The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Lots of people are stuck at home right now contemplating how they want to move forward with their lives. One of the best decisions I've made in my life was quitting drinking. Voluntarily.  In this episode I talk about why I went this route, what some of the challenges were, and the positive outcomes that have come so far. Enjoy, Traver www.manuncivilized.com www.manuncivilized.com/thenation www.manuncivilized.com/thebook @traverboehm

Are you ready to move toward your highest evolution? If so, you’ll want to hear this episode with guest Dylan Lyon. Dylan is a coach that works with radical consciousness and heart-based intuitive guidance to help people find their true self and live the life they’re meant to live. In this episode, Dylan and I talk about his journey of choosing his own path in life. He talks about the divide between the wildness and the civilized world. He shares all about the work he does with meditation and psychedelics including how this can help you to explore your inner world. About Dylan Lyon: Dylan Lyon offers a rare blend of deep coaching, radical consciousness work and heart-based intuitive guidance in order to uplevel every area of your life and to help you get to the very core of what’s held you back from embodying your most authentic self and living the life you were born to live. He brings forth insights cultivated over the course of 9 years of dedicated inner and outer journeying. His travels around the world created unique opportunities to study alongside some of the top doctors, healers and coaches on the planet. Dylan’s gift to serve you comes from a deep well of experiential wisdom. He has the ability to go to places that others simply cannot or will not go and he does so with fierce courage, compassion and love. Connect with Dylan: Website - www.dylanlyon.com Course (Exploring Consciousness) - www.dylanlyon.com/exploringconcsiousness What You’ll Hear: 3:15 Dylan’s life story and how he lives his life 4:22 The unspoken agreement that people live in where they’re forced to lie to themselves 5:45 When Dylan made the decision to walk out of society 8:52 What happens when you step into the unknown and walk away from society 13:28 Choosing his own path and his own life 16:09 The divide between the civilized world and the wildness 16:38 Dylan’s take on society and the Coronavirus 20:57 How the collective should work through this pandemic 25:11 His advice for someone who wants to move toward their highest evolution 26:50 How that voice on the inside of you shows up whether you listen to it or not 28:31 The work Dylan does with psychedelics 34:17 How Dylan works with clients and how his course helps people shift their awareness 37:58 Learning how to navigate and explore your inner world 40:25 Why you can’t trust the system 43:20 What inspired Dylan to put his course together 49:49 How cultivating a relationship with the psychedelic helps you cultivate a relationship with yourself 51:34 Why surrender is the first step to using the medicine 52:35 What working with mushrooms can produce 55:13 How psychedelics gives you access to who you really are If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

Are you facing battles with the Shadow? Have you found that you tend to self-sabotage the things and relationships in your life? If so, you'll want to hear this episode because I brought on a great friend of mine, Connor Beaton. Connor is a coach, teacher and speaker that helps men (and women) walk through their darkness. He talks about the Shadow and what that means to him. Connor talks about managing conflict in your relationships. He also shares why you should consider challenging social agreements that you don't align with. About Connor Beaton: After apprenticing with that pupil of Carl Jung, I developed an innovative approach to healing the Shadow – the part of our psyche that causes us to self-sabotage – by drawing from experiential and training-based methodologies like Jungian psychology, somatic therapy, along with transformative breathwork and meditative practices. I’ve now been working for almost a decade as a NY-based coach, teacher, and speaker to help men (and women) from all over the world walk through their darkness and grow in the realms of mental clarity, relational communication, actualizing their potential and sexual intimacy. I have a no-BS attitude coupled with a compassionate understanding of our own human limitations. I’ve coached hundreds of men (and women) through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats and masterminds. In 2014, I founded ManTalks, a community for men looking to expand and deepen their sense of self-awareness.  Connect with Connor: Website | Man Talks | Facebook | Instagram | Podcast What You’ll Hear: 4:30 What Connor is building right now 5:32 What he’s most hopeful and scared about from the pandemic 8:36 The Shadows that come from our government 9:53 What the Shadow means to Connor 12:28 How growing up in a house with verbal and physical abuse affected his inner critic 14:04 Facing your inner demons to overcome the shadow 17:59 Why Connor made the decision to quit drinking 22:04 Why you need to challenge social agreements that don’t align with your values 23:53 What Connor does to guide people toward their purpose 28:48 Traver’s advice for finding your purpose 31:38 The invisible step theory 32:40 How to remain in the explorative, vulnerable state of a relationship when eager for love 36:04 What it means to sit with your insecurities 38:48 Getting to know what makes your partner feel the most loved 41:37 How Connor and his wife argue 44:03 How to keep conflicts with partners respectful and safe 48:03 The biggest resource that Connor could use right now Links: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode!

