This Changes Everything with Sarah Rice

Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are breaking down a topic that listeners have been asking for: relationship attachment styles. Attachment styles are established with our earliest relationships, so they can be deeply ingrained and take a lot of work to recognize and work through. Jeff tells us why the securely attached might seem boring, but really they're #goals. Sarah tells us what secure attachment has in common with The Four Agreements. They also outline dismissive/avoidant, anxious, and disorganized attachment styles. Then, they outline some useful ways to think about your own attachment style and how it interacts with the attachment style of your partner(s). Sarah and Jeff each suggest a few ways to work on becoming more secure in your own attachment style, and Sarah provides a delicious metaphor in the process.  Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The holidays can be a really wonderful time to connect with the people you care about, but that doesn't mean they aren't also a really stressful time. Whether it's as simple as feeling like you have to wrap the presents exactly right, or the more complicated aspects of going home for the holidays, especially when home doesn't always feel like the safest place, Sarah and Therapy Jeff are sharing their best strategies for making it through the holidays, no matter what you're dealing with. Sarah talks about the importance of making your own traditions. Jeff shares what it was like the first time he decided he wasn't going home for the holidays. If you think you might need to skip out on the family celebrations this year, that's okay. And remember, you're not going to fix your childhood trauma over Thanksgiving dinner. The most important thing is that you take care of yourself, no matter the time of year. Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com For up to 25% off subscription orders of $40 or more, use promo code: CHANGES at https://nextevo.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are talking about that old classic, anxiety. Jeff provides a useful explanation of the actual science behind how anxiety works in your brain and what you can do to help yourself work through it when it feels like anxiety is really taking over. Sarah breaks down the ways that physiological, cognitive, and emotional responses can feed and be fed by anxiety. Jeff has some strategies for recognizing early subtle signs of oncoming anxiety. Sarah talks about grounding as a really helpful way to manage anxiety in the moment. Jeff and Sarah trade their favorite grounding exercises, from doing semi-complicated mental math to five-finger breathing. Remember though, no matter how you get there, when it comes to anxiety, your main goal is to convince your brain that it's safe. This episode is chock full of great ways to think through and about anxiety. Sarah recommends Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey's book What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing. The audiobook is especially good!  Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are back, and they're answering even more of your sex-related questions. This week, they tackle tricky questions like: -How important is sexual chemistry? -Is it okay if my partner thinks about someone else when they masturbate? -Are kinks a dealbreaker? -How do I talk to a potential partner about having an STI? -How to manage high and low desire discrepancies in a relationship? Hint: the answer is almost always, "it depends," and/or "just say the thing." Plus, Sarah tells us how she took some advice she and Jeff shared last week and applied it to her own relationship. There's also plenty of talk in this episode about what makes Halloween the sexiest holiday and why Jeff has wet dream envy. So, you know, it's a totally typical episode of This Changes Everything. Thank you all so much for your fun and thoughtful questions! We'll be doing this again sometime, so keep them coming. Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You and me baby ain't nothin' but mammals, so Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are answering all of your sex-related questions. How do you stop worrying about how much energy your partner is putting out when you're having sex? What are some good ways to communicate your wants and desires without making your partner feel like they've been doing everything wrong? What's the nicest way to tell your partner their after-gym scent just isn't doing it for you? Sarah and Jeff share their thoughts, experiences, and some advice to help you live your best sex life. They also weigh in on whether or not music has a place in the bedroom and what some good lighting can do to help set the mood. Come back next week for part two! Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are talking about the single life and why it's important to find ways to be happy and secure when you're not in a relationship–whether for 6 months or the rest of your life. What are the benefits of taking some time to be single and just focus on yourself without having one eye toward looking for your next relationship? Sarah tells us about folks who are, as Dr. Bella DePaulo describes them, "single at heart?" Are you someone who doesn't need a plus-one at every event? Do you thrive in solitude? Would you much rather watch your shows and eat your snacks without having to share with someone else? Jeff breaks down the Relationship Escalator–those steps society expects us to take when it comes to finding a partner and advancing our relationships (dating, marriage, kids, etc.)–and describes the ways society can really look down on people who, for one reason or another, don't adhere to that formula. Jeff and Sarah talk about their favorite Disney movies and how stories like The Little Mermaid and Aladdin can reinforce our ideas of what being in a relationship should look like, for better or worse. Give up your voice for a man? Come on! Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com If you're single, now's the time to lean into the cliche of dating yourself. Use the fancy teacup. Don't save the bath bomb. Take some time to explore and ask yourself who you are, for your own sake. This might be a great time to revisit our episode, "How to Feel Your Feelings". https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-feel-your-feelings/id1640548625?i=1000578782910 Bella DePaulo's article about people who are single at heart: https://medium.com/fourth-wave/single-at-heart-the-worlds-most-joyful-and-unapologetic-single-people-e928887276c4 We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com Sponsors: For up to 25% off subscription orders of $50 or more, use code: CHANGES at https://nextevo.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are tackling the second part of their conversation on boundaries and accountability. They're breaking down what accountability is, how to take accountability, and why it's so crucial for our relationships. The importance of intention versus impact comes up big time in this episode. Should you be ready to take accountability when you cause someone pain, even if your intentions were good? Jeff tells a story about a past relationship with someone who really helped him figure out the purpose and value of a genuine, authentic apology. Sarah wonders if an apology can be authentic if it doesn't come with remorse. After all, she's definitely witnessed her fair share of inauthentic apologies during her time on The Challenge. Taking accountability can be its own kind of challenge, but it gets easier the more you do it, and Sarah and Jeff have another template you can use if you need a little help to get you there.. As Jeff says in this week's episode, "Taking accountability is like the glue that keeps relationships together in a lot of ways." And as Sarah says, "Accountability is foreplay! Who knew?" Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy https://thebraincandypodcast.com/ More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are back with the first half of their two-part conversation on boundaries and accountability. This first episode is all about defining, understanding, setting, communicating, and respecting boundaries. Jeff breaks down why setting boundaries can be really difficult and how we might gaslight ourselves into thinking our desire to set boundaries is asking for too much. But really, a boundary can be a "gift or a little map" to tell someone else how to be a good friend, lover, co-worker, or family member (because boundaries aren't just for romantic partners). Sarah and Jeff model a caring, loving way to set boundaries, and Sarah shares her "Relationship Mad Libs" which is a template you can use when you need to establish a boundary in your life. We also get introduced to Sarah's superhero alter ego that she calls in to do the hard stuff. Her name is Rogue Carbonara, and she's a boundary-setting badass. We want to hear about your superhero alter ego! They're your favorite superhero combined with your greatest weakness. Jeff's is He-Man Algebra, but we're still workshopping that one. Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sarah and Therapy Jeff have been talking a lot about grief and how to deal with it when a relationship ends. Now, they're shifting gears a bit to talk about how to make sure your next relationship is a healing one. We all have fears and insecurities that follow us from one relationship into the next, but as Sarah says in this week's episode, "rather than letting those fears and worries and doubts grow legs," it's important to get them out in the open before they become too overwhelming to address. To help do this, Jeff poses ten questions you can ask yourself and your partner at the start of a new relationship to make sure you're both feeling safe, seen, and supported. Questions like, "What didn't you hear enough of in your last relationship that you would like to hear more of in this one?" and "What's your biggest relationship fear?" These questions might be just a bit too intense for the first date, but you'll definitely want to keep them in your back pocket so you can pull them out on the fifth or sixth. We also learn a lot about our hosts this week, like what animated children's movie the two share a deep love for, and why you shouldn't bother inviting Sarah to Coachella. Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Jeff is sharing his list of "9 Completely Normal Things That Don’t Have to Be a Red Flag in a Relationship." For example, is it a red flag if someone holds a place in their heart for an ex? How about wanting to go on vacation without you? Is perpetually fighting about the same thing a red flag? (Look, Jeff just wants to go watch basketball by himself. And Sarah is definitely going to text you back... eventually.) This week is all about the tricky aspects of a relationship that make us stop and wonder if we're with the right person. What do you think? Did any of your usual red flags make Jeff's list? Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.