Pirate Monk Podcast

Returning guest Tullian Tchividjian discusses ministry qualifications and attracting the same people as Jesus. The hosts talk about their Thanksgiving plans and the importance of self-reflection in personal responsibility. They also delve into finding trustworthy people, the qualifications for service, and the journey of writing a memoir.

On this episode: Aaron interrogates Nate. Nate sings a very heartfelt song. The guys talk to guest Andrew Bauman, speaker, therapist, writer, and author. “The owning of your *ssholeness doesn’t lead to toxic shame. It leads to humility not humiliation.” How to define narcissism. Addressing couples work AFTER a lengthy period of sobriety. Andrew J. Bauman Book: How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good & Safe Man Film: A Brave Lament Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate feels gratitude. Aaron remembers a super cool smoking trick learned during Shakespearean acting classes. The guys have a deep discussion with George Bitar about healthy couples' communication despite traumatic backgrounds. Learning to discuss disconnection cues and trigger moments in emotionally focused couples therapy work. How to repair and reconnect. Feeling delight and joy in the relationship. Tapping into emotions to point to our needs and values. Providing hope for healing and growth emotionally. https://connectcouplestherapy.com/ Books: Hold Me Tight The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Other Resources: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/261/the-sanctity-of-marriage/act-one-1 https://connectcouplestherapy.com/are-you-a-pursuer-withdrawer-or-a-bit-of-both/ http://carolinaeft.com/pdf/Where_Does_Love_Go_Wrong.pdf https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-is-the-sound-relationship-house/     If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron caps that. Nate shops Amazon. The guys interview Chris Bruno, counselor and author of Sage: A Man's Guide into His Second Passage and Man Maker Project: Boys are Born. Men are Made. Nate shares his experiences from the Italian Samson retreat. “The task of the second passage, is to find the boy within the man, and bring him home.” “When we are hijacked in this phallic state, we are not looking for sex, we are looking for connection.” “The more we dissociate, the more it’s a flight from the goodness of God.” "It's not because the sage knows all the answers to all of the things. The sage is not a sage because he has good advice."    If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Q&A How did Jason Gray get chosen as the musical guest? Any worries about losing the mission of the Samson Society with the scope of ministry expanding? Can we have some focus for single guys at the next retreat? What alternate format meetings have you seen that have been successful? How do you handle a situation where someone abuses your trust or vulnerability within Samson? How can I cast a vision for a Samson group for guys who are not necessarily dealing with sexual brokenness? Is there a place or need for a "group conscience meeting" in the context of Samson? How can I discern when it's time to make a change in my recovery plan? Is there a place for women who need something like Samson Society? Are there materials available for how to be a Silas? Where can fathers whose children also deal with addiction connect to share and encourage each other? How can we better incorporate Marco Polo in our community? If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

"Porn is like the junk food of healthy sex and relationships." Aaron and Rob interview Ian Henderson, founder of the Naked Truth Project. about how he got involved in this work of opening eyes and freeing lives from the damages of porn. While Naked Truth is based in Manchester, UK, they work with people all over the world.  The "open eyes" aspect focuses on education to combat the normalization of porn by presenting in schools and elsewhere to raise awareness of the dangers of porn.  The "freeing lives" portion focuses on those who have already been trapped in addiction, and also help for their partners.  The work goes well beyond just stopping the behavior, moving individuals to healthy growth and reclaiming what was lost.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Nate and Aaron interview Andrea Ashley, host of the Adult Child podcast, about the trauma of growing up in a dysfunctional alcoholic family, the maladaptive coping mechanisms she chose, such as alcohol and unhealthy dating relationships, and her path to recovery.    If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Nate and Aaron interview Juris S, author of Happy, Joyous and Free: One Man's Journey and Guide to Ultimate Spiritual Health.  Topics include: bullying, alcoholism, and integration of faith and recovery.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

"I want to empower my partner to show up freely, not disempower her by withholding data that might affect the choices she makes and how she shows up." "If you don't have a shared understanding of the past, you cannot have a shared trajectory for the future." "The human brain is wired so that even a perceived threat to a primary attachment relationship registers as a survival issue." We welcome Jake Porter of Daring Ventures to the show.  Topics include: secondary addictions, couple-centered recovery, the importance of attachment, and power imbalance in the relationship. (jake@daringventures.com)   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

We welcome back a great friend of the show, Michael Cusick to talk about trauma, whether addiction exists, and attachment in all areas of life.  You can also check out more about Michael's Restoring The Soul Weekend Intensive.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.