The Good Life with Michele Lamoureux

Has uncertainty made you feel stuck and unable to make a decision or take action? I share one tip in this episode to get you into action without feeling overwhelmed. Show notes for today are at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/228

Dr. Kelly Casperson is the best-selling author of You Are Not Broken: Stop “Should-ing” All Over Your Sex Life.  She is on to talk to us about how to have a great love life in midlife.  She explains why women need to stop blaming and shaming themselves when it comes to sex. All of the show notes can be found at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/227 While on the show notes page, I’d love for you to join our community. You’ll receive more inspiration and tips to love yourself and your life. You’ll get a FREE copy of Michele’s Book, Design a Life You Love. *This interview is for entertainment purposes only. For medical advice, seek out your trusted healthcare provider. WHAT WE DISCUSS: How the medical system is biased towards supporting men and dismissing women. Women are told things like have a glass of wine and relax. Modern medicine is here to help us.  Why we need to stop “shoulding” ourselves with the idea that menopause is natural therefore you shouldn’t need Hormone Therapy. A few of the common “myths” and “shoulds” women have How women in their twenties don’t have it better. Men don’t know more about sex than we do so don’t take your advice or be blamed/shamed by them. The myth about desire – spontaneous desire is not the goal. How the brain is a powerful tool in desire. Combatting vaginal dryness and why Dr. Kelly recommends lube for everyone. The symptoms that arise during menopause and what women can do about it, and more. RESOURCES MENTIONED Website: https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/ Book: You Are Not Broken:Stop “Should-ing” All Over Your Sex Life Instagram: Dr. Kelly Casperon Stop Gaslighting My Vagina on Dr. Kelly’s Podcast Connect with Michele on Instagram MORE ABOUT DR KELLY CASPERSON Dr. Kelly Casperson is a urologic surgeon, author, sex educator, and top international podcaster whose mission is empowering women to live their best love lives. Kelly identified the need for better resources and developed a sex education membership for women that covers topics like sexual health, intimacy, mind work, and the science of desire. She combines education, humor, and candor in her podcast, You Are Not Broken, where she dismantles the myths women have learned and normalizes healthy, enjoyable sex worth desiring. Thank you for listening to the show. Be sure to share it with a friend!  We love when women empower other women. If you enjoyed this interview, please take a moment to rate and review it on Apple podcasts. Your reviews are so appreciated! Not sure how to do it? Instructions are below. XO, Michele

“It’s so easy to be pushed into short-term thinking and short-term solutions. But to make progress on our most meaningful priorities, and create the career we truly want for ourselves, it’s necessary to fight back and carve out space for long-term thinking.” – Dorie Clark Leading coach and multi-published author Dorie Clark is on today to discuss her most recent book, The Long Game: How to be a Long-Term Thinker in a Short-Term World. There are so many key strategies in this book that you’ll want to revisit to maximize your time and live intentionally. Dorie shares some stories from her life as an example of what’s is possible when you apply long term thinking strategies. You will be inspired and motivated after listening to this interview! All of the show notes can be found at thegoodlifecoach.com/148. While on the show notes page, be sure to access the free resource Dorie provides. Also I’d love for you to join our community. You’ll receive more inspiration and tips to love yourself and your life. For a short time, you’ll get a FREE copy of Michele’s Book, Design a Life You Love. WHAT WE DISCUSS: Why “playing the long game is doing the things today that will make tomorrow easier.” Three key strategies from Dorie’s book that can help you figure out your long-term plan: Create more white space for ourselves Focus on your own voice so you understand what you want to be optimizing for Keep the faith – if there is a long term goal there will always be detours, surprises, and obstacles along the way Why one of the biggest challenges people face is the huge distance between starting the journey and finishing it. What it means to look for the “rain drops” and how that can keep you motivated. How we can have exponential growth and yet it still feels like zero progress and how to navigate that. Twenty percent time.  This idea came from Google but Dorie says many people don’t do it.  You need to allocate 20 percent of your time to growth activities and it gives you more optionality in the future.  Dorie used this strategy to begin work on a broadway musical. Very cool! Don’t underestimate what you can get done in ten years if you set the goal today and actively work towards it. The importance of networking/ cultivating a network. What it means to optimize for interesting, and how this is better than searching for your passion or purpose. DORIE’S 3 BEST TIP FOR LIVING A GOOD LIFE: Get better at tightening the criteria for what you say “yes” to as you get more senior and in demand. Drink a lot of water. Be a good daughter and reach out to the older people in your life.  It becomes more important that you be in touch and call them.  It means a lot to them and it is time well spent. RESOURCES MENTIONED The Long Game free strategic self-assessment.  dorieclark.com/thelonggame Dorie’s website Dorie on IG Dorie’s Book Michele on Instagram MORE ABOUT DORIE CLARK: Dorie Clark has been named one of the Top 50 business thinkers in the world by Thinkers50, and was recognized as the #1 Communication Coach in the world by the Marshall Goldsmith Leading Global Coaches Awards. Clark, a consultant and keynote speaker, teaches executive education at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business and Columbia Business School. Recognized as a “branding expert” by the Associated Press, Fortune, and Inc. magazine, she is the author of The Long Game, Entrepreneurial You, Reinventing You, and Stand Out, which was named the #1 Leadership Book of the Year by Inc. magazine and one of the Top 10 Business Books of the Year by Forbes. It was also a Washington Post bestseller. Her books have been translated into Russian, Chinese, Arabic, French, Polish, Korean, Spanish, Italian, Vietnamese, and Thai. Clark, whom the New York Times described as an “expert at self-reinvention and helping others make changes in their lives,” is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review. She consults and speaks for a diverse range of clients, including Google, the World Bank, Microsoft, Morgan Stanley, the Ford Foundation, and Yale University. Thank you for listening to the show! If you enjoyed this interview, please take a moment to rate and review it on Apple podcasts. Your reviews are so appreciated! Not sure how to do it? Instructions are below. XO, Michele Rate + Review: 1. Click on this link 2. Click “View in iTunes” button 3. Click “Subscribe” button 4. Click “Ratings and Reviews” text 5. Click to rate and leave short review and you’re done!

Are you currently saving money and amassing wealth or are you living paycheck to paycheck? Whether you are a stay at home mom, have a career, don’t know much about how to manage money, or are great at it but always love learning more — there is something in this interview for you. Jennifer Barrett is on to discuss her new book, “Think Like a Breadwinner,” a wealth-building manifesto for women. Who doesn’t want to build wealth… but the real question is ‘are you’? Jennifer tells us why women haven’t been accustomed to thinking like a breadwinner, even when they are one. How and why it’s so important to shift our mindsets to one of a breadwinner. She also provides tactical tips and relatable stories in this conversation to empower you to secure your financial future and rely on yourself even if you have a spouse. The days of waiting to be rescued are over as you are the heroine of your story. We cover so much in this empowering conversation! Tune in now and you can access the show notes at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/225. Please be sure to share it with your friends who would benefit from this information. Also be sure to follow the show on Apple Podcasts or your favorite app so you don’t miss an episode. Are you enjoying the podcast? If so, I would love your review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a minute. 1. Click on this link 2. Click “View in iTunes” button 3. Click “Follow” button 4. Click “Ratings and Reviews” text 5. Click to rate and leave short review and you’re done! WHAT YOU’LL LEARN: 1. How women are taught to budget, save for a rainy day, and find a partner instead of being taught how to think about our long term vision and retirement. We need to be building wealth all along the way. 2. We need to plan as if we are going to be solely responsible for ourselves and our families for the rest of our lives. 3. Why men are given expansive thoughts for their financial capabilities more often then women. 4. How things are changing where more women are breadwinners than ever before. 5. Why the conventional breadwinner model was pervasive through the 20th century and how that’s created no real models for women. Most women just assume they will be the main caregivers. 6. We are vulnerable if we are depending on someone else. Even if you think you’ll be married for life it is important you make choices for your future. 7. Women are ambitious with their careers but we need to be ambitious and expansive with our thinking when it comes to our finances. 8. The role that the media plays in how women perceive their potential in regard to finances and creating wealth. 9. The role that parents play in teaching their sons and not their daughters about investing and other matters related to finances. 10. Why it’s important to be informed if you decide to “off ramp” from your work to stay at home with your kids and why it may not be that easy to “on ramp” when you are ready 11. How to find community and support other women and much more. Tactical steps:1. Earn as much as you can for the role you are in if you are working. 2. Check your salary in your area of expertise. Check salary.com, fairygodboss.com glassdoor.com — quantify the value you bring so you are prepared to negotiate the best salary and close the wage gap. Your income is the springboard for wealth building. 3. Use every paycheck to become less dependent on your next paycheck. Invest it – put some in savings and some in the market. 4. Visualize – write down where you want to be in 3 years from now and write out the entire day in visceral details. Where do you want to be and what do you want to be doing? Make it real for yourself to get into the energetic space of what you want. Cut out pictures and visualize the future you desire. Do it twice a year and write the list as if it is in the present tense. Make your choices based on your values. RESOURCES MENTIONED The first interview with Jennifer Website: JenniferBarrett.com Jennifer’s Book: Think Like A Breadwinner Communities for women: Allbrightcollective Dreamers and Doers Luminary Jennifer on IG Michele on Instagram ABOUT TODAY’S GUEST: Jennifer Barrett is the author of the book “Think Like a Breadwinner,” a wealth-building manifesto for women, available for pre-order now from Penguin RandomHouse. A contributor to Forbes, she’s also written about money for publications like The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and Newsweek. Jennifer has co-authored two other personal finance books and is a TEDx speaker on women, wealth and breadwinning. She also advises three female-led startups and provides leadership coaching to female founders. Before joining Acorns, she was Personal Finance Editor at CNBC Digital, a GM at Hearst Digital, and Editor in Chief at DailyWorth, a financial media startup targeting women. A proud breadwinner herself, she lives in Brooklyn with her husband and two sons. Thank you for listening to the show!

“If you want a remarkable life, you have to commit to doing it.” – Debbie Millman The iconic Debbie Millman is on the show. I have been an admirer of her work for years. For 20 years, Debbie was the President of Sterling Brands, one of the world’s leading branding consultancies. Under her leadership, Sterling grew to 150 employees in five offices. While there, she worked on the logo and brand identity for Burger King, Hershey’s, Haagen Dazs, Tropicana, Star Wars, Gillette, and the No More movement. Debbie is currently working with Law & Order SVUactor and activist Mariska Hargitay’s Joyful Heart Foundation to eradicate sexual assault, domestic violence, child abuse, and the rape-kit backlog. In 2009 Debbie co-founded the world’s first graduate program in branding at the School of Visual Arts in New York City. Today we discuss branding as well as how to design our lives intentionally. All of the show notes can be found at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/224 WE DISCUSS: The difference between design vs. branding “Branding is about manufacturing meaning through symbols and objects, and design is the expression of that meaning.” What it takes to create a new brand or rebrand. You have to ask one crucial question when working on a brand: “Why does the world need this?” Her work for the Joyful Heart Foundation and how she got involved as the Chairman of the Board. Why she believes a person shouldn’t aspire to be a brand. What drives her to impact others. Her 5 Year Life Plan that she took with Milton Glaser that transformed her life. Big dreams all manifested within 13 years, within ten years, 80%-90% of it was achieved. The importance of declaring your wants. Declaration of intention. Debbie teaches her students the 10 Year Life Plan at the School of Visuals Arts. How at the age of eight she created a picture that turned into her adult reality – like a vision board. Her advice on how to live a creative life. Her thoughts on advertising during COVID, and much more! DEBBIE’S 3 BEST TIPS FOR DESIGNING A GOOD LIFE: “Continually think if not now, when?” “If you want a remarkable life, you have to commit to doing it.” Don’t edit your dreams before you try. We often determine what’s impossible before you determine if it’s possible. “Try before you decide you can’t. You get over failure and rejection, but you don’t ever really get over regret.” “Don’t give up on love.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Debbiemillman.com – website Debbie on IG @debbiemillman on Twitter Brand Thinking and Other Noble Pursuits by Debbie Millman Brand Bible: The Complete Guide to Building, Designing, and Sustaining Brands by Debbie Millman Debbie talked about writing out an ideal day 10 years from now. Dream big and write down everything you want to have happen and review the entry once a year. This is the website she referenced with detailed notes. https://yourtenyearplan.com/ Michele on Instagram Thank you for listening to the show!

“If the average person just more consistently did what they already know they’d be healthier, happier, and be making more money.” – Brian Moran Brian Moran the New York Times bestselling author of “The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks than Others Do in 12 Months” is going to share how to get more done in less time. He will take us into this execution system he developed while also sharing easy to implement time management strategies. He also connects the dots back to why it is important to create our life vision so we can structure our time and goals around that vision. You will learn tactical steps that you can use today to move closer to the life you desire. Loved this conversation so much! Tune in now and you can access the show notes at thegoodlifecoach.com/223. Are you enjoying the podcast? If so, I would love your review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a minute. 1. Click on this link 2. Click “View in iTunes” button 3. Click “Subscribe” button 4. Click “Ratings and Reviews” text 5. Click to rate and leave short review and you’re done! Thank you for listening to the show! WHAT YOU’LL LEARN: 1. Why the 12 week year is an execution system and how that helps you get more done in less time. 2. It’s not enough to know. You have to execute. Knowledge is only powerful if you act on it. 3. Get out of the annual environment. With this program, you are going to stop after 12 weeks and that is your year. Measure your success or failure and measure the progress and then go again. It’s a fluid process. You can use this professionally or personally. You can do anything for 12 weeks and then decide is that somethingI want to do again. 4. Your vision is you’re why. Your goals NEED to align with the vision. 5. At the goal level, know the difference between goals and tactics and outcomes and actions. The actions we have control over. Goals are outcomes. 6. Make sure at the goal level that is measurable – it’s an outcome. 7. Determine what are the most important actions. Most plans are conceptual not tactical. You need to spell out the specific actions and focus on “less is more”. 8. Stay connected to your vision by putting the longer term vision in front of you – laminate a card you can look at every day. Create visual reminders. 9. The difference between a habit and routine is key. Ex, going to the gym is a routine not a habit and routines are what drive success. How you begin and end your day needs a routine. The key is to start off positive. End your day with gratitude. 10. How to manage time. Time blocking – 3 core blocks: A. Strategic Block -3 hours blocked during the week. No interruptions – working on the business not in the business. THIS CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE. B. Buffer Blocks – these are designed to deal with the emails/low level stuff. Ex, I return calls between 4-5pm. Don’t check your emails when they come in. Block time in to address it. C. Break out blocks – schedule time away from work to do something just for you to recharge. The Four Disciplines of the 12 Week Year Vision – You have to know what you want. Planning – You have to ask – “What matters most?” Execution – Then ask, “Am I doing it?” Measurement – “Is it producing?” RESOURCES MENTIONED Brian’s Book: The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks than Others Do in 12 Months Brian’s website – https://12weekyear.com/ – Michele on Instagram ABOUT TODAY’S GUEST: Brian Moran, President and Founder of The 12 Week Year, has thirty plus years of expertise as a corporate executive, entrepreneur, consultant and coach. Brian is a recognized expert in the field of leadership and execution. His realization that most people don’t lack ideas, but struggle with effective implementation led him to the development of ‘The 12 Week Year’. His client list includes industry leaders like Allstate, Aon, Becton Dickinson, Dunkin’ Brands, Keller Williams, Mass Mutual, Medtronic, Merrill Lynch, Meritage Homes, Nationwide, New York Life, Papa Johns Pizza, Prudential State Farm and Taylor Made just to name a few. Brian resides in Michigan with his wife Judy and two daughters. Thank you for listening to the show!

Dr. Robynne Chutkan, best-selling author of numerous books which help people up-level their health is here to help us understand the importance of taking care of our gut health. We discuss her most recent book, The Anti-Viral Gut, which takes a complex topic and makes it easy to understand while providing great tips you can implement today. You’ll understand how to make simple, foundational changes in how you eat and live that will have a huge impact on your health and quality of life. If you want to learn how your gut health impacts your overall health and your ability to handle viruses, including Covid — you are going to love this conversation! All of the show notes can be found at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/222 While on the show notes page, I’d love for you to join our community. You’ll receive more inspiration and tips to love yourself and your life. You’ll get a FREE copy of Michele’s Book, Design a Life You Love. *This interview is for entertainment purposes only. For medical advice, seek out your trusted healthcare provider. WHAT WE DISCUSS: How Dr. Chutkan evolved her practice to empower others around their health and understanding the role of the microbiome. How her daughter received more than 20 courses of antibiotics by the time she was 2 and how Dr. Chutkan slowly learned the importance of our microbiome and began educating others. She explains what our microbiome is. She also explains dysbiosis. How to make simple, foundational changes in how you eat and live that have a huge impact on your health and quality of life. Specific things we can begin doing today to improve our health, and much more. RESOURCES MENTIONED Website: https://robynnechutkan.com/books/ – register for her free Masterclass Book: The Anti-Viral Gut Dr. Chutkan on Instagram Michele on Instagram MORE ABOUT DR ROBYNNE CHUTKAN Dr. Chutkan is a board-certified gastroenterologist and the bestselling author of Gutbliss, The Microbiome Solution, The Bloat Cure, and The Anti-Viral Gut. Educated at Yale and Columbia, she’s a faculty member at Georgetown Hospital and the founder of the Digestive Center for Wellness in Washington DC. A former Governing Board member and Training Committee chair of the American Society for Gastrointestinal Endoscopy (ASGE), she’s authored dozens of scientific articles and lectured globally on autoimmune diseases and the role of the microbiome in health and disease. Dr Chutkan has her own PBS Special entitled “Gutbliss” and has been a frequent medical expert on the Dr. Oz Show, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, and other media outlets. She’s an avid (and slow) runner, squash player and yogi and is passionate about introducing more dirt, sweat and vegetables into her patients’ lives. Thank you for listening to the show!

Jacqueline Whitmore, International Etiquette expert is on to help us with etiquette tips for business and life. We discuss how to have navigate zoom meeting, how to engage in a meaningful way at the office to build rapport, and then she answers the audience questions relating to thank you notes, gifts, and what to say when someone you care about is diagnosed with a serious medical issue, or loses someone they love, including a pet.  I think in mid-life there are more of these scenarios and it is hard to know what to say or do to best support the person. Tune in now to hear Jacqueline’s advice. The show notes and the freebie she mentioned are at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/221 We Discuss: Office protocol including what to wear How to navigate zoom meetings Audience questions – including what to say/do when someone you care about is diagnosed with cancer or other illness or loses someone they love, including a pet. Resources Mentioned Website:  etiquetteexpert.com – and access to Jacqueline’s freebie. Books: Business Class: Etiquette Essentials for Success at Work Poised for Success: Mastering the Four Qualities That Distinguish Outstanding Professionals  Michele’s Freebie – join the newsletter GUEST BIO: Jacqueline Whitmore, is an international etiquette expert, a certified speaking professional and the founder of The Protocol School of Palm Beach She is the author of “Business Class: Etiquette Essentials for Success at Work” and “Poised for Success: Mastering the Four Qualities That Distinguish Outstanding Professionals.” Ranked as one of the most widely quoted etiquette experts in the world, Jacqueline’s advice is sought by countless media outlets. Thank you so much for listening!

Rob and Ryan DeLena are the co-authors of the Memoir Without Restraint: How Skiing Saved My Son’s Life to be released in March of 2023. “As a child Ryan DeLena had difficulty controlling his emotional outbursts. This led to placement in therapeutic schools that relied on detrimental methods of behavior modification such as physical restraints. Nothing helped from a team of doctors to heavy medication. Then in 2010, Ryan was voluntarily committed to a mental hospital for further evaluation. His parents Rob and Mary Beth were counseled to place him in a group home. They refused… Written in two voices, Without Restraint is a joint father-son memoir told with both pain and levity, struggle and strength, adventure and heart. It is the story of a misunderstood boy, a father’s growth, and a shared love of the outdoors that formed their unbreakable bond.” You’ll hear both Ryan and Rob share their experiences with Therapeutic Schools in Massachusetts – getting both perspectives is powerful. This is not intended to be mental or general health advice. This show is for entertainment purposes only. For advice, consult your trusted healthcare provider. Show notes can be found at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/220 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Rob + Ryan’s Book: Without Restraint: How Skiing Saved My Son’s Life Hardcover Michele on IG Michele’s Freebie – join the newsletter GUEST BIOS: Robert C. DeLena was raised in Revere, MA, and is a graduate of The Governor’s Academy, Trinity College, and Northeastern University School of Law. After practicing law unhappily, he founded a small recruiting company called Legal Staffing Solutions, and for over twenty years has advised law firms, lawyers, and law students on legal hiring. Rob lives in Sudbury, MA with his wife, Mary Beth, and their daughter, Abigail, who currently attends Hamilton College. He spends time skiing with his son Ryan and the great friends he’s made during his journey from beginner to reluctant adventurer. Rob has skied all over the United States, internationally in Canada, Chile and Argentina, and even survived a backcountry expedition in Antarctica. He is planning to return to Antarctica with Ryan in late 2022. Ryan C. DeLena is currently a junior at Northern Vermont University studying Outdoor Education. He is widely known in the outdoor community through his social media presence as “Extreme Ryan.” He was pictured on the cover of Backcountry Ski Maps (2020) and has conquered many of the world’s signature ski runs including Super-C Couloir in Chile, Little Couloir in Montana, and Tuckerman Ravine in New Hampshire. Ryan has climbed and skied additional peaks in Oregon, Washington, Utah, California, Nevada, Wyoming, and Antarctica. He is an enthusiastic rock climber, ice climber, and avid hiker, summiting the Grand Teton twice and has recently completed the “Hundred Highest” hiking peaks in New England. Ryan has earned advanced certifications from the American Mountain Guides Association and the Professional Ski Instructors of America. He spends every available moment in the White Mountains and plans on adventuring in Svalbard, Peru, and Antarctica in 2022. Thank you so much for listening!

Do you have goals that are important to you but you keep putting them off? If you would like to learn easy to implement tips on how to overcome procrastination, then this conversation is for you. You’ll learn the main reasons why we procrastinate and ways to work around those barriers to get closer to achieving your goals and living the life you desire. We use getting in shape and writing a book as specific examples to make it really tactical. Our guest is Paula Rizzo, an Emmy Award-winning television producer, a media trainer, speaker, and best-selling author of Listful Thinking and Listful Living. The show notes for today can be found at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/219 KEY TAKEAWAYS: Fear is one of the major reasons someone will procrastinate. Break down goals into manageable tasks. Don’t put on your calendar “write book” – narrow it down to micro-goals. For example, write 200 words from 1pm-2pm on Tuesdays. Set yourself up for success by managing your day based on when you are more productive. Find an accountability partner. Ex, If you want to get into shape, find a friend or someone with the same goal and set up a regular day/time you’ll meet at the gym. Discipline is a key.  Establish habits and repetition.  Focus on one priority for the day.  Don’t over schedule yourself. Remove as many obstacles as you can. For example, sleep in your workout clothes so you are dressed and ready to go in the morning. Resources + Books Mentioned: Website: http://listproducer.com  Paula’s Books: Listful Thinking: by Paula Rizzo Listful Living: A List-Making Journey to a Less Stressed You by Paula Rizzo – comes out September 15, 2019, you can pre-order now Michele’s Freebie Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast player — and be sure to follow us on Instagram! Thank you so much for listening! Please share today’s show with a friend. I’d love to hear from you, if you have questions or comments, visit me here. If you’d like to advertise or sponsor the show, you can reach out here. This episode was sponsored by Design a Life You Love, A Woman’s Guide to Living a Happier and More Fulfilled Life. My book includes 52 inspirations, one for every week of the year, each with practical tips to guide you to self-love and success on your terms. It makes a great gift for yourself or a friend!