Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D.https://bookshop.org/books/loving-with-the-brain-in-mind-neurobiology-and-couple-therapy/9780393706536Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Age by Sanjay Gupta, MDhttps://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730The Vulnerability Cycle (Dr. Mona Fishbane's article with Michele Scheinkman, CSW):https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.00023.xDr. Fishbane's website:Monafishbane.com

Today's episode is all about grief, featuring guest expert Megan Devine. Megan is a grief advocate, dedicated to helping us live through the things we never thought we’d face. Dr. Alexandra and Megan discuss what we all get wrong about grief, and they address a question from a well-meaning listener who wants to learn how to better support a friend who has suffered a painful loss.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine:https://bookshop.org/books/it-s-ok-that-you-re-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss-in-a-culture-that-doesn-t-understand-9781622039074/9781622039074How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal For Grief by Megan Devine:https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-carry-what-can-t-be-fixed-a-journal-for-grief/9781683643708Refuge in Grief: Megan's Online Community:https://refugeingrief.com/Connect with Megan:megandevine.coHere After, Megan's Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-after-with-megan-devine/id1595914505

Dr. Shefali Tsabary, New York Times bestselling author and parenting expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her new book, A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free, which explores the ways in which our patriarchal culture traps women into cycles and arrangements that keep them from living their fullest lives.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free by Dr. Shefali Tsabaryhttps://bookshop.org/books/a-radical-awakening-turn-pain-into-power-embrace-your-truth-live-free/9780062985897

This solo episode focuses on the phrase “I love them, but I’m not in love with them.” Have you heard it in your own life? Dr. Alexandra unpacks what can lie beneath the surface of this phrase and explores the feelings, ideas, and commitments that the world “love” captures for different people.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274The Brain in Love (Helen Fisher, TED):https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_the_brain_in_love?language=enTaking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon:https://bookshop.org/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want/9781684033461

Dr. Emily Nagoski comes on the show to talk all things sexuality and pleasure with Dr. Alexandra. They answer two listener questions together and discuss Dr. Emily's work and research around female pleasure as well as burnout and the stress cycle.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.https://bookshop.org/books/come-as-you-are-revised-and-updated-the-surprising-new-science-that-will-transform-your-sex-life-9781982165314/9781982165314Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. & Amelia Nagoski, DMAhttps://bookshop.org/books/burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-stress-cycle/9781984818324Dr. Emily Nagoski's Worksheets:Sexual Temperament QuestionnaireSexual Cues Assessment WorksheetTurning Off the Offs WorksheetSexy Contexts WorksheetStress WorksheetThe Nap Ministry @thenapministryhttps://www.instagram.com/thenapministry/?hl=en

Dr. Dan Siegel joins Dr. Alexandra to talk about attachment theory, parenting, and healing intergenerational trauma. Dr. Siegel's work looms large in the worlds of psychology, psychotherapy, and interpersonal neurobiology, and he has published many bestselling books, linked below.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Links to a selection of Dr. Dan Siegel's books:The Whole-Brain ChildThe Mindful TherapistAwareMentioned in this episode:Caste by Isabel WilkersonHow to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

Dr. Alexandra is joined by tech entrepreneur Cindy Gallop, who has made waves in the business world. She's the founder of Make Love Not Porn, the world’s first user-generated, human-curated social sex video-sharing platform, socializing and normalizing sex in order to make it easier to talk about sex, and to promote consent, communication, good sexual values and good sexual behavior. Cindy tells the story of MLNP and discusses a listener question with Dr. Alexandra.Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitMakeLoveNotPorn:https://makelovenotporn.tv/

Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship in the aftermath of infidelity is not easy, and in this episode, Dr. Alexandra walks through the factors to consider when reeling from this crisis. She poses reflection questions for both partners and situates the crisis of infidelity in research and our cultural context. Dr. Alexandra also announces the launch of her new e-course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit, which can be found below.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/trustDr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceithttps://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitCU Boulder Infidelity Studyhttps://www.colorado.edu/asmagazine/2018/04/04/extramarital-sex-partners-likely-be-close-friends-and-men-are-more-apt-cheatInfidelity Around the World (The Economist)https://www.economist.com/1843/2018/01/16/infidelity-around-the-worldExtramarital Affairs (Pew Research Center)https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2014/01/14/extramarital-affairs-topline/Post-Traumatic Stress & Infidelity Study (Stress & Health)https://www.researchgate.net/publication/333787481_Posttraumatic_stress_and_psychological_health_following_infidelity_in_unmarried_young_adults

On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceithttps://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Books on infidelity and related topics:What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal (John Gottman)New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (Tammy Nelson)The State of Affairs (Esther Perel)The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu)The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (Bessel Van Der Kolk)Kristi's website:https://www.kristiborn.com/Rainier's website:https://www.rainierwylde.com/

Dating is hard enough, and with so many voices offering advice, opinions, and hot takes, it can be challenging to tune in with yourself and how you really feel about a new prospect. Dr. Alexandra invites Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh on the show to answer a question from a listener who is having this exact challenge, and they discuss ways to regulate the nervous system and tune in with the body before, during, and after a date.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk:https://bookshop.org/books/the-body-keeps-the-score-brain-mind-and-body-in-the-healing-of-trauma/9780143127741Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski:https://bookshop.org/books/burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-stress-cycle/9781984818324Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s website:https://www.sara-nasserzadeh.com/Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/dr.saranasserzadeh/