Is perfectionism getting in the way of your life? Are you facing the idea of a career shift? In this episode, I am joined by Julian Reeve, a speaker, coach and motivator for people going through career transitions. Right now, many people are facing career changes so I thought you’d really enjoy Julian’s take on how to navigate transition with ease. We chat about his experience of going from being a Music Director for HAMILTON to what he does now. Julian shares his experience with perfectionism and how to get back to your real, authentic self. He also dives into letting go of the pressures of society and the world. About Julian Reeve: Critically acclaimed for his work as the Music Director on the 1st U.S National Tour of the Broadway musical HAMILTON, Julian Reeve has enjoyed a successful career in music, business, and education. Born and educated in Cambridge, England, he has toured the world with over twenty-five theatrical productions, whilst remaining dedicated to his work as an educator in the U.S, Europe and Japan. Outside of music, he has founded three businesses in the creative sector, including the boutique talent agency ‘Boland & Reeve’ in London’s West End and The Elev8 Workshop Series in Los Angeles. Julian experienced a major life change in early 2019, having to quit his career as a performer due to injury. He now works as a speaker, coach, and motivator, helping people facing career change find clarity in their situations through coaching and workshops. He is also a regular speaker on the keynote circuit, with talks across numerous subjects including Perfectionism, which was also the focus of his TEDx Talk released earlier this year. Connect with Julian: Website | Instagram What You’ll Hear: 2:11 Who Julian is and why he’s an expert in transition 8:08 The moment he realized he had to quit due to his injury 11:32 How everyone experiences transition differently based on their life experience 14:22 Making decisions that don’t take you away from your true authenticity 16:13 When he realized that it was real and he was leaving HAMILTON 21:21 His advice for people in the inquiry of what they might want to do 26:37 Why your destination needs to be true before moving to the next level 30:29 How to get to real authenticity 34:17 Why it’s okay to not know what you want to do 37:25 The dilemma he faced when he had a heart attack and how this made him realize his relationship with perfectionism 42:14 His experience of recovering from perfectionism 44:18 How perfectionism is bringing people to you 51:50 Julian’s definition of uncivilized Links: What Color Is Your Parachute? 2020: A Practical Manual for Job-Hunters and Career-Changers Reframing Perfectionism TEDx Talk If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

The power of pleasure is life-giving. Pleasure can be used to help you attain new levels of consciousness and enlightenment. This episode is filled with wisdom from holistic sex and intimacy coach Jamie Thompson. Her guidance for women is unmatched and she truly helps women discover how to reprioritize and take action on what they want. Jamie touches on her own experiences with cervical orgasms and how they differ from g-spot and clitoral orgasms. She talks about developing erotic rituals into your life and how to get in touch with your feminine body. We also explore developing a posture of availability and how you can accept masculine support even during a time of social isolation. About Jamie Thompson: I’m Jamie Elizabeth Thompson and helping high caliber people like you to navigate intimate desire and differences with loving, open communication is my life’s mission. You deserve to be completely met, deeply connected and profoundly satisfied in your relationship and sex life. Connect with Jamie: Website | Facebook | Instagram | Course Links: Awakening Your Erotic Muse - www.awakeningyoureroticmuse.com What You’ll Hear: 3:55 How Jamie is feeling during this season 8:06 Learning to successfully navigate guilt 10:42 Having the conversations that matter in your relationships 14:17 A reprioritizing exercise you can do 16:54 How you can take action even while in social isolation 19:11 Why now is a great time to get in touch with your feminine body 21:18 Opening a dialogue with what’s happening in your body 22:19 The first step in getting reconnected with your sexuality 24:54 How cervical orgasms have opened her up to a deeper dimension 26:06 Her first cervical orgasm experience 28:43 Developing erotic rituals into your life 31:06 Why you don’t need to be in a relationship to have pleasure 35:10 How to develop a posture of availability 37:12 How Jamie is feeling right now about social isolation and what she’s doing to accept masculine energy and support 42:47 Cutting through the ego battle and letting your heart speak Quotes: “Whatever our deep-rooted issues are that are not seen are going to come out right now.” “Actually look at the values and what matters and set some boundaries.” “Relationship, intimacy, community and sex really matter to people.” “How can I adjust and make space for things that matter?” “There’s so much inner work that needs to take place to change the inner landscape to have us be a match for what we really want externally.” “I look at this as a lifelong journey that I am a lifelong student of.” “Moving through the reflexology points that live on your cervix. It’s just like reflexology on your feet and neck, if they don’t work out they just stay there, build up more tension and eventually cause more problems.” “It’s just entering a space where spirituality and sexuality meet.” “I love ritual instead of routine because it’s like bringing sacredness and reverence to the mundane.” “It’s our birthright to have our own turn-ons.” “Show up with 100% of what you want and then stick around to negotiate.” If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

Now more than ever, women need men to show up for them. As most of us are stuck at home, there are a lot of different things running through our minds as men right now. Whether you’re in a relationship and living with your partner or single and living alone, this episode with holistic sex and intimacy coach Jamie Thompson will help you to realign with your own sexual practice. She shares how men can focus on their relationships during this time. She dives into how to develop a sex practice that is about more than friction. She also gives some insight into the things you can do to cultivate an earth-shattering sex life. About Jamie Thompson: I’m Jamie Elizabeth Thompson and helping high caliber people like you to navigate intimate desire and differences with loving, open communication is my life’s mission. You deserve to be completely met, deeply connected and profoundly satisfied in your relationship and sex life. Connect with Jamie: Website | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube Links: The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know - www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Ma…uld/dp/0062513362 The Erotic Menu - jamieelizabeththompson.com/eroticmenu/ What You’ll Hear: 3:01 What Jamie does as a holistic sex and intimacy coach 4:23 What is being asked of men right now that they don’t know 6:09 How Jamie feels like as a woman when she has authentic masculine support 8:18 Why now is a great time for men to show up for women 9:49 The difference between our physical, emotional, erotic, mental and spiritual bodies 12:50 Why the person with desires needs to make the first move 15:14 Bringing curiosity and grace to your conversations with romantic partners 17:30 Her recommendations for people who are stuck at home with partners and having relationship difficulties 21:31 Why now is the time for men to step up 22:32 Her advice for men who want to cultivate the energy of prioritizing their relationship 27:12 How men need to express themselves to other men 30:38 Why you need to learn to be okay with being alone 32:08 Developing a sexual practice that is about more than just friction 34:45 What two things you want to cultivate when creating an earth-shattering sex life 36:53 Cultivating sensitivity as a man 39:14 Learning to develop the “heart-cock” connection 40:35 How to approach your partner in a way that’s received well about sexual desires during this time of great fear in the world Quotes: “Presence is the greatest aphrodisiac. Presence is the thing that makes me feel as a woman that I am being held and there’s something safe to lean into.” “Asking the right questions will get you different answers.” “Whoever has the awareness or desire is accountable to make the first move.” “Women are more relational creatures and men are more problem-solving creatures.” “Women need you right now.” “Connection and intimacy are really what matters.” “Cultivating a sexual practice is a wonderful thing to do during this time.” “Bring attention and curiosity into your body.” If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

Have you ever considered how a pandemic such as the one we’re facing in today’s world could drastically shift the way the world looks at and appreciates masculinity? In this episode, I am joined by Jack Donovan, author of The Way of Men to discuss masculinity and how this pandemic could reshape men and the way that the world looks at men in culture. We discuss a possible resurgence of tribalism, why many men are disconnected from leading and why ritual is essential for masculinity. About Jack Donovan: Jack Donovan has been writing and speaking about masculinity, masculine philosophy and spirituality for over a decade. His foundational book, The Way of Men, has sold over 100,000 copies worldwide and has been translated into French, German, Portuguese, Spanish and Polish. Donovan is an occasional speaker and often appears on podcasts to discuss masculinity and the challenges faced by men who want to live masculine lives in the 21st Century. He hosts a new podcast titled Start the World. He lives in the Pacific Northwest, where he has constructed an “experimental pagan ritual space” called “Waldgang,” somewhere in the hinterlands. Connect with Jack: Website | YouTube | Instagram What You’ll Hear: 2:51 Jack’s experience of navigating the coronavirus pandemic so far 3:56 His creative process and tips for people using this time to create 5:07 His best piece of advice for writers 5:38 The problem that Jack was trying to solve by writing his book 9:44 How the current pandemic will affect the world’s take on masculinity 10:40 Why men need to be masculine for themselves 13:46 How this pandemic will test and reshape men 16:28 Why men feel disconnected from the leading and decision-making process 19:28 Why masculinity is a tricky thing to speak about 23:52 Jack’s thoughts on why society needs bigger than life people to help us want to be better 25:35 Approaching his life and work as an artist before approaching it as a man 28:49 How he sees the world differently as an artist 32:31 What he loves most about art 35:38 Being consistent with your brand, who you are and what you put out into the world 36:47 A resurgence of tribalism in men right now 41:10 His thoughts on a reorganization of priority around tribalism 46:24 Why Jack defines himself as a pagan and what that means 50:44 The power of ritual and what it’s done for male culture 54:45 How the absence of ritual can be very detrimental to men and their sense of belonging 55:21 What drew Jack to jiu-jitsu 59:31 The most prolific questions that Jack gets from people Quotes: “I feel like if things get really bad here then the rest of the world is already on fire.” “The hardest part of writing is organization.” “At the end of the day if you’re not saying something that matters or solving a problem for people then who cares?” “Masculinity is very poorly defined.” “Masculinity is a tricky thing to speak about because it calls your own masculinity into question with both men and women.” “I think about the big story of my life and that’s kind of how I make a lot of decisions.” “You want to build a local network of people who are on the same page as you that you can depend on.” “Ritual melds the subconscious with the conscious.” “If you’re not in the mainstream then your kind of a barbarian and your kind of uncivilized in some ways.” Links: If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

How to use the 5 Pillars of UNcivilized Masculinity to turn this challenge into your greatest teacher. Applicable to both men and women.

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Are you operating from love or fear? Today’s guest, Kendra Adachi came on to talk about the changes that can be made in your life by doing things out of love instead of from a place of fear. Kendra moved toward a healthier lifestyle after realizing her body was addicted to processed foods and on this episode, she shares why she prescribes movement as a form of healing to her clients, how to recognize your own bio-individuality when making food choices and paying attention to your mental and emotional states when you’re consuming food. We discuss becoming the CEO of your own health and feeling into whether a decision will expand you or contract you. About Kendra Adachi: Kendra Adachi is a mentor, writer, mental health advocate and ambassador of sexual empowerment. Kendra’s work is to empower people to exist vibrantly alive and to be genuinely happy. She does this by creating enriching food, connecting with our deepest sensuality as well as working with clients to integrate this nourishment into all contexts of their wellbeing through her 1 on 1 mentoring and writing. Kendra can currently be found freelance writing for nature photographers and collaborating with like-minded artists harnessing creative expression. Connect with Kendra: Website: www.adachikendra.com Instagram @adachikendra What You’ll Hear: 4:56 Realizing her body was addicted to processed foods 6:27 How nut butter became a staple in her life 9:13 What Kendra is passionate about and working on right now 10:48 The catalyst that made Kendra make changes 13:31 Getting out of your mind and asking your body what it wants you to do 15:54 What starts to happen when Kendra prescribes movement to clients 18:46 Checking in with yourself and deciding if you’re doing something out of fear or love 21:54 Getting someone to shift from doing it from fear to doing it from a space of love 26:44 Kendra’s experience with her eating disorder 30:10 Recognizing your unique bio-individuality when making food choices 31:32 Paying attention to your emotional state while your eating food 34:58 Feeling into if something will cause you to expand or contract 39:42 Being the CEO of your own health Quotes: “I love to inspire enthusiastically through the physical body.” “I support people in making truthful, honest decisions for themselves.” “When you truly have that foundation of loving yourself, that is the essence that is going to support how you’ll experience life.” “Do it out of love, not out of fear.” “Make the things you’re passionate about a priority.” “When I’m healthy, I can do the things I love more.” “Community and contribution is health.” If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode!