The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Being on the verge of death puts into perspective what we have been doing with our lives. Surfing is one of the most beautiful and liberating sports that can exist, but it can also be one of the most dangerous. If you don't believe me, ask our guest, Koa Smith. Koa is a professional surfer who suffered a traumatic brain injury that puts his life in perspective. During his healing journey, he found the answers he was looking for about the incident with the help of psilocybin mushrooms. ABOUT KOA SMITH Koa Smith is a professional freelance surfer who travels around the world surfing the biggest waves and competes in national surfing competitions. CONNECT WITH KOA Instagram: @koasmith Youtube: @itsKoaSmith WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:34] Who's Koa Smith? [6:24] The most impressive surfer experience Koa's had. [14:19] What is it to be a professional surfer? [18:30] Koa injury story. [24:46] Fighting depression and seeking healing. [38:10] Koa initiation. [40:20] Koa's documentary: resurfacing. [42:34] Koa's new life perspective. [47:55] What's next for Koa? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Get your hands on an UNcivilized Journal  Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

The holidays can be a trying time for a lot of folks. I know this because so many reach out to me asking for advice on how to deal with a difficult ex, challenging family situations, or being alone. In this solo episode I give a three point plan on how to not only survive the holidays but how to thrive during them. Give it a listen and feel free to DM me on Instagram @traverboehm with any thoughts you have. Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Get your hands on an UNcivilized Journal  Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

Our military and first responders receive so much training in preparation for their careers in service, but so little training in preparation to send them back out into the civilian world.  In this Veteran's Day bonus episode I sit wit Dave Boyd, a former firefighter, police officer, SWAT, active military and current president of Man UNcivilized, to discuss what veterans and first responders need to hear. We unpack what they are NOT taught as service members returning to civilian life and what they desperately need for that transition.   Yours UNcivilized, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Get your hands on an UNcivilized Journal  Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man uncivilized 

We seek to solve problems like toxic masculinity in men when our focus should be given to boys to avoid these types of struggles in their adulthood. Our childhood and how we are educated greatly influence our mentality and way of thinking. That is why giving the necessary education to children is essential for their development. In this new episode, we will have Richard Reeves, the author of Of Boys and Men, as our guest. Richard and I will talk about why the modern male is struggling, why the education system should change, and why a healthy father figure is important in the development of children. We will also talk about why spaces for men are seen as anti-feminist. We will touch on interesting topics that you cannot miss. Let's get started! ABOUT RICHARD REEVES Richard V. Reeves is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, where he directs the Future of the Middle-Class Initiative and co-directs the Center on Children and Families. His Brookings research focuses on the middle class, inequality, and social mobility. Richard writes for a wide range of publications, including the New York Times, Guardian, National Affairs, The Atlantic, Democracy Journal, and Wall Street Journal. He is the author of Dream Hoarders (Brookings Institution Press, 2017) and John Stuart Mill – Victorian Firebrand (Atlantic Books, 2007), an intellectual biography of the British liberal philosopher and politician. CONNECT WITH RICHARD Website: richardvreeves.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/richardvreeves Buy the book: https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Men-Modern-Struggling-Matters/dp/0815739877 WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [3:27] The reason behind Richard's book Of Boys and Men [6:42] Why do men still struggle in 2022? [9:44] Why's the collective action problem? [10:31] Why can male spaces be considered anti-feminist? [17:33] How to build mature masculinity? [22:25] Why is toxic masculinity so attractive? [29:42] Why do men seek structure? [31:54] What should change in education? [41:19] The importance of the father figure in the lives of children [49:27] Because men stagnate and women adapt [54:51] Where to find Richard? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Get your hands on an UNcivilized Journal  Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

So many men are frozen. So many men are riddled with anxiety. So many men want yet have convinced themselves they cannot have. Why? Their fear of the unknown. And the fear they have with the unknown stems from not cultivating a relationship with themselves AND the unknown parts of their lives. In this solo episode I break down some concrete ways to liberate yourself from the stories in your head and the grip of fear in your stomach and live more fully. Yours UNcivilized, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Get your hands on an UNcivilized Journal  Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

Today we are joined by Stefanos Sifandos and will be talking about fatherhood, childhood traumas, confidence, and money,  things most men deal with. Stefanos is a trained educator and relationship expert with a background in behavioral science. To be successful, you have to start working internally. If you haven't you started this is a great time to dive in. ABOUT STEFANOS SIFANDOS He is passionate about leading people closer to their highest potential and to each other. Stefanos’ philosophy merges the best of Eastern and Western methodologies to promote spiritual balance and empower people in life and love. From trauma release to navigating the at times murky waters of modern masculinity to helping women understand the men in their lives, he helps people escape negative patterns and cultivate a positive sense of self. Stefanos has also cofounded a world-class coaching and education institute and a global men’s empowerment movement. CONNECT WITH STEFANOS Website: https://stefanossifandos.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stefanossifandosalchemist WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [4:10] How parenting gives you a new perspective on life. [6:57] How to handle the responsibility of parenthood? [18:01] Why do men always seek their parent's approval? [23:33] How to cultivate trust? [34:45] Why does money make us feel worthy? [37:50] Healing your relationship with money [40:17] Benefits of inner child work. [50:03] How to develop a practice or relationship with grace [52:38] Where to find Stefanos If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Get your hands on an UNcivilized Journal  Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

Folks, In this episode I give you three of my favorite tools to take you from civilized to UNcivilized. I’m not going to tell you what they are here, you’re just going to have to listen to the episode! I’ve also got an announcement for you at the end so please listen all the way through and share this with one man in your life for me. Yours UNcivilized, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Get your hands on an UNcivilized Journal  Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

Did you know that the lack of connection can lead us to depression, addiction, infidelity, and even a midlife crisis? A society that celebrates function has forced hundreds of men to think logically, suppressing their emotions and sweeping them under the rug. What we do not know is that this is an error that later in life, it will be difficult for us to solve. In this episode, we will be joined by Elise Micheals. She is a mental health coach for men, and perhaps you may think that she doesn't know how to help men because she is a woman. Elise's knowledge about men and her point of view is impressive — I even took out some golden nuggets from this conversation. With Elise, we will talk about trauma, connection, disconnection, and how the latter affects us in our lives and relationships. We will dive into the midlife crisis and how to prevent it from affecting us. ABOUT ELISE MICHEALS Men's mental health coach. She helps clients heal subconscious trauma, improving the quality of their relationships, lives, and business. With her own exploration of trauma therapy, relationship science, neuroscience, NLP, and therapy of her own, she was able to pinpoint the cycles and behaviors that ultimately always led to her demise. Now she helps men, as many men are silenced when it comes to emotions. This causes their struggles to be compounded and makes it even more difficult to process. CONNECT WITH ELISE Website: https://www.elisemicheals.com/about Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elisemicheals_/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:04 Who's Elise Micheals. [4:16 Why do most men suffer a midlife crisis? [5:46] Elise's Story. [7:23] How to avoid a midlife crisis? [11:05] Why do men have a hard time expressing emotions? [13:14] How do childhood traumas affect our adulthood? [15:23] The importance of connection. [21:10] Why do men find it difficult to understand the idea of pouring back into themselves? [25:30] The illusion of control. [31:34] How self-connection helps us to have better relationships and change our environment. [41:10] What should men know about other men? [42:57] Where to find Elise? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Here's the episode on relationships I mentioned. Men in Relationships with Duey Freeman and Michael Gay Podcast Episode Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

In this solo episode I dive head first into uncharted relationship waters, first talking about why there’s so much shame thrown on men who are single by choice. I then tackle what I think is the REAL relationship issue — the standard relationship paradigm doesn’t work with the male nervous system. This episode is bound to upset a lot of people, be warned. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Here's the episode on relationships I mentioned. Men in Relationships with Duey Freeman and Michael Gay Podcast Episode Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized

As children, our lives and decisions were driven by the wishes and dreams that our caregivers placed upon us. However, everything changes when we grow up and start to make decisions on our own. We become the drivers of our future, so at some point, it is important to ask ourselves: what do I want to do with my life? In this episode, we will be joined by Alex Weber, a man with an interesting biography. When you press play, today you will hear a story about how the decisions we make can lead us to live the greatest moments of our life. Remember, we only live one. ABOUT ALEX WEBER He is an International Keynote Speaker on Leadership and Peak Performance, a competitor on American Ninja Warrior, and an Award-Winning Entertainer for NBC, and more! CONNECT WITH ALEX Website: www.imalexweber.com Instagram: @imalexweber WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:05] Whos Alex Weber [9:40] A coach that makes a difference. [12:50] From coaching to American Ninja Warrior. [19:23] Know when to walk away. [24:31] How did you start with men's work? [27:51] What are the most difficult issues that men deal with today? [30:01] The importance of having daily practice. [36:44] What do you want to do with your moments on earth? [38:46] Connect with Alex. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.  Get a copy of my book, Man UNcivilized