Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what triggers it. He explains that old contexts, old relationships, old energies, roles, or rules can trigger us in ways that we revert back to a less evolved way of functioning. He encourages observing this dynamic and developing compassion for ourselves when we experience this inevitability.

Dr. Reedy talks about the characteristics of an authentic apology. He explains the difference between an apology and an amends. He explains that forgiveness is not a future but something we can do when we can do it - we do it when we can so that we can feel better.

Explore the pressures many face during holiday gatherings and the impact of familial expectations. Learn how self-acceptance and emotional awareness can foster healthy relationships. Delve into self-compassion as a tool for navigating family dynamics and establishing personal boundaries. Discover the importance of prioritizing well-being amidst societal pressures and the challenges of maintaining authenticity during family interactions.

Dr. Reedy discusses the risk of practicing gratitude and proposes that a more effective route might be by learning to feel all our feelings. He explains toxic positivity, gaslighting and spiritual bypass. He talks about Thanksgiving and the pressure to feel a certain way and what to do about that.

Exploring how our family of origin shapes our identities, the discussion highlights the profound impact of family systems theory on mental health. It dives into navigating family dynamics and trauma, emphasizing communication and support as vital for healing. The importance of differentiation in relationships is underscored, illustrating how boundaries influence behaviors. Finally, listeners are encouraged to engage in personal growth through upcoming workshops focusing on conscious parenting and attachment-based therapy.

Dr. Reedy discusses why personal work is the basis for all our relationship issues and challenges. He takes live questions from the audience on psychedelics, religion, children using marijuana, and how to respond to these issues.

Dr. Reedy explains the etiology of narcissism and how we all have some of it. He defines the narcissistic wound as the wound of not being seen. He debunks many ideas taught today in pop-psychology. He makes a plea to stop responding to the diagnosis intuitively, but with a deeper understanding we can help others and take-in less of the pain the narcissist tries to project on or into us.

Dr. Reedy explores the process of projection, starting with splitting-off the parts of ourselves we were told were unacceptable and relegating them to the unconscious – the shadow. He talks about how we want the problem to be out there, in the other. He talks about othering when we don’t own our own feelings of fear, insecurity, or overwhelm.

The Mysteries of Intimacy - Ep 629 by Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between trying to be right or good and being yourself. He discusses how the things we have been taught to fear often hold great wisdom or energy. He explains that if we are operating with the need to be good, driven by ego, we are incapable of love. He explains that when we come to terms with who we are, through self-compassion (by time spent with someone who sees us and doesn’t judge us), we are free to love and hold space for others and their feelings.