The Kevin Miller Podcast

In this episode I want sensitive people to hear how an HSP…highly sensitive person…curates their life to find more peace and wholeness. I was highly interested in this, as I’m new to understanding, I’m an HSP, and I’m working to reorient my life, with grace, to help me be more at peace, and from this, be more at peace with others and the world around me. ⁣⁣I’m back with Andre Sólo, the force behind Sensitive Refuge, the world’s largest website for sensitive people, and the co-author of "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." Andre is an author, researcher, and speaker, and a recognized expert and passionate advocate for sensitive people.⁣⁣Here we walk through his Values & Habits and as you’ll hear, most are configured to support Andre’s sensitivities. Remember from our first talk together in the May 17 episode, Sensitive does not mean fragile, or delicate. Sensitive means; quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences. And that means externally and internally. ⁣⁣Spiritually Andre finds more sensitive people crave meaning from life and may be more prone to pursuits of spirituality. Similarly, they seek out deep, meaningful relationships, and Andre attests to this for himself. And while we didn't discuss it, I'm betting more sensitive people have fewer, but deeper relationships than the norm. I'll have to ask him about that. Regarding health and wellness Andre said he doesn't live up to his own values here, but seeks out Whole Foods and practices yoga. He admits he's an emotional eater. Regarding mental health he of course guards against overstimulation. This is a big aspect I'm getting from this topic, as I've always struggled with overstimulation but just gritted my teeth and figured it's my problem. While I'm not taking the concept to opt out of everything, I am more in mind to budget how much and giving myself recovery time. This and more in the episode. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adi Arezzini was 23 years old and as you’ll hear, bloated, constipated, and only going to the bathroom once per week. This is critical digestive illness. She started researching the colon and herbs and from it found healing agents in tea, from which she started a business, Teami Blends which is sold online and also across the country in stores like Target. But this isn’t an ad for Teami Blends and it is of course not a stand alone magic bullet. Adi made other significant lifestyle changes which led her away from that harsh reality to more optimal health. I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we asked Adi about her personal health journey, the benefits of tea, and much more. In the latter part of the conversation I asked her and she provided, her top three list of what causes and helps alleviate digestive problems which may be the greatest benefit you get from this episode. Adi is offering us 20% off all her products at teamiblends.com when you use code TRUELIFE. Again, this isn’t an ad, but of interest to us. Of note, Randy is a complete tea snob and buys high end, loose leaf tea…probably consuming 5 or 6 mugs a day. After a decade of friendship, I finally wanted to test reducing my coffee intake, and started trying tea. Initially I only liked black tea, but have now developed a broader pallet. I still adore coffee but find it bothers my gut a bit, so I’m only doing it once or twice a week these days…but drinking a lot of tea.June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummitGo to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My hope for you in this episode of the Self Helpful podcast, is for those of you nearing midlife, or already past it, to divest yourself of frustration you have from lacking strength in some areas of life you’ve relied on, and find great hope and inspiration and start shifting to a new strength.I’m wrapping up the series with Arthur Brooks and the message in his book, From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. It was a gift to talk with Arthur, then also have a discussion on the Strength To Strength message with his colleague at Harvard, Robert Waldinger. These guys are some of the top researchers on happiness and their research is profound and paradigm shifting.In this episode I give four highlights from the three episodes that I’m pondering and focused on for my own life and discussing with my friends and peers.June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummitGo to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here is my hope for this show…that a lot of you, especially those of you who like me, were unaware of your sensitivities, will find comfort and understanding in areas of your life you struggle. Introvert, extrovert, macho man, whatever you think you are. You’ll find some grace for yourself, and some equipping of how to better manage your life to find more peace and success. ⁣⁣Sensitive does not mean fragile, or delicate. Sensitive means; quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences. Think of it this way; a military fighter jet is incredibly sensitive to every nuance, detecting the slightest problem or change and alerting the pilot and ground crews. They cost from $60 to $130 million. A tank on the other hand does not require such sensitivity and only costs around $10 million. They both have different, valuable uses. ⁣Speaking of the military, the special forces personnel are actually trained to become highly sensitive to everything. ⁣⁣This is my preface to informing you that while every human is on the scale of being more or less sensitive to the outside world, and to their own inner world, about 30% of you listening will tip over into being a "highly sensitive person," thought to have an increased or deeper central nervous system sensitivity to physical, emotional, or social stimuli. And friends, the kicker here is that I...am an HSP. I have been all my life, but I've masked it, grit my teeth, and just negatively judged myself for being intolerant. I’m thrilled about this message. ⁣⁣My guest to break down the walls on this issue is Andre Sólo, the force behind Sensitive Refuge (sensitiverefuge.com), the world’s largest website for sensitive people, and Andre is the co-author of "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." I really encourage everyone to listen to this message, as I think you’ll find relevance for yourself, and others in your life. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We live in a world construct based on achievements. It’s what you do that matters. What you’ve done. And we miss the daily, primary engagement of simply…what we are doing. I recently hiked four, thirteen thousand foot peaks in one day with a group of guys. I honestly don’t remember much about the peaks themselves. We’d stop, look around, grab a drink or bite to eat and adjust our packs…then move on. ⁣⁣What we remember is the mountain goat that came up to us along the way. The clouds boiling up a mountain pass while we sat in a saddle of the mountain. The dip in a lake above tree line that was the coldest thing I’ve ever immersed myself in. Then tailgating at the end with food and drinks to recount it all. It was the journey we most enjoyed. Getting to the top is often a bit anticlimactic. This is what my guest brought to light in this episode when he cited that his focus in the second half of life has moved from, “I want to get to this place, to, I want to be on this path.”So simple and so profound. ⁣⁣This is part 3 of my series on Arthur Brooks and his new book, From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. For this discussion I brought on a co host who not only knows the message well, but is colleagues with Arthur. Arthur actually cites him in his book. ⁣⁣It’s Robert Waldinger who I did a series on in January of 2023. Bob is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital. His TED titled, “What makes a good life?” has over 43 million views and his book that culminates the project is, The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness. I experience Bob as an incredibly insightful person, an expert in the area of happiness and fulfillment, and just a complete joy of a human. It was great to talk with him again, but the insight you’re about to hear I feel is…life changing. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Without making a case that there is more negativity in our world today than ever, it’s simply more easily delivered to us through our constant devices. The media want our attention and if it bleeds it leads. Negativity gets more views. And on social media, I don’t know the exact stats, but I tend to see more sharing of and discussions around criticism and debate, than joy and peace. ⁣⁣We can’t get rid of it either, all the negativity is impossible to avoid. Not long ago we went through a covid pandemic, high racial tensions, and presidential campaigns and scandals that really upped all the volatility, and just about everyone in the country, if not the planet, is citing more anxiety, uncertainty, confusion and fear than ever. We can’t live in a bubble or a cave, so we just have to learn to deal with it. ⁣⁣This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m with my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we talk about what he is seeing with patients in his clinic and how very real this issue is, and how we can minimize it...but in truth, again, the bigger issue is combating it. Interestingly what we landed on was seeking ways to lift ourselves emotionally. I think you’ll find some tangible actions you can take from this show. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve had three guests on this show recently who really have me grappling with the realities of what we as humans say and think we want, and what our behavior proves we want. What you’re about to hear may shock you and make you take a step back, as it did me. ⁣⁣I usually give you the punchline of the episode right here in the beginning, but in this case I’m not going to…just hold tight a moment and I’ll unpack it. But you and I, right now, think we want to be happy, authentic, and healthy. But our actions show that in each case, we actually want something else…more. ⁣⁣And it’s not the same things. For each of those three issues, there is a counterfeit desire that is winning out. And to realize it is to get at the issue of significant cognitive dissonance we live in, and are suffering from. Getting aware, I believe, can give us a new lease on life. And further, if you are in business and involved with trying to offer happiness, authenticity and health to anyone, you’re about to find out what your real competition is. Come ponder and explore with me… ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How many times have you been asked, “So, what do you do?” Meaning, what work do you do. A primary way we establish hierarchy in our culture. But have you ever had anyone follow and ask why you do what you do? Have you asked yourself recently? And the answer must go deeper than just for the money. If there is no meaning for you in your work beyond money, then ask what that money is for? It’s supporting something you care about, even if it’s merely food and shelter. This was brought back to my attention by Arthur Brooks who is back with me to walk and talk through his personal Values & Habits. When I asked him about his values regarding his career he spoke to his efforts to stay aware of the why of what he does as opposed to just the what. Arthur is a Harvard Professor, a columnist at The Atlantic, ridiculously in demand speaker, and author of 12 books, the most recent being the focus of my series with him, From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. You’ll find that Arthur is a very intentional person and deeply considers all areas of his life. Spiritually he seeks where he can lift the world and not just himself. In his pursuit of health I found it interesting that he cited he’s not necessarily happy to be exercising, but it helps him be less unhappy. Interesting way to look at it. Regarding money, as his stage of life he’s eager to simplify the stuff he owns, and puts his focus on binging experiences. It’s quite an interesting journey through one of our cultures leading experts on happiness. June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i tGo to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many of you listening to this show are at or nearing the midpoint of life. The rest of you will be there before you know it. This show is geared to blow away a myth and massive problem we live within our culture. We churn and grind away to achieve and provide...and as we age we just try to buckle down and keep it going as long as we can, or as long as we feel we have to. ⁣⁣This is a message to say..."Whoa! Stop! You've totally got it wrong! You don't want to keep doing what you've been doing. Rather you want to evolve, graduate if you will, to a new and well earned second half of life. One where you move from learning and innovating and amassing, to...leveraging all you've learned. The former leads to burnout and grave dissatisfaction, the latter to the greatest joy and fulfillment life has to offer. ⁣⁣My guest, researcher and expert on this topic is Arthur Brooks. Arthur went from being a professional French horn, to earning degrees online that landed him as a think tank president amongst Ivy League scholars, which you'll hear was an embarrassment to him for a while, to today being...OK, this is long...the William Henry Bloomberg Professor of the Practice of Public Leadership at the Harvard Kennedy School, and Professor of Management Practice at the Harvard Business School, where he teaches courses on leadership, happiness, and social entrepreneurship. He is also a columnist at The Atlantic, where he writes the popular weekly “How to Build a Life” column. ⁣⁣Brooks is the author of 12 books, including the 2022 #1 New York Times bestseller From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life, which is my focus for this series. A recent Harvard Magazine article labeled Arthur as, "The Happiness Revolutionary." Somehow between his content and his personality Arthur has become a massively influential guy who is now called on and cited by people such as Oprah, the Dalai Lama and The White House. ⁣You're about to hear him school us in how our first half of life is spent leveraging fluid knowledge, and that our brain is created for this. But around the midpoint of our life, our brain has less ability for fluid knowledge and transitions to great ability in crystallized knowledge. If you are aware of and embrace this, you will find great peace and continue progress instead of feeling you are in a race for time to keep up the initiatives and pace from the first half of life.⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I staunchly believe perception is everything, and regarding our health and wellness and concerning the concept of exercise, there is a paradigm shift we can enact with ourselves that works wonders. The word exercise does not create positive feelings in most people. It sounds like a chore. The point is movement and we have to “exercise” because for most of us, our daily life does not require much of any utilization of our lungs and muscles and joints. But I want you to consider the term…athlete, and why you may want to strive to adopt it. ⁣⁣This is our Functional Friday episode where we tend to our physical and mental capacity to support us in our desired goals and achievements. Here is my setup; If you join a painting class, you might share with others that you paint. But if you do it daily or weekly and keep it up for years and get proficient, when do you refer to yourself as an artist? You don’t have to do it for money to be an artist. The literal word artist is defined as, a person who produces paintings or drawings as a profession or hobby. There you go. If you produce paintings as a hobby, you are an artist. My home contains many pieces of furniture I made out of raw aspens on our land and when people see it, they often say, “I didn’t know you were an artist!” ⁣⁣⁣So with exercise. The definition is, a person who is proficient in sports and other forms of physical exercise. I find a lot of people who engage daily in some fitness activity call themselves athletes. And I think it’s great. I was a professional athlete, as a pro cyclist. I got paid. Not much. But today I don’t have pro status or a racing license. But I ride my bike or run almost daily. I do push ups, or dips or pull ups most days. I call myself an athlete. It’s not what I do, it’s another role I’ve embraced. If you engage in a physical activity and become proficient in it…proficient, defined as competent in doing something, you can adopt the label of athlete. It’s not a chore you try to do, it’s a role you fulfill. Regarding this idea, I asked our audience on Facebook this question, “Do you think of yourself as athletic?” Over 80 comments came in that brought up some interesting issues. I truly hope it inspires you to further embrace your athletic self and from that, your long term fitness and wellness.⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices