
Pure Desire Podcast
Your biblically based and clinically informed approach to breaking free from compulsive sexual behavior and healing from betrayal.
Latest episodes

Nov 5, 2024 • 1h 3min
383 - How Data Leads To Change w/ Daniel Copeland (Part 2/8)
Daniel Copeland, Senior Lead Researcher of Barna Group, joins the podcast today for the second episode in our 8-part deep dive into the new data on pornography use, its impact on relationships, mental health, and the Church. Together, they explore how this research can guide the Church in addressing sexual brokenness and provide real hope for healing. This eight episode deep dive into Beyond the Porn Phenomenon features the voices of people prominently featured in the report.Resources:Full Episode Video (YouTube)Order 'Beyond The Porn Phenomenon'Barna Website
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Oct 29, 2024 • 1h 3min
382 - Beyond The Porn Phenomenon w/ David Kinnaman (Part 1/8)
David Kinnaman, CEO of Barna Group, shares valuable insights on the impact of pornography use on relationships and mental health. He discusses the critical data gaps surrounding these issues within the Church and advocates for the church's role in fostering open conversations about sexuality. Kinnaman emphasizes the importance of understanding these challenges to support struggling individuals. The conversation also explores the potential for healing through faith, encouraging listeners to embrace their identity in Christ for transformation.

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Oct 22, 2024 • 1h 2min
381 - Moving Beyond Sobriety W/ Jenna Riemersma
Jenna Riemersma, a bestselling author and addiction specialist, returns to discuss the essential journey beyond sobriety towards true healing. She delves into the impact of trauma on behaviors and introduces Internal Family Systems therapy to reveal the complexities of our inner selves. Jenna emphasizes the importance of understanding how childhood experiences shape adult reactions and the role of self-compassion in recovery. This insightful conversation encourages embracing all parts of ourselves for genuine transformation and personal freedom.

Oct 15, 2024 • 1h 3min
380 - Caring For Partners Well
Jeanne Vittoni is the president of APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) and joins the podcast to discuss the vital role of partner care in sex addiction recovery. With over 25 years of experience working with trauma survivors, Jeanne unpacks how understanding trauma symptomatology, setting up safe support systems, and getting proper training can accelerate the healing process.Jeanne shares her insights on trauma recovery for betrayed partners, why it’s important to address both the addict’s and the partner’s healing, and how proper trauma care can transform a relationship. Whether you're a struggling addict, a betrayed partner, or a professional wanting to offer better support, this episode will provide valuable strategies for navigating the road to recovery together.Resources:Full Episode On YoutubeAPSATS WebsiteAPSATS PodcastYour Sexually Addicted Spouse BookBetrayal Trauma Religious Leaders (BTRL) TrainingFREE Pure Desire Counseling Consultation
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Oct 8, 2024 • 59min
379 - The Role of Intensives in Recovery
Nick is joined by Robert Vander Meer and Matt Wenger to discuss the transformative impact of two-week intensives on sexual addiction recovery. This episode is a deep dive into the TINSA model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) exploring how intensives help uncover the "why" behind addiction and the importance of addressing both personal trauma and relational healing.Matt Wenger is the Clinical Director of Boulder Recovery in Boulder, Colorado.ResourcesFull Episode on YouTubeBoulder Recovery website
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Oct 1, 2024 • 53min
378 - Intimate Deception w/ Dr. Sheri Denham-Keffer
Today’s guest, Dr. Sheri Denham-Keffer, is the author of Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal, a therapist, and betrayed partner herself.Dr. Denham-Keffer shares insights on betrayal trauma, healing, and recovery. This episode offers hope and guidance for those facing betrayal or compulsive sexual behaviors. The discussion covers the impact of sexual deception, the importance of truth-telling, and practical steps for partners to rebuild their lives. ResourcesFull Episode On YoutubeIntimate Deception: Healing The Wounds Of Sexual BetrayalFREE MONTH Of Brave One CommunityBetrayal Recovery RoadmapBrave One Recommended ResourcesFREE Pure Desire Counseling Consultation
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Sep 24, 2024 • 55min
377 - Launching Pure Desire Group: A Church Success Story
Nick and Rodney sit down with Pastor Ryan Oletzke of True Hope Church in Spokane, Washington, to discuss how to start Pure Desire groups in your church, break shame, and build a culture of honesty.Ryan shares how his church addressed sexual brokenness by launching Pure Desire groups, starting with over 200 people participating in Sexual Integrity 101. He offers practical insights on building a culture of vulnerability, lowering shame, and leading a church to find healing and freedom.This episode is a must-listen for pastors and church leaders looking to make a real impact in their communities by addressing sexual health and recovery.RESOURCESFull Episode On YoutubeTrueHope WebsiteBarna Report LinkHow to Start Pure Desire Groups brochure.Parent Training CourseSexual Integrity 101
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Sep 17, 2024 • 1h 4min
376 - Reaching the Next Gen
This episode explores the challenges young people face today, including mental health issues, pornography, and the impact of growing up in the digital age.Ben Bennett, leader of the Resolution Movement, shares his experience connecting with Gen Z through social media and offering hope, freedom, and healing through the message of Christ. Join Nick Stumbo, John Begeman, and Ben as they discuss how curiosity, compassion, and authentic relationships can help guide this generation toward healthy sexuality and mental well-being.ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Sep 10, 2024 • 58min
375 - Facing Our Trauma Story
Today, we’re welcoming Louie Kazemier to the podcast. Louie is a longtime friend of Pure Desire and opens up about confronting childhood trauma, overcoming resistance to group therapy, and finding freedom from compulsive sexual behavior. His story is a testament to the power of vulnerability, community, and God’s grace in the healing process.Whether you’re on your own recovery journey or supporting someone else, this episode offers hope and encouragement. Tune in to hear Louie’s inspiring story of transformation.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Seven Pillars of FreedomThe Compassionate Warrior
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Sep 3, 2024 • 55min
374 - 10 Mistakes When Launching Recovery Groups
Today, Nick Stumbo and Rich Moore explore 10 common mistakes churches make when launching recovery groups. They share practical advice on avoiding pitfalls like isolating or shaming language and the dangers of a quick-fix approach. This episode is essential for pastors and leaders looking to create and sustain effective, long-lasting recovery groups within their church community.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)
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