The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Have you ever heard the famous phrase "there are many fish in the sea"? That's basically the dating world. We meet many types of people with different personalities, tastes, goals, and desires. Now imagine being a divorced man who was married for years getting back in the dating ring. It's like entering an alien planet even though he has been in that situation before. But after a divorce, we are no longer the same; our priorities, tastes, and life change entirely. Today's guest is a relationship expert, and she is here to teach us how to enter the dating world successfully.  ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. ABOUT KIMBERLY HILLS  Kimberly Hill is Men's Dating & Relationship Coach. Her goal is simple, to support you to achieve your goals within dating and relationships.  CONNECT WITH KIMBERLY  Website: https://kimberlyninahill.com/  IG: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlyninahill/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUYV4zHRCaxGbZpt5_KkpiQ  WHAT YOU WILL HEAR  [1:47] Meeting today's guest.  [12:43] What you need to know before you start dating after a divorce.  [15:37] Is the physique more attractive than the personality?  [17:30] We all need to heal before returning to life as a couple.  [19:59] Get clear on what you're looking for.  [27:19] How to start dating  [37:26] How to start a conversation on a dating app?  [42:48] How to meet them for the first time?  [47:30] Cybernetics red flag.  [50:54] Common mistakes on the first date.  [53:42] Men reframing rejection.  If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.  Find Traver on Instagram @traverBoehm      Get a copy my book, Man UNcivilized    Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.

Healing has different paths to travel and reach it. Today’s guest, George Kalantzis, decided to record his experiences, pain, grief, and thoughts in a journal that led him to find new talent. A journal that became a book, reaching hundreds of people who thank him for changing their lives. This book tells a story of overcoming, where its author shares his battle with depression, addictions, and his divorce. There is something about writing that allows us to vent, express ourselves clearly, create a fantasy story that takes us away from our problems. As a writer and author, I can say that it is a healing experience that everyone should try. ABOUT GEORGE KALANTZIS. George Kalantzis is a Marine Corps combat veteran with over ten years of experience overseeing collaborative teams and managing complex projects in high-pressure, rapidly changing environments. Today, George empowers people to move through the toughest days of their lives at The Art Of Tough Transitions. A single dad to a five-year-old daughter, George lives in New Hampshire, where he enjoys the great outdoors and faces one of his toughest transitions to date—navigating the twists and turns that come from raising a little girl in today's world. CONNECT WITH GEORGE. Website: https://theartoftoughtransitions.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/_georgekalantzis/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/Theartoftoughtransitions YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcO57OUwl4rLLP8AChV-hXA?view_as=subscriber WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:37] Meet George K. [10:00] Transitioning the military system: the good and the bad. [14:43] An experience that changed his life. [20:21] Deconstructing his identity. [27:06] The freedom that exists in writing. [30:28] Generating an impact through captured thoughts. [33:43] The creative process behind the book. [42:05] What will I do next? [44:51] It's never too late to reinvent yourself. [48:02] The unintended consequence and challenge. [50:14] What would you say to your past self? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Find Traver on Instagram @traverBoehm     Get a copy my book, Man UNcivilized   Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.

If we think about the problem that men currently face in society, what would it be? According to Johnny King's opinion, he thinks of the unhealed wounds caused by parents, especially the father figure in our lives. After a year of coaching, he concluded that we must all begin to heal our wounds to enjoy a new life where peace, happiness, and balance rule our life and become the king of our kingdom. Johnny's story is interesting since after hating his father for many years, a confession changed everything and gave a 180-degree turn in their relationship, making him his best friend. A story that will make us understand that forgiveness is the best way to heal. About Johnny King Before Johnny King became a transformational coach for men to help them reach their highest potential, he first had to discover his own. Amidst the recession of 2010, Johnny was broke: $35,000 in debt, jobless, and picking up the pieces of a failed marriage. He thought he was done but, little did he know it was just the start of his journey. Over the next few years, Johnny built multiple successful businesses.  Now he leads a men's group and produces a podcast. King systemized his habits and routines to create a life he could fall in love with. He's now teaching others those tools so you can too own your day, realize your dreams, and truly become the King or Queen of your kingdom. Connect with Johnny Website: www.johnnyking.com IG: @johnnyking FB: www.facebook.com/JohnnyKingMensCoach What you will hear [4:47] Meeting today's guest. [7:01] The first step to transition. [12:56] The fear of coaching men. [16:32] The challenges and benefits of writing a book. [19:11] Johnny's book. [24:14] Putting emotions on paper. [32:32] The desire to answer every man's questions. [35:39] The momentary happiness. [38:43] The challenges for men in today's society. [39:35] A father and son healing. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Find Traver on Instagram @traverBoehm     Get a copy my book, Man UNcivilized   Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.

We all know the big Traumas are things we have to address with professional help. Yet how many of us are walking around with a backpack of little traumas that we’ve deemed too insignificant to address. In this solo episode I dive into the power of letting go of the accumulated grief so many men and women are still being hurt by. Enjoy, Traver

We all know the healing methods such as going to therapy, breathwork, psychologists, but have you ever thought that the use of the MDMA may be all you need? Today's guest, Dr. Carla June Clements, learned about the benefits of psychedelics in the '60s before it was outlawed. In this episode, she shared with us her point of view on the use of psychedelics for therapy and personal healing. ABOUT DR. CARLA CLEMENTS Dr. Carla Clements (PhD, LPC, BCPB) has been a professor at Naropa University in Boulder, Colorado, in the Mindfulness-Based Transpersonal Psychology Department for the last 15 years. She was the chair of the department for a decade, and taught Assessments, Group Dynamics, Helping Relationships, and Transpersonal Psychology. In May 2018, she retired to become the Principal Investigator of the DMTx program. Carla has also maintained a private practice in psychotherapy, specializing in the treatment of PTSD in women for the past 30 years. For three years, Carla was the Independent Rater for the MAPS-sponsored phase 2 study of MDMA-assisted psychotherapy for treatment resistant, chronic PTSD. This experience renewed a lifelong interest in consciousness-expanding compounds which she continues to research today CONNECT WITH CARLA LinkedIN: Carla Clements Email: drcjclements@amazon.com Website: Medicinal Mindfulness  WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [3:57] Meeting today's guest [9:30] Using psychedelics as a method of healing [12:53] Experiencing psychedelics. [15:35] Transpersonal psychology. [23:26] The benefits of MDMA therapy. [30:46] Studies that approve the use of psychedelics. [37:50] How to use it responsibly and who shouldn't use it? [42:02] Post-traumatic growth. [45:23] How can the couple support the use of this method? [50:40] What can we do for Carla?Dr. Carla Clements — MDMA, psychedelics and the future of therapy. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Find Traver on Instagram @traverBoehm     Get a copy my book, Man UNcivilized   Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.

We have heard millions of times the story of the man who has everything and loses it all. It may sound cliche but it is so well-known because it is a reality. Unlike other people, today's guest, Robert Althuis, always knew that inside him was more than having money. Robert had more to offer. He just needed to light that spark. Unfortunately, the spark was lit the day he hit rock bottom. After going through such arduous moments —In Robert's case, going bankrupt and divorcing in 2017—many people would fall into addiction, but he did it differently. His biggest motivation to get ahead? Their children. An episode that reflects how life can change from one moment to another. Do not miss it. ABOUT ROBERT  ALTHUIS Robert Althuis is the founder of The Whisperer, a mindfulness organization that provides coaching, strategies, tools, and techniques to help private clients and businesses find their why so they can become a force of good in the world. This Ivy League-educated leader was once a Fortune 100 corporate executive and later a successful real estate and private equity entrepreneur. Today, he resides in Coral Gables, Florida, and is a father, artist, photographer, avid yogi (RYT-200), CrossFitter, kite surfer, and an active dive volunteer and former Board Member of the Coral Restoration Foundation in the Florida Keys. CONNECT WITH ROBERT Website: https://www.neverenoughitis.com Instagram: @robertalthuis LinkedIN: Robert Althuis Facebook WHAT YOU WILL HEAR: [2:53] Meeting today's guest. [5:19] The journey of the modern man. [7:25] The game man and the spiritual place. [9:11] Suppressing a desire. [12:26] Addictions and the control they exert over people. [17:28] From the financial win to ruin. [19:51] Discovering the exit of the rock bottom. [29:02] Robert's book, Never Enoughitis. [35:14] Tips to make your world efficient. [40:00] The new reality of the business world. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Find Traver on Instagram @traverBoehm     Get a copy my book, Man UNcivilized   Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.

Yesterday was the four year anniversary of my idea — maybe UNcivilized is the way to go vs being civilized. What a long strange trip it’s been since! In this solo episode I break down the three main lessons I’ve learned over this journey. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.

Never forget life can change in a blink of an eye. One day everything is okay, and the other, you can wake up inside an MRI machine scared and asking yourself what happened. One day, you are married, and the other, you are signing a divorce paper. One day, you can wake up and decide to change your life, start a transformational path and walk in with no turning back. One day, you can be on your way to happiness and peace and find success and define it your way. Today we will hear the transformative and impressive journey of our guest Joy Dushey. A woman who, despite having lived experiences that would break anyone's heart, turned them into strength, knowledge and wisdom. After suffering a stroke at the age of 29, the loss of her brother, and ending her marriage, she knew how to get up and find her voice, passion, and motivation to live a plentiful life. Now, from her personal experience and her professionalism as a coach, she will talk to us in today's episode about the importance of slowing down. Also, we will dive into relationships, breathwork, support, and transformations. ABOUT JOY DUSHEY Joy Dushey is a New York based transformative coach , holistic guide , mentor and Breathwork facilitator. She specializes in inspiring people of all ages to start living optimal vital lives by nurturing the balance of mind body and spirit and empowers them to living more authentically and coming back to their true essence. Her greatest passion is in building conscious community and cocreating with like minded innovators. With all that Joy is up to, she maintains a curious mind with an open heart. She’s curious about the universe’s endless possibilities At the age of 29 Joy faced the biggest adversity of her life when she suffered an ischemic stroke that ultimately led to a most profound transformation embarking on a Holistic Path. Through Spiritual teachings, Holistic education and her life experiences she formulated The Joyful Approach lifestyle system and a platform for inspiring positive impact. As a transformative coach & Spiritual guide, Joy maintains a curious mind with an open heart. She’s curious about the universe’s endless possibilities. CONNECT WITH JOY Website: https://thejoyfulapproach.com Instagram @thejoyfulapproach :https://www.instagram.com/thejoyfulapproach/ Facebook :@Thejoyfulapproach WHAT YOU WILL HEAR: [2:40] A transformative coach. [4:48] Don't rush. Slow down. [10:39] Joy's story. 16:38] How it feels to have a stroke and its recovery. [22:43] Redesigning the relationship with reality. [29:55] An easy divorce. [34:20] The purpose of a conscious relationship. [39:02] Conscious uncoupling. [47:16] The best way to support a woman who is experiencing a transformation. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.

It's okay to have feelings. It's okay to cry. The only thing that is not okay is to hide what you feel just because "men don't cry." We live in a society that taught men to be this stereotype of strong and dominant macho men. But, what does it mean to be a man? There is no single concept; there are millions, so do not cling to one. When starting his way through the man's work, today's guest Dene Maria Sebastiana discovered that he had a wound that he had never healed; a father wound. A life-changing initiation (according to Dene's words) led him to help men open their hearts, heal and live fully. Today you will hear this pleasant conversation where we will develop topics such as man work and everything related to it. We will touch on an important point, such as pain and why we should allow ourselves to feel it. ABOUT DENE MARIA SEBASTIANA (Dennis Mead-Shikaly) was born and raised in New York, and now lives in Tucson, AZ. He is a soul coach, teacher, facilitator, shaman, and leader emeritus. Dene works with people who truly desire an in-depth look at their lives, and who are willing to break through their old, unconsciously embedded patterns. The intention is to integrate, evolve, and live fully in these radically changing times. Dene brings deep caring and compassion along with a multi-level capacity to get to the heart of the matter. He believes that the alignment of head-heart-gut-sex/creativity will always lead to right action: clear, compassionate, effective. CONNECT WITH DENE Website: http://sunmooncoaching.com/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:25] Meet Dene. [5:03] An initiation that changed his life forever. [9:29] The inner work affects the outer life. [18:59] Toxic masculinity. [24:26] We need a cultural awakening. [29:17] Learning to distinguish feelings. [34:03] Two years of celibacy. [36:50] Man challenges before and after covid. [41:40] Why do we need more men's circles? [47:28] A hope placed on men. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Find Traver on Instagram @traverBoehm     Get a copy my book, Man UNcivilized   Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.

When we fall, we have two options, to keep on the ground or stand up and turn it into a new opportunity. After being one of the main heads of a multimillion-dollar company, today's guest, Rick Ellis, in his mid 50's lost everything. A martial arts artist determined to confront his truth. Rick began his path of recreating himself, mastering jiu-jitsu, and opening his YouTube channel, The Art of Skill. Today Rick will share with us his wisdom. We will dive into transitions, why he needed to target his content to his male audience, and how he teaches people to be their higher selves. He is undoubtedly a man to admire, who leaves us the following message: "Be that guy that at 57, 56 years old, literally loses everything and stand up thinking, what the fuck am I gonna do when I grow up?" Enjoy the episode. ABOUT RICK ELLIS Rick Ellis has had an eclectic career as a musician, audio engineer, visual designer, programmer, and software entrepreneur. Somewhere along the way he discovered Jiu Jitsu and became obsessed with it. Rick would go on to earn his blackbelt under Roy Dean. He currently runs The Art of Skill YouTube channel, where topics related to maximum human performance, aging athletes, men’s issues, and BJJ are discussed. He also teaches BJJ nightly at Third Way Jiu Jitsu in Wyoming. CONNECT WITH RICK Website: https://thirdwayjiujitsu.com/ Instagram: @thirdwayjiujitsu  Facebook Youtube: @theartofskill  WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [5:33] A YouTube channel for personal improvement. [10:04] How to make a graceful transition in your life. [17:51] A valuable piece of software in the early days of the internet [26:46] "Just do it." [31:38] A content only for men. [36:13] What is manhood for you? [45:32] Teaching to be your best self. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Find Traver on Instagram @traverBoehm     Get a copy my book, Man UNcivilized   Join us on the New Year's Costa Rica Unfolding Retreat Dec. 27th 2021- Jan 3, 2022.