WITH LOVE, DANIELLE

Guest Tracy Stanley, an actual empress of rest, discusses the importance of rest and balancing productivity. They explore the cultural shift towards valuing balance and the challenges of resting in a society that values busyness. Discover the practical benefits of rest through yoga nidra, including lower stress and increased productivity. They also delve into conditioning and ancestry in rest, and Tracy's mastermind class that includes a yoga nidra practice.

Today is a good one. I’ve been waiting to deliver this for a while and because I think there’s a missing piece in the current cultural conversation around the nervous system which is… the connection between our dysregulation and the quality of our relationships.  A nervous system that’s nourished, regulated and healthy can roll with ALL KINDS OF EXPERIENCES. We can be flexible, spacious, and tolerant. Way less… triggerable and much more… Loving. When we’re overly stressed, under-resourced, and dysregulated (anyone?) relational symptoms ––in addition to physical symptoms, will start to show up for us. If you’re agitated and unpleasable… if you want to hard bail on commitments… if you’re emotionally shut down…  if you can’t even name what you’re feeling… then… it’s all kinds of messy and unfulfilling. In Episode 95 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, I’m walking us through the 8 signs of dysregulation in relationships, PLUS! 8 signs we’re relating from inner balance: How to know when you’re off base. In wild times like these, we’re normalizing abnormal conditions.  How getting regulated helps us stop taking everything personally.  How imbalance actually brings us more into balance. All reactivity is an opportunity to see what’s playing out under our hood. The indicators that we are relating from inner balance, from the heart center… and why Love is the most powerful, immediate regulator of the nervous system.  We heal through relationships. Repeat: all relationships are vehicles for healing.  When we see how our nervous system influences our interactions––family, partners, friends, cultures—then we will take a more urgent and spiritual approach to taking care of ourselves. And THEN we can move from friction to freedom. Especially with the holidays at hand… please listen in.  We show up, we hold space. We hold hands. And we keep going.  Mentioned in this episode: The teachings in this session are from THE NOURISH SYSTEM program. Nourish system regulation is so doable. I’ve created a simple, flexible methodology and structure to move you towards small acts of healing every day.  HEART CENTERED MEMBERSHIP. Community, 2 Live Calls/month + access to our ever expanding library of ALL classes, spiritual practices, and meditations! Come in, be honoured, and exhale.  Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking. Connect with me on IG! I heart Q’s! xo   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’d bet that you’ve never been asked this question before: What’s your relationship to what nourishes you?  Because even though we KNOW what’s good for us, we don’t always go there.  Here’s the thing: everything is energy. And we’re always exchanging energy. So we’re actually relating to different healing ideas and modalities.  And! the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives (Kind of a big deal). So this podcast session is a micro workshop on your relationship to the healing areas of your life. A little philosophy, a little esoterica, a lot of practicality. We’re looking at stillness, body, silence, quality of sleep and more––connecting to ALL the healing sources. In Episode #94 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE we explore: How the body’s function is to transmit Love + Q’s to help you become a stronger conduit.  Why, in our productivity obsessed societies, stillness is actually the power move.  Want to know my theory on meditation? An inquiry for all levels of mediators and the meditation-resistant. Prayer as one of the most intimate forms of conversations––and how analyzing your relationship to prayer can shift you into deeper self love. What happens when we intentionally choose silence. How to show up to nature to recharge (hint: first with gratitude and then to make our healing requests.)  If this is nourishing in any way, please leave a review, subscribe, maybe pass it on to a friend who needs some healing this week. Let’s get some Love and Light into the algorithm. Mentioned in this episode: THE NOURISH SYSTEM. A heart centered approach to nervous system regulation. Compassionate, everyday practices delivered over 8 weeks. Tools and healing for a lifetime.  My NEW Instagram Broadcast Channel! I started this so I can send you audio love and short prayers a few times a week. (* might not be available in all regions/networks) My new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS is kind of thrilling. I send it out 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking. Connect with me on IG! I heart Q’s! xo Cool people I quote in this episode: "Much of spiritual work is slowing down enough to let our minds come into harmony with our hearts.”    Ram Dass “Silence is not an absence of sound, but rather a shifting of attention towards sounds that speak to the soul.”   Thomas Moore "You will not be left behind if you pause. You will gain more insight about your journey, and this may cause  you to change course. So perhaps that is what some of us fear in the pause, that they will finally realize that another way is calling them." Octavia Raheem “If part of your legacy were to change the relationship to rest and self-care for your family lineage, how would you begin?”  Tracee Stanley  (Tracee is joining me for a Heart Centered Business Masterclass! Free for Mastermind members. Here’s how you can join us. ) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk about all the shades of isolation. Chosen aloneness. Solitude. Go it on your own. Hangin’ out the ‘do not disturb’ sign. Pressin’ the HARD PAUSE BUTTON. Isolation, like everything else in life, has shadows and light. I think this conversation is important because, unexamined, it can turn into nervous system dysregulation. Darkness, disassociation, sadness.  