The Kevin Miller Podcast

I have a wake up call for you. It sure woke me up. We all have a digital personality and we don’t realize it. We look at text, email, and even video such as zoom as communication tools. But as Erica Dhawan tells us in this episode, over 70% of our business communication is electronic instead of face to face. So 70% of our relationships are formed digitally. Erica says our digital body language is either helping or hurting every relationship we have. If you look at the next text or email as simply a method to deliver a message and not as a human interaction, you are missing it. If you think your all caps or exclamation points or brevity or emojis are sufficient, you’re about to be schooled. Ultimately it comes down to this, continue doing it as you have, or realize there is a far greater opportunity for your work and life success if you listen in and hear how you can make some key adjustments and use every text, email, or zoom to solidify and enhance your relationships and significantly increase your success. Connect with Erica at https://ericadhawan.com/ and find her new book, Digital Body Language wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever heard this? “The hard work of positive thinking.” Zig Ziglar was the royal king of positive thinking and I play a clip where he shares its power in our lives, but also the reality that it won’t enable you to do anything. To take it further, I asked our audience, this question, “Do you feel someone is either inherently positive and hopeful, or they choose to be?” Tom Ziglar and I read through some of the comments and of course, most feel that thinking positive is a choice. But what came out is... due to our upbringing and past and other predispositions, even genetic to a degree, our brains are more or less hardwired to think positively and be able to readily accept our efforts to choose positivity and hope. These are real issues and I believe the episode will enable you to better engage with and benefit your own striving to increase positive thinking and hope in your life.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have patterns in which we interpret and therefore respond to the world. This positively and negatively influences every relationship in our lives. The relationship with ourselves (self-image), with others, and with our spiritual faith. Beth McCord is a renowned expert in the Enneagram, which is a map for self-discovery and personal growth based on 9 basic personality types. The Enneagram accurately and clearly describes why you think, feel and behave in particular ways based upon your core fears and core desires. My focus in this show was not just to understand your personality type but to understand what difference it actually provides in your life. Much of Beth’s mission is to help us all be more self aware and understand how to use the awareness to benefit us and specifically not let any understanding of our weaknesses cause any shame or contempt. I think you’ll find new insight you can use for your immediate benefit in this episode, and if you want to figure yourself out more, Beth is offering us a free enneagram course at yourenneagramcoach.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“For your business, do you need increased marketing exposure to attract more prospects or better sales conversion with the prospects you are already attracting?” This is the question I posed to our Ziglar audience. People responded with needs for one or the other or both of course, but the discussion Tom Ziglar and I brought up was sequentially we need to ensure our sales conversion is up to par before we adequately market. But then we do go into some key principles for marketing to your specific demographic and giving more focus to qualified prospects who are relevant to buy over just generating big numbers of lame prospects you must filter through. You’ll hear some good counsel on finding the prospects most suited to you  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should you start or have a podcast? We’re at a time when no communication platform is growing more. It wasn’t long ago when we had a couple hundred thousand podcasts but as you’ll hear in this show we’ve now eclipsed 2 million. It has an incredibly easy entry point and you can get in with little cost and effort. The audience for podcasting continues to grow as well. So the question so many people are asking again is, should I start a podcast? Can you get anyone to listen? If you build it will they come? If you have a podcast, how do you grow it? I bring you my main podcast mentor, Jordan Harbinger. He started early on with nothing and today the Jordan Harbinger Show gets over 6 million downloads per month. I’m around 400-450k for comparison. Warning, right at the outside you’ll hear Jordan flat out state he feels very few people should start or have a podcast. Do not be disheartened, as he qualifies this throughout the show and I strongly encourage you to listen and you’ll get incredible insight into podcasting and whether you will be well served to have a podcast. Or not. This episode will give you the wisdom you need to have a valuable podcast, or save yourself a lot of time and hassle by realizing it’s not a good fit. If you appreciate Jordan, find him at The Jordan Harbinger Show wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How we can we better respond to the things in our work we can not control? I play a clip from Zig Ziglar where he talks about the circumstances and people in our lives we just can’t control, and how we can better respond to them when they, as you’ll hear Zig say, “drop the ball.” But goodness did Tom Ziglar and I get into some interesting branches. One was questioning whether there truly is much that isn’t in our control, or at least that we can’t heavily influence to stack the odds in our favor. We discuss choice and consequences and what a secure person would do. That right there just captured me. Questioning ourselves in the moment, and overall. Are we responding, not reacting, like a secure person? Are we speaking and behaving and thinking, like a secure person? I find it so convicting and just prior to writing this sent a note to my wife and kids about it and admitting to some aspects of my own self where I am not behaving like the secure person I want to be. So in just a moment I’ll queue up a one minute clip from Zig and then Tom and I will dig in with you to help bring clarity to a perspective that can add dramatic peace and confidence to your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I bring you what I have found, across the board, to literally be THE most effective life-success tactic. You’ll notice I said “life success”, as in success in your life overall. If you only want to succeed in making money, while this tactic does provide the best overall chance, I have seen people make a lot of money without utilizing it well. I’ve seen people rise to the top of sports without it. Not as often as with it, but still, sometimes. If all you want is to write a best selling book, invent something, be a famous explorer...if it’s just one achievement you want to succeed in, it is possible without this tactic. Harder, but possible. However, I doubt there is anyone listening to this right now who wants to settle for only having success in one, solitary area of life. As that has proven NOT to provide fulfillment. Just a win. I won many cycling races but today they are way down in my life fulfillment and I rarely even participate in that aspect of my life. I’m going to reveal this tactic and you’re going to right away think, “Oh, that’s elementary. I do that. And I’m telling you, no you don’t. Just like my recent show on trust where simply being honest does not get you the benefit of trust, you think you do this, but I’m saying you don’t. Not enough. You are not understanding the full breadth of utilization to truly benefit from it. It...is...treating everyone like an awed, revered, and respected person who you proactively go out of your way to serve in an above and beyond fashion. I’m about to be joined by Dan Miller, my father, and we’re going to unpack this in a way that will radically open your eyes to how you are missing out, and how you can pivot and start benefiting, immediately.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“What makes you feel secure about yourself? What keeps your self-image in check even if you are unduly criticized?” If you feel this should be a simple, easy answer...the responses showcase it is not. And as you’ll hear in the show, it sure is not for me as well, or Tom Ziglar who joined me. But becoming acutely aware of what threatens your security, and then what you need to have ready to combat it, is tremendous for our overall confidence! I share a short clip from Zig Ziglar where he shares a profound analogy of how to view criticism, which at the core requires awareness of your own self image. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The success habits of David Horsager, my guest from episode 873 where we talked about trust, his platform and area of mastery. Not how to be trustworthy, but how to ensure people view you as trustworthy. David shares the habits that helped him lose 50lbs in five months and how he’s kept the weight off. Though today he doesn’t deprive himself of certain joys, such as ice cream, which I’d site as...sacred. But the stand out to me was talking about relationships and his foundational pursuit of…”just love em’”. He actually credits his wife with this perspective. When it comes down to it, no matter what, just...love them. Simple. Maybe too simple? But what is the alternative? If you want to connect more with David he has a new book out right now and he’s offered us an assessment to see how we stack up in exuding trust, go to trustedleaderbook.com/ziglar Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tom Ziglar and I tackle the issue of happiness. I asked my audience how in control of their happiness do they feel they are. A majority of course said 100%, but I actually pushed back on that. Even if you believe you have control, are you able to harness that control? If I asked if most everyone felt they could run a 5k in under 25 minutes I think most would say, sure, they could achieve that. But can they do it now? Same here. Saying, “Yes, I believe I can control my happiness” doesn’t mean you do. So is it really possible? We can’t control circumstances but amidst hard realities can we, do we, really maintain control over our happiness? It may not be possible in every moment, but how can we grow that possibility? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices