The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

In this solo episode, I take a listener’s challenge he’s having in his relationship and dive into it. He had found that he and his wife were in a pattern of ending the day sitting on the coach, watching tv night after night. They weren’t talking, they weren’t connecting and they weren’t having sex. This is an episode for anyone in a relationship or anyone who plans to be in a relationship! Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

This former gang member sentenced to 24 years in prison is the perfect example of how transformation exists if we feel supported and heard. Today's guest is Eldra Jackson. At just 14 years old, Eldra was convicted of a series of gang violence crimes. Locked up in prison, he had to live alone with his mind due to the environment around him until the Inside Circle community gave him the opportunity to transform himself. Eldra, who is the Co-executive Director of the aforementioned non-profit community, teaches incarcerated, former, and young people to achieve self-acceptance. He says self-awareness is capable of great things within us. Listen to this magnificent story of overcoming and healing, where a man “found freedom in a life sentence.” ABOUT ELDRA JACKSON Writer, speaker, and advocate for at-risk youth, criminal justice rehabilitation, community building, and overcoming toxic masculinity. As a living example of successful rehabilitation and re-entry, his life's work now — as a facilitator, trainer, and mentor — includes actively supporting others in overcoming their limiting beliefs. CONNECT WITH ELDRA Website: www.insidecircle.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InsideCircleOrg/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:38] Who's Eldra Jackson? [5:46] The feeling after the verdict. [7:53] Prison survival plan. [9:04] The most challenging part of being in prison. [11:10] How to deal with loneliness in prison. [12:00] The positive consequence of being in prison. [13:03] The Inside Circle job and how this community changed his life. [22:21] Finding freedom in prison. [27:33] What is life like after prison? [30:34] How healing circles can change lives. [34:00] What can society do to help the incarcerated? [46:08] Current generation VS. the previous ones. [48:44] Where are we going as a society? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

This solo episode is inspired by another Instagram question I got about how to navigate the loss of marriage when your spouse suddenly ups and leaves and dives right into a brand new relationship. While I hope this never happens to you, if it does, here are some ways to cope with the loss and move powerfully forward. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

There is a belief that the first responders are broken after their service. Although it is not entirely untrue—since some suffer from PTSD—there is always room to heal. Today's guest is Tom Gaines, a man passionate about serving and helping others. This led him to serve as a military and special force for several years. In this episode, Tom will be talking about service and the importance of aligning your values ​​with those of the organizations you work for or serve. Furthermore, we will dive into the challenges that come with being a man in today's society, and the feeling of loneliness for first responders. You're not alone. There are always people willing to help you. ABOUT TOM GAINES The son of a military father, Tom studied history at the University of Tennessee. At 17, he was an army officer, taking him to serve in Iraq and Naples, Italy. In 2014, he studied special operations, a position he continues doing to this day. CONNECT WITH TOM WHAT YOU WILL HEAR. [2:25] Who's Tom Gaines? [8:42] Is there a mental preparation to be outside the wire? [11:47] The importance of managing your emotions as a military person. [16:45] How does not having control over decisions affect us? [20:00] The power of values. [32:24] The unintended challenges of belonging to the special forces. [36:34] The current challenges we face as men. [40:35] Finding a middle ground between the primal and the divine. [43:05] The importance of learning to heal. [48:32] Connect with Tom. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Click here for dates and to signup for Summer Initiation in Colorado. Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

This episode is inspired by an Instagram message I got asking how I built a powerful network of amazing male friends. It’s not lost on me that many men suffer from a lack of friendship, or are dissatisfied with the depth they have with their friend group. I count myself as extremely fortunate to have the circle I do. In this episode I dive into ways that men can build and maintain deep friendships with other men. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Click here for dates and to signup for Summer Initiation in Colorado. Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

Men and relationship are often considered to be like oil and water, but why is that? When I asked my audience what questions they have as men, and for men, about relationship challenges — my inbox was flooded. For this special episode of the podcast, we recorded a live call with over 100 people in attendance and took questions from the audience about how men can be more successful in relationship and how people in relationships with men can better understand them. Hang on to your hat for this one!Cheers, Traver⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠.If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

Loving his partner and desiring another woman; the duality of men.According to Sigmund Freud's theory named The Madonna-whore Complex, there can be no love in man's desire and vice versa. To discuss and dive better into this psychological complex, the sex and relationship coach, Jamie Elizabeth Thompson, will join us in this episode.You will learn how to communicate your desires as a couple, why men suffer from this complex, and how to solve it.Could any man in the world love and desire his partner at the same time? Let's hear what Jaime has to say.⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠.ABOUT JAMIE ELIZABETH THOMPSONJamie helps high-caliber people to navigate intimate desires and differences with loving, open communication. She believes people deserve to be completely met, deeply connected, and profoundly satisfied in their relationship and sex life.CONNECT WITH JAMIEWebsite: https://awakenedwoman.life/paths/erotic-muse/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/holisticsexcoach/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabethWHAT YOU'LL HEAR[2:55] Who's Jamie Thompson[4:18] What does embodying our erotic expression mean?[8:23] Celebrate your desires while respecting your partner's.[16:22] What's the Madonna-whore Complex?[26:22] Why does this complex prevent you from sexually desiring your partner?[30:27] Does this complex also exist in men?[39:02] How does this complex play out in relationships?[43:24] How do personal differences affect relationships?[50:31] How to connect with Jamie?If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

 This is a major block for so many men — and it shouldn’t be. Doing personal work, growth work, and/or healing work is the furthest thing from selfish. In fact, it’s the opposite. The stronger and healthier you make yourself, the more you can provide and guide those around you. In this quick and dirty solo episode, I dive into all of this. If it lands, please share it with one man in your life. Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Click here for dates and to signup for Summer Initiation in Colorado. Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

In this extraordinary episode, The UNcivilized Nation Elder Council, Duey Freeman and Mark Sylvester chime in live from the Uncivilized Men’s Initiation where they share their journey as fathers, grandfathers, healers, businessmen, and elders. They also field questions directly from the men at the event. This is one of the most profound conversations I’ve ever heard in my life and is a must listen. If you’re a human, you need to listen to this episode. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Click here for dates and to signup for Summer Initiation in Colorado. Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

Imagine growing up with the talent of teaching and advising your parents from a very young age; this is the story of today's guest, Jayaji. An unusual story and life. It all started when his mother's psychic friend predicted his future at first sight. After many years, that vision became a reality because today, Jayaji is a yoga teacher and spiritual guide. From Australia to Guatemala, he still has a long way to go and hundreds of people to guide. Don't miss Jayaji's story! I'm sure you're going to love it. ABOUT JAYAJI Founder of Sound Ceremony, Jayā Saraswatī, Floresta Atitlan, and co-owner of the Yoga Forest. Author of more than five published books and two hymns (medicine hymn books). CONNECT WITH JAYAJI Website: https://linktr.ee/jayajii Instagram: @jayajii WHAT YOU'LL HEAR [3:14] Who's Jayaji. [4:50] Influenced by music and new age culture. [9:24] Thinking outside the box. [11:05] Where does true spiritual awakening come from? [16:00] Marrying music and spirituality. [23:04] The challenges of moving to a foreign country. [29:20] The relationship with the word practice. [37:30] A healthy relationship with our emotions. [40:07] Contemplating what it means to exist in the world as a man. [45:28] The male and female roles in marriage. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Click here for dates and to signup for Summer Initiation in Colorado. Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized