How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Dec 7, 2024 • 55min

From Dull to Dynamic: How Passion and Authenticity Make You Magnetic to Women, Featuring John R. Miles

Does your life lack excitement and passion? Do you worry that women find you boring—or worse, dull? A passionless life can sabotage your dating success, leaving women to gravitate to men with more exciting stories to tell. (Picture your date saying, “Wait, your only hobby is playing video games? Cool, cool... well, I should go now.” Yikes.) Women crave men who live with passion and purpose. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell sits down with bestselling author John R. Miles, host of the top-rated “Passion Struck” podcast, to explore how finding your passions can transform your love life and bring you more fulfillment as a man.Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:2:30 The Life-Changing Power of Facing Your Fear12:05 Why Self-Doubt is Your True Enemy—and How to Build Self-Worth17:32 How to Get Unstuck and Start Living a Passionate Life20:21 The Secret to Turning Powerful New Behaviors into Daily Habits21:03 How to Talk to Women with Passion on Dates—and Why They Love It28:15 How John’s Improv Comedy Experience Helped Him Defeat Fear33:53 The Healing Power of Gratitude: Lessons from Losing a Loved One40:47 How to Show a Woman You’re Dating that She Truly Matters42:22 The Right Way to Talk to Women About Your Career46:52 A Fun Improv Game You Can Play to Get Women LaughingListen now and take your love life from dull to dynamic—because you want to talk to women about much more than Minecraft.TO LEARN MORE ABOUT JOHN AND HIS COACHING:www.johnrmiles.com/TO GET JOHN’S BESTSELLING BOOK ‘PASSION STRUCK’:https://www.amazon.com/Passion-Struck-Powerful-Principles-Intentional-ebook/dp/B0CGS248NR/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1707604358&sr=1-1TO LISTEN TO JOHN’S TOP-RATED PODCAST:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passion-struck-with-john-r-miles/id1553279283TO HIRE JOHN AS A KEYNOTE SPEAKER:www.harrywalker.com/speakers/john-r-milesWATCH JOHN’S INSPIRING YOUTUBE CHANNEL:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oW7cQNjZTEAFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.comQuotes"Treat every practice like a race; overcome the fear of the starting line through preparation." - John R. Miles"Convey your self-value and power with confidence; it's the superpower that strengthens every relationship." - John R. Miles
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Dec 4, 2024 • 55min

1,000 First Dates Later: My Top 7 Easy Moves to Escape the Friend Zone and Get Her Asking You for Date No. 2

Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett knows how frustrating first dates can be, especially when you’re unsure what to talk about or how to flirt. You’ve heard it before: “I didn’t feel a connection, but we can be friends.” Frustrating, right? Let’s change that! In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell—who’s been on over 1,000 first dates—shares seven of his best first-date moves. These proven strategies help him and his clients ignite genuine, confident connections with women, without relying on weird, manipulative tactics that fall flat.Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett will teach you:4:20: What to Text Her Before the Date to Get Her Excited to Meet You (No More Flaking!)11:05 - How to Tell Charismatic Stories that Make Her Hang On Every Word20:07 - The One Compliment that Always Keeps You Out of the Friend Zone (and Makes Her Smile)25:25 – Connell’s 3 Steps to Emotionally Connect with Any Woman, Even If You Seem to Have Little in Common30:12 - The WRONG Way to Touch Her on a Date (Don’t Do This!) and the RIGHT Way36:12 - How to Make Her Feel Special and Safe38:22 - How and When to Go for the First Kiss and Never Get Rejected44:09 - Bonus Tip! Connell’s Favorite First-Date Game: “5 Questions,” to Get Her Laughing and Loving Every Minute with YouStop hearing “Let’s just be friends” and start hearing “Let’s go out again.” Listen now to unlock the confidence and strategies that will make sparks fly on your next date!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Nov 29, 2024 • 37min

Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life

How do you talk to women and create true attraction? What’s the right way to approach in the #MeToo Era? How much do your looks matter to women? In this episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, dating expert for men Kezia Noble answers these confounding questions. The bestselling author of “The Noble Art of Seduction,” Kezia has helped more than 100,000 men get great dating results. How? By telling it like it is about what works with women. “Guys don’t want to hear bulls*it,” she tells host and fellow dating coach Connell Barrett. “They want to hear the raw truth that gets results.”You want raw truth? You got it! Kezia and Connell discuss:(2:35) How Kezia Learned to Get Great Results for Her Clients(10:40) How to Dial Up Attraction Using her “Double-Sided Compliment”(13:12) “The Shadow,” the Side of Men that Women Find Seductive(16:45) What to Say on Dates to go from Boring to Charismatic(18:05) How to Be Authentically Interesting to Women as the Raw, Real You(24:05) The Right Way to Talk About Your Career… and the Wrong Way(25:45) The Truth about How Much Looks Really Matter to Women(28:51) Why Women Hate the Apps and are “Absolutely Dying” for Men like You to Approach Them(32:35) How to Get a Woman Who Rejected You to Change Her Mind and Chase YouAre you ready to confidently approach women and attract your dream girlfriend? Listen now!Featured GuestKezia Noble, The World’s Leading Female Dating and Attraction ExpertTO LEARN ABOUT KEZIA’S 1-1 COACHING PROGRAMSwww.kezia-noble.com/VISIT KEZIA’S YOUTUBE CHANNELhttp://www.youtube.com/@KezianobledatingexpertGET KEZIA’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “THE NOBLE ART OF SEDUCING WOMEN”http://www.amazon.com/Noble-Art-Seducing-Women-Foolproof/dp/1843587629FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO DISCUSS COACHINGhttp://www.datingtransformation.com/contactFOR FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACHhttp://www.datingtransformation.com/flirty30Quotes"There were 2 things that I noticed pretty quickly, the first was that there were indeed practical tools, advice that you could give men that could really make a change." - Kezia Noble"It's very much pattern breaking is not just about asking an interesting question, it's about your interesting responses." - Kezia Noble
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Nov 27, 2024 • 1h 4min

Live Coaching Session: Connell’s Client Matt Conquers His Fear of Approaching—and Gets 2 Phone Numbers!

Do you see women you’d love to talk to, but you’re just not sure what to say—and you’re afraid you’ll get rejected? You’re not alone. Matt, 25, was battling “approach anxiety.” He wasn’t sure how to talk to women in places like bars and coffee shops. Well, his struggles are over! In this episode of the How to Get A Girlfriend Podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett pulls back the curtain and shares a 1-1 coaching session he did with his client Matt. Armed with practical tips he calls “outside the box,” a newly confident Matt immediately went out and got two phone numbers from women he approached.Here are some highlights from the coaching session with Connell that led to Matt’s breakthrough:5:45 Matt Talks about his Struggles Talking to Women He Sees In Bars8:31 Connell Identifies the “Invisible Wall” that Stops Matt from Approaching14:21 Matt Has a Major Shift About His Fear of Rejection17:15 Why Approaching Large Groups Helps Create MORE Attraction with Women20:32 Connell Shares “the Biggest Secret” to Confidently Approaching23:36 Connell Tells Matt What to Say when Talking to Tall Women26:01 Why Authenticity and Vulnerability is So Effective in Dating37:20 How to Be Playful with Women, and Not Boring42:30 Connell Shares His Simple Texting Framework46:37 A Simple Move that Keeps Guys from Getting Ghosted53:28 Matt learns the RIGHT Way to Confirm a Date, and the WRONG Way58:21 The Hinge Prompt that’s CRUSHING for Connell and His ClientsAfter their session, Matt went out and got two phone number from two cute girls—the kinds of women he’d been too anxious to approach. Do you want the same kind of success? Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Nov 24, 2024 • 1h 3min

How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)

Do women confuse you? Would you like to get better at connecting on and off the apps, but you struggle to read women? In today’s episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes a very special guest: Instagram influencer and dating expert Lindsey Metselaar, host of the wildly popular dating podcast We Met At Acme. Once a single woman herself, Lindsey is here to help you read women on dates, on the apps, and when you want to approach.In their fun, lively conversation, Connell and Lindsey discuss:(8:47) How Connell Went from Paralyzing Approach Anxiety to Confidently Meeting Women IRL(13:37) How to Compliment Women with Authentic Charm, and Zero Creepiness(20:00) How Lindsey’s Podcast, We Met At Acme, Helps Millennials Improve their Love Lives(24:00) Why A Woman You Like Suddenly Goes Quiet(29:50) How to Tell if She’s into You(36:07) Why Women are Drawn to Vulnerable, Authentic Men(48:07) How to Flirt with Women without Being Weird(52:29) First Date Topics to Talk About…and NOT to Talk About(53:33) The Charming Way Women Want You to Approach Them(56:52) Why Humor is More Attractive than Good Looks(59:36) Women HATE HATE HATE When Guys Do THIS!(1:01:44) Lindsey’s Top 4 Dating Tips You Need to KnowAre you ready to stop being confused by women, and start understanding how to read and connect with them? Listen now!READ LINDSEY’S SUBSTACKhttps://wemetatacme.substack.com/CHECK OUT HER BINGE-WORTHY DATING PODCASTWe Met At AcmeGO TO HER WEBSITE TO LEARN ABOUT LINDSEY’S LIVE SHOWShttp://www.wemetatacme.comFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO TALK ABOUT 1-1 COACHINGhttp://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACHhttp://www.datingtransformation.com/flirty30
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Nov 23, 2024 • 1h 20min

