Pure Desire Podcast

A common tool on the recovery journey is the Relapse Prevention Tool (also known as the Three Circles). This tool helps with what the name suggests: relapse prevention. So, why would someone experiencing betrayal trauma use this tool? Today, we explore how this tool can help betrayed spouses.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)3 CIRCLES TOOLFASTER SCALE TOOLBETRAYAL & BEYOND KIT (BETRAYAL RESOURCE FOR WOMEN)HOPE FOR MEN (BETRAYAL RESOURCE FOR MEN)PURE DESIRE COUNSELING GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

When sexual addiction enters our marriage, it often feels as if it came out of nowhere. Betrayal trauma hits us like a high-speed train, laying us flat. But do we need to stay flat on the ground? We don’t believe so. We can start to get back up with tools like the Recovery Action Plan. Today, we talk about how this tool helps create safety and puts a process in place to establish boundaries and consequences to bring about restoration in relationships.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)RECOVERY ACTION PLAN TOOL (BETRAYED SPOUSE)RECOVERY ACTION PLAN TOOL (STRUGGLING SPOUSE)BETRAYAL & BEYOND KIT (BETRAYAL RESOURCE FOR WOMEN)HOPE FOR MEN (BETRAYAL RESOURCE FOR MEN)RECOVERY ACTION PLAN (PODCAST)PURE DESIRE COUNSELINGFULL DISCLOSURE (PODCAST)FULL DISCLOSURE EVALUATION GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

How does a weekly commitment to change help us heal from betrayal trauma? It helps us face our double-binds (rock-and-hard-place). Today, we explore how a Commitment to Change and addressing our double-binds brings healing for betrayal trauma.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)COMMITMENT TO CHANGE (TOOL)BETRAYAL & BEYOND KITBETRAYAL & BEYOND ONLINE GROUPS GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Betrayal trauma is very real. But healing from it isn't always clear. Self-awareness is one of the biggest steps to beginning to heal from betrayal. This week, we talk about how betrayed spouses/individuals can use the FASTER Scale (awareness tool) to bring healing into their lives.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)FASTER SCALE (TOOL)BETRAYAL & BEYOND KITBETRAYAL & BEYOND ONLINE GROUPSONE-SIDED HEALING (PODCAST) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Joe McCarthy is a successful restaurant owner, leads Pure Desire groups, and is incredibly passionate about helping men break free of addiction and shame. But it wasn't always that way. Alcoholism and a pornography addiction plagued Joe for a large portion of his life. Starting in AA, Joe found that healing was possible. We talk to Joe about his powerful story of breaking free of sexual brokenness and how he is now leading others into the freedom they most desire.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)MELTZ EXTREME GRILLED CHEESE (JOE’S BUSINESS)REGIONAL GROUP ADVISORSCELEBRATE RECOVERYPURE DESIRE GROUPSLAPSE VS. RELAPSE (PODCAST EPISODE)FASTER SCALE (TOOL)PASTORAL SEX ADDICTION PROFESSIONAL CERTIFICATION (IITAP) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Domestic abuse is not talked about enough. Abusive patterns can exist for years and even decades before we realize it’s actually abuse. These situations definitely play out in the realm of sexual addiction and brokenness. Today, we talk about how to identify domestic abuse, how to create a space to talk about it, and what we can do about it.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)BETRAYAL & BEYOND KITBETRAYAL & BEYOND ONLINE GROUPS GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

What does recovery look like if we are attracted to the same sex? Is it something we can heal from? Does it ever go away? What if our spouse is attracted to the same sex? We discuss these questions with John Fort, Director of Training for Be Broken Ministries, as he shares his story of same-sex attraction and addiction.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)HONEST TALK: A NEW PERSPECTIVE ON TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX (JOHN’S BOOK)BE BROKEN MINISTRIES GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Listen to author Paul Young share his story of trauma, addiction, and facing brokenness. Explore themes of healing, recognizing divine image, overcoming past trauma, seeking validation, and embracing God's unconditional love. Discover the journey to self-discovery, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and embracing the present moment for inner healing and wholeness.

Historically, the church struggles on how to best minister to the LGBT community. Our guest today, Janet Boynes, knows this first hand. After living as a lesbian for over a decade, God called Janet out of her lifestyle and into ministry. On today's episode, Janet helps us hear God's heart for our LGBT brothers and sisters and how churches can come alongside and love on them.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)CALLED OUT INTERNATIONAL (JANET’S MINISTRY)GOD & SEXUALITY: TRUTH & RELEVANCE WITHOUT COMPROMISE (JANET’S BOOK) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

For a marriage to truly heal from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, both spouses need healing. We refer to it as a "family systems issue." But what if our betrayed spouse doesn't want to pursue healing? Should we continue on our own journey? Can we help them? Should we even try to? We talk about this very difficult and very common situation on today's episode.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)