So let’s hold it up into the light. In Episode #93 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE I’m sharing: 10 reasons we isolate––why we pull back from people, places and experiences. What fear-driven isolation does to us, and what heart centered, healthy isolating looks like. One way that I’ve created conditions of healing for myself, and tips to seek out safe spaces for community (even if you’re reluctant… like I used to be) Why we need to acknowledge the fatigue that comes from playing by someone else’s rules (hint: it frees up our life force) How showing up imperfectly (please let go of perfectionism) is part of the of the isolation solution Retreating is sometimes the absolute necessity––wise. And other times, it’s a slope to sadsville. I just want you to know that you can pour light on the situation, no matter what it is.  Mentioned in this episode: THE NOURISH SYSTEM, an 8-week self-study program to help you create conditions of healing for yourself. Here’s where you get it! Your Love Note for Ep #93 is a poem by me, “Early Intimacies” (sign up to get your printable 💖) Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email two Fridays a month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep spirituality. Connect with me on IG! I love Q’s from our community! xo   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Catch that subject line? It’s not your relationship. It’s you.  Slightly provocative? Yes. Likely true on the deepest level? Also yes.  Almost everything that I’ve had to apologize for in a relationship––or that I’ve wanted an apology for, had to do with my nervous system being too jacked or too drained.  The current human reality (you, me, the planet…) We’re generally dysregulated, out of balance. We’re fried. Frayed. AND… We are Love. We want to show up as Love. We want to receive Love. We want to give Love.  And whether we’re conscious of it or not, we know on some level that our relationships are THE vehicle for healing, self-awareness, for getting closer to our Higher Self… It ALL happens in relationships.  Episode #91 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE is the third in a 3 part conversation on nervous system regulation. It’s about learning how to meet our triggers (hello, Inner Child and everyone in the world who’s triggering my Inner Child.) And then processing those triggers more mindfully, often physically, so that we don’t have to owe––or demand more apologies. In this session we explore: Why we keep trying to solve the wrong problems in our relationships The relational symptoms of nervous system imbalance (overstaying, bickering, the silent treatment and the blame game…) Simple ways to get centered in heated or heartbreaking interactions How to get OUT of the loop of unhealthy behaviors/situations and a dysregulated nervous system––so we can unwire lifelong default stress responses that hinder love, intimacy, expression, and intuition. When the nervous system is strong, then our relating is strong. Less wigging, more loving.  To less friction and more freedom. ICYMI here’s: 4 Types of Stress Response––what’s yours? 9 Ways We Add Stress to Our Lives Mentioned in this episode: This episode is a recording of the most popular class I’ve ever taught: From Friction to Freedom. When you register for the class, you get instant access to the entire replay AND $50 off my new program THE NOURISH SYSTEM! Here’s where you get!  Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking. Connect with me on IG! I heart relationship Q’s! xo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk about stress, baby. Let’s talk about nerves and mind loops and … relaxation. As always when we go into the shadowy stuff, I’ve got some light-backed solutions. In this episode of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE:  9 ways we create unnecessary stress –– the stuff that drains, dysregulates, grinds on our nervous systems. Holistic suggestions for interrupting stress cycles like thought loops, self-shame + blame, criticism, complaining… How to become the parent of your stress and meet it with Love and Compassionate authority.  This is the second in a series of 3 conversations about nervous system healing. If nervous system regulation were the #1 priority for every being on the planet, well that would change… everything for everyone wouldn’t it? I think our divine assignment is to create conditions of healing for ourselves. That’s it. And it starts with steady love and common sense for stress way less. * ICYMI here’s: 4 Types of Stress Responses–what’s yours? This episode’s LOVE NOTE (free prayers, printables, pointers) is the Metta Bhavana Prayer. Mentioned in this episode: FROM FRICTION TO FREEDOM––free class. I just taught a massively helpful class (that thousands of people attended––the most packed class in all my years!) on the connection between our nervous system and the quality of our relationships. You can catch the replay HERE (plus score a code for $50 off my new program…) My new program, THE NOURISH SYSTEM, starts soon! Tuesday, November 28. It’s a simple program for creating your own wellness plan… for LIFE.  Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email every other Friday SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking. The Desire Map is a methodology for getting clear on how you want to feel. Connect with me on IG! I want to hear how you’re addressing your stressing xo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here’s where I think we’re at:  The past few years on the planet Earth have done a number on our nervous systems. A lot of us are experiencing adrenal fatigue, waves of anxiety, and difficulty sleeping. A general malaise of despair. And it turns out that all of this was a precursor to these last few weeks and months of warful insanity.  And whether YOU’RE conscious of what the stress is doing to you––your NERVOUS SYSTEM is very aware. I think that... If each of us focused on regulating our nervous system, it could change the entire world.  