The Art of We

Our comings and goings were some of the most challenging moments in our relationship, so it's really important for us to have a moment of actual contact and presence with each other before we leave each other. And when we come together, when we re-dock, we intentionally have a moment of actual presence, setting everything else aside.  In this episode, we talk with you about things that help us stay connected and move things forward in our lives. We discuss how we achieve and maintain this depth of connection that we're accustomed to and that we have come to expect from each other.There's something really important to us about continually going back to presence and going back to the deeper listening of what is going on, in our beings and in our souls and trying to make contact with the deepest level of creative desire. It doesn't come so easily when we don’t stick to our routine, but keeping it in place, gives us the freedom to explore our connection consistently. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:The times in our lives we are more rigid and the times when we go with the flowOur tactics for staying connected to each other as we come and goOur day, night and annual routinesOur favourite journal and gratitude promptsOur skin time practiceChecking in with our goals and how we reassess them Resources MentionedStan Tatkin - The Pact InstituteDan Go - High Performance Coach & Personal Trainer: @fitfounderThe Crown - NetflixBreathe Right Nasal Strips7 Areas of Life to Empower - Dr John DemartiniGet in Touch: Art of We websiteArt of We Instagram Integrative Psychiatry InstituteKrista’s InstagramWill’s InstagramRate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

In the episode, we break down our interpretation of “the We” and how we hold it. This concept really helps us show up as better partners, stay grounded in our vows, and bring things forward that we might not expect. We share what it looks like to take mutual responsibility for the health of our connection and provide examples of how we use “the We” perspective in other relationships besides our marriage and business partnership. This practice gives us the chance to look at situations from a bird’s eye view, especially when we get caught up in the minutiae of daily life and the stressors of being in a growth season. In our conversion, we explore how we bring this sort of awareness to our relationships with our co-founders and team members. Because we have a larger mission for the world, our understanding of “the We” within the container of our business is so important for seeing that vision through. Will also shares his advice for anyone thinking about going into business partnership and/or stepping into a leadership position. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:Why we believe that we can achieve more together than we can on our own Finding win-win-win solutions Actively engaging and tending to “the We”Reducing polarity in your relationships Building your capacity as a leader Get in Touch: Krista’s WebsiteIntegrative Psychiatry InstituteKrista’s InstagramWill’s InstagramArt of We Instagram Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

The framework of our vows keeps us grounded and willing to engage in conversations that can be challenging or uncomfortable. In this episode, we explore our vow to live from the knowing that we both win from each other’s successes. We dive into the essence of being for each other's success, how we challenge and support each other to grow, and describe what this practice could look like in the workplace. The foundation of being for each other’s success requires really knowing your partner, their life goals, and your collaborative aspirations. We define what success means for us in the context of a partnership and contemplate situations when it’s hardest and easiest to support each other in pursuing our goals. We also touch on how we work through feelings of fear, scarcity, and competition when they come up. This vow can also be viewed through the lens of friendships and working relationships. Part of being for someone’s success in a professional setting is understanding when it’s time to let them go so they can find a position or company that’s better suited for their expertise and values. Listen in to hear more of our conversation on what it means to really support someone in their pursuit of success. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:One of the ways that we like to show up for each other’s success A pattern that we’re working through around this concept Making the commitment to authentically participate in challenging, honest conversations Overcoming the subtle fear that you might experience when your partner accomplishes a goal Rerouting the default coping mechanism to choose false independence when we’re stressed How you can actually fire somebody as an expression of being for their successResources MentionedThe Collaborative Way Get in Touch: Krista’s WebsiteIntegrative Psychiatry InstituteKrista’s InstagramWill’s InstagramArt of We Instagram Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

Everybody has attachment styles, and if we're not conscious of what they are, it can be really challenging to navigate relationships. In this episode, we break down the most common attachment styles and discuss some tools that can help reduce the root causes of anxiety. The ambivalent attached person is more concerned about abandonment, and the avoidant person typically is more concerned about too much contact or invasion. We explore how we’ve created a sense of understanding and compassion around these very deep patterns that we experience. We share tools for how to come back together when you feel like you’re constantly bumping up against your partner’s attachment style, including somatic processing techniques like synchronized breathing and skin-to-skin contact. We also touch on the anxiety that we face when we go after big, hairy, audacious goals (BHAGs). We articulate what's really helped us in the high stress, high growth years that we've had in our business, particularly through the lens of exercise. Will also highlights things that you can do for your body that reduce inflammation and we talk about how the gut microbiome is tied to our mental wellness.  Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:How attachment styles form and what we can do about them Tools for getting in touch with how you feel in your body Understanding where your anxiety comes from How imposter syndrome impacts individuals and relationships Getting curious about what foods work well for you and your unique systemResources MentionedWe Do by Stan Tatkin Your Brain on Love by Stan TatkinThe Higher Practice Podcast for Optimal Mental HealthChristopher Lowry for TEDxMileHigh “Plants, the microbiome, and mental health”Get in Touch: Krista’s WebsiteIntegrative Psychiatry InstituteKrista’s InstagramWill’s InstagramArt of We Instagram Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

In this episode, we discuss another agreement in our marriage that has had a profound impact on our partnership: commitment to always finding possibility. We dive into what it means to see possibility, examples of how we’ve navigated this agreement together, and ways to start exploring new solutions. Our early experiences often define our limitations and what we see as possible for our lives. We have a much harder time seeing our blinspots on our own or when we don’t have a commitment with another person to get out of that victim mindset. We illustrate what getting stuck in a loop of limited beliefs does for a relationship and describe what happens when you start to play with possibility. We touch on some methodologies and techniques that we like to use when we feel like we’re in a rut, including psychedelic therapy. By creating new grooves and pathways in the brain, different possibilities become much more accessible. We wrap up our conversation by explaining how this commitment can play out in other relationships, particularly with friends and coworkers. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:Why we’ve committed to always finding possibility An example so how we’ve navigated this commitment together around Krista’s health and mobility Uncovering opportunities to grow when you’re feeling challenged The physiology of the brain, especially at the beginning stage of a relationship Understanding your filters for other people and having the courage to bring it up to them Why psychedelic therapy is such a potent methodology for seeing possibility Get in Touch: Krista’s WebsiteIntegrative Psychiatry InstituteKrista’s InstagramWill’s InstagramArt of We Instagram Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

The podcast discusses the importance of repair in relationships and the power of mutual agreements. They emphasize the consequences of not fully repairing conflicts and the long-term effects of limited repair growing up. The hosts provide tips on addressing conflict gently and offer tools for resolving conflicts. They also explore how the concept of 'abundant repair' can be applied in work environments.

We’re Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer, hosts of The Art of We. Thank you for joining us on our first episode as we share why we’re launching this show, a bit about our background, and what you can expect from future episodes. Since we went on our first date five years ago, we've started four businesses, one of them among the fastest-growing companies in the US. Together, we’re impacting thousands of lives through advanced educational programs and integrative medicine for mental health and psychedelic-assisted therapy. In today’s episode, we revisit the conversation that we had on that date, which completely changed the course of both of our lives. We discuss the commitment we’ve made to ourselves and each other to have the kind of relationship where we mobilize and do beautiful things in the world. We also touch on how we support each other's authentic expression and growth, even when it bumps up against conditioned belief systems or thought patterns. Listen in to learn more about our story and vision for this podcast. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:The year of intense discovery that Will experienced prior to meeting Krista How the pain that we experience in our lives helps shape who we are and get really clear on what we wantA deep resource that we use when we discuss the course of our relationship Recognizing where we're limited or stuck in our own thinkingInterdependency and secure functioning in adult relationshipsResources MentionedThe Relationship School Podcast - Episode 166. Evolutionary Love with Andrew Harvey Get in Touch: Krista’s WebsiteIntegrative Psychiatry InstituteKrista’s InstagramWill’s InstagramArt of We Instagram Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly. 

As a leader who deeply cares about your contribution and impact on the world, what if you were told that achieving the next level of success with your team, business and family won't be found through signing up for yet another training, expensive mastermind, or who's-who networking event. What if the key to your potential sits across from you at your breakfast table every morning?Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer are husband and wife, business partners, and hosts of The Art of We, a podcast that explores how committed partnerships can be potent vehicles for fully delivering our gifts to the world.As seasoned leaders, educators, and entrepreneurs, they know that the key to their greatest success out in the world lies inside the health, security, and depth of their relationship. The more skilled and secure their partnership, the greater capacity each has to step into their fullest authenticity and potential.On this show, they will share lessons from their marriage and professional careers that help them thrive. They’ll share where they get stuck, how they overcome challenges, and they’ll dialogue with thought leaders to broaden the conversation. You’ll leave each episode with practices, tools, inspiration, and conversation topics for the dinner table or your team’s next offsite.If you’re a leader, founder, or overachiever, and you want to better understand how to leverage your relationships for personal and collective growth, then we invite you to subscribe to The Art of We. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Get in Touch: Krista’s WebsiteIntegrative Psychiatry InstituteKrista’s InstagramWill’s InstagramRate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars. Let us know your favorite part of the show by clicking “Write a Review.” While you’re at it, follow the show so you can get the latest episode delivered to your phone weekly.