Todd Kashdan, Ph.D Stop Hurting Kids in the Name of Discipline with John Rich, Ph.D The Power of Living with a Wide-Open Heart with Scott Stabile  The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship with Judy Rabinor, Ph.D Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel  Peaceful Parenting and the Child’s Perspective with Laura Markham, Ph.D MInd-Body Tools to Develop Stress Resilience with Rebekkah LaDyne  The Hard Truth About Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb  The Gift of Presence with Caroline Welch Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with Richard Schwartz, Ph.D Don’t Fix Yourself, Accept Yourself with Melisa Benstein A Good Apology: 4 Steps to Make Things Right with Molly Howes, Ph.D Forgiveness with Fred Luskin, Ph.D The Power of Discord with Ed Tronick, Ph.D and Glaudia Gold, MD 3 Secrets to Thriving as a Single Dad with Justan Mitchell (Coaching) How to Set Firm LImits with Kindness    BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

For the past 25 years Marc Brackett, Ph.D has been researching and writing about emotions and running around the world talking to people about their feelings.  Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. “Our emotional state is one of the most important aspects of our lives. It rules everything else. Its influence is pervasive. Yet it is also the thing we steer around most carefully. Our inner lives are uncharted territory even to us, a risky place to explore.  Our lives are saturated with emotions-sadness, disappointment, anxiety, irritation, enthusiasm and even tranquility. Sometimes-often-those feelings are inconvenient.  The irony, though, is when we ignore our feelings, or suppress them, they only become stronger. " Key poiints:  Why emotions matter? (5 key areas) The differnce between emotions and feelings Incidental feelings vs integral Charecterisitics of an emotion scientisit  The RULER What's a Mood Meter   GET HIS BOOK Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive   OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE 262:When Your Needs are Not Met  261: How to Master Difficult Feelings  216: Childhood Emotional Neglect  129: How to Listen to Children’s Big Feelings 178: Raising Emotionally Healthy Kids  Emotion Series from Eps. 148-158 (Anxiety, Anger, Boredom, Fear, on Tears and Crying) BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

A thirteen year old Laney and her mom Julie are here to talk about how they transformed their relationship. They went from fighting daily into a more peaceful, positive and connected place. Julie is an active member of the Authentic Parenting community and has appeared on the podcast before.  Julie has made some big strides and major shifts in her parenting. She has been consistently learning and growing. It's pretty amazing how far she has come. Turns out her daughter wanted to come to the podcast and share about their struggles and challenges and transformation.  In this episode we talked about:  How she navigates puberty, middle school and social media What was it like to be diagnosed with ADHD in the pandemic How she monitors her own screen time after having had a dependent relationship with it The tools she discovered that help her with her anxiety and emotion regulation And finally her sound, down to earth advice to parents everywhere   BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

The core struggle for most of us is we want things to be different than they are. How can we free ourselves from unnecessary suffering and experience freedom that is already present in our lives.  Ask yourself, what am I feeling right now that I don’t want to feel? And is that a problem?  Often we look outside ourselves either for problems or solutions. Couples blame one another-you should change so that I won’t feel disturbed. By placing the cause of our disturbance outside of ourselves they miss the opportunity to develop a capacity to deal with our own disturbance.  What is our tendency? We avoid feeling discomfort. We get wrapped up in stories and interpretations. Our normal way of operating is to relate to our embodied sensation from the perspective of our interpretations.  According to my guest-Bruce Tift, the author of Already Free, the more we stay embodied with our moment to moment experience, the more confidence we have that we can work with whatever arises.    GET HIS BOOK Already Free: Buddhism Meets Psychotherapy on the Path of Liberation   BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com