It starts with knowing your default stress response.  In this session of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, I quiz you on your stress style––who wins for best stressed?! And then do my best to offer solutions. ARE YOU A FIGHTER? FLIGHTER? FREEZER or FAWNER? Once you’re clear on that, you can see the path to healing. I share 11 beliefs on healing––specifically for our nervous systems. There was a time when my cortisol levels were jacked and everything else was tanked. I’m giving you some very practical things I did that helped me heal. A better you in a bonkers world depends on steady love and your nervous system.  - This episode’s LOVE NOTE (free prayers, printables, pointers) is a simple before & after exercise to check in with your nervous system and plan for brighter days. Mentioned in this episode: Come to my free class: FROM FRICTION TO FREEDOM: How your nervous system steers your relationships on Tuesday, November 14, 2023 @ 3pm PT | 6pm ET. Can you imagine way less stress relating to your boss, bestie, BF? Like… staying centered? Step up for this one, I’m going deep and offering a lot of healing tips. xo  Check out my free PRAYER SERIES on Instagram here.  Essential oils I work with are Young Living (an MLM, but hey, it’s the good stuff) and Living Libations.  My friend Terri Cole who’s doing healthy boundary work in the world. Get on the list for my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS here. Think: girlfriend vibe meets depth. Connect with me on IG! We want to hear what your default stress response is. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello Loves,  Let me dial you back in time a bit… my birthday is May 25. I woke up this year and thought,  “I don’t want to live and work this way anymore.” Who’s got cake?! I’d fallen into a pretty classic trap of working FOR my business instead of the business working for my LIFE. I needed to get out of the tasky tasks (read: draining) and back to my deep creativity. Because If I’m not living from my full, lit up heart center, I’m not serving at full capacity. So. I made a leap. Quantum. I got super clear on: My zone of genius––doing what only *I* can do. Where we’re going to have the most impact in the world, not “maybe” but CLEARLY. Investing in my purpose-driven company. And then I went allllll in. And there was some shaking it up. Happy Birthday.  Fast forward to the present… My 10 year business is now a start up. High enthusiasm. Agility as a superpower. A gorgeous chaos.  A LOT OF CREATIVE DEEPENING. Doubling down on a heart centered way of doing business = more freedom + more REACH AND IMPACT — for everyone involved. In this very special episode of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, I am pulling back the curtain on: How I took my business (and life) down to the studs Why it’s one of the most heart centered moves I’ve ever made How we turned alignment into action, organizational + business model changes, AND saved $30,000 (almost) overnight All the details on our (long asked for!) HEART CENTERED MASTERMIND! This is inner circle-level stuff. Everything is changing for the better.  So. Much. To. Tell. You. With Love! Mentioned in this episode: Business Unfurled Master Class, Thursday, November 9th, 2023 @ 3pm PT | 6 PM ET If destruction is part of creation, what do you need to burn down? Discover the key shift that will move you from stuck + straining to joyfully thriving in your heart-led business. Resonance: Produce a Podcast That Gets Attention, Virtual Business Class with Team D Kajabi is our online business all-in-one platform of choice.Use this link for a 45-day free trial to check out if it’s right for you.  10x Is Easier Than 2x: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More by Doing Less, by Dan Sullivan + Dr. Benjamin Hardy– the first business book I’ve read in almost a decade. Get on the list for my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS here. Think girlfriend vibe meets deep. Connect with me on IG! We want to hear your thoughts on entrepreneurship + heart-led ways of working! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello Loves… I can be having a conversation about a friend’s dating life, or what we’re having for dinner and in the back of my heart-mind, I’m thinking about Israeli and Palestinian families. Guilt can accompany some of my daily happinesses… I’m planning a wedding while there’s a war. I pray more fiercely. I’m more tired than I should be. Whatever “should be” means in dark times like these. I think about FAITH––what do we put Faith in when there’s atrocity? Or when our personal life is so challenging that we can’t even think about what's happening outside of ourselves? And what should we be letting go of so that we can be more graceful in all the fractiousness? I am always wondering, What should I RENUNCIATE?  Faith and renunciation are loaded words for some of us, and these are charged concepts in times like these. So… let’s go there. WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, Eps #87 is a fresh round of spiritual definitions in under 30 minutes: Embodiment. A consistency in thoughts, speech and action. Faith. Knowing that the light exists, even when it’s dark.  Renunciation. Letting go of meaningless pursuits and things, that block your connection to your purpose.  The Lower Self and the Higher Self: the unhealed self (aka ego) and the Soul… your True Nature. Remember: Your Soul is always calling the shots. Lean in to it. With Love, D Mentioned in this episode:  Check out my Spiritual Essentials course on Commune to do a self-help audit and lighten your load! Catch up on more Spiritual Definitions here.  This week’s Love Note is an invocation you can use to connect with your Higher Self through out the day. Get on the list for my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS here. Think girlfriend vibe meets deep. Connect with me on IG! We want to hear your thoughts on Embodiment, Faith, and Renunciation. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.