The Kevin Miller Podcast

#989: If you want to care, serve, love, help and have a positive impact on anyone, you need influence. You have a product or service or insight and wisdom that you know could help others, whether it’s your employer, employee, a prospect, your kid, or an audience. Without influence what good you have to offer is meaningless. So what is true influence and how can you have it and masterfully use and benefit yourself and others with it? In this episode I bring on Zoe Chance. Zoe teaches a course titled, “Mastering Influence and Persuasion,” and it is the most popular class at the Yale School of Management. Her research on behavioral economics, neuroscience, and psychology has been published in top academic journals and covered by the Harvard Business Review, The Economist, BBC, Time, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Times. Her framework for behavior change is the foundation for Google’s food program, and her TEDx talk, How to Make a Behavior Addictive, has more than half a million views. Before coming to Yale, she earned a doctorate in marketing at Harvard and managed a $200 million segment of the Barbie brand at Mattel. From Zoe’s Yale course, “Mastering Influence and Persuasion,” she has now written a book titled, INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen. What you’re about to hear is an indepth dive into what is influence vs manipulation, and how to deftly wield influence so you can have the positive impact on the world you desire. Find the book, Influence Is Your Superpower anywhere you buy books and connect with Zoe at zoechance.com. This podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, the most known and trusted brand in personal and professional development. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#988: We often talk of being either an employee or an entrepreneur. One side or the other. Today I have a guest with us who is imploring us to live the corporate life no matter what, for our benefit, and our kid’s. The concepts you’re about to hear may be fairly revelatory for you, as they were for me, regarding money, parenting, and self-employment, again…whether you are a parent OR self employed. Tom Ziglar met Loral Langemeier and wanted to get her on the show. Loral is a money expert, sought-after speaker, entrepreneurial thought leader, and Five Time New York Times best-selling author who is on a mission to change the conversation about money and empower people around the world to become millionaires, and a primary focus is Financial Literacy for parents and children. She has a new book titled, Make Your Kids Millionaires: The Step-by-Step Guide to Lead Children to Financial Freedom. You can get it and $1,500 worth of bonuses at makeyourkidsmillionaires.com/ziglar when you preorder. I was incredibly curious and again, you’re going to hear some contrarian thinking to the normal ideas of employment vs self-employment, how Loral instructs us to all start living the corporate life, even if you have a traditional job, how to help your kids develop radical self-employed pedigrees and even credit before they’re 18, and how to leverage credit and even debt. That right there will lift some eyebrows, and if so…great. It did mine as well. And here I have Loral on the show. Without further ado, here Tom Ziglar and I sit down with Loral Langemeier to get schooled living a corporate life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#987: I’m back with Dr Thema Bryant, president elect of the American Psychological Association and author of her new book, Homecoming: Overcoming Fear And Trauma To Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self, which was our focus previously in episode 985. This is my habits episode and we take a walk through Thema’s personal habits. As you heard in the intro, she of course weighs heavily on self-care and boundaries which for me, is strong medicine. It’s of note Thema has crafted her personal habits after the needs she sees as a therapist, so, I think you’ll want to take note. Find Dr Bryant’s book “home coming” wherever you get your books and connect with her at her website drthema.com, and find her on instagram at dr thema where she has over 300k people following her guidance to…coming home to themselves. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#986: The power of…kindness. As you’ll hear right at the top of the show, set aside your altruistic thoughts about “kindness” and hear Tom Ziglar and I present it as a primary tool you can use to gain trust, attract people to you, and be the biggest person in the room. The spirit of today’s media polluting our culture today is one of massive unkindness and I’m concerned we may grow to think strength is standing up for your rights and correcting injustice by calling out wrongs and giving others their due lashings. Yet strength comes from giving kindness and respect, even in confrontation. Strength and glory doesn’t go to the one crying foul and blaming and ranting but to the one confident enough to wield kindness and consideration in any circumstance. So here we go in learning how to do just that. Wield kindness to gain trust and attract others and…succeed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#985: Think about the idea of going home to your happy place. Your comfort. Where you feel safe and you just get to be you. Now imagine it’s not a place, but it’s just finally being your healthy and authentic self, totally at peace and joyful. If you’ve ever known a place or time, you can relate. If you’ve never known it, this is about your hope to find it. You’re about to hear my conversation with Dr Thema Bryant. Thema is a clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at Pepperdine University. She’s an ordained minister in the African Methodist Episcopal Church. She earned her doctorate from Duke University and completed her postdoctoral training at Harvard Medical School. In the world of academia and clout she is royalty. Now add she’s president-elect of the American Psychological Association. Even our other top psychologist look to her for guidance. Many such people we expect up in ivory towers dispensing wisdom to the masses below. But go check Thema out on instagram and you’ll see why over 300k people follow her as she offers…love. Understanding. You’ll find her dancing and see her efforts in play to decolonize traditional psychology and bring alongside the science, the power of spirituality and faith and our very humanity. Her new book is called Homecoming and here we take a very base look at the real world issues and hope for today’s mental health realities. Find Dr Thema Bryant’s book Homecoming anywhere and everywhere, and connect with her at drthema.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#984: Before I started recording this episode with my buddy Tom Ziglar he starts telling me about his weekend speaking alongside a Navy Seal and I stopped him and said…”Wait, this is good, let’s just record it.” He ultimately got into the preparations of Navy Seals and the power of mental models and rehearsing our performance and I wanted to stick with it and abandoned my intended talk on the power of kindness. Maybe we’ll do that in the next episode. What you’re about to hear is a candid talk through our opportunity to discern what we want out of our days and plan for it. Rehearse even. It sounds basic but as you’ll hear it’s not, and we are missing out on our top performance as a result. The top performance we expect from our military, especially special forces. The top performance we expect from the athletes in our favorite sports. The top performance we expect in our entertainment. They all have a desired outcome, and they plan and rehearse it. Why aren’t we? Listen in. Connect with Tom Ziglar at Ziglar.com, or email him directly at tziglar@ziglar.com. For me, find me at kevinmiller.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#983: I’m back with beloved superstar author and speaker Andy Andrews to talk about his personal habits for success. Though in addition I asked him to discuss some of the top habits he would espouse for us all as he seeks to influence the world with positive cultural literacy. He brings us back to, as you heard, the power we have over what we let into our minds. What we allow to influence us for better or worse. It’s incredibly elementary but the profound common sense that is not so common. How often do we get worked up over news or relational interactions that we did not have to participate in? How often do we choose to partake of input from sources we voluntarily engaged with? And how often do we get to the end of the day and are able to measure an amount of positive, inspiring, and life building input we are proud of and lifted by? The days so often happen to us and we don’t guard or intentionally budget the diet we feed our minds. So listen in to this and other golden nuggets from Andy. Andy is also headlining for Ziglar on May 19-20, 2022 as keynote speaker for the Ziglar Coach Summit in Frisco, TX which you can check out at ziglar.com/coachsummit. If you are or want to be a coach, don’t miss this. And check out more of what Andy is doing at WisdomHarbour.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#982: I recently had Ethan Kross on the show, one of the foremost experts in controlling our minds. His new book is Chatter, The Voice In Your Head, Why It Matters, and How To Harness It. That was episode #977. Today I wanted to discuss the concept in union with self-talk and personal affirmations, made popular by none other than Zig Ziglar. Tom Ziglar and I just pulled out all the issues around these concepts and held them to the fire in an effort to help us all literally just roll up our sleeves and start working out in regards to controlling the voices in our heads and getting them working for us in our self-talk. You can get Zig’s self-talk cards free at ziglar.com/selftalk. But Tom and I hit on big ticket issues such as, how many of the voices in our heads are even our own? Why have we agreed with so many of the thoughts and beliefs floating around? Why do we tell anyone else they have more capacity and ability in them but generally don’t believe it for ourselves? Then we land on the daily exercises needed to get the voices in our heads working for us. We uncovered some aspects of this issue we were not even aware of until we got into the discussion. Join us as we take on our voices and self-talk and aim to master them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#981: In a rare entry into current events, tabloid headlines if you will, I asked Andy Andrews about a public statement he made regarding the culture as it relates to the recent Oscars and Will Smith slapping Chris Rock. My point wasn’t to weigh in on opinion, but as you heard in the intro to hear Andy’s perspective on the symbolism. Andy Andrews is a multiple New York Times best seller with his Traveler’s Gift selling millions. He’s a highly sought for and highly paid speaker, he’s spoken for, by request, four different US Presidents. The New York Times cited Andy as “someone who has quietly become one of the most influential people in America.” I know Andy as someone many big influencers turn to for wisdom. He’s a sage, a jedi, of life changing lessons. He also recently launched a community called Wisdom Harbour, and I wanted to have a frank discussion on what he saw as primary cultural needs and from a business interest, why he created the Wisdom Harbour community in response to it. You’ll hear much of his answer is around cultural literacy, but I’m going to take you behind the scenes on why he crafted it the way he has. If this sounds a bit like a huge plug for his community…it is, but that is not the point. Most of you listening are in the business of influencing others and what I’m giving you is insight into one of our most prolific influencers, and how he’s pursuing his own influence, so you may glean from it. Andy is also headlining for Ziglar on May 19-20, 2022 as keynote speaker for the Ziglar Coach Summit in Frisco, TX which you can check out at ziglar.com/coachsummit. If you are or want to be a coach, don’t miss this. And check out more of what Andy is doing at WisdomHarbour.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#980: “Have you ever paid for personal coaching? What were the biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?” This is the question I posed to our listeners and the responses were very telling. Number one turn off? Having a strategy pushed on them without feeling heard and understood. A top turn on, individualized guidance. This is a show to help anyone interested in getting coaching or consulting to vet a prospective provider. And conversely it’s highly valuable for providers to hear what people really want. Tom Ziglar and I also talk at length about the differences between coaching and consulting which again will help people know which type of provider they want to hire, or which providers are best equipped to offer. Another big value topic we cover is understanding people are not so much choosing which coach or consultant to hire, but whether to hire one at all, as the greatest competition is doing nothing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices