Motherhood in ADHD – Parenting with ADHD, Productivity Tips, Brain based Science, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Education to Help Moms with Adult ADHD
Patricia Sung
Productivity, Parenting, and Education for Moms with Adult ADHD
Are you overwhelmed by the never-ending to do list of motherhood? Are you burnt out and barely keeping your head above water? Are you confused and frustrated by how all the other moms make it look so easy? And somehow you're still floundering despite trying even harder...
Your purse is as overflowing as your mind, you never feel like a good enough mom, and you don't dare have anyone over to visit to witness your messy home. You just want the best for your kids, but you can't figure out how to manage the chaos, both in your mind and in your house.
Oh, I've been there, mama. Some days, I'm still there. Parenting with ADHD is hard!
We want to be structured for our kids, yet we can't seem to stay consistent even for ourselves. But I'm letting go of everyone else's perception of a "good mom" and stepping into loving who I am a little more each day. Will you join me?
Whether you have ADHD like I do, or think you might, here is your permission slip to let go of the pinterest worthy visions of organization and structure fit for everyone else. Let's do life like our brains do life: creatively, lovingly, and with all your might. Moms with ADHD have a superpower of always trying their best, even when it doesn't pan out.
How do I know? I have known about my ADD for over twenty years, and I want to share all of this hard-earned ADHD knowledge with you, making your adjustment a lot easier and faster than mine was.
What does Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder look like in women? We'll dive into emotional regulation, motivation, executive function, hormones, medication, and natural treatments. Women with ADHD share their diagnosis stories with us, whether inattentive, hyperactive or combined, from childhood through adult diagnoses. We also talk about ADHD's so-called friends like depression, anxiety, addiction, disordered eating, other learning differences, and what I've learned through therapy and CBT.
Science is my jam and learning about how our brains work through the lens of scientific research helps us understand who we are. ADHD is not just for little boys; it looks different in girls.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a neurological medical condition, not an excuse for lazy, stupid, unmotivated people to not live up to our potential. Let's agree to throw that thought in the trash.
Once we understand how our brains work, we can dive into the practical strategies like structuring our day, minimalism, money, nurturing our relationships, daily rhythms, using a planner, and improving our sleep. I want to help you build your version of a joyful family life.
We talk about everything from ADHD to Zebras, because that is how Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder works: to us, our thoughts are clearly connected, but non-linear to everyone else. I want you to love being a zebra in a world full of horses. We were born as unique, gorgeous creatures, not meant to blend in with the usual nor mundane.
When we embrace who we are and how our brains work, we can figure out how to live out lives successfully and in turn, lead our families well.
At the end of the day, we just want to be good moms. Spoiler alert: you are already a great mom.
If you're ready to see that with your own two eyes, hit play and listen in as we love ourselves a little more each day of our ADHD lives. ADHD does NOT mean you're doomed to be a hot mess, mama!
You CAN rewrite your story from shame spiral to success story, and I'll be right here beside you to cheer you on!
With love, Patricia Sung, a fellow mama with ADHD
Free Resources and Transcriptions at: motherhoodinadhd.com
Connect with Patricia Sung on Instagram: www.instagram.com/motherhoodinadhd
Join like-minded mamas in our Successful Mama Meetups online community: https://www.patriciasung.com/meetup
Sign up for community, courses, coaching, and tons of free resources to learn about ADHD: www.patriciasung.com
Are you overwhelmed by the never-ending to do list of motherhood? Are you burnt out and barely keeping your head above water? Are you confused and frustrated by how all the other moms make it look so easy? And somehow you're still floundering despite trying even harder...
Your purse is as overflowing as your mind, you never feel like a good enough mom, and you don't dare have anyone over to visit to witness your messy home. You just want the best for your kids, but you can't figure out how to manage the chaos, both in your mind and in your house.
Oh, I've been there, mama. Some days, I'm still there. Parenting with ADHD is hard!
We want to be structured for our kids, yet we can't seem to stay consistent even for ourselves. But I'm letting go of everyone else's perception of a "good mom" and stepping into loving who I am a little more each day. Will you join me?
Whether you have ADHD like I do, or think you might, here is your permission slip to let go of the pinterest worthy visions of organization and structure fit for everyone else. Let's do life like our brains do life: creatively, lovingly, and with all your might. Moms with ADHD have a superpower of always trying their best, even when it doesn't pan out.
How do I know? I have known about my ADD for over twenty years, and I want to share all of this hard-earned ADHD knowledge with you, making your adjustment a lot easier and faster than mine was.
What does Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder look like in women? We'll dive into emotional regulation, motivation, executive function, hormones, medication, and natural treatments. Women with ADHD share their diagnosis stories with us, whether inattentive, hyperactive or combined, from childhood through adult diagnoses. We also talk about ADHD's so-called friends like depression, anxiety, addiction, disordered eating, other learning differences, and what I've learned through therapy and CBT.
Science is my jam and learning about how our brains work through the lens of scientific research helps us understand who we are. ADHD is not just for little boys; it looks different in girls.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a neurological medical condition, not an excuse for lazy, stupid, unmotivated people to not live up to our potential. Let's agree to throw that thought in the trash.
Once we understand how our brains work, we can dive into the practical strategies like structuring our day, minimalism, money, nurturing our relationships, daily rhythms, using a planner, and improving our sleep. I want to help you build your version of a joyful family life.
We talk about everything from ADHD to Zebras, because that is how Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder works: to us, our thoughts are clearly connected, but non-linear to everyone else. I want you to love being a zebra in a world full of horses. We were born as unique, gorgeous creatures, not meant to blend in with the usual nor mundane.
When we embrace who we are and how our brains work, we can figure out how to live out lives successfully and in turn, lead our families well.
At the end of the day, we just want to be good moms. Spoiler alert: you are already a great mom.
If you're ready to see that with your own two eyes, hit play and listen in as we love ourselves a little more each day of our ADHD lives. ADHD does NOT mean you're doomed to be a hot mess, mama!
You CAN rewrite your story from shame spiral to success story, and I'll be right here beside you to cheer you on!
With love, Patricia Sung, a fellow mama with ADHD
Free Resources and Transcriptions at: motherhoodinadhd.com
Connect with Patricia Sung on Instagram: www.instagram.com/motherhoodinadhd
Join like-minded mamas in our Successful Mama Meetups online community: https://www.patriciasung.com/meetup
Sign up for community, courses, coaching, and tons of free resources to learn about ADHD: www.patriciasung.com
Episodes
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Oct 27, 2022 • 29min
E164: Overcome ADHD Imposter Syndrome: How to Stop Feeling Like A Failure, A Fraud, or Like You Aren’t Good Enough
Maybe you’re not as terrible as you think. Do you often explain away your achievements? You got that new job by sheer luck… Not sure how you won that award…Must have been a fluke! See how everyone else is brilliant and accomplishes their dreams… and you’re just sucking at regular life? STOP. Give yourself some credit, mama! What if Imposter Syndrome is the thing that steals your joy over and over again? Imposter Syndrome is way too common in the ADHD community, especially in women with ADHD. I’m here to put an abrupt end to it. Now. Today we discuss what Imposter Syndrome looks like, how it relates to ADHD, and what you can do when you feel like a fake or fraud (cuz you aren’t.) You’re working really hard and it’s time to celebrate. Grab your Free ADHD Support Guide: ADHD in Women: A Checklist of Common Symptoms To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Oct 20, 2022 • 22min
E163: ADHD Paralysis: 7 Simple Steps to Unthaw From ADHD “Freeze”
How many times a day do you get stuck spinning in circles because you have no idea what to do next? You know you have a lot to do, but you’re not sure what to do next. So your anxiety goes up, making it harder to figure out. Maybe you panic about how much you need to do (and nothing gets done during a panic attack.) Maybe you disassociate to escape the overwhelm (and nothing gets done when you freeze.) Then you beat yourself up for not getting anything done (and nothing gets done while you shame yourself.) It just gets worse and worse. Getting stuck in ADHD paralysis is a very real part of everyday life for people with ADHD. It sucks. But we don't have to stay there. Here are seven practical steps to get you out of the panic zone and move forward again. This episode is a snippet from what Patricia shared at The Power of The Pause ADHD Moms Retreat in October 2022. Join the waitlist for the 2023 Retreat here and be the first to know the details. To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Oct 13, 2022 • 1h 7min
E162: It's Just One Glass of Wine! Groundhog Day Drinking: How to Stop the Vicious Cycle of Self-Medicating your ADHD with Alcohol with Carolyn Robistow LPC
You wake up in the morning and think, "Dang it! I wasn't gonna drink last night." Now you feel like crap and don't want to get out of bed. A lot of us live in the middle ground: you wouldn't consider yourself an alcoholic, but you also aren't exactly happy with your relationship with alcohol. It’s an awkward place to be. …Maybe you're making up rules for yourself like you'll only drink on weekends, on special occasions, or with friends. …Maybe you say you'll have just one glass of wine, but it turns into two or the whole bottle. …Maybe you're a Groundhog Day drinker… Every morning you make a pact with yourself and you inevitably break it. Again and again. Let's pause the spiral of shame and have an open conversation about how alcohol is a popular and culturally acceptable method to tone down the chaos in your mind so you can chill out in the evenings - particularly useful when you have ADHD and loud children. Let me be clear: I'm not here to tell you never to drink again. I want you to have the relationship YOU want with alcohol, no matter what it looks like. Today's guest is Carolyn Robistow, LPC, and host of Brain Unblocked: The Brainspotting Podcast. Carolyn helps high-achieving, health-minded perfectionists squelch brain blocks and unhelpful habits. She is dedicated to helping entrepreneurs get out of their heads, stop drinking, and start living optimized AF. Carolyn side hustles at her private practice, The Joy Effect, an in-person and virtual counseling practice in The Woodlands, TX, where she specializes in Anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). You don't have to painfully shame yourself into a new way of doing things. Let's dig into the tough conversations, Successful Mama! Learn more and connect with Carolyn: Website: www.carolynrobistow.net Practice Website: https://joyeffectcounseling.com Instagram: @carolynrobistow Facebook: Carolyn Robistow To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.
Oct 6, 2022 • 3min
Bonus: How Can Today Be Easier? ADHD Awareness Month
As we enter ADHD Awareness Month, our theme is “Do Less to Lower Your Stress.” You have an overflowing plate as a mom with ADHD. How do you take things off your plate? *panic ensues* Good question! I’m giving you permission to scrap some stuff and make your life easier today. Tell me what you did to lighten your load, Successful Mama! Free resources & sign up for courses: motherhoodinadhd.com
Sep 30, 2022 • 20min
E161: Help My Kid Makes Me Late Every Day-How to Get Your ADHD Child Moving in the Morning-Your Questions Answered
What do you do when your ADHD child is always making you late? How do you deal with an ADHD kid who takes a hundred years to get ready in the morning or at bedtime (or all the time!)? Jaymi asks this question about what to do when her ADHD daughter is not moving in our free Facebook community. Not only is it stressful and frustrating, it creates a domino effect of problems for the rest of the family. And full disclosure, I was that kid! My mom called me the poky little puppy. Today I’m sharing 4 ways to lower your stress and teach your ADHD child the skills they need to get moving. For more support in creating ADHD-friendly morning routines that lower your stress and get you moving out the door faster, grab The Simple Morning Routine for ADHD Moms with Smart Speaker Support. To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Sep 22, 2022 • 16min
E160: Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity as a Parent with ADHD and Demonstrating it for Your Children Too
I recently got rejected from something that mattered to me. And it stunk. RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) and trauma response all rolled into one giant ball of suck. One of the hardest parts of parenting is talking to our kids about hard things, like rejection, sadness, and disappointment especially when we don’t feel like we are good at those skills ourselves. When disappointment strikes, how do we work through those feelings? And how do we teach our kids to do the same? Here’s how I worked through the sadness recently and explained the tough stuff to my kids. It’s time to take care of a very important person in the family: Mom. We’ll relax, rest, have fun, and build friendships with mamas who think like us. Plus learn how to take care of our impressive yet ever-moving brains. Join us in Houston, October 7-9, 2022 for the very first ADHD Moms retreat! Reserve your ticket here: patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat Links to resources mentioned in this episode: Episode 122: Tantrum or ADHD Meltdown? How to deal with our Children's BIG Emotions with Dr. Laura Froyen To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Sep 15, 2022 • 18min
E159: Feeling Exhausted? 2 Tiring Mom Jobs You Don’t Give Yourself Credit For
We went to the Johnson Space Center during the last week of summer and got to sit in Mission Control for the Apollo 13 mission. At Mission Control, they monitor everything from the fuel level, oxygen level, the trajectory, and even the poo. Guess who is Mission Control for your entire family? Yup, you. No wonder you’re exhausted before you even get out of bed! Two things that exhaust me a lot are timekeeping and emotional regulation. Let’s talk about how you can take care of yourself as a mom with ADHD during these impossible missions. For more resources and to read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog. Links to resources mentioned in this episode: Episode 76: Planning for the New Year with ADHD: One Month at a Time and Overcome Time Blindness Episode 122: Tantrum or ADHD Meltdown? How to Deal with our Children's BIG Emotions with Dr. Laura Froyen To read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Sep 8, 2022 • 43min
E158: Symptoms of Inattentive ADHD or Just Your Quirky Personality: What does Adult ADHD look like in women?
“Is this an ADHD thing?” This question comes up a lot! It’s hard to say because there is a wide spectrum on how ADHD symptoms present in your day to day activities. At the same time, there is so much value in knowing you aren’t the only one struggling with something. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the themes that I see in the symptoms of ADHD in women that I work with so that you can feel comfortable in knowing how ADHD shows up in women in real life. Included in this episode is a checklist of ADHD symptoms that you can fill out and take with you to your doctor appointment, so you can feel confident and prepared to ask about an ADHD diagnosis. For more resources and to read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Sep 4, 2022 • 19min
E157: ADHD Sabotage: How Do I Stop Impulsive Spending and Behavior? Your Questions Answered!
When impulsive behavior bites you in the butt again, it’s discouraging! I’m sharing how I slow down impulsive leaps that kick my butt. In a brand new format, a listener (one of you, mama!) shares her question and I answer! Today Irina asks how to stop impulsive spending. It’s not as easy as “well, just don’t buy that.”🙄 These impulsivity tips aren’t just for money! Even if you are a savings queen, these strategies will help you anytime you feel like your ADHD is sabotaging your well-laid plans. When you want a chance to slow down and take care of yourself, join us at the ADHD Moms Retreat in Houston, October 7-9. Reserve your ticket here. We're diving deep into The Power of the Pause during our Saturday discussion, along with having a great weekend full of rest, relaxation, food, friendship & fun. Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.
Sep 1, 2022 • 17min
E156: Create a Simple Morning Routine and Arrive on Time without Nagging for Moms and Children with ADHD
It was our worst morning last school year. I screwed up big time, and left school drop off feeling demoralized and ashamed. This is not how I want mornings to go with my kids. Do you feel that way in the mornings, too? When our ADHD causes consequences for our kids, the guilt and shame kick into high gear. Thankfully, most mornings are not like this for our family. Our mornings are usually smooth and happy, and I have time for a good conversation with my oldest before he leaves for school. How can you feel refreshed, relaxed, calm, motivated during stressful mornings, too? Today I’m sharing how our ADHD friendly morning routine keeps us on time and motivated to tackle the day. Here’s my secret to a simple ADHD morning routine and how I use our smart home speaker to keep us on time for school. You can have this level of peace in the mornings, too, mama!
