The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Disclaimer: Traver’s audio is choppy but this is a great conversation so bear with us. Just like with physical health, your meditation practices will only get stronger by pushing and challenging yourself. That’s what we discussed in this episode with Steve James, also known as the Guru Viking. In this episode, Steve and I discuss long-form meditations, his current meditation practices and how he transitioned from the music industry to meditation and consciousness practices. He discusses his thoughts on relationships, sexual intimacy and how people tend to use sex in the same way they use money. About Steve James: Steve James travels internationally teaching somatic practices, meditation, as well as leading explorations in contemplative, mystic, & relational realms. Known for his direct, grounded approach and his dedication to first-hand research he has extensive experience in elite athletic performance, contemplative and spiritual disciplines, the arts, extreme outdoor survival, and human behavior. What You’ll Hear: 6:23 What Steve is building right now 7:36 How Steve transitioned from the music industry to meditation and consciousness practices 11:16 The similarities in music and meditation 15:45 Why Steve practices longer form meditations 16:48 Steve’s current meditation practice 21:50 Why you have to challenge yourself during meditation 24:14 Challenges from intimacy and relationships 27:25 Why most people assume they should be in a relationship 28:24 Closing the gap between yourself and your partner 29:03 Why a lot of people compromise in relationships and regret it 32:44 Why people endure difficult relationships when they don’t actually want a relationship at all 34:12 How relationships aren’t always nice 36:01 Why not having a sexual partner won’t save you from the burden of being in a relationship 38:01 How the needs of the race aren’t always in line with the needs of an individual 39:30 How Steve feels about relationships 42:23 Why people are having less sex than ever 45:01 The problem with sex and how it can get old if you’ve had plenty of it 47:39 What’s causes our desires for other people 49:01 Why people often are just having sex out of habit 52:38 Judging the underlying assumptions of an endeavor like hooking up 54:21 How people use sex in the same way they use money Quotes: “Music is very similar to meditation. It's just a lot more quantifiable and a lot more limited in its scope.” “It’s very possible to get so into meditation that you forget the point of it.” “Music is not only for the aficionados and that’s similar to meditation in a sense.” “I like to meditate because I’m so curious about life. It’s happening with such vividness, such incredible wonder and beauty are available in the sensory experience in the experience of oneself.” “With meditation, you really start to perceive so very deeply.” “To imagine you’re going to commit to meditation is almost as foolish as marriage.” “Very often we don’t really see people.” “We assume a lot about our environment just to reduce our processing load.” “Coming face to face with what you actually want to do is terribly threatening because it probably means you're not going to do some of the things you’re doing.” “The needs of the group are not always the same as the individual.” “A lot of the reasons that drove people together no longer exist.” “Sex itself gets old if you’re having plenty of it.” “Sex itself with it’s associated risk factors isn’t worth it. Why not stay at home and play computer games?” “Very often we have sex out of habit.”

How to be an UNcivilized man in a civilized world. by Traver Boehm

The UNcivilized Podcast: Embodying the King & Warrior Archetypes by Traver Boehm

Preference vs Prejudice - Why Men Need To Find Sovereignty by Traver Boehm

Today I spoke with a friend that I met on Instagram, Asher Packman. We discuss everything from men’s work to mental health, illness, mediation and the human experience. Asher and I chat about how he ended up doing this type of work, the losses he went through and how that grief took a toll on him. We discuss turning inward and how to overcome loss. He shares why you should listen to the messages from the universe and how to use meditation as a tool for your daily life. About Asher Packman: After nearly 20 years working with the world’s leading brands as a communications senior executive — both in-house and via his own agency, The Sauce — a series of significant life events led Asher to shift gears. Now a qualified mindset and leadership coach (Diploma of Leadership, Coaching and Mentoring), he is a certified HeartMath and Wim Hof Method instructor, as well as a KRI-certified Kundalini Yoga instructor. He has further qualifications in Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), geobiology, epigenetics and the social psychology of sport. The founder of men’s circle, Warrior Within, he is a regular speaker and facilitator at conferences and retreats and contributes to numerous sports/lifestyle/health/wellbeing websites and publications. Asher is also the current president of Meditation Australia, the national peak body representing meditation and meditation teachers, and an ambassador for various charities including Love Me Love You, MPNAA and The Resilient Leaders Foundation. A hot air balloon pilot in his younger days, Asher still enjoys watching their colorful display over Melbourne, the birthplace he returned to several years ago after stints in Hong Kong, London and Byron Bay. Connect with Asher: Website: https://www.t5d.com.au Facebook: @thefifthdirection Instagram: @ thefifthdirection_ What You’ll Hear: 2:32 A meditation to calm you down 6:09 Why Traver started Man Uncivilized 8:47 Who Asher is and what he is building 10:31 How Asher got to this point in his life 11:35 His struggles with mental health and knowing something wasn’t right 12:32 Losing his sister to suicide and how this caused everything to come crumbling down 14:04 His mom’s fight with terminal cancer and her decision to give up the battle 14:32 Getting diagnosed with blood cancer and how this has affected him 19:24 Asher’s advice for overcoming loss and heartbreak 21:15 The importance of turning the dial inward 24:12 Listening to the messages that the universe is telling you 25:02 Using meditation as a weapon and tool for your daily life 28:32 What got Asher into men’s work and realizing that other men felt the same way he did 30:50 The most surprising part about his work with men 34:58 How most men suffer in silence and don’t discuss their trauma 39:08 How technology and our current generation affects our mental health as a civilization 41:21 Why you have to go through stuff and learn to get through it 44:11 Finding time in your day to sit still If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

What you can learn from your dreams with Tom Elsner by Traver Boehm

Today I had one of my absolute favorite humans to discuss relationships, intimacy and getting in touch with your own body. I spoke with Michaela Boehm, counselor and author of the must-read book, The Wild Woman’s Way. We dive into the world of dating and how the dating game looks different because of today’s technology. She shares the need for sensitizing your relationship with your own body, why most women struggle with being honest about what they want in relationships and why men are afraid of owning their sensitivity. If you’ve been curious about how to cultivate long-lasting relationships, then you’ll want to hear this episode. About Michaela Boehm: Michaela Boehm is among the most gifted and in-demand teachers, speakers, and counselors to be found globally today. Born and raised in Austria, Michaela received degrees in Psychology and further extensive training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hypnosis, and NLP. Upon moving to the United States in 1994, Michaela established a 20+ year counseling practice logging over 40,000 client hours. She quickly became a counselor to the stars in Hollywood, California, and her on-going clients include Oscar-winning actors, producers, writers, multiple Grammy-winning musicians, CEO’s, and multi-billion dollar fund managers. Included in her clinical experience she co-founded a Malibu celebrity drug rehabilitation center, serving for 4 years as both a counselor and a treatment plan manager, subsequently consulting other facilities on treatment plans. Michaela also consults extensively with international business founders and family offices specializing in succession and second-generation wealth strategies. Connect with Michaela: Facebook @boehm.michalea Instagram @micboehm77 What You’ll Hear: 4:24 How Traver met Michaela 7:33 What Michaela focuses on in her work 10:33 What most people don’t know about Michaela 12:20 How most things revolve around intimacy 15:45 The differences between relationship issues and polarity issues 17:43 Why you need to sensitize to your relationship with your own body 19:50 Getting in touch with the messages in your own body 27:24 Dating without looking for a relationship 31:13 How online dating makes you feel further along in relationships 33:38 Being honest about what you want and how women struggle with this 40:57 How women are capable of tending to multiple domains 43:51 Why men are afraid of owning their sensitivity 46:23 How generosity of the heart is the key to long-lasting relationships 49:23 The power of positive reinforcement If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

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To get your copy of the bible of the UNcivilized Movement, please go to: www.manuncivilized.com/thebook Enjoy! Traver

To get your copy of the bible of the UNcivilized Movement, please go to: www.manuncivilized.com/thebook Enjoy! Traver