Teach Me How To Adult

Life can be complicated AF and everyone needs support along the way…so why is it so hard to ask for it? For most of us, the tendency to keep things bottled in and not ask for help has been reinforced over time, especially in cultures that value independence and “success”. Spoiler alert: it isn’t doing us any good. On the plus side, vulnerability and asking for help are two skills that can be learned, and class is now in session! Giving and receiving emotional support is essential for us to thrive, and it’s okay to not be okay! So this week we’re getting personal about our own struggles and share some helpful tips on how we can all channel our inner Brené Brown. Join us as we chat about:Cailyn’s struggle with feeling disconnected and overwhelmedWhat holds us back from admitting when we’re not okWhy validation is so importantGoing to the right person for helpHow vulnerability strengthens connectionsBeing direct about what you needWhy admitting that you’re not okay isn’t a burden to othersLetting your friends and family show up for youEmphasizing validation over problem-solvingHow self-acceptance can free youWe hope this episode inspires you to ask for help when you need it and show up better for the people who might need you!If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast. We can’t wait to work with you!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaan Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Everybody likes a good venting session, but nobody likes a complainer. So when is it okay to complain? Can complaining be healthy, or is it always a negative thing? Today’s expert, Whitney Goodman, gives us the quick and dirty scoop on why casual complaining is a normal communal exchange, and what to watch out for if it crosses into the dreaded “draining complaining” that can keep us stuck in a negative loop. Whitney Goodman is a psychotherapist, author of the book Toxic Positivity, a columnist for Psychology Today and appears regularly in publications like The New York Times and Teen Vogue.Listen to our full episode with Whitney here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultmedia @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Whitney:sitwithwhit.com@sitwithwhitToxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

For all the sh*t we’ve been through since 2020, there was at least one positive societal change: we entered our remote work era. Not being tied down to an office 5 days a week has afforded us newfound freedom in prioritizing our work-life balance — it’s time to make the most of it.We’ve all dreamed of being able to work and live wherever we want, so let this be the year you shoot your shot. This week we have our resident world traveler, Gill, in the hot seat and she’s finally coming clean on how she’s getting away with all this travel while still killing it in the corporate world. Grab a seat, book a plane ticket and buckle in because we’re about to become digital nomads!Join us as we chat about:The rise of workcations and why you should take oneHow to choose your travel destinationsNavigating work in different timezonesBudgeting for your time working abroad Setting expectations and communicating at workAll the logistics you didn’t know you neededHow to make the most of balancing work and travelWe hope this episode helps you make your travel dreams a reality!And if you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast. We can’t wait to work with you!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaan Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Wedding season is officially in full swing, and if most of your friend group is getting ready to tie the knot, it can feel like a lot navigating all the do’s and don’ts, from bridal showers and wedding gift-giving, to dress codes and what to wear at different kinds of weddings. Luckily for us, etiquette expert Myka Meier has the answers. Myka has been coined the “Marie Kondo of etiquette,” is the author of two best-selling etiquette books and even trained in London under a member of The Royal Household of the Queen. She started Beaumont Etiquette which offers courses on etiquette that are super relevant to society today and also co-founded The Plaza Hotel’s Finishing Program. She brings a fresh and modern perspective to manners, breaking down the stereotype that etiquette is stuffy or outdated. Listen to our full episode, #53, with Myka here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultmedia instagram.com/yunggillianaire/instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Myka:@mykameierBuy her books: Modern Etiquette Made Easy: A Five-Step Method to Mastering EtiquetteBusiness Etiquette Made Easy: The Essential Guide to Professional Success Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

The highest level of adulting might just be creating a space that feels welcoming and reflects your personal style. But let’s be honest, that’s easier said than done, especially with the limitations of budgets and rental units. Our homes should be a source of comfort and inspiration — after all, our spaces have a real impact on our wellbeing. We’re on a mission to create our own personal oasis without breaking the bank, so we called in our friend, and the budget-friendly decor guru herself, Alexandra Gater. Alexandra is a stylist and home decor expert who specializes in accessible home decor advice for renters and anyone working with a smaller budget. She started her design career as the home editor for Chatelaine Magazine, where she launched the popular YouTube series, The Home Primp. She’s since hosted the HGTV series Buy or DIY, and her work has appeared in brands like Apartment Therapy, Domino Magazine, Architectural Digest, The Rachel Ray Show, and the Global Morning Show. She just launched her STUNNING book Own Your Space, which offers room-by-room decorating tips for renters and homeowners. Join us as we chat about:Alexandra’s journey to becoming a design legendThe easiest, most budget-friendly ways to make a big impactHow to figure out your personal design aestheticAlexandra’s go-to products to spruce up a spaceAdvice for renters on making big changes and navigating landlordsEasy and temporary DIYs to tryChoosing unique and affordable artDealing with differing design styles with your partnerWe hope this episode inspires you to make your home your own, because you deserve the space of your dreams!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Alexandra:youtube.com/@AlexandraGater@alexandragaterBuy Alexandra's book: Own Your SpaceMentioned in this episode:Ikea Couch CoversPeel &  Stick Floor TilePeel & Stick Backsplash Subway TilePeel & Stick Backsplash Hexagon Tile Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Summer is in full swing, friends! And while we love ourselves a cottage moment like the next girlie, we recognize that these warmer months can also be a very triggering time for many of us when it comes to body image and insecurities. So this week we're throwing it back to our inspiring chat with Roxy Earle where she shares the ultimate mindset shift to banish negative self-talk and start positively developing the single most important relationship we’ll ever have — the relationship with ourselves. Because at the end of the day, the only person holding you back from being your true confident self is you!Roxy is a former marketing professional turned model, entrepreneur, body positivity activist and a star on Real Housewives of Toronto. She started the #MySizeRox movement, which advocates that confidence comes in all shapes and sizes. She’s worked with brands like Knix, H&M, Le Chateau and Joe Fresh to bring more inclusive sizing and styles to their stores. Roxy is also the co-founder of the Ana App, a tool that helps to build happiness, health and confidence by balancing your mental wellness with the unique cycles of your body.Listen to our full episode with Roxy here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Roxy:@luxuriousroxyGet the Ana App: https://www.anahealth.com/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

There’s a new epidemic in town: Loneliness. And while making friends is intimidating at any age, it feels especially daunting as adults. As we hit our 30s, our groups of friends are getting smaller and smaller (fun fact: We replace half our friend group every seven years as adults!). Life gets busy, people move away, and milestones come at different times. Even though this seems to be universal, it can still feel like something is wrong with us. If we’ve learned anything along our adulting journey, it’s that friendships are crucial to our mental and physical wellbeing. So this week, we’re learning how to prioritize the most underrated of our relationships, how to make new ones, and  why it’s so damn hard to maintain friends as an adult. We’re not the experts, so we called in Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Having spent over a decade researching the science of friendship and helping people live more connected lives, Dr. Miriam is a clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and leading expert on friendship and social connection. She’s appeared on some of our favourite media outlets, from Call Her Daddy to Vogue and The New York Times.She sits on the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a media company co-founded by Selena Gomez, and is a member of The GenWell Project, a human connection movement. She also has a private practice and is one of the first and only licensed clinical psychologists to specialize in friendship therapy!Join us as we chat about:Why our friendships dwindle as we ageDr. Miriam’s best tips for making new friendsOvercoming the fear of rejection How many hours it actually takes to establish a true friendshipHow our attachment styles affect our friendshipsAdapting to new life stages and navigating changing relationshipsWhy one friend can’t check every boxHow to prioritize friendships (and why it’s good for your health!)Advice on letting go of friendships that have run their courseWe hope this episode helps you feel less alone and inspires you to get back into the friendship market. Remember, you’ve always got a friend in us!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Dr. Miriam:miriamkirmayer.com@miriamkirmayer Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. If you, like us, have been feeling tired AF lately then this one’s for you! Get ready to wake up and shake up your snooze routine, because we’re throwing it back to our chat with sleep expert Alanna McGinn who shares some science-backed ways to craft the perfect nap, how a nappuccino could help curb your mid-day slump, and the first thing we should (and shouldn’t) be doing when we wake up.  Alanna is the founder and lead sleep expert at Good Night Sleep Site, host of the ‘This Girl Loves Sleep’ podcast and author of ‘This Baby Loves Sleep’. Alanna and her team of sleep consultants are certified through The Family Sleep Institute and have helped thousands of families around the world overcome their sleep challenges and establish healthy nighttime habits. Alanna is the resident sleep expert for publications like Forbes, Maclean’s and Today’s Parent, and the media sleep expert on Cityline, Breakfast Television, CBC Radio, and more. Listen to our full episode with Alanna here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultmedia instagram.com/yunggillianaire/instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Alanna:goodnightsleepsite.com@gnsleepsite@alanna.mcginn Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

To quote our generation’s thought leader, Britney Spears: “You wanna live fancy? Party in France? You better work.” But also, you better ask for fair compensation. Just thinking about asking for a raise makes us cringe, but no one else is going to do it for us, so tits up: It’s time to start advocating for ourselves. The good news is, most managers and companies want to keep their employees happy, so this week we’re spilling the tea on everything you need to set yourself up for success. From shifting our mindset, tracking performance, and the scripts to use for your conversation, this is the official guide to getting a raise!Join us as we chat about:Unlearning imposter syndromeHow to tell if you’re being compensated fairlyTracking your wins and collecting your performance receipts When to broach the conversation with your bossLeveraging competitive opportunities Perfecting your pitchMaking the most of development opportunitiesWhat you can negotiate in addition to your salaryWe hope this helps you find the courage to confidently ask for what you deserve!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultmedia instagram.com/yunggillianaire/instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. This week, we're throwing it back to a juicyyyy conversation with Portia Brown, a sex coach and educator. Tune in as we discuss how to take self-care to the next level by creating a pleasure practice, AKA a ritual that allows you to tune into your mind and body.  This inspiring conversation will motivate you to start prioritizing pleasure in your daily routine because you deserve it!Portia is the founder of Portia Brown Coaching, a website, social media platform and coaching practice that helps women find their power through pleasure. Her expansive sex coaching methods help women tap into mindfulness and ritual to help them reconnect with themselves. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine, Glamour UK,  and podcasts such as “Doing It” with Hannah Witton, and “Am I Making You Uncomfortable” from Huffington Post.Listen to our full episode with Portia here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultmedia instagram.com/yunggillianaire/instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Portia:portiabrowncoaching.com/@portiabrowncoaching Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube