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We are excited to have Dr. Whitney Casares back on the show today. She was first on the show back in episode 87; HERself Expert: Dr. Whitney Casares Talks Working Motherhood and Silencing Your Inner Critic. Dr. Whitney is a maternal child health expert, a pediatrician, a mom of two; one child has ADHD and the other has autism. She’s also the author of the soon-to-be released book - Doing It All.Today we are talking about how we can make working motherhood better for ourselves. Dr. Whitney explains how when she was doing it all, in the end, she was the one who was suffering the most. She shares her hot take on the word balance and offers a suggestion on what we could be seeking instead. We cover everything from how to advocate for yourself and others in incremental ways at the workplace, what the term sandwich generation means, and what you can do if you fall into this category. Dr. Whitney shares how her and her husband split the household and parenting load & you’ll find her honest, personal answer refreshing. In Dr. Whitney’s upcoming book, Doing It All, she talks about the centered life. In this episode she walks us through this concept, gives her own personal examples, and shares what you can do when your top priorities conflict with one another.We appreciate Dr. Whitney’s honest, realistic approach to working motherhood. We all want you to know that you deserve to feel good in this role and that even if you feel like you don’t have five minutes to reflect on your own needs, doing so will have a foundational impact on the rest of your life.Follow Dr. Whitney on InstagramPre-Order Dr. Whitney’s Book; Doing It Allwww.modernmommmydoc.comSponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herselfSponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are discussing a topic we’ve never really talked about before. And that is how to have the really hard conversations with our kids. In this episode we cover topics like death, funerals, losing a pet, and what to do when our child has completely lost it at an appointment.Our guest, Katie Taylor, is a certified child life specialist with over 12 years of experience. She supports kids and their families as they navigate challenging life events. Today, Katie explains to us that having  hard talks with our kiddos is a learned skill and why it is one that is so important to develop.In this conversation Katie gives us her tips on whether or not we should tell our kids the truth about what to expect in an upcoming appointment. She also walks us through what age appropriate conversations around the death of a pet or a close family member sound like and gives suggestions on the appropriate language to use to help explain these events to our kids. We both took so much away from our chat with Katie and know you will too!Links & Resources:Enroll in the HERself Self-Care CourseFollow Katie on InstagramKatie’s Podcast Episode on FuneralsKatie’s Mastering Immunizations CourseThe Invisible StringSponsor: Levels; Visit levels.link/herself for your special offerSponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herselfSponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

It is a well known fact that ⅔ of couples report decreases in their marital satisfaction in the first three years after having a child. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is back on the show with us today to talk about what happens after those first three years. How do we reconnect with our partner? Dr. Tracy is a mom to two kids, a wife, and has over 15 years of practice as a clinical psychologist. She gives us advice on how we can find the passion in our relationship again when we are in the thick of raising littles. And it doesn’t have to be these big extravagant date nights. It’s more about the little things like a text in the middle of the day to let your partner know that you’re thinking about them.Do you feel like your relationship with your partner is transactional? Or when you do get a chance to sneak in a date night - do you only talk about your kids? Dr. Tracy explains how we can go from the mundane conversation of, “how was your day” to the four “C’s”; curiosity, compassion, connection, and collaboration.What we love about Dr. Tracy is that she shares her own, personal experiences with us as well. Which is one of the touch points in her upcoming book; I Didn’t Sign Up For This. In her book Dr. Tracy writes about the importance of sharing the stories of other couples, and her own, to help her clients relate and feel less alone. Episode 93; Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 1Episode 94; Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 2Follow Dr. Tracy on InstagramDr. Tracy’s WebsiteDr. Tracy’s Book; I Didn’t Sign Up For ThisSponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herselfSponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself Let’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

If you’re like us, we are celebrating Labor Day today! We are at the cabin, our kids are going back to school, and we’re getting together with friends. With everything we have going on we thought we would bring back one of our most listened to episodes with Nedra Tawwab all on boundaries.Nedra does such a good job of explaining boundaries, the need for them, and how to implement them into your life. Every time we listen to this episode we find ourselves saying “no” so much more often because it makes our “yeses” feel that much better!We read Nedra Tawwab’s book “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself” as a group in our Patreon Book Club and in this episode, we dive into the details of her book and boundaries in general. We have answers to the family member who gives you the guilt trip, the friend who keeps testing the limits, and also with finding the power within yourself to make the changes with boundaries needed in the first place. Follow Needra on InstagramNeedra’s WebsiteNeedra’s Book; Set Boundaries, Find PeaceNeedra’s WorkbookSponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

The whole idea of this episode is that, as women, we have to ask for what we need. And this takes practice. We were raised by a generation of women who did not speak up when it came to getting their needs met which is leading us to a lot of resentment and burnout. But today we talk through a few situations that have happened in our lives recently where we have stood up and asked for what we need.We cover what getting our needs met from our partners looks like. We think they can read our minds and this just isn’t true. If you are feeling resentful towards your partner, you have an unmet need. We both share some things that work for us with Drew and Colin and hope they might help you as well.The other two areas we cover are work and kids. You have to set boundaries with both. Whether you work inside or outside of the home, setting boundaries around these areas of your life will help you get what you need. We’ve recently implemented some changes with the role our kids play inside of our homes that will hopefully help aid them in becoming a more collaborative part of the family unit.With all the things we cover in today’s episode, make sure you do what feels right for you. But also, in the moment, when something doesn’t feel right, speak up. We’re sensing a shift for our generation. We are starting to get our needs met. We are starting to ask for what we need. And that is a really great thing!Sponsor: AG1; Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herselfSponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herselfSponsor: Levels; Visit levels.link/herself for your special offerLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

It always feels good to get advice from those who are two steps ahead of us in life. And that’s exactly what today’s episode is. We have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. John Van Epp, developer of evidence based relationship programs. He also has his PhD in counseling and psychology. Dr. John Van Epp has over 44 years of marriage experience himself and has raised two daughters who are also in healthy marriages. You might even recognize one of his daughters; Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who has been on the show twice before!Have you ever been at a point in your relationship where it feels more challenging than other times? Dr. John Van Epp explains that this is completely normal. He gives us evidence based examples of when relationships tend to struggle the most and walks us through how to get through those tough times. For many couples, the same argument keeps coming up time and time again. Dr. John Van Epp talks to us about the importance of not making it a you versus me thing but rather to dig deeper by trying to act like the other person’s defense attorney in order to come up with a resolution.We loved our conversation with Dr. John Van Epp because it felt like he was giving us the wise advice that we all need. He is at a much different stage in life than most of us and it was refreshing to hear his take on things. If you loved this episode we would love it if you left us a rating and/or review wherever you listen to podcasts.lovethinks.comMylovethinks.comDr. John Van Epp’s BooksRock Solid Marriage CourseRamseries.comFollow Dr. John Van Epp’s daughter; @drmorgancutlipSponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

It’s almost back to school time! Since we both have soon to be second graders, almost kindergarteners, and younger kiddos, we thought we would do an episode all about this big transition! This time around we feel a little more experienced and open up to you about how the process of sending our littles off to school has gone for us.In this episode, we start off by sharing our thoughts on the end of the summer pressure we put on ourselves as moms. We might feel like we haven’t done enough. But ask your kids what their favorite memory from this summer was. We think you might be surprised to hear that in their eyes, the little things are what matter most.We share what caught us off guard as first time parents of kindergarteners. We touch on how with school comes a whole new bag of unexpected responsibilities for not only your child but for you as the parent as well. If you’re part of a household that has two, full-time working parents, juggling this new school year schedule definitely comes with its challenges. We share how we’ve had to build a bigger village than just our own couplehoods in order to get the help that we need.With big transitions come big emotions. We want you to know that every feeling is valid. You and your little one have everything you need, you’re going to get through this, and don’t forget to have a little fun along the way!Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herselfSponsor: Levels; Visit levels.link/herself for your special offerLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

This conversation is chock-full of great information that we are so glad we get to insert into our own lives right away! Melinda Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, is our guest today. She is also the mom of two, contributing editor to Scientific American Magazine, weekly contributor to The New York Times and a faculty member in the science, health, and environmental reporting program at NYU.We sometimes tend to think that talking about emotions too much with our kids may lead to them not being able to stand up for themselves or might make them too sensitive. Melinda explains why this is not true and how research has shown that strong soft skills, like emotional awareness, directly improve hard skills.As a parent, we’ve all witnessed the dreaded scenario when our own kid treats someone else in a way that we are not proud of. Melinda coaches us through what to do in this scenario and how we can move forward from that. She also explains that saying sorry might not be the best solution, and what to foster instead.We know so many of you are on the same page as us - you want to raise kind humans. In today’s conversation we take a deep dive into how to do just that. We hope you enjoy!Melinda’s Newsletterwww.melindawennermoyer.comMelinda’s InstagramMelinda’s FacebookHow to Raise Kids Who Aren’t AssholesSponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are thrilled to have Dr. Emily Jamea on the podcast today. She sits down with us to talk all things sex and intimacy! Emily is a sex therapist who is also the mom of two. She also has a book coming out next year and hosts her own podcast: Love & Libido. It was important for us to talk to someone about this topic who was a mom because we know Emily truly understands the ebbs and flows that come with intimacy in parenthood.Sex is often the first thing that gets dropped by couples when life feels so full or gets super stressful. Dr. Emily coaches us on how we can make sex a priority if it has been put on the back burner. Or maybe sex feels like it’s too far gone? She walks us through how to even bring it up in conversation when it can feel too awkward. There are a lot of things that can be mismatched between partners when it comes to sex; frequency, time of day, fantasies, etc. It can be hard to even get started when you are feeling so misaligned. Dr. Emily shares her evidence based facts on how you too, as a couple, can have great sex! Even after having kids!Follow Dr. Emily on InstagramFollow Dr. Emily on FacebookDr. Emily’s WebsiteSex After Baby WorkshopTop 10 Things I Personally Do To Maintain My Desire REELSponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herselfSponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herselfSponsor: Levels; Visit levels.link/herself for your special offerLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We hear it so often when we are about to become mother’s for the first time, “Oh, you’re not going to get any sleep!” But the problem is there’s not a plan in place for how the mom’s sleep is actually going to happen. And we think this is something that needs to be talked about more!Today we have Dr. Shelby Harris on the show. She is a mom, a clinical psychologist, and is board certified in behavioral sleep medicine by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. We are absolutely obsessed with this interview! We go off script so many times, in a good way, because we ask all the follow-up questions that all of us have.Dr. Shelby answers our questions around whether or not women really do need more sleep than men, how to enhance the quality of sleep when more sleep is just simply too hard to come by, and how caffeine really affects our sleep.Do you ever wonder if naps are good for you?  What about the term “revenge bedtime” that we are seeing all over the internet? Should we be taking sleep aids? And what to do on those nights that you just can’t fall asleep, no matter what. Dr. Shelby answers those questions and so many more!Follow Dr. Shelby on InstagramFollow Dr. Shelby on TikTokDr. Shelby’s WebsiteGet Your Copy of Dr. Shelby’s Book HERESponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.comHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.