
The Better Man Podcast
The Better Man Podcast is a podcast redefining what it means to be better as a man. In it, we’ll discuss how to balance success with our overall well-being, take on a more comprehensive understanding of fitness to include our physical, mental, and emotional well-being, and strive to align our actions with who we are at our cores. We can be successful and proud of who we are without sacrificing our core values or our well-being.
Dean Pohlman is known as THE yoga expert for men. His unique fitness-centric, strength-based approach to yoga—exemplified in his yoga workouts, programs, books, videos, blogs, and more—has helped to transform the lives of hundreds of thousands of men [and women] worldwide.
Join Dean as he explores the habits, mindsets, tools, and tactics that lead to health, happiness, and fulfillment for men. You'll hear interviews with world-class experts who pull back the curtain and share their proven strategies for taking your body and mind to the next level.
More significantly, we’ll discuss the challenges they faced that truly tested them on an emotional level, and work to better understand what they did to work through those events, and how it helped them to grow for the better.
Learn how to implement new habits sustainably and realistically. Discover systems and processes that will empower you to hit your biggest goals. And be prepared to go deep beyond the world of physical fitness, to explore the mental, spiritual, and emotional aspects of health that will truly allow you to thrive.
Get inspired and get ready. The Better Man Podcast is a conversation to help you become the better version of yourself.
Dean Pohlman
Founder / CEO of Man Flow Yoga
Best-selling Author of Yoga Fitness for Men & Yoga for Athletes
Co-Producer of Body By Yoga Series
Latest episodes

Oct 3, 2024 • 23min
101: Season 5 Premiere - 13 Important Lessons for Sustainable Health & Fitness Success
After taking a summer hiatus, the Better Man Podcast returns—with a brand-new format. This season looks at real-life examples from men of various ages. These conversations focus on understanding the fitness journeys of men of all ages as we age. We’ll discuss their “Oh Shit” moment when they realized they needed to make a change, what helped them get started after their “Oh Shit” moment, and what keeps them going after the initial motivation “high” wears off. In this first episode back, I reveal what you can expect from this season of the Better Man Podcast, why I decided to tweak the format, and how you can get the most benefit from the personal stories you hear. In this episode, you’ll discover: The 13 most important health and fitness lessons I’ve learned from Members (and how to apply these lessons to your journey) The biggest “self-talk” change you must make as your fitness journey matures How to start—and stay consistent with—your fitness journey What the most successful Man Flow Yoga Members have in common And more, including… Why a “quick fix” mentality keeps your fitness goals out of reach (3:29) The weird reason it’s easier to workout in the morning (even if you’re not a morning person (5:03) How to stick with your plan to achieve your fitness goals when life gets difficult (8:21) The simple “consequences v. benefits” mindset tweak that surges you with motivation (9:42) Why following a workout program eliminates the shame and guilt you feel on rest days (13:15) The “Substitution Secret” for crushing both your short-term and long-term health goals (instead of having them face off against each other) (15:21) Listen now! Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

Jun 20, 2024 • 24min
100: 10 Important Lessons After 100 Episodes
A shocking number of podcasts don’t last 10 episodes. But the Better Man Podcast—which has been extremely valuable for my personal growth as well as our listeners—finally reached an important milestone: The 100th episode! So, in this special episode, I’m sharing the 10 most important lessons I’ve learned from recording 100 episodes of this podcast. And these are lessons that I know will help you in your self-development too. In this episode, you’ll discover: 10 most important lessons I’ve learned from 100 episodes of the Better Man Podcast What’s coming up next for the Better Man Podcast? How you can influence the topics discussed on this podcast in season 5 And more, including… Why sharing your struggles is probably the most rewarding “exercise” you can do—for yourself and for others (3:05) How men like you can help masculinity advance past its “adolescent stage” (and why this creates a better future for everyone) (5:58) Why your lowest lows often set the stage for your highest highs (even if it feels like the exact opposite right now) (8:15) The #1 threat men face today that can sabotage your family, drain your fulfillment of life, and erode your happiness (10:51) How exercise is one of the most undervalued aspects to your overall wellbeing (12:41) Why are men so lonely? And how you can change this in both your life and the lives of your close friends (13:17) Can’t stay cool, calm, and collected during stressful times? Here’s the one habit that creates the most noticeable difference (14:24) Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode: 1. Man Flow Yoga Engage Beta 2.0: Want to get a sneak peek at what I’m planning for Man Flow Yoga Engage Beta 2.0? Tune in at (19:10) to learn more… (It’s going to be wildly different from Beta 1.0) Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

Jun 13, 2024 • 1h 41min
099: The 5 Areas of Wellbeing Backed By 80+ Years of Research w/ Ben Wigert, Mike Ritz from Gallup
A topic that gets mentioned on every episode of the Better Man Podcast is simple: How you can become a better man. But until today, we’ve never had the ability to really pull back the analytics and examine the cold, hard data. That’s why I invited Ben Wigert and Mike Ritz from Gallup. For the past 89 years, Gallup has found analytical insights and trends about how to become happier, what makes someone more fulfilled, and how you can become more content with your life (despite the various struggles we all battle). And today, Ben and Mike share some of Gallup’s findings with you, so you can use their data-backed insights to improve your life and become a better man. In this episode, we discuss: The 4 types of people and how they solve burnout in wildly different ways The 5 areas of wellbeing backed by 80+ years of research from Gallup How understanding Gallup’s “Composite Happiness Metric” shows you how to enhance your happiness in a proven way And so many more actionable insights, based on 80+ years of data and research, that will help you become a better man, including… Why global happiness tends to decline with age (and how to best protect your happiness as you grow wiser) (7:40) According to Gallup, about 15% of people experience loneliness on a daily basis—here’s three things you can do to prevent it (10:50) The single biggest correlate factor in Gallup’s “Composite Happiness Metric” (12:52) How to determine the most effective way to reduce your burnout—and why this varies from person to person (24:43) Here’s proof that your physical health, mental health, and career are inextricably connected (31:03) Are men more likely to experience burnout than women? Here are 4 reasons why they are… (38:24) The “4 C’s” remote workers need to be more intentional about to protect their career, happiness, and overall fulfillment in life (54:23) How talking to 10 strangers a day can wildly boost your happiness and prevent negative emotions from consuming your psyche (1:00:34) Why a fear of uncertainty is the #1 most stressful emotion you can feel (1:03:44) The “PAB” secret which is the only proven way to experience contentment (1:17:44) The 5 elements of wellbeing—and why balancing all 5 is often overlooked despite being the best way to achieve wellbeing (1:19:25) How proactively managing your wellbeing earlier in life reduces your risk of depression, dementia, and substance abuse later in life (1:34:24) Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode: 1. CliftonStrengths Assessment: If you’d like to learn more about your unique strengths and how they influence how you experience (and overcome) burnout, you can order a CliftonStrengths Assessment here: https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/253868/popular-cliftonstrengths-assessment-products.aspx Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

Jun 6, 2024 • 27min
098: 5 Exercise Strategies Guys 40+ CAN'T Ignore
Here’s a harsh truth: Getting old sucks. But it’s a reality you can't ignore or escape from. It’s easier to get hurt. You feel more sore more often. Little aches and pain become more pronounced and harder to ignore. Your energy and motivation declines. But worst of all: You can’t workout like you used to when you were younger (unless you want to injure yourself). That’s the bad news. The good news? In today’s show, I reveal my top 5 tips for staying fit and injury-free as you get older. Here’s a taste of what I cover in this episode: Why you must change your approach to exercise once you hit 40 The biggest mistakes men make as they age which increases their risk of injury Why incorporating more low-intensity exercises into your schedule - like walking your dog around the block - can prevent injuries And more to help you stay fit, healthy, and injury-free as you age, including… Why you need to do specific warm-up exercises as you get older (and why lighter weight reps don’t count) (3:05) Can’t do squats without paralyzing knee pain? Here’s how to eliminate your knee pain while squatting (even if you’re over 50) (3:57) Is soreness a sign you should skip your workout? Here’s the truth… (4:43) 3 things your warm-up routine must have to best prevent injuries and maximize gains (8:54) Why strength training becomes more important as you age (even if “conventional wisdom” says the opposite) (13:56) How to get a good, fulfilling workout even if you don’t break a sweat or breathe heavy (20:02) Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

May 30, 2024 • 1h 32min
097: The 3 Biggest Threats to Men’s Mental & Emotional Health w/ Pierre Azzam
There is a certain epidemic that’s strangling men’s mental and emotional health. But since it’s sneakier for men than it is for women, many mental health clinicians don’t even know how to spot the signs. I’m referring to depression, isolation, and a lack of connection with other men. Men are lonelier than perhaps ever before. But we experience depressive symptoms in a more subtle way than women—and this further exacerbates our mental health. That’s why I invited one of the most knowledgeable people on the planet about this topic onto today’s episode in Pierre Azzam. Pierre is a physician and professional coach with over a decade of experience in neuroscience and mental health—including battling lifelong depression himself. Through his clinical work, Pierre recognized that the mental health industry as a whole is terribly unaware of men’s mental health problems. Since then, he’s founded Braver Man (and then Braver Collective) to address these issues men face in an effective manner. In today’s episode, Pierre and I discuss… Why depressive symptoms show up differently for men than women How postpartum depression also affects new fathers The exact amount of time it takes to rewire your brain and free yourself from depression The 3 biggest threats men face to their overall mental and emotional wellbeing And more, including… Does your fear stop you from doing things that would enhance your life? Here’s what Pierre recommends to conquer this fear (6:10) How to feel more comfortable with being vulnerable and acknowledging your emotions (even if you got bullied for this as a child) (13:48) Why the postpartum period can cause intense mental health risks for not only mothers, but fathers too (22:56) The major hormonal changes men go through after becoming fathers—that almost no new father realizes (25:43) How judging yourself morphs into toxic shame that causes more angry outbursts with your loved ones (31:13) Why the most common depressive symptoms for men are commonly missed (even by mental health clinicians) (31:58) This book reveals all the various ways men cover up their depression (37:04) Why practicing gratitude when you notice depressive symptoms is a massive step forward (even if it doesn’t feel huge in the moment) (51:13) The exact amount of time it takes to rewire your brain’s neuroplasticity to free yourself from depression (56:36) Why shared experience between other men can save your mental health (and even your life) (1:05:22) The 3 biggest threats almost all men face to their overall mental and emotional wellbeing (1:12:42) Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode: 1. Braver Man Coaching & Braver Man Collective: If you’re interested in working with Pierre in one-on-one coaching or a greater collective of other men, you can learn more about each on his site here: https://www.bravermancoaching.com/ 2. Follow Pierre on Instagram: The best way to keep up-to-date with how Pierre’s improving men’s mental health is by following him on Instagram here: @braver.man Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

May 23, 2024 • 16min
096: Strategies & Tips For Your At-Home Yoga Practice
BMP-Ep096: Strategies & Tips For Your At-Home Yoga Practice While an at-home yoga practice has many benefits—such as requiring no commuting, being able to do it whenever and wherever you want, and choosing a yoga routine that best suits your goals of the day—there are a few drawbacks too: You might set unrealistic expectations for your practice. Missing a workout can fill you with guilt. Or your focus might shift out of yoga and into something else, like weight training or running. That’s why I’m sharing a few of my favorite strategies to get the most out of your at-home yoga practice in today’s episode. In this episode, I’m revealing: How to get the most out of your at-home yoga practice (even if you miss a day) Why you don’t need to follow full workouts to benefit from yoga Simple ways to introduce more movement into your daily routine And more, including… The “fitness has seasons” secret that alleviates your guilt when you miss a yoga workout (or two) (1:45) How practicing yoga for only two minutes per day can still help you build strength, increase flexibility, and improve mobility (3:32) This new Man Flow Yoga program is the perfect way to start your day (and prepare your body for a more intense workout later) (5:16) How to incorporate more yoga poses and stretches naturally throughout your day (without following a full workout) (6:21) Why you don’t need to feel excited to do your yoga workout when you do THIS (8:31) Listen now! Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

May 9, 2024 • 1h 25min
095: Why Awareness Makes You Happier & Less Depressed w/ Dain Heer
Everyone wants to be happier, have fewer worries, and feel more excited about life. But often, we sow the seeds to our mental health destruction without even realizing it. This makes happiness impossible and fleeting. But it doesn't have to be that way. 24 years ago, today’s guest, Dain Heer (CEO of Access Consciousness), gave himself six months to change his life, or he was going to commit suicide. Within a couple of weeks, he stumbled onto an unusual—and immediate—way to become happier that always worked in the trenches of life. And for the last 24 years, Dain has been absolutely brimming with happiness, lightness, and ease thanks to this bizarre method. In today’s show, Dain shares: How to have less negative self-talk in your life How to stop judging yourself and other people And perhaps most important, how to just be happy If you feel like something’s missing in your life, this episode might be the fix you’ve been looking for. Some of the other highlights include: A practical tip for becoming happier right now (that also works in the trenches of life) (4:15) How judging people in your life, even positive judgements, can start planting the seeds of depression (9:37) The subtle “Gift” mindset shift that instantly makes you feel a bit lighter (16:53) How Dain walked into an “Access Bar” session angry, depressed, and suicidal — and walked out with a supreme sense of gratitude for life in just 75 minutes (19:14) Here’s proof that “Access Bars” can decrease stress, anxiety, depression by 87% (Best part? It only takes one session) (20:29) As many as 98% of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions aren’t sourced by you. Here’s how to stop letting them ruin your day (21:44) How to live 95% of your day-to-day life in “Flow State” like Dain does (27:51) Why awareness consistently and predictably moves you away from heaviness and towards lightness (41:40) How to use “The Clearing Statement” to wake up happy every single day (1:05:00) Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode: 1. The Clearing Statement: If you’d like more of a deep dive into The Clearing Statement, how it works, and why it’s so effective, go here: http://TheClearingStatement.com 2. Access Dain’s Trainings and Tools: If you’d like to buy some of Dain’s trainings and tools to become happier, you can find the full list of them here: https://shop.drdainheer.com/ 3. Get Waking Up Miraculously for free: Waking Up Miraculously is a free tool Dain created for you. Grab it here: https://dr-dain-heer.mykajabi.com/offers/vbwox67j/checkout 4. Learn more about Access Bars: Access Bars are the most relaxing, de-stressing, well-being technique you’ve never heard of. Learn more about them, how to receive them, and how to give them, here: https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/micrositesfolder/accessbars/ 5. Visit Access Consciousness: If you don’t know where to start to dive deeper into Dain’s world, visit the Access Consciousness site here: https://www.accessconsciousness.com. Or, you can visit Dain’s site here: https://drdainheer.com/ Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

May 2, 2024 • 29min
094: 3 Profound Takeaways from the Man Flow Yoga "Be The Better You" Retreat
This past weekend, 10+ guys came together at the Be The Better You Retreat to be open, honest, and vulnerable. While we worked out and did yoga—it is a Man Flow Yoga retreat after all—the true value of the retreat was getting like-minded guys in the same room to talk about their emotions. There were three distinct themes that kept repeating throughout the retreat. And I have my own personal takeaways too. In this episode, I’m sharing a recap of the Be The Better You Retreat and revealing: The three biggest takeaways from the weekend (and how to apply these lessons to your everyday life) How men gaslight themselves (and how to stop doing this) Why implementing change is so hard—and why your loved ones secretly don’t want you to change And more that will help you improve your overall mental and emotional wellbeing, including… The weird reason it's easier to share deep things with strangers than it is with your loved ones (3:33) How you gaslight yourself without realizing it (and why this is particularly common in men) (5:12) How to ask for what you want—even if it’s uncomfortable (6:48) Why committing to changes for a shorter period of time makes it more likely that you’ll stick with them (8:25) The exact amount of time to plan any fitness or dieting goals around (9:14) How celebrating milestones “hijacks” your brain and turns goals into habits (9:38) A simple, yet proven way to decrease anxiety and depression and boost your happiness (15:40) Why it can be a mistake to validate others’ feelings (17:33) Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode: 1. Join the next Be The Better You Retreat: If you’d like to attend the next Be The Better You Retreat, it’ll happen in either October or November. Join the waitlist to be the first to know when the date drops here: https://mfy.tv/btbu 2. Man Flow Yoga Engage Waitlist: If the retreat is out of your budget, or you want to apply these themes from the retreat to your everyday life, that’s exactly what we do in Man Flow Yoga Engage. The next cohort opens for enrollment in July. Join the waitlist here to be the first to know about it: https://manflowyoga.com/mfye-interest/ Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

Apr 25, 2024 • 1h 30min
093: Why Do Men Fail At Relationships? W/ Jayson Gaddis
I used to think that the keys to great health were eating right, exercising often, and getting enough sleep. While these are good for your health, they pale in comparison to the quality of your relationships. In fact, a Harvard study proved that your relationships are the #1 most important factor for your overall health and wellbeing. But many guys, myself included, can be terrible at their most important relationship: The one you and your partner share. I get it, relationships are hard. But men have a tendency to commit fatal mistakes in their relationships—and most of these mistakes fly under our radar. That’s the bad news. The good news? Not only is improving your relationship possible, but nobody understands how to improve your relationship better than today’s guest, Jayson Gaddis, author and founder of The Relationship School. Jayson had broken relationships his entire life because of his childhood conditioning. After doing the work and addressing the root cause (which was himself), he’s not only discovered how to improve his relationship, but he’s coached thousands of couples (and saved countless marriages) with his teachings. If you aren’t completely satisfied with your relationship, this episode will show you the way. And you know what? It just might help you and your partner live 10 years longer… In this episode, Jayson reveals: How men unknowingly play the victim in relationships How to have a healthier relationship with conflict And how you can have better relationships (even if your relationship is less than perfect now) As so much more, including… The single biggest reason men tend to mess up in relationships (7:44) Why becoming more comfortable with your feelings allows you to hold space for your partner’s feelings (12:20) How you subconsciously attract the perfect person to trigger your unresolved childhood emotions that can tear a healthy relationship apart (18:41) The “Wisdom of Shame” secret for reframing shame into realistic goals (20:41) 2 questions to ask yourself every day to eliminate shame (27:27) 3 fundamental traits couples need to have for a successful, long-term relationship (32:32) Why the “Outside In” approach to conflict in relationships is the #1 killer of relationships (and how to use the “Inside Out” method to enhance your relationship instead) (33:39) The most important factor for success of a long-term relationship (and how to share this with your partner without triggering them) (36:21) The only 2 choices you have around potential conflict in relationships (and how one leads to a great marriage while the other ruins it) (38:52) The “impact me” formula for bringing up relationship problems in the healthiest and most effective way (46:25) How to better solve the wicked “fight below the fight” where men make conflict worse (55:47) Couples that know how to handle conflict live 10 years longer than couples who don’t. Here’s how to get better at conflict… (58:25) Why what you fight about doesn’t matter as much as how you fight (and how to argue in a more productive way) (1:06:21) The “LUFU” skill required to handle conflict in a healthier way (1:09:25) How leading with mini disclaimers before bringing up sensitive topics puts you and your partner on the same team (1:16:46) Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode: 1. Subscribe to Jayson’s YouTube channel: If you want to improve your marriage, especially as a parent, Jayson puts out great content for free on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@JaysonGaddis 2. Join Jayson’s Relationship School: Nobody taught you how to be good at relationships… Until now. If you’re serious about improving your relationships, check out Jayson’s Relationship School here: https://relationshipschool.com/ 3. Buy Jayson’s Book, Getting To Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships: If you’d like to read Jayson’s book, you can order it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Zero-Conflict-High-Stakes-Relationships/dp/0306924811/ Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

Apr 18, 2024 • 13min
092: Why is Self-Care so Difficult?
Most guys who are interested in self-care and self-improvement struggle heavily with it. Flicking on the TV or loading your favorite social media for doom scrolling is so much easier. Especially when you lead a busy life and are responsible for your family. And you know what? I struggle with this too. It’s a daily battle to pick the activity that’s rewarding in the long-term instead of the one that’s numbing in the short-term. But it’s possible to make the right choice even when you’re exhausted and your willpower is empty. In fact, I just went through this exact process last week. After a long, stress-filled morning, I plopped down on my couch after putting my daughter down for a nap, and flicked on the TV. But then a voice inside my head challenged me to use my time wisely. And in this episode, I share exactly what I did to flick off the TV and work on myself instead. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why it’s such a struggle to prioritize self-care (and strategies to make it easier) A prose I wrote called “Choosing Self-Care” that gives you a sneak peek into my brain—and reveals how I flicked off the TV (try this next time you want to veg out) How to make time in your schedule for the activities that truly matter Some other highlights include: One question to ask yourself when you’re low on willpower to hijack your brain for self-care (2:07) The insidious “mentally buzzed” trap you fall into each time you flick on your TV or open a social media app (3:29) How to choose what’s rewarding instead of what’s numbing (4:57) Why your environment is a better predictor of the success of your goals than motivation, willpower, or discipline (8:36) Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode: 1. Be The Better You Retreat: The next Be The Better You Retreat happens this weekend in Austin, TX. While I haven’t scheduled the next one yet, I will do another one later in 2024. Subscribe to our emails to stay in the loop if you’d like to come. 2. Man Flow Yoga Engage Beta: I kicked off the beta for Man Flow Yoga Engage recently—and we’re ironing out all the kinks to make it even more impactful for men looking for more from their life. The next cohort opens in July, so keep an eye out if you’re interested in joining. Other important links: Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7 Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7