ManTalks Podcast

Lee Eisenberg was the editor-in-chief of Esquire magazine for two decades. In 1995, he joined Time Inc. as a consulting editor and helped launch a series of new initiatives such as Time.com, Time for Kids, and The Time 100. In 2006, he published The Number, which became a national bestseller. Today, Lee talks to Connor and Roger about his latest book, The Point Is, and why having a personal narrative is so important for our life journey.    Key Takeaways: [0:30] As of today, we're in Toronto, L.A, and Vancouver. [0:35] If you're in any of those cities, come out to our event. [2:55] What was a defining moment for Lee as a man? [4:25] How do we really build a life story for ourselves? [5:00] Why did Lee write The Point Is? [7:15] Why do we endure certain memories and re-write others? [8:50] Personal narrative requires a lot of self-reflection. [9:00] Were there any commonalities in how people saw themselves? [10:35] Lee has only kept a diary once in his life. [12:20] When you record events in real time, you really don't know what they'll stand for later. [12:50] Virtually no one is keeping a diary. [16:25] Lee is a bit cynical about talk therapy; however, it can help reexamine past traumas and bad memories and help you rewrite your life story. [17:35] Most people feel like they're not using their creative channel efficiency. [18:45] It's important to uncover your story as well as share your story. [20:10] You don't necessarily tell your story to others, but at the very least tell your story to yourself. [20:20] Why do we remember certain things so strongly and why do we attach so much importance to certain things? [20:55] How can people dive into their personal story a bit more? [22:25] We create personal myths for ourselves. What is your personal myth? [23:30] What novel genre would your life story be? [27:50] The power of narrative is why we can go through life and make some sense of it. [28:55] Do people get their personal narrative mixed up with other people's view of them? [30:25] What legacy would Lee like to leave behind?   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.leeeisenberg.com/ The Number by Lee Eisenberg The Point Is by Lee Eisenberg   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tim Urban is the creator and blogger of Wait but Why, a website that is anti-click bait and extremely informative. Tim originally started his website on a bet because he knew deep down that other people, too, craved for meaningful and substantial content on the web. The idea worked! Not only does his content go viral, but he was able to get the attention of people like Elon Musk, and more.    Key Takeaways: [2:35] What was Tim's defining moment? [5:40] Those who have a fall back plan, fall back but that didn't apply to Tim. [6:10] Even though Tim had a fall back plan, he was still very desperate to achieve his creative dream. [6:20] You need to have a runway, a game plan that you're able to carry out in a certain amount of time, but it also has to be realistic. [6:55] Some people work best when they burn their other options, others do not. [7:15] Why did Tim create Wait but Why? [11:20] Tim had an advantage where he could work 60 hours a week focusing on nothing but blogging. [11:45] Connor never read blogs until he stumbled upon Tim's blog. [13:45] Tim knew he didn't have a staff, so he had to find a way to work with his strengths instead. [14:50] Tim shares his one piece of advice for any endeavor. [15:45] What makes Elon Musk so unique? [17:35] Don't be the cook that copies the recipe, be the chef who creates them. [18:45] How does Tim get over the 'no one is going to read this' fear? [19:35] Trust yourself. You can be great. [21:15] What was it like to prepare for the Ted Talk? [24:55] What was it like to meet Elon Musk? [27:20] Get ready for a series of rapid fire questions. [27:25] Why did Tim visit North Korea? [27:40] What does curiosity mean to Tim? [28:10] What was Donald Trump like in person? [28:30] What legacy would Tim like to leave behind? [29:40] What is Tim most excited about?   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.waitbutwhy.com/ www.waitbutwhy.com/2015/11/the-cook-and-the-chef-musks-secret-sauce.html   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shea Emry is a former Canadian football player who played eight seasons in the CFL. When Shea experienced a serious concussion back in 2011, he struggled with depression and was left feeling unsure about who he was outside of being a pro-athlete. He has since taken the journey to rediscover who he is as a person and is a huge advocate on redefining masculinity. His mission is to break down social stereotypes on the definition of hyper-masculinity and to help support and guide young male youth.   Key Takeaways: [0:55] ManTalks is moving to Toronto! [4:15] What was Shea's defining moment? [5:50] Shea had an incredibly bad concussion in 2011 and has battled back and forth between retirement, ever since. [6:50] It was hard for Shea to walk away from sports because he identified so strongly as an athlete. [7:30] What was it like to be a pro-athlete? [10:25] How did Shea get into pro sports? [12:15] Shea talks about his concussion and how he recovered from it. [19:10] How can parents, spouse, or friends help support someone suffering from a concussion? [21:30] Are you currently having an identity crisis? You'll want to listen in to hear how to overcome it. [22:45] It gets easier with time. You will find yourself again. [23:00] What's Shea's purpose? To challenge hyper-masculine stereotypes. [23:15] What does hyper-masculinity mean to Shea? [25:35] Shea briefly talks on the three organizations he's currently a part of and what they stand for. [32:50] Shea wants male youth to feel comfortable with expressing themselves. [33:45] How does Shea support the women in his life? [34:35] There needs to be a communicative environment in order to lend a hand and support the women in a man's life. [35:00] Shea supports his wife by putting his phone down and listening to what she is saying. [35:45] One of the most masculine things we can do is just be present. [38:40] What legacy would Shea like to leave behind? [41:35] Save the date! April 18th ManTalks will be live from Toronto.   Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://tedxtalks.ted.com/video/An-Adventure-Within-How-to-Beco https://twitter.com/sheaemry http://wellmen.org/   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clint Emerson is a retired Navy SEAL and the author of 100 Deadly Skills. In his book, Clint shares how you can be an overall badass and detect threats from people who are armed. You will learn how to escape a locked trunk, evade a kidnapping, and so much more in Clint's book. Clint talks on what must-have items you should keep in your car at all times and how to detect someone trying to follow or stalk you, in today's show.   Key Takeaways: [2:55] Clint shares one of the more intense stories he has experienced while he was a navy SEAL.  [6:45] Why did Clint want to be a SEAL? [8:45] What kind of tests did Clint have to go through? [17:35] What is the 100 Deadly Skills book about? [20:35] You can put a razor in the sole of your shoes and use it to get out of some handcuffs. [21:55] Key things to look out for in a bad guy? [25:35] What are some of the key things for infiltration? [31:35] What should people carry in their vehicle? [33:15] How do you build your own compass? [39:20] What were some of the things Clint had to do during his initiation into the SEALs? [41:40] What should you know about surveillance? [43:10] Clint talks about night vision. [44:55] In order to pick a lock, you need to understand how a lock works. [48:20] What's life like after the Navy SEALs? [50:30] What are some of the biggest challenges Clint has faced now that he is out? [53:35] What legacy would Clint like to leave behind? [54:50] Clint is working on book number two, so look out for that in the future.   Mentioned in This Episode: 100 Deadly Skills by Clint Emerson https://100deadlyskills.com/optin https://twitter.com/100deadlyskills   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oren Klaff has raised over $400 million of investor capital from high net-worth individuals and financial institutions. He is also the author of Pitch Anything, and he teaches others on how they can get the competitive edge in any negotiation scenario. Oren talks about how you can frame a negotiation to your advantage and how to get a buyer's interest in 150 words or less.   Key Takeaways: [2:20] What was Oren's defining moment as a man? [3:30] How did Oren discover that monogamy was what he wanted? [5:05] What does Oren do? [6:20] What's Oren's book, Pitch Anything, about? [7:40] The strength of your status and quality of your presentation = the amount of attention you get. [8:30] Nobody is going to listen to you for 3 hours. People are busy. [8:50] Pitch Anything is about how to raise your status so people will pay attention to you. [11:00] The human mind is built to protect you in social situations. [11:35] It's natural to act nice in high-risk situations to lower tensions, but it hurts you in negotiations. [13:00] It can only go two ways. Either you're superior or the buyer is superior in terms of status. [13:15] Most buyers assume they're superior due to them holding the money. [13:40] Reframe the meeting so that the buyer has to earn your attention. [15:25] Trying to get a raise at your job? Listen to Oren's advice here. [17:40] How do you sell the story? [20:55] NPR knows how to tell a story, Fox News doesn't. [24:10] Oren shares two of his 150 word pitches. [29:35] Look out for Oren's second book coming out soon. [31:45] What legacy would Oren like to leave behind?   Quotes: “Your strength of your status and quality of your presentation = the amount of attention you get.” “The buyer is the commodity, not you. Money is the commodity, not you. The buyer has to earn your attention.” “If you do something of value that will stand the sands of time, that’s a good legacy.”   Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://pitchanything.com/ http://pitchanything.com/mantalks Pitch Anything by Oren Klaff   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com) za2mxqz4See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UJ Ramdas is a passionate entrepreneur who incorporates practical psychology into easy-to-use products. He is the creator of The Five Minute Journal and The Productivity Planner. UJ explains why he and his team created The Five Minute Journal and The Productivity Planner and also shares why gratitude can make you a more successful person.   Key Takeaways: [2:00] What was UJ's defining moment? [3:45] What does UJ do? [6:30] Why did UJ want to study behavioral science? [9:30] You use business as a vehicle to help create a bigger impact in the world. [10:10] UJ explains the difference between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind. [13:55] Why would you want to use The Five Minute Journal? [15:55] Why does The Five Minute Journal work? [20:30] Why should you journal? Every journal has a purpose. [23:55] What is the Productivity Planner about? [29:45] What's UJ most excited about in the upcoming months?  [31:30] So many people want to be productive, but they don't know how to measure it. [32:05] What legacy would UJ like to leave behind?   Quotes: A business is a creative vehicle for the impact that you want to have in the world.   A lot of the time, we bite off more than we can chew on a daily basis.   Injecting more awareness into your daily task flow is going to help you.   Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://www.ujramdas.com/ www.fiveminutejournal.com/ http://www.productivityplanner.com/ Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman http://www.intelligentchange.com/   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Brand opened his first restaurant in 2007 and went on to restore Save On Meats, a butcher shop founded in 1957. Save On Meats is not like any other butcher shop or lunch counter, because Mark has created a sustainable business model that serves the community. Mark states that by creating a business that stands for something, not only does that help the community as a whole, but he has seen fewer turnovers from his staff because they also believe in the bigger picture.   Key Takeaways: [1:45] Thank you Vancity Buzz for sponsoring us! [2:45] What was Mark's defining moment? [6:55] How did Mark get started in the hospitality industry? [9:20] Mark had an addiction problem, but he decided that wasn't going to be his story. [10:10] Mark opened his restaurant in a bad neighborhood and everybody told him it was a bad idea. [15:25] Mark talks about the reality show he was a part of. [18:10] Save on Meats isn't just a restaurant; it has a big social component too. [21:45] What's one piece of advice Mark can share with those who are looking to start a non-profit? [25:40] Mark has created a model where people can see how their dollar impacts others. [30:55] What are some of Mark's core values? [32:35] How does Mark define success? [34:55] Mark shares a few statistics. [36:45] Why should business owners care about the bottom line? Because it's the right thing to do! [38:40] Millennials are looking for purpose-based businesses. [39:30] Where does Mark see himself in ten years? [41:30] Mark talks about the kind of legacy he would like to leave behind.   Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://www.markbrandinc.com/ http://saveonmeats.ca/   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lewis Howes is a lifestyle entrepreneur, business coach, author, and podcaster. He is also a contributing writer for Entrepreneur magazine and Yahoo.com, and has been featured in Forbes, Men's Health, and The New York Times. Lewis shares with us why he has such a passion for greatness and how being a pro athlete has made him not only a better entrepreneur, but a better person as well.   Key Takeaways: [1:30] ManTalks is hosting an event on April 9th, 2016. [2:25] What was Lewis's defining moment? [3:25] How did Lewis take his power back? [4:50] Ask your friends where your blind spots are. [6:40] The greatest leaders in the world learn how to connect in intimate and vulnerable ways. [8:25] Where did Lewis's passion for greatness come from? [13:05] Lewis talks about the 'seasons' in his life. [15:10] What lessons did Lewis learn when he was a pro athlete? [17:45] What does a champion's mindset look like? [19:30] Your results are your credentials. [19:50] Belief carries you to the championships. [21:55] What does hustle mean to Lewis? [28:20] What does Lewis plan to talk about at the ManTalks event? He gives us a teaser. [29:55] Lewis talks about what he's excited about these days. [30:25] You get a free copy of Lewis's book if you join the ManTalks event.   Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://lewishowes.com School of Greatness by Lewis Howes   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stephen Mansfield is a bestselling author and a leadership coach. Stephen has written a number of books including The Faith of George W. Bush, Killing Jesus, and Mansfield's Book Of Manly Men; which has inspired men's events worldwide. He is currently working on a new book to help accompany Mansfield's Book Of Manly Men titled Building Your Band of Brothers, and sheds some light on how men can build better relationships with other men.   Key Takeaways: [1:40] Thank you Vancity Buzz for being a sponsor! [2:15] What was a defining moment for Stephen. [5:10] What is manhood? [7:15] What kind of values should a man look for? [7:55] Take responsibility for your actions. [9:25] Men in the Western world are mostly walking alone. [12:20] How can men become more vulnerable amongst each other? [14:55] Stephen shares a story on how his band of brothers has helped him. [18:15] How can you build accountability and responsibility within a group? [23:15] What kind of guys should you surround yourself with? [26:40] Should you have boundaries with your band of brothers? [29:10] What other virtues are important aside from responsibility? [32:15] Stephen talks about his mentors and key influences in his life. [34:45] Stephen tells us about his new book, Building Your Band of Brothers. [35:45] Military men often do not have a support system due to their constant traveling. [39:05] What kind of challenges or pitfalls do men face? [42:45] What kind of legacy would Stephen like to leave behind?   Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ Mansfield's Book of Manly Men by Stephen Mansfield Building Your Band of Brothers by Stephen Mansfield http://stephenmansfield.tv/   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com) https://twitter.com/MansfieldWritesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chris Bailey has conducted countless productivity experiments on himself and has interviewed several successful CEOs and business professionals on the subject of productivity. He has condensed everything he has learned into a 300 page book titled The Productivity Project. Listen to this interview to find out what productivity is -really- about and how you can use it to your full potential.   Key Takeaways: [2:03] Thank you Vancity Buzz for sponsoring the podcast! [4:03] What was Chris's defining moment? [5:38] Who is Chris? [6:58] Why is Chris interested in productivity? [8:18] How did Chris find the courage to start The Productivity Project? [9:23] Follow your passion now. The time is now. [10:58] Measuring and defining productivity was difficult for Chris. [12:23] Productivity isn't about how much we produce; it's about how much we accomplish. [13:18] Productivity is a combination of balancing time, attention, and energy. [14:03] Has Chris met the most productive person in the world yet? [14:58] The most productive people, ironically, teach meditation and mindfulness. [18:58] Being in a flow state of mind is a combination of productivity and energy. [19:33] Work on one thing at one time. [22:58] How can people start being productive? [28:33] What does Chris mean by 'striving for imperfection'? [31:13] What does success look like to Chris? [35:03] How can you get yourself back on track when you stop becoming productive? [39:58] What's the difference between men vs. woman on productivity? [43:13] What is Chris most excited about these days? [44:13] What kind of legacy would Chris like to leave behind?   Mentioned in This Episode: The Productivity Project by Chris Bailey http://alifeofproductivity.com/ Getting Things Done with David Allen I Know How She Does It by Laura Vanderkam   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices