Teach Me How To Adult

Unpopular opinion: It’s NOT always healthy to find the silver lining in everything. Some things just suck, and we don’t always need to look on the bright side, at the expense of *actually* processing hard feelings. Our culture is obsessed with a “good vibes only,” and “everything happens for a reason” state of mind that makes us feel like we’re failing if we’re not happy 100% of the time. Trying to see the positive isn’t always positive, sometimes shit happens that doesn’t make us stronger, and we’re ready to break up with toxic positivity so we can fully experience our emotions AND our loved ones’ feelings. (Because nothing is worse than platitudes.) So this week we called in author and psychotherapist, Whitney Goodman, to help us ditch toxic positivity and get real with our emotions. Whitney is the author of the book Toxic Positivity, a columnist for Psychology Today and appears regularly in publications like The New York Times and Teen Vogue. No one should have to pretend that everything’s ok when it isn’t, so if you’re looking for some validation, you’ve come to the right place!Join us as we chat about:The signs of toxic positivity and why it gets in the way of your healing Finding the balance between optimism, negativity and toxic positivity How to deal with friends and family who dismiss your strugglesThe productive VS annoying way to complain The impact of social media on toxic positivity How to show up for others in a supportive wayWe hope this episode helps you deal with your shit  and feel all of your very valid feelings.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:@yunggillianaireFollow Cailyn:@cailynmichaanFollow Whitney:sitwithwhit.com@sitwithwhitToxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We all know that the years start coming and they don’t stop coming, but we’re starting to have trouble remembering them. Our memories are an essential part of who we are and this week we learned there’s A LOT that can impact our ability to remember the good old days (or just that person’s name we met five minutes ago, tbh). If you’ve been feeling some brain fog lately you’re not alone — surprisingly, there’s a lot that goes into maintaining our memory, especially when a global health crisis cuts off the stimulation our minds need to stay sharp. But we’re diving into hacking our brainwaves and training our minds so that we can actually remember all the things we need to do today. May the odds be ever in our favour!Join us as we chat about:The three pillars of memory maintenanceHow to stimulate both sides of your brainThe impact of staying physically and mentally activeWhy sleep rules everythingHow managing stress and anxiety can strengthen memory (and why we blackout when stressed)Quick memory hacks to help you stay sharp We hope this is an episode you won’t forget!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:@yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:@cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Friends, this week’s episode is a juicyyy one! We sat down with sex coach and educator Portia Brown to chat all things orgasms and how to take control of your own pleasure. Because there’s an embarrassing amount we don’t know about our own sexual physiology, and we’re SO ready to take self-care to the next level by creating a pleasure practice that helps us tune into our body and mind. This is such an inspiring conversation that is guaranteed to help you take control of your orgasms and incorporate pleasure (in its many forms, as we learned) into your daily routine. Because you deserve alllllll the O’s, and they don’t have to be elusive. Portia is the founder of Froetic Sexology, a website, social media platform and coaching practice that helps women find their power through pleasure. Her expansive sex coaching methods help women tap into mindfulness and ritual to help them reconnect with themselves. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine, Glamour UK,  and podcasts such as “Doing It” with Hannah Witton, and “Am I Making You Uncomfortable” from Huffington Post.Join us as we chat about:How to create your own pleasure practiseThe different ways to achieve your big OTips for orgasming with a partnerBreaking through your own mental/physical barriersHow breathwork can enhance pleasureHow orgasms *actually* feelFun ways to initiate sexGaining confidence in the bedroomWe hope this episode inspires you to maximize your pleasure and prioritize YOU.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:@yunggillianaireFollow Cailyn:@cailynmichaaninstagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Portia:portiabrowncoaching.com/@portiabrowncoaching Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

The one thing we all need to do literally every day is make decisions. So you made the right decision to listen to this one today! But for those of you plagued with indecision (like us) it can be a struggggle. Analysis paralysis can mess with us when it comes to making big decisions about our careers, planning big events, and even smaller things like what to watch on Netflix or where to eat. We’ve allll been there. But here’s the tea: being decisive isn’t about being right, it’s about growing and learning from all of the possible outcomes. Plus making no decision is actually a decision — you’re choosing stagnation. So in this week’s episode we’re kissing our indecisiveness goodbye, so we confidently navigate our way through adulthood and get good at making decisions.Join us as we chat about:Getting clear on YOUR desired outcomeHow to be more confident in your decisionsTips for avoiding choice overloadWhy having perspective makes everything easierThe ultimate hack of time-boxing your choicesBreaking big decisions down into smaller decision treesWe hope this episode helps you slay your decisions with confidence!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Let’s face it… life is exhausting, but that doesn’t stop the sun from rising every morning so it’s time we figured out how to hack the system and stay energized! This week’s quickie is all about fighting fatigue and finding more energy so we can get sh*t done. So get caffeinated because we’re covering everything from the basics we’ve been known to ignore (has anyone ever slept for 8 hours?) to new tricks backed by the pros (hot tip: have more sex).Join us as we chat about:Why hydration is keyUsing sunlight to our advantageThe surprising effect of spending time in natureMicro-exercises and how they can help usThe impact of surrounding yourself with good energyHow sex effects our mental wellbeingThe perks of microdosing caffeineWe hope this episode helps boost your energy so you can do allll of the things!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:@yunggillianaireFollow Cailyn:@cailynmichaan Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

It’s Teach Me How To Adult’s two year anniversary and to celebrate, we’re switching things up a little! We have learned, and changed, so much since starting this podcast so this week we’re reminiscing and reflecting on some of the best advice from the experts we’ve interviewed.From managing money and navigating friendships to improving our wellbeing and learning to love ourselves, this week’s quickie is an essential rundown of the lessons that have truly changed our lives.Listen to our chat to learn more about:Our quick takeaways on investing, negotiation and working out The importance of friendships throughout different stages of life How to hack your mindset to improve your lifeThe transformative power of finding confidence and self-loveThank you so much for supporting us! ​​We’d love to know what your biggest takeaway from the podcast has been.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:@yunggillianaireFollow Cailyn:@cailynmichaan Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If you’re fresh out of a breakup and are feeling alllll of the feels, this one's for you. Navigating a breakup is never easy, but you’re far from alone. A study last year showed 25% of Canadians between the ages of 18-24 split up during the pandemic, and 5 million Canadians have experienced a recent breakup. Experts say it can take 6-8 weeks to get over the initial intensity of heartbreak, but with a lack of access during lockdowns to the normal stuff we do to get over our exes, and an ongoing mental health crisis, the “getting over it” part has been hard lately. That leaves us with the inner work we have to do: Finding out who we are again, rewriting our narratives, filling that void, and loving ourselves first. We called in breakup expert Lindsey Ellison to help us fall in love with our life again and manifest the dream partner that we deserve. Because when you can feel happy on your own, you're raising the bar for the next partner you bring into your life.Lindsey is a relationship coach who helps people navigate breakups or divorce. She’s the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist, and host of the popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken.Listen to our chat to learn more about:Gill’s biggest advice for navigating a breakupHow to know when it’s time to leave a relationshipThe best way to heal and change your mindset after a breakupHow the type of breakup you’re going through affects your recovery time/processTips for getting over trust issuesManaging triggers and relationship remindersHow to avoid becoming jaded or cynical about loveBuilding up your confidence after heartbreak​​We hope this episode helps you get through the tough moments, and inspires you to start putting your needs first.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow Lindsey:https://lindseyellison.com/@lindsey_ellisonFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:@yunggillianaireFollow Cailyn:@cailynmichaan Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Love week is right around the corner so we’re throwing it back to this gem from 2021 where we dive into the five Love Languages, what they mean, and tips for dating each type.ICYMI, The Five Love Languages was written by marriage counsellor, Dr. Gary Chapman, and has sold over twelve million copies worldwide! We’re not kidding when we say it’s been a game changer for people all over the world…it’s literally been on the New York Times best-sellers list since 2007! Dr. Chapman noticed that couples often came to him with the same concern: “I feel like my partner doesn’t love me.” Starting to recognize a pattern, he discovered that there were five categories on how people could give their partner the love they need: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.And these don’t only apply to romantic relationships. You can also practise self-care for yourself using the 5 love languages, and use them to form stronger relationships with your friends, family and coworkers!Listen to our chat to learn more about:How to practice self-care using the 5 love languagesThe importance ‘Words of Affirmation’ play in making you feel understoodHow to spend ‘Quality Time’ together when you see each other 24/7 or are in a LDRWhy ‘Receiving Gifts’ isn’t as superficial as it soundsHow ‘Acts of Service’ can make your partner’s dayWhy ‘Physical Touch’ is more than just sexy timeTwo easy ways to find yours and your partner’s love languageCailyn’s top love languages and how learning them made her relationship thriveGill’s top love languages and how they can change throughout her lifeWe hope this episode helps you tap into your love language for you and the people you love! Mentioned in this episode:Coach CareyAurelia Box Lingerie Subscription Date Night In A BoxTake Dr.Chapman’s free quiz to find out your love languageFor show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Humans are social animals – we thrive off connection – and after two years of almost constant isolation and working from home, people are feeling lonelier than ever. But being alone and being lonely are two very different things, and we’re here to tell you that getting comfortable spending time on your own can be the ultimate game-changer for your health, happiness and relationships.It’s all about reframing our idea of being alone. After all, personal time is a luxury in our busy lives, and making space to relax, reflect or get creative in solitude has amazing positive outcomes. Even if you thrive off social connection (we see you, extroverts!), finding fulfillment on your own is essential. So, this week we’re exploring how to combat loneliness and enjoy being alone! Tune in as we chat about:Why people are feeling lonelier than everHow alone time can help you learn about yourselfThe importance of finding personal hobbiesThe real reason those “mental health walks” do wondersThe power of microconnections and how to make themWays to be part of a communityRedefining your narrative and shifting your mindsetThe mental health benefits of giving backHow to increase your productivity during alone timeWe hope this episode helps you feel a little less lonely and embrace the beauty of time with yourself!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Take it from us: Building a successful side hustle or business is time-consuming and scary, but being your own boss has some serious perks, and it seems the entrepreneurial feeling is catching on. Gig workers now represent more than 20% of millennials in Canada…you could be next! (And we love that journey for you.) If you’ve been thinking about giving your own biz idea a go, this quickie is for you! We’re passing along the most important lessons we’ve learned starting our own business—the good, the bad, the hilarious—and how to set yourself up for success.Tune in as we launch into:Why you need to stop waiting for the perfect time to startDefining your mission and value propositionUnderstanding your consumer and audienceThe importance of setting up your finances and legal structureCreating killer brandingHow to launch with a bangThe metrics that matter for your launchHow to avoid burnout and stay committed We hope this episode inspires you to take the leap and launch your dream idea! And remember, the key is to just start and keep learning as you go. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube