

Gay Men Going Deeper
Gay Men's Brotherhood
Gay Men Going Deeper is a weekly podcast that showcases raw and real conversations about personal development, mental health, and sexuality - from an unapologetically gay perspective.
Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, and featuring a wide range of special guests, you can expect to be inspired, entertained, and even a little triggered from time to time.
This provocative podcast is for anyone who craves deeper conversations on topics ranging from spirituality to sexuality - and everything in between.
Visit us at www.GayMenGoingDeeper.com
Support the show: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=LT55M79CMH5FN
Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, and featuring a wide range of special guests, you can expect to be inspired, entertained, and even a little triggered from time to time.
This provocative podcast is for anyone who craves deeper conversations on topics ranging from spirituality to sexuality - and everything in between.
Visit us at www.GayMenGoingDeeper.com
Support the show: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=LT55M79CMH5FN
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May 19, 2022 • 1h 4min
Emotional Health
While emotional health falls under the overall umbrella of mental health, it deserves its own conversation because your emotions have a profound impact on how you show up in the world and your overall quality of life.
This episode will answer questions such as:
What does it mean to be emotionally healthy?How can you tell when your emotional health may be suffering?How do you handle challenging emotions?What are some simple things you can do to support your emotional health?
By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with loads of useful tips and skills that will support your emotional health.
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May 12, 2022 • 59min
Depression
Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the United States that affects an estimated 17.3 million adults and 3.2 million adolescents according to the National Institute of Mental Health.
Research shows that gay and bisexual men are at a higher risk for: Major depression, Bipolar disorder, and, Generalized anxiety disorder, and are more likely than heterosexual men to attempt suicide.
In today's episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks the heaviness around depression with guest and therapist, Jacob Monkarsh (LMFT & CGP).
Together they explore questions like:
What is depression and how does it affect a person?Is it possible for someone to be depressed without knowing it? What are the signs and symptoms someone should be aware of?What are the biggest triggers for gay men struggling with depression?How can someone currently struggling with depression work to get out of the cycle?How can people best support someone struggling with depression?
During the episode, Jacob asked a very important question concerning gay men and our childhood experiences: "What happens when someone can't connect with themself?" and as children, we often can't connect with ourselves fully once we realize something is "different" about us and we begin hiding who we truly are, but is that creating disassociation within us and our community?
Listen to his answer and more in today's episode.
Guest: Jacob Monkarsh
www.jacobmonkarsh.comLGBTQ Therapy Space
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May 5, 2022 • 1h 13min
Suicide
Each year, over 800,000 people die from suicide and it is the 2nd leading cause of death among 10-24 year olds.
The LGBTQ community has a significantly increased risk and that’s why we’re dedicating an episode to having a candid conversation about suicide.
In this episode, we’ll answer questions such as:
How have you been impacted by suicide?What are some of the stigmas around suicide?What is your advice to someone who is feeling suicidal?As a community, how can we best support someone who is suicidal?
If you are feeling suicidal please reach out for support:
Trevor project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/Crisis Services Canada: https://www.crisisservicescanada.ca/en/Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention: https://suicideprevention.ca/Suicide and Language: https://www.suicideinfo.ca/resource/suicideandlanguage/USA national suicide prevention hotline: 1.800.273.8255
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Apr 28, 2022 • 56min
Mirroring In The Gay Community
Your environment plays an important role in developing a strong identity and sense of self. Everything from the people you spend time with, where you get your news, and the social media accounts you follow will influence your sense of belonging in a community.
In this episode, LGBTQ+ affirmative psychotherapist Justin Oberste joins host, Michael DiIorio to discuss mirroring: how we reflect back our lived experience with the world around us. Today’s episode will answer these questions:
What is mirroring?
How can this strengthen our sense of self?
How does this impact our relationships?
How can we use this to elevate the gay community as a whole?
By the end of this episode, you’ll understand how developing a more conscious approach to your environmental influences can have a positive impact on your sense of self, relationships with others, and the greater community.
For more info on today's guest, Justin Oberste, visit his website or find him on instagram @justinoberste.
Today's host: Michael DiIorio
Michael's Instagram: @wellismo_coach
Sexual Empowerment
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Apr 21, 2022 • 52min
Building Better Relationships
Relationships can be a minefield to navigate when you don't have the right tools or language to help you. Whether it's romantic or platonic ones, we all could use a little more guidance and support with it comes to creating more secure, healthy relationships.
In this episode, we're giving you a sneak peek into our exciting new course, Building Better Relationships, where we guide you on how to build better relationships in your life as well as deepen the one you have with yourself.
Today we're sharing our personal experiences with the course content and how it helped us improve our own relationships. Join us as we discuss…
Which of the course modules we have experienced the most growth personally?Which lessons are we currently working on now in our own lives?What was our favourite lesson to teach?What are the biggest benefits for students going through the Building Better Relationships course?
By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of what all relationships need in order to grow and deepen as well as our outline for the Building Better Relationships course.
► Want to go through the Building Better Relationships course LIVE with Michael and practice what you learn in a safe group of men also working through the course?
Then Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community and sign up for the group cohort with Michael on the membership hub main page by May 4th!!
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With membership, you'll also get access to our Healing Your Shame course, monthly group Zoom's, our private members-only Facebook group as well as 35+ coaching videos ready and waiting for you to dive in!
Or, take our "Building Better Relationships" course at your own pace with our self-study option here: "Building Better Relationships" course (self-study)
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Apr 14, 2022 • 46min
Fitness, Nutrition & Mental Health
In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel speaks with Nutrition Coach Scott Weisgarber about the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health.
Together they explore questions like:
What is the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health?How come gay men are so concerned about physical health and appearance?How does this obsession with appearance impact mental health?The difference between approaching health from feel good vs look good mentalityHow can we find more balance in our relationship between mind and body?
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Apr 7, 2022 • 54min
Intimacy
Intimacy is defined as the feeling of mutual vulnerability and closeness in personal relationships.
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our unique experiences with intimacy as gay men.
We’ll answer questions such as:
What does intimacy mean to you?What was an intimate experience you’ve had that was not sexual? What unique challenges do gay men face when it comes to intimacy?How can you nurture intimacy in any kind of relationship?
By the end of this episode, you’ll have a more in-depth understanding of the different types of intimacy and what it takes to enjoy deeper and more authentic connections with friends and loved ones.
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Mar 31, 2022 • 1h 14min
Grappling with Grief: Addison Brasil
Grief can be a hard experience to navigate because nothing can really prepare you for deep and emotional loss. It's something that everyone will have to experience at least a few times in their life and each person's experience with it is going to be different.
In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon is joined by special guest Addison Brasil to talk about his journey with grief after the lose his brother to cancer, find his father from suicide and survive a fatal event that killed a dear friend and left him needing to relearn how to walk and deal with a brain injury. After 13 years in the grief arena, Addison has learned a thing or two about grief and shares what has helped him in his new book "First Year Of Grief Club: A Gift From A Friend Who Gets It."
By the end of this episode, you should have at least a few more tools in your belt that can help you navigate grief whenever it might come up in your life.
Guest: Addison Brasil
Get the book - First Year of Grief Club : A Gift From A Friend Who Gets It@addisonbrasil / @sharemygriefclub on Instagram@thegriefguy on tiktokFacebookwww.mygriefclub.comwww.addisonbrasil.comFree messages to help you honour the journey: TEXT GRIEF CLUB to +1 (323) 431-9241
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Mar 24, 2022 • 1h 9min
Secure Relationships
Relationships have a natural rhythm between feeling connected to your partner, and other times feeling disconnected from them. Each end of the spectrum can trigger different fears: the fear of being too close and/or the fear of abandonment. Understanding attachment styles helps you see how these fears show up in your relationships.
In this episode, we're exploring our attachment styles and sharing ways we can find a greater sense of security in the naturals ebbs and flows of connection in relationships.
We're answering questions such as:
What attachment style(s) do you most relate to and why?What has prevented you from having secure relationships in the past?What does a secure relationship look like for you?What inner work have you done to have a more secure relationship style?
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Mar 17, 2022 • 48min
Love, Intimacy & Connection: Vol. 2
In this juicy and personal episode, Michael is letting you take a behind-the-scenes peek into his relationship with his partner, Star.
While vacationing in Mexico, they are opening up about the lessons learned after one year together. Specifically, they're talking about relationship dynamics including conflict, intimacy, and communication.
They'll be answering questions such as:
How have they grown over the last year?
What have been their biggest challenges?
How do they handle conflict?
What are some communication do's and don'ts?
This intimate and honest conversation between partners is full of tips and advice for couples and singles alike.
Referenced in today's show- Episode 20: Love, Intimacy, & Connection (behind the scenes of a modern gay relationship)
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