Bestselling Author Dr. Robert Glover on How to Confidently Meet Women without Being Too Nice (Encore Episode)

In the pantheon of self-development thought leaders for men, no one looms larger than Dr. Robert Glover. A therapist, coach and public speaker for 30 years, Dr. Glover has helped countless men transform from passive and resentful to empowered and confident. His bestselling book, “No More Nice Guy,” is a self-help classic, sharing the same rarified air as David Deida’s “The Way of the Superior Man” and Brene Brown’s “Daring Greatly.”In this encore episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett and Dr. Glover—author of “The Dating Essentials for Men”—will discuss:(5:03) How Connell’s Nerdy Client Ken Got His Very First Kiss Ever(12:19) A Simple Tip on How to Always Know What to Say to Women(19:57) Dr. Glover Reveals Why “Nice Guy Syndrome” Is Hurting Your Love Life(26:20) How Dr. Glover Cracked the Code in His Own Dating Life(30:33) How Shame Can Hurt Your Self-Esteem(34:22) Why Indian and Asian Men Struggle with Dating in the U.S.(42:11) Why a Woman Wants a Little “Caveman” in the Guy She Dates(43:35) How to Confident and Strong without Being an A-Hole(50:22) Dr. Glover’s Formula to Be a Man of “Loving Dominance”(55:11) Why Rejection is Good for You(1:01:03) How to Stop Feeling Needy with Women(1:07:01) The Easy Way to Get a Woman’s Phone Number(1:09:45) Dr. Glover’s Top Tip to Stay out of the Friend ZoneAre you ready to stop being “Mr. Nice Guy” and start being the man women want you to be? Listen now, and take one step closer to getting a great girlfriend!TO LEARN ABOUT DR. GLOVER’S COACHING, COURSES AND HIS BOOK, “DATING ESSENTIALS FOR MEN”http://www.drglover.comFOLLOW DR. GLOVER ON TWITTER/Xhttp://www.twitter.com/dr_r_gloverFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
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Nov 22, 2024 • 49min

My Girlfriend Tells All! How We Connected on Our First Date (Featuring My Amazing Partner Jessamin) Part 5 of 5

If you don’t know what to talk about or how to flirt on first dates, this is the episode for you. In part 5 of this week-long series on how to get a girlfriend, host and dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his romantic partner Jessamin. The couple breaks down the fun, connected first date that put them on the path to love. What do women from want on dates? Jessamin will tell you!In this episode, Connell and Jessamin will discuss:(3:20) The Photos on His Profile that Made Her Swipe Right(3:55) The Kinds of Photos NOT to Use(13:05) The Right Way to Text a Woman Before a First Date(15:00) How to Write Light, Flirty Messages to Keep from Getting Ghosted(18:20) Jessamin’s Top First-Date Tip(26:30) How to Make a Great First Impression(29:00) What to Talk About to Never Run out of Things to Say(30:48) How to Avoid Interview Mode and Not Get Friend-Zoned(34:15) The Simple Way Connell Went in for the First Kiss(37:18) How to Ask Her Out for a Second Date(39:21) Jessamin’s Top 3 First-Date Mistakes that Guys Make(45:00) Why Women Want Authentic Men, Not Toxic “Alpha Males”Are you ready to stop hearing “Let’s be friends” and start getting second dates? Listen now.Quotes"Seize your first impression in online dating—it's your chance to stand out from the start." - Jessamin"Great conversations flow when your humor and interests align." - JessaminFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: https://datingtransformation.com/contact/TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: https://datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30/
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Nov 21, 2024 • 50min

The New Way to Confidently Approach and Connect with Women (Part 4 of 5)

Odds are, you see women you’d love to meet at bars, grocery stores or the gym, but you never approach them. Fear holds you back. You don’t know what to say, and you don’t want to seem creepy. It’s frustrating… but fixable! In this episode, host Connell Barrett—who has approached thousands of women in his 12 years as a dating coach—shares a new way to confidently meet women IRL. His Authentic Approach Technique will teach you exactly what to say to women, so you can get numbers and dates and find an incredible girlfriend. And you’ll talk to women with charm and authenticity, NOT with sketchy pickup tricks.In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett will discuss:(2:35) The 3 Simple Ways to Approach Women Almost Anywhere(6:30) Why Women Hate Scripted “PUA” Tactics(7:15) Why Connell’s Authentic Approach Technique is Basically Rejection-Proof(8:05) The Night Connell Got 3 Numbers from 3 Wonderful Women(11:50) The Approaching Mistake that Gets You In Your Head(12:50) How to Meet Women Using a Power Compliment(16:42) The Mindset Shift that Destroys Approach Anxiety(19:42) How to Meet Women by Asking the Perfect Question(22:30) A Great Approach Opener to Use at the Gym(27:53) How to Meet Women with A Funny, Flirty Icebreaker(36:30) How to Be Authentically Attractive, NOT Creepy(41:15) How Connell’s Client Taylor Approached and Made Out with a Woman in Under 10 Minutes(43:49) Your Approach Mission for this EpisodeAre you ready to confidently meet women and get numbers and dates? Listen now!Quotes"Be the charming, authentic man who confidently sparks conversations anywhere. Your natural charm will have her telling her friends." - Connell Barnett"Use a genuine compliment, relevant question, or unique observation to initiate conversations." - Connell BarnettFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
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Nov 20, 2024 • 49min

How to Write Irresistible Openers on the Apps + The Easy Way to Text and Get Dates (Part 3 of 5)

Do you struggle to write good openers? Do the women you text tend to ghost you? Help is on the way! In part 3 of this week’s special series on how to get a great girlfriend, your host—dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett—teaches you how to write irresistible openers on the apps that women reply to. Then he shares his simple, 4-step texting framework so you’ll always know what to message women, leading to more dates. And you’ll do all of this with authentic charm—no weird pickup tricks needed.In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett will discuss:(4:28) The Real Reason You Struggle on the Dating Apps(7:27) The 3 Kinds of Openers NOT to Send(9:01) The 3 Secrets to Writing Openers that Women Love(10:25) How to Personalize Your Openers to Get Replies(12:57) The BIG Mistake You’re Making in the Apps(13:45) Why Women Love, Love, Love Playful Messages(15:30) How to Write the “Opposites Attract” Opener(17:58) How to Write the “Compliment + Nickname” Opener(20:56) How to Write the “Pop Quiz” Opener(28:00) 3 Tested Copy-Paste Openers that Women Love(29:58) Connell’s 4-Step Texting Framework to Get You Dates(32:57) A Breakdown of a Flirty Text Exchange with Suzy(38:30) Exactly When to Ask Women Out(40:32) Why Connell’s New “Surprisingly Sexy” Opener Works with ANY Woman(43:15) Your Dating Mission for this EpisodeAre you ready to stop getting ghosted and start getting dates? Listen now!Quotes"Learn her interests to tailor your approach; discussing them sparks meaningful conversations." - Connell Barnett"Master teasing by staying light and avoiding sensitive topics like appearance or intelligence. Keep it fun, not personal." - Connell BarnettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite:https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
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Nov 19, 2024 • 56min

You’re Flirting Wrong: The New Way to Talk to Women + 5 Flirting Fails to Avoid (Part 2 of 5)

Chances are, you struggle with flirting. You’re not sure how to talk to women, and you run out of things to say. It hurts your confidence and your dating results. But what if you knew exactly how to talk to girls in a way they love, leading to great dates and deep connections? In part 2 of his 5-part series to help you get you a great girlfriend, dating coach Connell Barrett teaches you a new way to flirt. You’re about to harness the power of Man-to-Woman Communication, a simple way to confidently talk to women with charm and authenticity.In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett will discuss:(4:58) The “Aha!” Moment when he Realized the Power of Man-to-Woman Communication(13:08) The Reason You Get Stuck in the Friend Zone(14:28) The 3 Pillars of Man-to-Woman Communication(16:20) How to Never Run out of Things to Say(18:30) The “80-20 Rule” to Help You Flirt with Genuine Charm, Not Manipulative Tactics(20:21) 10 Tested Flirting Moves Connell and His Clients Use(22:40) How to Make Her Swoon: the Right Way to Give a Compliment(29:37) The Difference Between Flirting (Good!) and Fawning (Bad!)(34:00) The Flirty Text Message that Helped Connell Charm His Future Girlfriend(37:11) The Right Way to Touch a Woman on First Dates… and the WRONG Way(41:40) The Most Potent Weapon in Your Dating Arsenal(43:15) 5 Flirting Fails You Must Avoid(49:20) 3 Back-pocket Questions to Assure You’ll Never Run Out of Things to SayAre you ready to stop struggling when talking to women and start flirting with charm and authenticity? Learn the art of Man-to-Woman Communication. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30Quotes"Man-to-woman communication is like turbocharged flirting—it simplifies and authenticates romantic connections." - Connell Barnett"I think the most powerful tool you can bring to your dating life is playfulness." - Connell Barnett

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