Pure Desire Podcast

Unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma have a profound impact on the brain. But the brain is amazing and can be rewired! Heather Kolb joins us for this episode with tips and tools for rewiring our brain sexually. We discuss why rewiring our brain after sexual addiction is uniquely challenging, how long we should expect this process to take, and who else should be involved.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Sexual Integrity 101GroupsSeven Pillars of Freedom (Resource For Struggling Men)Unraveled (Resource For Struggling Women)Betrayal & Beyond (Resource For Betrayed Women)FASTER Scale (Tool)Three Circles (Tool)Sobriety Plan (Tool)Blog On GratitudeGreat Sex Rescue (Sheila Wray Gregoire’s Book)Plucky (Accountability Software) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Launching Pure Desire groups at your church can feel intimidating at first. In this episode, we start a new series: Stories From The Church. Our first episode in this new series, we spoke with the team responsible for successfully implementing groups at Petra Church in Pennsylvania. We learned how they overcame some of the most common hurdles churches face, how they train and recruit leaders, and reflect on some of the success they’ve enjoyed over the years.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Pure Desire Summit Conquer SeriesSexual Integrity 101Conquer SeriesGroup Leader TrainingPure Desire Clinical ProgramLiving FreeUnraveled (Resource For Struggling Women)GroupsHow to Talk With Your Kids About SexBetrayal & Beyond (Resource For Betrayed Women)Church MembershipFearless Series (James Reeves) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Confidentiality is critically important in the group setting. So is protecting victims and vulnerable populations through mandatory reporting. On today’s episode, we talk with Rich Moore about how to strike a balance between confidentiality and mandated reporting, how to proactively protect the group, and the process of reporting if and when necessary. Finally, we explored the positive outcomes that mandated reporting can have on the people involved.SHOW NOTESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Group Leader TrainingChurch Law & TaxChild Welfare Information GatewayMemo of understandingStories of Healing: Rich Moore (Podcast Episode) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

The path from an award-winning porn star to a pastor just doesn’t make sense. But that’s the path God paved for our guest today, Joshua Broome (cofounder of Share the King). We talk to Joshua about how he got into performing porn, how God rescued him, and God is using him as a speaker, pastor, influencer, and podcast host to help people follow Jesus and live with sexual integrity. RESOURCES Full Episode Video (YouTube) Joshua’s Website Joshua’s TikTok Joshua’s Twitter Joshua’s Instagram Share The King (Joshua’s Ministry) Pure Desire Online Groups (for men and women struggling or betrayed) Seven Pillars of Freedom (for struggling men) Unraveled (for struggling women) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

The devastation created through betrayal trauma can turn a partner’s world upside down and impact them in a way they never imagined. But what does healing from betrayal trauma look like if your spouse is in a public position—doctor, teacher, police officer, judge, or pastor? Today, we’re joined by Michelle Stumbo (married to Nick Stumbo, the Executive Director for Pure Desire). We talk through what healing from betrayal looks like when your husband is the pastor. What tools and boundaries are necessary, how it impacts kids and healing as a family, the obstacles you may face, and even how the group experience might look a little different.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)Pure Desire Counseling GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

The more we seek to understand the factors that impact sexual brokenness, the more we recognize how racism can be a contributing factor. But how does racism impact sexual brokenness? On today’s episode, we’re joined by Immanuel and Michelle Garraway, who share their experiences with racism and the role it played in their recovery and healing journey. We talk through how family of origin and harmful intergenerational messages can become a catalyst for sexual brokenness, and how owning your story and the group experience can become a safe place for people of color.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Pure Desire Online Groups GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

When a couple experiences the fallout of sexual brokenness and betrayal trauma, we desire healing and restoration of their marriage. Yet, we know in some cases, separation is necessary. And sometimes, divorce happens. We’re joined by Andrea Rogers, a Certified Life Coach who is passionate about helping people reach their full potential. Andrea is also a Certified Partner Coach with APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists), trained in using the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model, which was instrumental in her healing from betrayal trauma. On today’s episode, we talk about divorce—when to consider it, what boundaries are needed, how to help kids through the effects of divorce, and more.ResourcesFull Episode Video (YouTube) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

We know not only men look at porn. In fact, it’s been suggested that the fastest-growing demographic of porn users is women. And teen girls are getting caught up in the allure of pornography. On today’s episode, we’re joined by Crystal Renaud Day, an author, speaker, and founding director of She Recovery. Crystal is a pastoral counselor and certified coach with more than 15 years experience helping women overcome porn and sexual addictions. We talk through how and why teen girls get hooked on porn and how parents can become an advocate to help their daughters navigate today’s sexual culture.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and RelationshipsHow To Talk With Your Kids About Sexsherecovery.com GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

In order for true restoration to take place in a marriage, both spouses must heal (especially the betrayed partner). While pursuing their recovery from addiction or unwanted sexual behavior, men often ask, "How can I help my spouse heal?" On today's episode, we are joined by the woman who literally wrote the book on this question. Carol Juergensen Sheets, AKA "Carol the Coach," is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and author who wrote Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook For Sex Addicts To Help Their Partners Heal and Help Them Heal: Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal. We talk about how to help our betrayed spouse heal, the importance of empathy, and how to have effective communication throughout the healing journey.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Help Her Heal (Carol's book)Help Them Heal (Carol's book)Unleashing Your Power (Carol's Book)Sex Help With Carol The Coach (Carol's Website)Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (IITAP Certification)Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (IITAP Certification)APSATS (Betrayal Organization)The California Center for Healing (Bill & Ginger Bercaw's Organization)The Intimacy Pyramid (Dan Drake's Organization) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

One of the most meaningful tools we use on the recovery journey is called a personal promise (once called a prophetic promise). This tool helps us connect a truth we see from God's word and connect it with an experience in our life. Fusing the right and left brain together is powerful. On today's episode, we discuss how we use these promises on our recovery journey, what makes them effective, how to create your own, and more.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)FASTER Scale (Tool) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)