Mindfulness Mode

Niel Guilarte is the owner of Wild Style Media in Tampa Florida, which is an award-winning, high-end video and production company. Niel is also host of the All Things Post podcast, founding member of the Florida Podcasters Association and co-organizer of Podfest Multimedia Expo with Chris Krimitsos. Niel is also a podcast launch coach and speaker Message from Niel to Mindful Tribe: You Can Do Whatever You Want  To Do. My biggest life lesson was someone telling me, you shouldn't do more than one thing. NOT listening to that advice is why I am currently enjoying some of the best days of my life. Please don't ever give up on what you want to do. Be mindful of how you do it, but do EVERYTHING that you want to do. Contact Info Website: www.WildStyleMedia.net Podcast: All Things Post Twitter & IG: @NielGuilarte and or/ @AllThingsPost / @WildStyleMedia Facebook: @NielGuilarte Recent Movie: www.TheMessengersDoc.com  A movie about podcasting Movie Trailer: The Messengers Podcast Documentary Purchase The Messengers DVD ($25.00) Most Influential Person My father Effect on Emotions I think I control them better now because I'm mindful of my emotions. Before, I let my emotions control me a lot. Thoughts on Breathing That's [breathing] a new one for me. I just recently started doing that; controlling my breathing, closing my eyes, counting to 10, those type of small simple steps. It really calms me down. I never realized [the difference]. I apply that [mindful breathing] now; late at night when I'm editing I sort of balance myself and then I keep moving and that's been working great. Suggested Resources Book:  The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen F. Covey App: The Google Calendar App: Calm Bullying Story When I was a kid I was jumped a few times for liking and doing the things that I do and being told I should only focus on one thing. I was bullied verbally and sometimes physically, as kids are. Back then we didn't know that's what it was called. As much as people shouldn't bully, the amount you allow is sort of in your power. This is where I rely on the Christian side, making me a stronger man so that I tolerate less bullying. I allow a little less in. That doesn't mean that people don't force themselves, but people tend to not bully you as much when you have a certain level of confidence about yourself. When I worked for the police department, I learned that you are somewhat the reason you got robbed because you had your head down or you were distracted. You give clues to people to harm you. If you walk like you are a confident person, and you walk alert, you are a little less likely to become a victim. I say in life, if you want to be bullied less, ordered around less, manipulated less, be more confident in yourself and in what you believe in whatever that is, then you'll be less likely to allow it. It is to some degree, a little bit in our control; not all of it. Just a little bit.

Nicholas Kusmich is one of the planet’s most successful and well-known facebook Advertising experts. He knows exactly how to help businesses scale revenue by using FB advertising to get more clients. He has his own unique system called “Contextual Congruence” which is based on his deep understanding of human mindset and social behavior and consequently what triggers people to click on an ad and eventually buy. This translates into the fact that Nicholas Kusmich has a deep and profound understanding of mindfulness. Nicholas has recently written the book: GIVE: The Ultimate Guide To Using Facebook Advertising to Generate More Leads, More Clients, and Massive ROI. Contact Info Website: NicholasKusmich.com Book: Give: The Ultimate Guide To Using Facebook Advertising to Generate More Leads, More Clients, and Massive ROI by Nicholas Kusmich Buy|Nicholas's book now and receive a $197 training bonus AND a chance to win exclusive bonuses (total value over $10,000) AND help build a clean water well in a third world country. Social Media: @NicholasKusmich Free FB Group: FB Marketing Mastery Most Influential Person Life Experience Effect on Emotions Mindfulness has 100 percent affected my emotions. I believe emotions are part of life and I think emotions are designed to be experienced in the fullness of it. So when I'm angry, I'm angry; when I'm happy, I'm happy. I'm not trying to suppress any of that. Being mindful; being aware that I'm not in the best of moods right now definitely allows you to prevent you from doing things you probably would regret and allows you to process those emotions a lot faster so you can be back into the state that you want to be. Thoughts on Breathing For the longest time, I didn't think breathing was all that important to anything. In reality, I think in the times when I literally need to slow down, I literally slow down my breath. I take some conscious breaths rather than unconscious breaths. In doing so, I find that it definitely affects everything about how I feel about slowing down, about getting to the pace that I need to be at, at that time. Breath and spirit are the same word interchangeably in the Hebrew and the Greek which I find completely fascinating. Suggested Resources Book: Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl Books: Give: The Ultimate Guide To Using Facebook Advertising to Generate More Leads, More Clients, and Massive ROI by Nicholas Kusmich App: None Bullying Story I'll talk about bullying in the sense of having people try to persuade you to do something you don't want to do. Bullying from the perspective of not everyone liking you and having something to say about that. My whole life, even to this day there are a lot of people that don't like me and they have the internet to share that with others. For the most part, I try to ignore it. I think feeding on that type of energy is not something that would serve me or others. I just try to take a few steps back to try to be mindful of the situation. I think, a) is there truth to this? And b) Is the person that's speaking, vile to me, maybe there's a reason that has nothing to do with me. Maybe it has something to do with a life situation or a hurt they're going through. There's a quote that says: "Hurt people, hurt people." I do my best to see the greater picture of things and realize it's probably not personal and there may be something going on with that person and also, maybe there is a lesson to be learned.

Jaret Grossman is highly skilled in guiding and advising others. In fact, he’s in a personal development league of his own, which is way up there on the upper echelon of spectacular business consultants and mindset coaches. Jaret’s brilliant insight is illuminated in many of his Youtube videos which have received over 30 million views. Jaret is known as one of New York’s best wrestlers, he holds a law degree, and he also has a health and fitness brand called Muscle Prodigy. Jaret has written a book called Cracking The Code, which has helped thousands of readers get their lives on track. Contact Info Company: www.muscleprodigy.com Website: JaretGrossman.com Youtube: www.youtube.com/user/MuscleProdigyTV Check Out Jaret's $97 Offering: 45 Day Workout and Meal Plan Guide Most Influential Person My parents / Tony Robbins / Max (a wrestling mentor) / Parker (College Wrestling Coach) Effect on Emotions When you get to a point you realize that you're doing the same patterns over and over again. Then you realize that it's painful. It's only when you learn to break free from the patterns that you'll experience peace. The only way to do that is mindfulness. Being consciously aware of; I feel this thing and I normally do this. Why? The real root is the why. Why are you doing it? Is there a reason? Is it serving you? Is it not serving you? If you really dig deep, the layers of the why ... there is this breakthrough moment that it's like, why? And you can shift it. Then you can start implanting a new pattern that's more beneficial to you. Thoughts on Breathing Most of us breathe shallow and into our chest. It's a shortened breath and that's usually the same breathing as someone who is anxious & tense all the time. Fear driven. It's shallow breaths. If you could do the reverse where as you breathe deep into your belly, now you're going to be much more relaxed and calm. When we talk about alpha, it's about alpha male, alpha female. It's really coming from brain waves. Alpha is actually an alertness with a calm to it also. That's sort of the mode you want to be in on a daily basis. That's when you're in control; when you're alert but you're calm. Suggested Resources App: N/A Book: Cracking The Code by Jaret Grossman

Melinda Wittstock is an entrepreneur, journalist, and wonderful example of a mindful person. She runs a company called Verifeed, which uses story and true authenticity to help engage and convert new customers. She not only keeps her company running smoothly, she’s also a traveler, dog owner, and incredible mom. While keeping all these balls in the air, she has a regular routine that includes meditation, exercise, ample sleep, and a generous amount of time with friends. Contact Info Website: www.Verifeed.com Special Offer: Free Consultation With Melinda Text the word 'Tribal' to 44222 We will help you find your believer tribe. This is for anyone wanting to learn more about how to use Social Intelligence to advance their business. Email: info@verifeed.com Most Influential Person Trish Whynot, Therapist. Also Brene Brown, author. Effect on Emotions Level. Like not being guided by emotions. Realizing that emotions are not me. Thoughts are not me, they're passing things. I don't feel like I'm ruled by my emotions. I'd like to think of mindfulness as consciousness. Thoughts on Breathing That's huge. Just being able to relax and being observant and in the moment. Breathing is critical.  Ujjaji breath is a type of deep breathing I got into through yoga. With the 'Whole Aponopono' I've been doing there is a kind of box breath, where you breathe in and you hold it and then you're breathing out and you're holding it and it becomes meditative. Suggested Resources Book: Mastery of Love / Mastery of Self / The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel Ruis Book: Zero Limits:  The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More by Joe Vitale App: Immrama.org Bullying Story I was the kid who was different in every way you could possibly imagine. I was the first kid to have divorced parents in my neighborhood and it made me very sensitive. Some of my report cards say that I would just cry. Well, of course, because my whole life was just crazy back then. I was also the tallest kid and kind of skinny. I competed in figure skating which meant that I missed a lot of school. So I was different on these accounts. I used to get bullied and I used to have this sense of shame like there's something wrong with me. The issue with bullying is that it can last. Speaking of limiting beliefs, that's the kind of thing that you can carry with you for your whole life. It can leave you with the sense of 'I'm not enough' or 'I can't do it'; even if they're unconscious thoughts. These things sometimes happen very subtly.

Leon Logothetis is a global adventurer. He left behind the life of a stockbroker to break new ground and experience new discoveries. He’s now visited more than 50 countries and traveled to every continent on the planet. When anybody says the word kindness, I literally think of Leon - He’s the host of a terrific TV series called ‘The Kindness Diaries’, which has the subtitle; One Man’s Quest to Ignite Goodwill and Transform Lives Around the World. Before that, he had a show called the 'Amazing Adventures Of A Nobody', which follows Leon on his adventures travelling in America, The UK, and Europe on just $5, $5 pounds or $5 Euros a day. The bottom line is, Leon is all about kindness and helping others and of course that connects directly to the subject of mindfulness. Contact Info Website: www.LeonLogothetis.com Show: The Kindness Diaries TV Show: http://www.leonlogothetis.com/netflix/ Book: The Kindness Diaries by Leon Logothetis Social Media:  Facebook / Twitter / Instagram: Leon Logothetis or Kindness Diaries Most Influential Person A teacher I went with on a journey to India a couple of years ago. [show-notes-influence] Effect on Emotions Mindfulness has affected my emotions by enabling me to become more balanced and more centered.  And by enabling me to make better decision and not be so reactive. Thoughts on Breathing I never really realized the importance of breathing until I started doing mindfulness. Often we forget, it sounds silly, but we forget to breathe. I notice now as I give this talk, I'm actually breathing very shallowly. That's not good.  When I breathe as fully as possible, it kind of invigorates me. Breathing is a really powerful and important part of mindfulness. Suggested Resources Book:The Kindness Diaries by Leon Logothetis Book: Find a starter course book on Mindfulness on Amazon App: Buddhify (All about meditation) Bullying Story As a kid, I felt very disconnected. At school I was bullied very badly. I had very few friends. I would go to school and feel profoundly alone. Not just the kids were bullying, but the teachers as well, which I could never understand. It was very disempowering. I made a commitment to myself that I would do my very best never to disempower someone but to empower them. When it comes to kindness, people at school specifically were unkind and I didn't understand. I thought, why are you doing this to me? Why are you behaving like this? I made a commitment that I would give back to people, come from a place of love. That's really how it all began. I could have dealt with this bullying better by sharing my pain with my parents and with other people that loved me, and I never did. Not until I was 16 or 17. When I started to share it, things started to shift.

Lucia Ferraro is a people person; passionate about connecting, learning and growing. One of her specialties is weight loss and her mission is to build a community of women (and men) who have experienced sustainable weight loss by fostering good relationships with food and their bodies. She’ll help you use the power of your mind to change the way you think, so you can change the way you feel. Lucia has created a summit called Change Your Thinking, Change Your Body which will feature 28 speakers who focus not only on how to take care of our bodies, but how to have a healthier mind and spirit. Contact Info Website: www.LuciaFerraro.com  Social Media: FB: LuciaFerraro / Instagram: CiaFerraro Summit: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Body Most Influential Person Tony Robbins [show-notes-influence] Effect on Emotions Mindfulness has helped me. The emotions that stand out are always the negative ones. In this space that I'm in, I've reconciled just by talking to my mother's picture. I reconciled our relationship that I didn't see. I realized my role and responsibility in that. Mindfulness has shifted everything even though she's passed. It was a moment of surrender. I released my mother from that. Thoughts on Breathing I breathe when I take time to meditate and I definitely breathe when I'm walking. I will put on a certain song or instrumental music and I can focus in on my breathing and my tempo. I find that important even when I'm teaching my class. There's a way to do it, like when we do abdominals. I'm always telling people, 'hold your abs like I'm going to punch you in the stomach'. There's something about the way you need to breathe so that your body performs the way you want it to perform. Oxygen needs to go to your muscles so that you can do an aerobic activity Suggested Resources Website:  www.SoundWellness.com  with Sharon Carne App: Oh My God I Can Meditate App: Calm Bullying Story I personally wasn't bullied by an external source but I certainly bullied the crap out of myself. It was the 'not enoughness' things. It was the quest for perfection. And the 'why can you get to that?' I needed to attend to the self-care of me because I realized that I would be able to parent better and also take care of Lucia. I modelled what that needed to look like to my children. I bullied myself in the thoughts; the thoughts were thugs. The thoughts that could come up and nurture me, were pushed down for sure. Everything comes down to nurturing and honoring yourself.

James Nowlin is a successful businessman, author and mindful entrepreneur. At age 26 as a corporate attorney, he walked away from a six-figure practice as an attorney to start his own business, Excel Global Partners. Later he faced the challenge of dealing with the economic downturn, but forged ahead, becoming even stronger and wiser while growing the company to greater successes. In 2012 he barely made it through a near-death drowning accident on a stormy lake while kayaking with a friend. That was a major change-point in his life and he has not only become stronger, he now helps others live lives that are more purposeful, abundant, and epic than they ever imagined. Contact Info Website: www.JamesNowlin.com Book: The Purposeful Millionaire: 52 Rules For Creating a Life of Wealth and Happiness Now by James Nowlin Most Influential Person Dr. Robert S. Brown (University of Virginia College Professor and Mentor) Effect on Emotions Mindfulness has affected my emotions in such a way that there is control. In business, I feel that I had a competitive advantage when it comes to negotiating because I bring mindfulness to the table. (See Thoughts on Breathing below). So mindfulness is not about ignoring emotions or putting those emotions in your pocket, it's about controlling things for the situation. For me, it's manifested itself in such a way that I can take control of the situation and end up being in the position of power and the universe and others respond to me because of my control of those emotions. I bring mindfulness to everything that I do in order to, not ignore emotions, but to tap in to a higher purpose and a greater understanding of how emotions can serve us. They can serve us very poorly or they can serve us very well. I want my emotions to serve me well. Thoughts on Breathing When somebody wants something out of a negotiation and I want something out of a negotiation, I will take a second at that boardroom table and breathe, to inhale for ten seconds, to hold it, to exhale for ten seconds. To slow down my thought process and to move from the reactive which is in the emotional part of the brain to the rational side of the brain. By doing that I am elevating the conversation and I'm changing the tone that I'm speaking in and the other person elevates their conversation and I'm changing  their tone. So the entire conversation changes. Mindfulness in traffic means breathing as well. When someone cuts me off now, I can laugh, instead of wanting to curse or flick that person off. I even talk about road rage in the book and about distracted drivers. Suggested Resources Book: The Prayer of Jebez by Bruce Wilkinson Book: The Purposeful Millionaire: 52 Rules For Creating a Life of Wealth and Happiness Now by James Nowlin App: Three Minute Mindfulness Bullying Story Mindfulness started for me at a very young age. The bullying taught me to be mindful. Being in a household in which some of the circumstances were just dreadful forced me to be mindful. I didn't know what it was called back then but I knew that if I spent time alone, if I closed the door to the room, and if I just sat in silence, that something about me changed. The vibrations within my body and the vibrations within my mind actually changed. That practice has translated into other areas of my life including when I went to college I had the opportunity to study under Dr. Robert S. Brown who is a mentor to me to this day. 

Lily Wong is a teacher, podcaster, and a world traveler who strives to find ways to give back. Her life’s journey has been fascinating and she continues to add shimmering layers to her experiences. Her Chinese podcast called, Learn English So You Can Travel has been downloaded more than 20 million times, and is recorded in her native language of Mandarin. Her newest podcast is called ‘Fly With Lily where she shares bits of her life’s story so listeners can benefit from her beautiful story-telling abilities. Contact Info Website: www.FlyWithLily.com Podcast: Fly With Lily Most Influential Person Dr. Wayne Dyer Effect on Emotions A lot of people might be jealous of my life right now because I can do whatever I want and I can go wherever I want but travel is not always so sexy. I find [I can be] very negative or very anxious. I was constantly looking for a place to stay and when people tell me, oh sorry, Lilly you can't stay here anymore because my parents are coming to visit, you need to find your own place. That message makes me feel very anxious; makes me feel not loved. I think mindfulness makes me feel like I can recognize these messages. They can be a trigger to my past. I can work on that next time when I hear the same thing. How do I transfer; how do I make it different? Thoughts on Breathing Breathing - I haven't thought about that. Especially breathing during meditation where they ask me to notice my breathing. I also like to practice yoga as well. I notice that I kind of held my breath when I practice yoga. Then I ask myself to breathe more; to enjoy the air when it's morning. Breathing is kind of like a tool to help you to live in the moment. Suggested Resources Book: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay App:  N/A Bullying Story When I was a teenager I was at the lowest point in my life because I was so focused on myself and I constantly liked to beat myself up. I wanted to; I liked to beat myself up. Then I wrote a lot of suicidal messages in my journal. I felt I was in the dark. I felt really good to beat myself up. When I was a student I got all straight A's and I worked really hard but deep inside I was not happy. Several people liked to pick on me. They called me names and they tried to hit me. They wanted to do stuff to me and I was scared but I also found myself fearless at some points because I was already beating myself up. What worse could happen? It was that mindset that helped me avoid physical abuse. After a few years, I learned that people who bully people; they are actually the biggest bullies to themselves. They say mean stuff to others in order to make them feel good. In my head, I was judging people and I was judging myself too. I'm much better now; I don't judge people so much. I can really tell whether my message is from my ego or my intuition or from love. If you've experienced a bullying in your life, I want you to hug those bullies in your heart. Try to be nice to those bullies in your heart. Try to see them as your family in your heart.

Jared Angaza is a philanthropist, philosopher, and all around mindful individual. He has an amazing ability to create brands, innovate, and think outside of the box as a way to help people and organizations he believes in from the heart. And Jared truly has heart, beyond what most of us can imagine. He loves to discuss consciousness, culture, andscience. Jared is the host and creator of the Inipi Radio Podcast. The Inipi ceremony is a type of sweat lodge; a Lakota purification ceremony, and one of the Seven Sacred Rites of the Lakota people. It is an ancient and sacred ceremony of the Lakota people and has been passed down through the generations of Lakota. We talk a lot about philanthropy, science, consciousness, politics, and culture. Contact Info Website: www.JaredAngaza.com Podcast: Inipi Radio Most Influential Person Lau Tzu and also my daughter Effect on Emotions I am a passionate dude and have always been that way. Consequently, I've struggled with rage and angst. Being mindful has helped me to step down off that. People like Pema Chodron have taught me not to take the bait and to step down from that rage, and not to kill it, not to squelch it, but to learn to transmute it into love. Thoughts on Breathing Yes, [breathing has been part of my mindfulness] probably most over the last year. I had this chant going on in my head, I don't really know where it came from. It was, 'find your breath'. It was coupled with this other mantra which I deliberately put together of, 'In this stillness, I am'. So 'in the stillness I am also able to find my breath and to become more still. Right now I'm practicing counting my breaths as I'm meditating which has helped a lot. Suggested Resources Book: The Magic of Awareness by Anam Thubten Book: Wisdom Meets Passion: When Generations Collide and Collaborate by Jared Angaza and Dan Miller App: Evernote and The Muse App Bullying Story I don't think I was ever directly bullied in the traditional bully sense. However, I was ostracized at times because of my creative nature; because of not doing well in school.

Amy Blankson is a happiness researcher and consultant. She has worked with Google, NASA, and the U.S. Army and also served as a professor in Oprah’s Happiness course. Amy has been acknowledged by two former U.S. presidents for creating a movement to activatepositive culture change. Increased technology can interfere with our efforts to be mindful and Amy’s recent book entitled, The Future of Happiness [5 Modern Strategies for Balancing Productivity and Well-Being in the Digital Era], addresses this issue head on. Contact Info Website: www.AmyBlankson.com Share Your Story With Amy of How You've Used Mindfulness In Your Life: www.AmyBlankson.com/story Book: The Future of Happiness: 5 Modern Strategies for Balancing Productivity and Well-Being in the Digital Era by Amy Blankson Social Media: FB/Instagram/Twitter: @AmyBlankson Most Influential Person Chandra Moyer, Life Coach Effect on Emotions Mindfulness calms my mind and helps me to be able to deal with deeper emotions in a more measured and thoughtful way through balance and just being able to take a step back and see myself from the outside so that I can choose a different path for myself. Thoughts on Breathing Breathing is crucial to my mindfulness. Breathing is something that I tend to stop doing in the moment when I get stressed out. I don't even realize that I am getting more and more anxious and intense. Because I'm an anxious person naturally, breath is the absolute most essential key to helping me to get oxygen into my system so that I can think clearly and straightly. It's amazing and super important. Suggested Resources Book: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport Book: The Future of Happiness: 5 Modern Strategies for Balancing Productivity and Well-Being in the Digital Era by Amy Blankson App: Muse (Requires that you buy the Muse Headband) Buy at a discounted price and get Amy's new book as a bonus. AmyBlankson.com/muse Thoughts on Breathing A couple of weeks ago I was at the Wisdom 2.0 conference in San Francisco, and by far the best speaker that I heard at the conference was Jewel, the singer-songwriter. Jewel talked about how when she was younger; she had a lot of family trauma going on in her world. Alcohol, abuse, parents in and out of her life and it led her to being rough and tough and she wound up, at the age of 16, living out of her car for quite some time till her car was stolen. It was one thing after another of awful things happening to this poor girl who didn't have a lot of support in her life at that point. She stumbled upon mindfulness and meditation at that young age as a way to deal with this world around her. She talked about how she found herself in the dressing room one day where she was trying to steal a dress and she was trying to hide it under her clothes by stuffing this dress that she found in a store window. She loved it. She was stuffing it into her jeans pants and trying to put a big jacket on over her outfit because she just felt this was something she couldn't live without, and it would make her world so much happier. It was a lovely white dress that made her feel clean again. As she was doing that, she looked into the mirror, and she realized who she'd become and how it had recreated this cycle of poverty and this systemic violence and thought pattern that she didn't want to have in her life. She said that she felt like she had gotten to that place in her life through mindfulness. Even at that young age there was so much going on in her world; the ability to step back and see herself from the outside really created a different perspective on her life. She talked about how she was that bully. She was the individual who was trying to protect herself from so many things entering her world and encroaching on her own sense of self-efficacy and self-worth that she reacted and responded. I think that really spoke volumes to me about how she was able to come to that place of awareness. I think it's not always such an elevated story. We often hear young people who are going through the bullying process, and you try to steal yourself against the bully. Mindfulness really makes me think about how the bully can transform.