Soul Salon with Ayandastood

today's soul session is a spiritual perspective on why you fear your own success. if you're like me, you are both drawn to and repelled by your dreams. they are at once enticing and terrifying. in today’s soul session we explore a paradoxical fear that many of us face whenever we confront our dreams and desires. but in the typical style of this podcast, we are going to unfold a deep and spiralling web of ideas such as: What do God/source/the universe have to do with the fear of success? Why do we associate power to evil? How can we separate toxic/destructive examples of power from loving/constructive versions of it? Why is nature the answer to reclaiming our power? AND... My own experience with cultural grief and shame I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and if you feel called to, please share it with a friend or your community. i love you ✨💛 Work with me one-on-one as your coach to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching Time stamps: (00:06): The magic of your existence (01:53): My fears & dreams (05:11): The paradox of fear (06:22): God/source/universe & AWE (12:57): Why we fear our Dreams (14:17): Healing our relationship with Power (17:37): Nature & benevolent Power (21:15): Step into Y(OUR) Power (22:29): Co-Creation (27:52): Channeled journaling (30:00): Why we can't silence ourselves (31:35): It's bigger than You (33:10): You have these gifts for a REASON (35:54): Trust is the opposite of Fear (36:15): Your own POWER & WISDOM (40:31): Creativity is how we change the world (42:21): Affirmation Sources mentioned: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action by Audre Lorde Ant geopolitics by John Whitfield ADVICE HOTLINE: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠⁠⁠. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ⁠⁠ASK Ayanda form⁠ here⁠. JOIN THE COMMUNITY:  my muse-letter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠ayandastood.substack.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ please join me here! follow me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@ayandastood⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TikTok and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@ayandastood⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on IG and ⁠⁠@ayandastood ⁠⁠on YouTube visit my website at ⁠⁠www.ayandastood.com⁠⁠⁠  Work with me 1:1 www.ayandastood.com/coaching

Explore the wisdom of feeling lost in life, challenging Western ideas of knowing. Discover growth through uncertainty and self-discovery. Embrace vulnerability and community support. Reflect on individualism's influence on self-perception. Surrender to new paths and spiritual beauty in moments of uncertainty. Dive deep into transformative power and embrace all emotions with love and support.

we are becoming FEAR ALCHEMISTS in 2024. hi darlings! in this episode I am giving a MasterClass on moving through and BEYOND the fear of being cringe/embarrassing/shameful online. this is a deep wound that many of us carry: fear of being cancelled, ridiculed, dragged, rejected, or criticized. it stops us from sharing ourselves, promoting our work, art, and services, and opening ourselves up to the LOVING POSSIBILITIES that exist for us through the global portal that is the internet. i have faced this pain (both the fear and the experience) and sat with it and soothed and nurtured, it still lives in me but it is now in a place where i can alchemize it into wisdom, grounded in a collective understanding of creativity and healing. so i wanted to speak to this pain and give us some mindset and perspective shifts on how we can TRANSFORM the fear of being cringe into posting through the fear and embarrassment, with love for ourselves and for the people seeking our voices, art, services, and perspectives. Affirmation: THE WORLD NEEDS Y(OUR) VOICE/ART/GIFTS/CREATIONS JUST! AS! THEY! ARE! ☎️ seeking advice and want to phone in with a question? ⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠ OR write-in an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Time stamps (01:16): Validate (07:04): Neutralize (16:18): Connect (27:51): Serve (42:33): Zoom out (49:35): Desire (51:20): Summary Work with Me: Work with me one-on-one: https://ayandastood.com/work Information on my Creative Fear MasterClass dropping mid Feb will be updated here: https://ayandastood.com Sources mentioned: ⁠The Creative ACT: A Way of Being⁠ by Rick Rubin Join the community:  my muse-letter: ⁠⁠⁠ayandastood.substack.com⁠⁠⁠ please join me here! follow me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠@ayandastood⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TikTok and ⁠⁠⁠⁠@ayandastood⁠⁠⁠⁠ on IG and ⁠@ayandastood ⁠on YouTube visit my website at ⁠www.ayandastood.com⁠⁠ 

Dive into the concept of inviting ease and pleasure into the creative process. Discover how releasing tension can transform creativity and why it's vital to embrace imperfection. Reflect on the love and support within the artistic community. Explore the idea of pleasure activism and how it relates to personal freedom. Engage with thought-provoking questions designed to enhance your creative journey. This discussion will inspire you to prioritize joy and flow in your art and life.

Reflect on the diverse elements of your soul's garden, embracing imperfections and personal growth. Explore the role you play and celebrate the completeness within. Journey through nature, non-linear time, and self-compassion in this soulful episode.

Explore the transformative power of possibility, highlighting its role in deepening friendships and enhancing creativity. Delve into how embracing uncertainty can lead to personal and social change, fostering growth in romantic relationships as well. Discover intriguing insights on conflict as a catalyst for connection and the importance of nurturing creative ideas without fear. Episode culminates in an exciting announcement about a unique coaching opportunity coming in January 2024, promising new paths to explore.

if toxic, eurocentric beauty standards won’t let you rest: this episode is for you. i made a tiktok (620K views) about this idea in June that people resonated with, and so I decided to make an episode about it. let’s unpack how Beauty is a form of alienation from ourselves — and from each other. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love. 🤎 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠⁠⁠. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ⁠⁠ASK Ayanda form⁠ here⁠. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Key quotes: “I believe there’s a world in which we see each other as Divine Beings that cannot be flattened into a toxic Eurocentric, colonial, elitist, ableist beauty standard that is always and already going to dehumanize us and remove us from the ability to experience ourselves and each other as Love.”  “Beauty dislocates you from being able to claim yourself in the present tense”  Time stamps (02:48): What is alienation? (05:07): Beauty as a distorted mirror (12:32): Beauty and Time  (15:48): Intra-community Beauty standards  (19:43): Mirrors and Love (25:50): The relentless pursuit and pressure of Beauty  (27:17): 3D vs 5D consciousness (32:01): Why I struggled with this episode Sending all my love to you today, sunshine.  Sources mentioned:  TikToks: On beauty as alienation by me Video 1 (https://www.tiktok.com/@ayandastood/video/7249132796822752518) and Video 2 (https://www.tiktok.com/@ayandastood/video/7249137595135872261) Essay: Estranged Labour, 1844 by Karl Marx (https://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1844/manuscripts/labour.htm) Related episodes Industrialized vs. Spiritual Beauty (Idea via Jessica DeFino) Beautiful Lies Ft. Kalpana Mohanty The Ugliness of Beauty The Myth of Inclusive Beauty  Moving toward Ugliness Ft. Mia Mingus Read my hand-written essay on Breaking the Colonial Paradigm of Beauty Other key quotes: “We can be so much more if we dismantle the Beauty hierarchy”  “Beauty robs you of your sense of self in two ways: Number 1, it equates who you are with how you look according to a toxic, Eurocentric beauty standard. Your “ideal self” is someone who looks a certain way, rather than someone who is a certain Being — which you already are. Number 2: you are always relegated to being worse than your ideal future self, so then when are you ever allowed to exist and to claim yourself? As you grow older and age, people say you don’t look yourself. If you gain weight, people say you don’t look yourself. If you lose weight, you are meant to “feel more yourself than ever”. So then who are you? Surely you always look yourself? No, because Beauty is the alienation of the self from the self”  “A world with more radical love, rooted in an anti-colonial understanding of life, HAS TO dismantle the beauty hierarchy, and replace it with a deep love and awe for people as people, rather than value people based on their ability or inability to conform to toxic Eurocentric beauty standards”  “You are a multi-dimensional being who, through Beauty and other oppressive structures, is forced to conceive of yourself as a one-dimensional self”  “Beauty dislocates you from being able to claim yourself in the present tense”  “We will always be alienated from ourselves when we are made to feel unloveable because of a standard that has been imposed on us, one that deeply limits how we then come to understand, experience, and make sense of ourselves and each other”  Join the community:  my newsletter: ⁠⁠ayandastood.substack.com⁠⁠ please join me here! follow me at ⁠⁠⁠@ayandastood⁠⁠⁠ on TikTok and ⁠⁠⁠@ayandastood⁠⁠⁠ on IG every Sunday: Join ⁠⁠showing up together⁠⁠, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST.

many of us feel plagued by a deep-seated unworthiness ingrained in us by society and culture. at a fundamental level, we are convinced there is a lot wrong with us. part of this suffering comes from a society that reduces us to the level of its own distorted and violent view of reality, rooted in colonial and capitalist imaginations. in today's part 2 of our conversation on our infinite worth and power, I asked ChatGPT: why are we irreducible to any one given aspect of our lives? Here are my 7 favorite reasons it came up with, and my reflections on each. if you haven’t watched part 1, you can do so here. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love. 🤎 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ⁠⁠⁠ASK Ayanda form⁠ here⁠⁠. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine.  Key quotes from episode:  "You are the universe experiencing itself" “We are multi-dimensional beings often forced to live a one-dimensional reality” Time stamps (00:00): Soul check-in  (11:48): Reason 1: Cosmic identity (19:50): Reason 2: Inherent divinity (23:57): Reason 3: Interconnected being (26:47): Reason 4: Multi-dimensionality (27:40): Reason 5: Capacity for growth (30:16): Reason 6: Unique experiences (33:52: Reason 7: Capacity for empathy (37:39): Summary of 7 lessons  Sources mentioned:  Episode: 32: you are irreducible by me (https://open.spotify.com/episode/0aARoL7F45K4tXoGBPtOxz?si=70d922c02375459b) Podcast: The Science of Setting & Achieving Goals by Huberman Lab Podcast (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1F7EEGPQwo) Article: The Buddhist philosophy of Anatta (https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Anatta) Article: Nondualism: A brief history of a timeless concept by SAND (https://scienceandnonduality.com/article/nondualism-a-brief-history-of-a-timeless-concept/) Book: You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters by Kate Murphy (https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-re-not-listening-what-you-re-missing-and-why-it-matters-kate-murphy/6985911?ean=9781250779878) Book: You Are the Universe: Discovering Your Cosmic Self and Why It Matters by Deepak Chopra and Menas C. Kafatos (https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-are-the-universe-discovering-your-cosmic-self-and-why-it-matters-deepak-chopra/9794035?ean=9780307889157)  🎵 BACKGROUND MUSIC: ⁠Sleeping Vibrations⁠: ⁠Inner Abundance Sound Bath⁠  (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KPpJ1GOt4_c) Join the community:  my newsletter: ⁠⁠ayandastood.substack.com⁠⁠ please join me here! follow me at ⁠⁠⁠@ayandastood⁠⁠⁠ on TikTok and ⁠⁠⁠@ayandastood⁠⁠⁠ on IG

Unpacks why you can't be reduced to any one aspect of your being, society's influence on self-perception, and embracing love and interconnectedness. Discusses self-worth beyond societal standards, the dangers of quantification, and the complexity of human nature. Explores love, ego, and interconnected existence, promoting self-reflection and unity.

if you’ve ever felt that the same sensitivity that makes you drawn to creative work also makes you TERRIFIED of starting, finishing or sharing yours — this episode is for you. the irony of this episode is more than i can express to you — throughout this process i faced so much shame, fear and avoidance (particularly in the editing phase). i feel there’s so much more to say and so much i wish i had said differently. but i'm telling myself that my inner critic is a LIAR, and & i'm choosing to let it be. thank you today and always for being here on this journey with me. i hope that you receive my offering, and i hope my words take the shape of some of your wounds today.i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love <3  ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠submit a voicemail here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠ASK Ayanda form⁠ here⁠⁠⁠. 🎥: Video available on Spotify and YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine.  Key quotes from episode:  “Our sensitivity can be the water that hydrates and nourishes our creativity, or the water that drowns it.”  Sources mentioned:  Book: ⁠Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World⁠ by Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo Poem: ⁠⁠Why Bother?⁠⁠ By Sean Thomas Dougherty Book: ⁠The Creative ACT: A way of Being⁠ by Rick Rubin Essay: ⁠The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action⁠ by Audre Lorde Join the community:  my newsletter: ⁠ayandastood.substack.com⁠ please join me here! Every Sunday: Join ⁠showing up together⁠, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at ⁠@ayandastood⁠ on TikTok and ⁠@ayandastood⁠ on IG