

Parenting with Impact
Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster
The Parenting with Impact Podcast with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster, co-creators of ImpactParents.com, inspires parents and professionals guiding complex kids, teens and young adults all over the world to become capable, independent adults. ImpactParents.com is an online community, award-winning blog, and direct service provider for parents and professionals. Elaine and Diane are certified professional coaches with their own lived experience raising children with complex challenges such as ADHD, anxiety, depression, learning disabilities, gender identity issues, and more. Drawing from both personal and professional experience, they teach and inspire parents and professionals to raise and empower complex kids with confidence and calm. Scroll down for links and to download a free parenting guide. The Parenting with Impact Podcast will:Feature leading experts, bringing you cutting edge information to address your child’s challengesTeach you real-life, practical strategies for creating lasting changeDemonstrate how a coach-approach can improve all of your communications, one conversation at a time For the essentials of ImpactParent's coach-approach to parenting, download a free parenting guide at: ImpactParents.com/Podcast Find out about Sanity School®, a program for Parents, at: https://impactparents.com/programs-offerings/parent-training-sanity-school/ For information about professional continuing education: https://impactparents.com/for-professionals/ Visit Impact Parents at: https://impactparents.com/
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Oct 11, 2023 • 29min
Ep 131: Can Helping Too Much Actually Hinder Your Child's Growth?
We would do anything for our kids in the pursuit of having them grow up to be happy, healthy, and self-sufficient. But when is it too much? When does helping become hindering? Doing more harm than good, is never our intention, so how do we navigate that fine line when raising young adults with autism, ADHD, and other learning disabilities? Misty Wagner understands the unique challenges and strengths of each individual that allow her to guide students on their journey towards independence. One of Misty’s strongest abilities is working with the students’ families of individuals with developmental disabilities by assisting them in aligning services, as well as assisting families in understanding an individual’s needs. Misty joined the CIP community in 2018 as a Student Advisor, supported the community as Head Student Advisor, and now as Assistant Program Director. Misty earned a bachelor’s degree in special education from The University of Memphis in Memphis, Tennessee. Misty has developed this strength through a solid professional history as a special education teacher, Student Advisor, and Head Student Advisor, but also through my undeniable empathy and bond with parents. As Assistant Program Director at CIP, Misty works on the day-to-day operations to provide high quality services to all students and families. She collaborates with each student, staff member, and support team member in order to provide positive outcomes for each student. Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Misty Wagner about how to support your complex kid without being an enabler, as they navigate life transitions. Motivation GuideIn this FREE insider’s guide from the experts at ImpactParents, join with parents all over the world who are successfully using these 3 steps and 7 quick tips to motivate their children and teens to respond to requests without meltdowns, distractions, or pushback. Here is what to expect on this week’s show:Finding opportunities to allow your child to assert their independence, is where growth happens, and knowing when your child truly needs your help or guidance.Outlining the steps needed and providing clear guidance as they learn to do something themselves.How to assist your child with coming up with a strategy to identify and solve a problem, by establishing an outcome and detailing the steps needed to achieve it. Related Links:Video Tip: Take AimFlexibility + Structure+ Moderation Handling Conflict with Complex Kids Connect with Misty:cipworldwide.org cipworldwide.org/longbeach X (fka Twitter) Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools Connect with Impact Parents:www.impactparents.comInstagram: @impactparentsFacebook: @impactparentLinkedIn:@impactparentsTwitter: @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 4, 2023 • 28min
Ep 130: 2E Kids & Adults: When Easy is Hard and Hard is Easy
Is your child highly intelligent and passionate, but struggles with daily tasks and doing well in school? Executive function deficits play a large role. How do you meet your child where they are and help them to thrive, when you know they are capable of so much?Julie Skolnick is the Founder of With Understanding Comes Calm where she guides parents of twice exceptional children, mentors 2e adults, and trains teachers on how to bring out the best and raise self confidence in twice exceptional people. Julie hosts empowerment groups for parents and for 2e adults and is the author of Gifted and Distractible: Understanding, Supporting, and Advocating for Your Twice Exceptional Child. She has three exceptional kids of her own. Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Julie Skolnick about what giftedness and 2E really is and how to shift from focusing on deficits and focusing on strengths.Ten Tips for Calm and Confident Parenting of Complex Kids Parenting complex kids can be difficult, even mind-numbing at times. In this FREE Guide you’ll find clear, quick guidance to help you calm the chaos and more confidently prepare your child for greater independence and success! Learn techniques parents all over the world are using to reduce friction and (believe it!) rediscover the joy of parenting.Here is what to expect on this week’s show:Looking at giftedness as a 3-layer cake: intelligence, asynchronous learning, excitability.Gifted vs High Achieving- what is the difference? Are “gifted programs” for 2E kids?Why gifted individuals can struggle with school and have behavioral issues. Related Links:Three Steps to Take When Your Kid Says, “I Don’t Know” What Makes a Child Twice Exceptional (2E)?Video: Where’s Your Curiosity?Connect with Julie:With Understanding Comes Calm WebsiteGifted and Distractible bookFacebookInstagram LinkedIn X (fka Twitter) YouTube Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools Connect with Impact Parents:www.impactparents.comInstagram: @impactparentsFacebook: @impactparentLinkedIn:@impactparentsTwitter: @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 27, 2023 • 21min
Ep 129: Asking For Help: Why Is It So Difficult?
Why is it so hard for your child to ask for help? Making the transition into independence can often backfire when your kiddo will not ask for help when they need it. Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss the reasons kids have a hard time asking for and accepting help, and how we can prepare them to seek assistance when they need it.Parenting is LeadershipParenting is a leadership opportunity. With the "Parenting is Leadership" Guide from ImpactParents, two frameworks and a dozen core competencies will guide you to up-level your parenting... and improve the most important relationships of your life.Here is what to expect on this week’s show:What are the common reasons people don’t ask for and accept help?Is it helping or is it controlling? Learning the difference and helping your kid to trust you will assist and not take over.Needing help does not mean you are inadequate. How can you model seeking help for your child?Guiding your child into directing YOU in how you can help them. Related Links:Watch Episode 68: The Independence Pyramid Watch Episode 92 Pushing the Reset Button to Solve Problems CollaborativelyRelationship By DesignHelp Your Complex Kids Be Independent (especially in the mornings) How to Help Your Kids Ask for the Help They Need Teach Your Kids to Ask for Help – A Mother’s Success Story Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools https://impactparents.com/gift Connect with Impact Parents:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents/@impactparentsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParent@impactparentLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents/@impactparentsTwitter: https://twitter.com/ImpactParents@impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 20, 2023 • 32min
Ep 128: Paradox: High Achieving Adults with ADHD
There are many highly successful adults living with ADHD. No matter what time in their lives they were diagnosed, they often have common struggles. The paradox of knowing they are smart yet feeling stupid. Feeling like an impostor. Questioning whether a treatment is right or not.Casey Dixon is a respected Life Coach with a unique focus on science-based, innovative, collaborative coaching for attorneys, professors, and high-achieving professionals with ADHD. She founded Dixon Life Coaching in 2005 as a new beginning to her 15-year career of working with both kids and adults with ADHD in schools and universities. Since then, Casey has become recognized for helping clients excel in authentic and creative ways using ADHD-informed approaches. Casey is known for reliably facilitating direct results without judgment. Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Casey Dixon about high achieving professionals with ADHD and how to work through the struggles they often face.Parenting is LeadershipParenting is a leadership opportunity. With the "Parenting is Leadership" Guide from ImpactParents, two frameworks and a dozen core competencies will guide you to up-level your parenting... and improve the most important relationships of your life.Here is what to expect on this week’s show:Under the surface of a highly successful adult with ADHD is often a sea of struggles.Managing ADHD while achieving success and finding a balance that doesn’t leave you exhausted and overextended.Taking the complexity out of living well with adult ADHD with treatment and support. Related Links:Mindfully ADD Success! Curiosity & the Coach-Approach Transformed the Tone of Her Home with Melanie Sobocinski ADHD Online Video: Where’s Your Curiosity?The Mindfulness Prescription for Adult ADHDIf I Had Known — Lessons from a Mom of an ADHD AdultHow to Manage ADHD Effectively: 6 Fundamental StepsPut Yourself First, MomUsing Stress to Help Performance, Anxiety and Self-EsteemConnect with Casey:www.dixonlifecoaching.comFacebookX (FKA Twitter)LinkedIn Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools Connect with Impact Parents:www.impactparents.com Instagram: @impactparentsFacebook: @impactparentLinkedIn:@impactparentsTwitter: @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 13, 2023 • 27min
Ep 127: Yes, Your Complex Kid WILL Get Into College!
Will your neurodiverse child get into college? According to college admissions consultant Michelle McAnaney, the answer is a resounding YES! But just when you think it's all figured out, a sudden twist leaves parents wondering if they're truly prepared for the transition to college life...Michelle McAnaney founded The College Spy® with this mission: Help students identify colleges that are a good fit for them and get accepted. Michelle is an expert in college admissions and a leader in her field. She has over 20 years of experience as an educator, counselor and consultant, assisting students in making smart choices to reach their full potential. She is current on the latest trends in college admissions. Her extensive admissions knowledge is coupled with firsthand experience with the colleges and universities your student will be considering. She visits approximately 40 colleges each year, attending information sessions and open houses, taking tours and meeting with admissions officers. Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Michelle McAnaney about navigating the college admissions process with your complex teen.12 Tips for Parenting a Complex TeenFrom the experts at ImpactParents (and the moms of 6 young adults!), we promise you this: it’s not too late. In this FREE guide you’ll learn 12 fool-proof tips to improve conversations and reconnect with your teens so you can guide them to become independent and successful. Parents all over the world have better relationships with their teens using these tools. You can, too! Here is what to expect on this week’s show:Keys to a smooth transition from high school to college for complex kids.Grasp a better understanding of college disability services and accommodations available.Fostering independence and managing anxiety to ensure college success.Remember that your child will change and grow over time, so keep researching and understanding all the options available.Encourage your child to take ownership of the process as much as possible, but be there to support and guide them as needed. Connect with Michelle:Website X (formerly Twitter) Facebook Related Links:Parents of College Bound Students with LDs, ADHD and ASD Facebook Group College Admissions 101 (parents of 9-11) for Parents of Neurodivergent Students Course Ep 79 Leveling The Playing Field: Accommodations in HS and College Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools Connect with Elaine & Diane:Instagram @impactparentsFacebook @impactparentLinkedIn @impactparentsTwitter @impactparentsLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 6, 2023 • 26min
Ep 126: Motivation Myths and the Magic of P.I.N.C.H.
Do you struggle with getting your child to do things? Does it feel like no matter what you do, it is a struggle to motivation your child to ____. We can fill that blank with countless things: homework, clean their room, exercise, chores, be on time… Well, you may be surprised to learn that traditional motivation tactics often backfire. Elaine and Diane have a dynamic way to help your child with the P.I.N.C.H. method. Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss the truths and myths around motivation and what it really takes to get your child invested in doing something.Motivation GuideIn this FREE insider’s guide from the experts at ImpactParents, join with parents all over the world who are successfully using these 3 steps and 7 quick tips to motivate their children and teens to respond to requests without meltdowns, distractions, or pushback. Here is what to expect on this week’s show:What is the role of motivation in getting things done?When it looks like your kid lacks motivation, what is really happening?If your child does not have internal motivation, it does not mean a lack of moral values.What are the 5 motivators in P.I.N.C.H., and how can they be applied? Related LinksAre You Getting Stuck in Information Land?Effective Agreements Interview with Radio Host, Jeff Copper, on Parenting & ADHDWhat Kids Think Parents Should Know About ADHD & MotivationLessons for Kids from the Olympics: Hyper-Focus, Motivation & PassionADHD Behavior Management – Is It All About Teaching Motivation?There are Only 5 Motivators for People with ADHDHow do I Motivate my Child to Turn in Homework?How do I Motivate My Child to do…Anything!?Getting Unstuck: It Depends on your Point of View Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools Connect with Impact Parents:www.impactparents.comInstagram: @impactparentsFacebook: @impactparentLinkedIn:@impactparentsTwitter: @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 30, 2023 • 29min
Ep 125: Success! A Mother’s Journey From Shame to Acceptance
Just when Jennifer Gay Summers thought she had it all figured out, her world was turned upside down. Her child, Lee, was diagnosed with ADHD and other learning disabilities, shattering her expectations of traditional parenting. But instead of giving up, Jennifer dove headfirst into researching and advocating for her child's needs. She discovered the importance of meeting her child where they are, rather than forcing them to conform to societal norms. What resulted was a journey of growth and resilience.Jennifer Gay Summers is a dedicated mother and former teacher who journeyed through her child's unique learning needs from a young age. As her child struggled with ADHD, sensory processing disorder, and anxiety, Jennifer decided it was time to let go of traditional expectations and meet her child where they were. Her perseverance in finding the right support for her child, coupled with her advocacy skills, has helped countless parents like her embrace and navigate the complexities of raising children with diverse needs.Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Jennifer Gay Summers about making the shift form traditional parenting to the journey of parenting the child she has and meeting them where they are.Ten Self Care Tips for ParentsDo you give and give until you give yourself away? You’re not alone! In this FREE guide for caring (and exhausted!) parents, you may recognize some of the key tips -- but it’s always good to have a reminder! And then there will be some new ideas to help you put yourself back on your list and find a little more peace and joy in family life. Sure, your kids may need more than other kids. But that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the care you need to keep helping your kids!Here is what to expect on this week’s show:Discover the intricacies of raising a child with ADHD and other disabilities.Learn the value of self-education and advocacy when supporting a child with unique needs.Explore the art of releasing traditional expectations and embracing a more personalized approach.Delve into coping with grief and celebrating the unique attributes of one's child.Uncover the power of memoir writing in sharing experiences and raising awareness. Connect with Jennifer:Website Facebook Instagram Article Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools Connect with Impact Parents:www.impactparents.comInstagram: @impactparentsFacebook: @impactparentLinkedIn:@impactparentsTwitter: @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 23, 2023 • 28min
Ep 124: Keys to Parenting Autism: Education, Coaching & You!
Andrea Pollack's life took an unexpected turn when her two-year-old son was diagnosed with autism. It was a heartbreaking moment that forced her to leave her promising legal career behind. But little did she know that this decision would eventually lead her to become a renowned parenting coach, helping other parents navigate the challenges of raising neurodivergent children. Her approach is unique, focusing on personal growth and self-reflection for parents, which ultimately benefits the entire family. Join us as we explore Andrea's fascinating journey and learn how she's helping parents create more fulfilling parenting experiences for themselves and their neurodivergent children.Andrea Pollack is a dedicated and compassionate advocate for parents navigating the complex world of raising neurodivergent children. With over two decades of personal experience as a mother to an autistic son, she understands the unique challenges and triumphs of parenting children with different needs. Having left her career as a practicing attorney to homeschool her son, Andrea realized her true calling was to empower and support other parents. Committed to a holistic approach, she combines her educational background with valuable coaching techniques to help families thrive through personalized, problem-solving strategies. Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Andrea Pollack about discovering the key to helping your complex kid- YOU!Parenting is LeadershipParenting is a leadership opportunity. With the "Parenting is Leadership" Guide from ImpactParents, two frameworks and a dozen core competencies will guide you to up-level your parenting... and improve the most important relationships of your life.Here is what to expect on this week’s show:Shift your perspective by understanding the value of focusing on your child's capabilities.Decipher the hidden motives behind challenging behaviors exhibited by children with autism.Embrace essential self-care practices for parents to ensure balance and optimal support. Related Links:A Parent’s Best Question: Is It Naughty or Neurological? The Coach-Approach to Parenting Recommended TreatmentConnect with Andrea:autismparentsolutions.comFacebook Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools Connect with Elaine & Diane:Instagram @impactparentsFacebook @impactparentLinkedIn @impactparentsTwitter @impactparentsLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 16, 2023 • 22min
Ep 123: Are You Stuck in Informationland?
Learn how to move beyond just gathering information in parenting, focusing on implementation and customization for your child's needs. Explore the importance of repetition, improvisation, and context when implementing strategies. Discover the 'magic 3 questions' to ask if a strategy isn't working, and how support systems can help in effective implementation and consistency in your parenting approach.

Aug 9, 2023 • 29min
Ep 122: Medical Bias VS. ADHD: The History of a Smear Campaign
Learn about the history of medical bias against ADHD, the progress made, and the continued challenges. Discover tips for parenting complex kids. Explore the smear campaign against ADHD, the impact of misinformation on treatment, and the importance of awareness and education.