Chris Haueter is one of the dirty dozen — the first 12 non Brazilian, Brazilian Jiujitsu Black Belts. He’s also a philosopher poet, an incredible historian, and a teacher. He’s also my old instructor and my old corner man. In this episode we get to catch up after nearly two decades and Chris shares his thoughts on a number of topics including how he built a life around teaching the art he loves. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

After coaching humans for over 20 years through the good times and the challenges of their lives, I know people and what helps us get past our blocks, our heartbreaks, and our limiting beliefs. In this solo episode I’ll break down the six attributes I feel you need to either get through a hard time, or engage in a challenging endeavor like building a business, learning to surf, or creating the UNcivilized life of your dreams. They are: —Resilience — Tenacity — Faith — Curiosity — Humor — Community Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

This week I have something special for you, I’ve recorded a live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates.  This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with the idea that you need permission to live life on your terms, to build what you want to build, and to go for something big. On the call is a young man named JC who’s struggling to go against the conditioning he grew up with to play it safe, “get a good job,” and do what’s reasonable. Here at UNcivilized we have no place for reasonable and playing it safe. We’re all about following your heart and soul and letting them guide you deep into the life you truly want to life.  Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

I get asked this question all the time so let’s dive into it. There are amazing ways you can support your man as he begins therapy, men’s work, or any other path to higher consciousness and healing. I’ve worked with thousands of men over the years and know these three points are crucial to being there for your man, without letting it take over your own life. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

This week I again have something special for you, a recorded live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates.  This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anger and don’t see the connection between having loose or porous boundaries — and the resentment and anger that naturally builds up. On the call is a man named Kevin who gives and gives and gives and also has a lot of built up anger for the people in his life who end up leaving. This is such a common experience for all of us who struggle holding strong boundaries. Give this a lesson as I walk Kevin through creating a strong, healthy boundary with his daughter who also happens to be his employee. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

At the root of most addictive behavior is a deep dissatisfaction with one or many areas of a man’s life. I know because it wasn’t long ago that I needed to escape from my life multiple times a day with alcohol, marijuana, porn, exercise and work. Just to name a few. In this episode I share with you the ROOT of this challenge and give you a frame for your life as a man. One that will create the type of life you don’t want to escape from. It’s not magic but it works. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

This past month I’ve been on the phone with far too many men who are stuck in bad relationships — and refuse to leave them.  Why? Because they’ve made it some sort of badge of honor to stay and suffer rather than leave and start over. In this episode I break down how you can shift areas of your marriage or relationship, and then why it’s more than okay, no matter what society tells you, to seek your happiness elsewhere. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

In this fiery solo episode I break down The 4B Movement coming out of South Korea, The Passport Bro Movement here in the US, and the wildly needed UNcivilized Relationship Paradigm. This episode is going to upset a lot of folks because, well, I’m in support of both movements despite the massive implications they will have societally. And I see them both as canaries in the relationship coal mine indicative of massive changes that need to come forward. AND — at the end I outline a new way of relationship, one I feel is long overdue.  Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.⁠

What a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come to light for being toxic and horrible — at the same time. For us at UNcivilized, this is a sign that the civilized veil is falling, truth is emerging, and as men — it’s time for us to deal with what’s in our own shadowy closets. In this solo episode I talk about what I see and most importantly, how you can make positive changes in your own life because of it. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

I’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it’s taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick. Thus I’m now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive to Nice Guys. In this short solo episode I break down why your need to belong may be strangling you of your authentic expression and I give you three steps on how to begin to shift the tides Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.