The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Pain doesn't leave the body until it's been felt.In this episode, I talk about how darkness forced me to feel the stuff I spent years running from--grief, heartbreak, shame. All of it. No therapist. No journal. Just pitch black silence and a willingness to not run.I open up about what happened when I finally let the pain have a voice, and what healing looked like when there was no one around to witness it. This one's about shadow work, emotional truth, and what's possible when you stop trying to fix yourself and just sit with what is.If you've been carrying something heavy for too long, listen to this. If you've ever wondered how healing actually happens--this is where it begins.Cheers,  Traver

Ever sat still long enough to hear yourself think? What about long enough to hear yourself scream?This episode is about the three characters that show up when the world goes quiet--fear, boredom, and madness. I met all three of them in the dark. Some of them became friends. Some... not so much.I get into the games your mind plays when there's no one to distract you, and how facing these voices helped me reclaim parts of myself I didn't even realize I had buried. This is about going beyond self-help into self-reckoning. It's a wild one, and it might just mirror something you've felt but haven't named yet.Cheers,  Traver

We live in a world built on distraction--dopamine loops, constant noise, nonstop input. But what happens when you take it all away?In this one, I share what it felt like to remove every single thing I usually lean on--no Instagram, no podcasts, no books, no light. Just stillness and space. Spoiler alert: it sucked. Then it got profound.This episode isn't just about silence--it's about withdrawal, confrontation, and ultimately transformation. I talk about the chaos that surfaced when I stopped numbing myself and what broke through once I made it through the noise. If you've ever wondered who you are without your coping mechanisms, this one's for you.Cheers,  Traver

If you've ever wanted to run away from your life for a bit--or just hide in a closet with no phone--you're going to get this one.In this episode, I dive into why I chose to sit in total darkness for 28 days... and why I'm going back in for **49**. No phone. No light. No distractions. Just me, my mind, and whatever monsters show up when there's nothing else to hold onto. It wasn't just an escape--it was a full-on confrontation with myself. And in that confrontation, I found answers I didn't even know I was looking for. This episode is a window into the madness, the medicine, and the real reason I think every human needs a version of this. If you've ever felt the need to reset, unplug, or just get real with yourself — this one's for you.Cheers,  Traver

In this episode I’ll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved. OY!We all do it to some degree, but once you see how you betray yourself in the name of keeping and creating connection and belonging, your life will change forever. I’ll share with you a single sentence that you can apply to any form of self betrayal so you do just that — see it plane site — and then make the conscious decision to stop living against your value.Alignment isn’t easy but it’s pure freedom.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

Taylor Johnson, a sexuality educator who overcame porn addiction and sexual dysfunction, shares his transformative journey. He discusses the emotional toll of pornography on relationships and self-esteem. Highlighting the importance of open communication, Taylor emphasizes how men can reclaim their sexual health and confidence. He offers insights on navigating male desire and harnessing masculine energy for personal growth. Listeners are in for a candid exploration of intimacy, empowerment, and redefining perspectives on sexuality.

In this episode I’ll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you’re in a breakup or divorce.My writing career kicked off with a book about how to use the pain of your breakup or divorce to transform your life, so this is my bread and butter! Since that book I’ve worked with thousands of people who are now on the other side of heartbreak and most are living lives they never thought possible.Knowing these are the keys to the kingdom:— You will be okay, you just won’t be for a bit— It’s okay to not be okay— You won’t die, but part of you will and that’s a good thing— Pain is fuel (this is a BIG one)— The reasons your breakup happened can lead you to a goldmine.Heartbreak is brutal, but on the other side of it can be a freedom you only dreamed of.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,TraverInterested in one of Traver's books? Find Them Here

In this episode I speak with renowned author Dr. Douglas Thomas on what makes people tick in the bedroom and beyond it.After reading Dr. Thomas’s book, The Deep Psychology of BDSM & Kink while in Costa Rica, I reached out to Dr. Thomas to see if he’d come on the podcast with me. He agreed and magic was made. We talk archetypes, the power of our sexuality, and at the end dive into the changes that AI and robotics may have on our bedroom lives.I loved this conversation and am excited to share it with you.Cheers,Traver

In this episode I’ll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don’t live like you do or even want to, are supposed to understand you.If there’s one thing that needs to be navigated in order to live a life outside of the box — it’s being misunderstood. This comes from family, friends, and of course, perfect strangers who have internet access to you.Learning to work through what’s different about you (these are good things) and owning the fact you can’t have uncommon or UNcivilized outcomes while being celebrated by folks trapped in the matrix is a big deal.And on the other side of it is freedom.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

If you’re curious how to build more trust, devotion, and polarity in your relationship, this episode is for you.Ever wonder what really happens in a relationship dynamic where both parties have agreed to a complete Dom/sub relationship? Ever wonder how that dynamic could help you be a better partner in your own relationship, no matter how it’s put together?In this candid conversation with Andrew from Infinite Devotion, we get into all the pros, cons, and learning lessons he and his wife Dawn have had on their journey from a burnt out, borderline cliche married couple, to one thriving in a new dynamic.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver