
The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm
For people who see through the veil of the civilized paradigm.
Latest episodes

Jul 15, 2024 • 41min
How to step into your relationship more powerfully — a LIVE Coaching Call.
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who has stepped into a brand new role — he’s the step father of two teenage twin boys.
He also wants to show up powerfully for himself, his fiancé, and the boys in the family.
We talk about how his Nice Guy patterns are holding him back and keeping him from fully engaging with both his woman, and her kids. And we give him some concrete steps on how to be more powerful while also staying out of the dictatorial role and in the relational role.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver

Jul 8, 2024 • 1h 4min
How to keep your hard earned transformation with Danya River
In this episode of our live show UNcivilized UNplugged, you get to sit in with our studio audience as I chat with Danya River on how you can keep all of your hard earned transformations.
Danya is a master of the human nervous system as well as a high sought out executive coach. I know because I was someone who once sought her out and have worked with her for years now.
In this episode not only will Danya share with you ways you can work with your nervous system as opposed to working against it, stay tuned for the end when she puts you through a live experience to show you how to do this for yourself.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.

Jul 1, 2024 • 16min
My two best techniques for building an incredible life — with Traver Boehm
Last week I talked about getting your vision board to become your reality and closing the gap between the life you want to be living and the life you are living.
AND — many of you reached out and asked for techniques that you can use if you don’t have a community around you and you can’t afford to hire a coach or a consultant.
I get it. In this short solo episode I share my two favorite techniques for building an amazing life — ones I still use to this day.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.

Jun 24, 2024 • 14min
Do you need permission to live the life you want to — with Traver Boehm
In my experience of over twenty years of coaching humans, most of you will get stuck in one place — needing permission.
Whether that’s to write your book, start your business, or even just be the healthiest one in your family, permission is a big wall for many people to climb.
And — it may not be the only wall.
In this short, potent solo episode I break down the three reasons why most people don’t achieve their dreams and how you can start to change that immediately.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.

Jun 17, 2024 • 1h 2min
Art, Jiujitsu, and the UNconventional Life with Chris Haueter
Chris Haueter is one of the dirty dozen — the first 12 non Brazilian, Brazilian Jiujitsu Black Belts. He’s also a philosopher poet, an incredible historian, and a teacher.
He’s also my old instructor and my old corner man.
In this episode we get to catch up after nearly two decades and Chris shares his thoughts on a number of topics including how he built a life around teaching the art he loves.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.

Jun 10, 2024 • 32min
Developing these attributes will change your life with Traver Boehm
After coaching humans for over 20 years through the good times and the challenges of their lives, I know people and what helps us get past our blocks, our heartbreaks, and our limiting beliefs.
In this solo episode I’ll break down the six attributes I feel you need to either get through a hard time, or engage in a challenging endeavor like building a business, learning to surf, or creating the UNcivilized life of your dreams.
They are:
—Resilience
— Tenacity
— Faith
— Curiosity
— Humor
— Community
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.

Jun 3, 2024 • 45min
LIVE coaching session — Permission to go for it
This week I have something special for you, I’ve recorded a live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates.
This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with the idea that you need permission to live life on your terms, to build what you want to build, and to go for something big.
On the call is a young man named JC who’s struggling to go against the conditioning he grew up with to play it safe, “get a good job,” and do what’s reasonable. Here at UNcivilized we have no place for reasonable and playing it safe.
We’re all about following your heart and soul and letting them guide you deep into the life you truly want to life.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.

May 27, 2024 • 15min
How to best support a man on his path — w/ Traver Boehm
I get asked this question all the time so let’s dive into it. There are amazing ways you can support your man as he begins therapy, men’s work, or any other path to higher consciousness and healing.
I’ve worked with thousands of men over the years and know these three points are crucial to being there for your man, without letting it take over your own life.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.

May 20, 2024 • 45min
LIVE coaching session — Why having poor boundaries makes you angry — with Traver Boehm
This week I again have something special for you, a recorded live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates.
This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anger and don’t see the connection between having loose or porous boundaries — and the resentment and anger that naturally builds up.
On the call is a man named Kevin who gives and gives and gives and also has a lot of built up anger for the people in his life who end up leaving. This is such a common experience for all of us who struggle holding strong boundaries.
Give this a lesson as I walk Kevin through creating a strong, healthy boundary with his daughter who also happens to be his employee.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.

May 13, 2024 • 15min
If you’re using anything to escape your life, listen to this — w/ Traver Boehm
At the root of most addictive behavior is a deep dissatisfaction with one or many areas of a man’s life. I know because it wasn’t long ago that I needed to escape from my life multiple times a day with alcohol, marijuana, porn, exercise and work. Just to name a few.
In this episode I share with you the ROOT of this challenge and give you a frame for your life as a man. One that will create the type of life you don’t want to escape from. It’s not magic but it works.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode!
Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise.