Pirate Monk Podcast

"The antidote for shame is chronic exposure to love and acceptance."  "I get under emotional distress and I want to go back to the maladaptive coping behavior that I learned early on that works for me. And it's the emotional distress and the emotional dysregulation that we've got to begin to work with." - Roane Hunter Nate and Aaron speak with Roane Hunter, CSAT and co-author of Sex, God & the Chaos of Betrayal about a range of topics, including Roane's preferred term for addiction: "distress reduction behavior".  Roane, along with his wife Eva and son Roe, who are also both CSATs, will be the featured speakers at our Annual Retreat in Eva TN on November 5-7, 2022.  For more on the Hunter's practice, visit https://lifeworks.ms/roane-eva-hunter To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"You can say, 'I look at porn 20 times a day', but that is inconsequential to me...The big question is 'Why?'" "You better damn well trust that therapist that you're sitting across from...You've got to feel safe to investigate shame." "In the context of relationships, we're all responsible to get our own needs met. That doesn't mean we go meet our own needs - we've seen how destructive that can be - but we do have to learn how to ask for those needs to be met." Kaka Ray returns to the podcast to discuss the importance of growing up your brain - it doesn't just happen but must be intentional. You can find out more about Kaka's practice at tnnfb.com.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Nate is away, so Aaron spends an hour with Burlap to Cashmere's Steven Delopoulos talking about his story growing up in NY and NJ in a very Greek family, the nature of God, songwriting, storytelling, and his latest passion project related to Simon & Garfunkel.  For more about Steven, visit his website. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

In today's episode, Eddie Capparucci returns to talk with Nate about his most recent book, Why Men Struggle to Love. They discuss some of the relational blindspots that many men have in making connection. For more on Dr. Capparucci, please visit Abundant Life Counseling-Coaching. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

“Open men's hearts, heal the pain, and change the world.” In a world filled with talk of toxic masculinity, author and speaker Dan Griffin (dangriffin.com) talks to the guys today about what he calls "Conscious Masculinity" - where men make enlightened choices to pursue what it means to truly connect with the full spectrum of what it means to be a man. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"There aren't a lot of safe places in our world.  There aren't a lot of places where people can come and say whatever they want to say and be loved." - Chris Inman In this episode, Aaron catches up with recovery coach Chris Inman to explore the benefits of doing the work to discover our own story and share it with safe people.  Chris shares how he has experienced the importance of uncovering his own story and is now committed to helping others discover it for themselves. If you'd like to talk with Chris further, you can reach him at chris@np-recovery.com.  To sign up for Chris's Story Retreat July 27-30, 2023, please go to Blue Ridge Samson Society Retreat. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Today, we talk with Daniel Wiens, who has been the key person driving the growth of Samson Society in Italy about his story before getting into details of the International Samson Retreat October 7-9, 2022 in central Italy.    If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"When you confess your sin, you're not going to get stoned to death." Building on our recent discussions with churches that really get recovery, today we talk with John Elmore about the re:generation recovery ministry which began at Watermark Community Church in Dallas TX.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The statute of limitations has finally expired, so it's time for another crossover episode of Pirate Monk/Porn Free Radio!  Trying to write a summary of this discussion is an exercise in futility as the guys traverse lots of trails, including book writing, Matt's new book (Porn Free, Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look at Porn) and skateboard life.  For more info on Matt, please visit recoveredman.com.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"I love you right where you are...and I don't expect anything. I love you, and I won't quit." "You'll know you've heard the Gospel if one of your first responses is: 'That's too good to be true and I can't believe it yet.'" - Dudley Hall "It was easier for me to believe it for my son than to believe it for myself." - Nate Larkin "If...I open the Bible and find condemnation, then I'm still filtering Scripture through the branches of the bush I'm hiding behind in Eden, avoiding what I believe will be the wrath of God in my own shame." - Aaron Porter   In this episode Nate and Aaron have a gospelicious conversation with Dudley Hall about the Good News of the Fatherhood of God.  For more on Dudley's ministry, please visit kerygmaventures.com.     If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.