Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

This broadcast was inspired by recent events. Largely based on J.D.Gill's book, Seeing in Intimacy and Psychotherapy, Dr. Reedy talks about how to see past behaviors, symptoms, and rebellion to the wound that lies beneath. He talks about how "othering" people is a way to deal with pain and anxiety. He talks about how a transformation of Self creates an ability to hear and truly see others and how psychotherapy can facilitate this change.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Judith Sadora, primary therapist at Evoke Therapy Programs. Judith talks about transracial adoption and attachment. She talks about Narcissism, holding space for others, and the need to do our own work.

Dr. Reedy talks about how attachment theory informs therapy at Evoke Therapy Programs. He talks about how attachment wounds and fractures can be repaired by a therapist creating competing experiences for the client. the client must re-experience themselves in the context of a capable, empathic other in order to heal.

Jamie Goodman, of Pilcrow Advisors, joins Dr. Brad Reedy to discuss Parental Guilt. They discuss how guilt is not a valid measure of right and wrong and how we pass on to our children a susceptibility to peer pressure when we model guilt or use it to change behavior in our children.

From his recent book, The Audacity to Be You: Learning to Love Your Horrible, Rotten Self, Dr. Reedy talks about 12 myths of being human and being a parent, including the myth the guilt is related to morality. He also talks about the keys to enlightenment, including "learning to lose" and "knowing your mental illness."

Dr. Reedy takes questions from viewers. He talks about criteria for coming home. He discusses the sensibility shift parents make as they get into recovery from codependency.

This podcast features Dr. Brad Reedy. Two guests, Emma Reedy and Beth Miller, interview Dr. Reedy, asking personal questions and questions about his evolution as a therapist.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Sam Kelly, art therapist, author, and parent educator. Sam talks about her approach with younger children and how holding space for their feelings is the key to nurturing connection and developing their sense of self. She talks about her book, Young and Divorced. She also shares how her work relates to her family of origin and how it is ideal that parents can listen children's anger and hurt, especially when it is directed at the parent.

Dr. Reedy talks about the notion of being a good parent. The shift is from being right and good to being a Self. He suggests that the task of parenting is to raise a healthy Self and that this requires rare capacity.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from parents and talks about how family members can best support their loved one in treatment.