Relationship Advice

  Ahhhhh! STRESS. If you've never been stressed out you are either, not human, or you've achieved an extreme level of enlightenment and your brain should be studied in a lab. Stress is a natural survival response from millions of years of evolution. It serves us well in some situations, and in others it can be quite destructive. In particular, stress can put a huge damper on the relationships in your life. Use the tips in this episode to deal with stress in a way that does not negatively affect your relationships.   In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to slow things down so you can think rationally and not say or do things you'll later regret.  Staying mindful to avoid reactivity.  Broadening your view to think of the bigger picture as a tool for dealing with your stress.  Realizing that stress is a part of life and finding the right mindset to move forward with it.  And much more! Melanie Greenberg Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist specializing in stress and relationships. She is also the author of The Stress-Proof Brain and The Mindful Self-Express blog on Psychology Today. An expert on relationships, Melanie counsels individuals and couples on issues like communication, dating, building intimacy, and finding secure attachment, Melanie provides keynotes and workshops to mental health professionals nationally and internationally. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/175 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Go to Babbel.com and  offer code IDO​ to get 50% off your first 3 months! Simple Contacts: lets you renew your contact lens prescription from anywhere with our online renewal test and delivery service. To save $20 on your contact lenses, just go to simplecontacts.com/IDO or enter the code IDO at checkout.   If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve all felt rejected and down in the dumps. It sucks. I mean it really sucks. But there’s hope! Maybe you’re dating and can’t seem to find the right partner, or you’re in a relationship and feel rejected every time your partner turns you down for sex. Feelings of rejection are human and normal! We’re here to help you navigate these dark and stormy feelings and come out the other side to the bright sunshine that awaits! Listen to today’s episode and learn. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding that you are not alone in your rejection. It happens to everyone! The negative effects of social media on your feelings of rejection and overall happiness. Quick hint: Want to immediately feel better? Stop following (stalking) your ex’s on social! How to navigate feelings of rejection from your partner or spouse. And much more! Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist and author who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/174 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Go to Babbel.com and  offer code IDO​ to get 50% off your first 3 months! Green Chef: Green Chef is a USDA certified organic company that includes everything you need to easily cook delicious meals that you can feel good about. For $50 off your first box of Green Chef, go to GreenChef.us/IDO.     If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it feels like we live in the most narcissistic time in history. Selfies are a ‘thing’, social media encourages us to always share how great we are and reality TV thrives off of self promotion. What do you do when narcissistic traits appear in you or your partner? There’s hope on the way and it’s in the form of this podcast! Listen and learn how to deal with narcissistic habits in your partner or yourself. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Communicating with a partner who exhibits narcissistic traits. Understanding the degrees of narcissistic habits and how to deal with various levels. The value of having “yes” conversations instead of “but” conversations. This tip is a great tool for EVERY kind of relationship.   Examining where narcissistic traits come from and ways to manage them. How narcissistic habits can reveal themselves as a listening disorder. And much more! Dr. Susan Heitler is a Denver clinical psychologist, author of five books plus a popular blog on Psychology Today that has had over 16 million reads. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/173 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get $20 off! Warby Parker: Warby Parker makes buying glasses online easy and risk-free. Find your perfect pair! Get started with a free home try-on kit by visiting warbyparker.com/ido     If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Getting in touch with our feelings and emotions is much easier said than done. If we can learn to understand our emotions and where they come from, then we can begin to improve the relationship with our self and our partner. Childhood trauma and neglect are the root causes of many personal and intrapersonal relationship issues. Listen to today’s amazing show for valuable tips on navigating the minefield of our emotions. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to pay attention, understand and communicate your emotions and feelings with your partner The importance of validating your partner’s feelings and how to do it properly Why you should not argue over who’s ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. Childhood emotional neglect and why it’s likely impacting your relationship The dead end of arguing about facts and events rather than the root issues in your relationship And much more! Jonice Webb, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, speaker, blogger and best-selling author. Dr. Webb wrote the first book ever written about Childhood Emotional Neglect and is recognized worldwide as the pioneer of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN). Dr. Webb created the first and only online Childhood Emotional Neglect Recovery Program. She has been interviewed about her topic on CBS Boston Evening News, NECN Morning News, and NPR. Her work has been cited by The Chicago Tribune, Psychology Today, Psychcentral.com and The Elephant Journal. Dr. Webb also provides professional trainings for licensed therapists in identifying and treating Childhood Emotional Neglect in their clients. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/172 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Go to Babbel.com and  offer code IDO​ to get 50% off your first 3 months! Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/ido.     If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ed Callirgos, an owner of The Bridge CCM and a licensed marriage therapist renowned for his work with high conflict couples, shares invaluable insights on effective communication and conflict resolution in relationships. He discusses the nuanced role of honesty, encouraging partners to make conversations feel important. Ed addresses the challenges of arguing over trivial matters and provides practical communication techniques to avoid blame and foster understanding. Listeners will gain tools to enhance their dialogue and strengthen their emotional connections.

Just be yourself. Easier said than done in this mixed up and sometimes crazy world. Gender roles, stereotypes, expectations and culture all shape how we see ourselves. The search for your authentic self can help improve your relationship in ways you never thought imaginable. Listen to today's episode and learn! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding how gender roles and stereotypes can shape how we perceive ourselves and negatively affect relationships. Tools to explore 'inner space' and work toward the most authentic version of yourself. Pushing yourself to go outside your comfort zones to explore your identity. How to talk to your partner about authenticity in each other and the relationship. Asking yourself, "what parts of myself am I too shy to share?", and how this exercise can lead to relationship breakthroughs. How the LGBT community is leading the way in authenticity and acceptance and what heterosexual's can learn from them. And much more! Ken Page, LCSW, is a renowned psychotherapist, popular Psychology Today blogger, and author of the bestseller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. He's also the host of the new Deeper Dating Podcast. He has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Fox News, WPIX-TV News, Match.com, ChristianMingle, JDate and more. Page has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants. His work has been highly acclaimed by numerous top thought leaders, including Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Arielle Ford, Edward Hallowell, MD, Chip Conley, Judith Orloff, MD. and Katherine Woodward Thomas Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/170 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app.   If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy to lower our self worth in a relationship. Maybe it's because you are so madly in love you'll do just about anything for your partner — no matter how bad they treat you. Maybe they don't treat you terribly, but you have this itch that makes you think they should be treating you better. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate and get the love you deserve! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to not lose your identity in your relationship or in your life in general. The importance of putting yourself first. Understanding your needs and communicating them to your partner. Why you should not be 'keeping score' in your relationship. Using "I" statements instead of "you" statements. And much more! Marisa Peer is a world renowned speaker, Rapid Transformational Therapy trainer and best-selling author. She has nearly three decades of experience as a therapist and has been named Best British Therapist by Men's Health magazine and featured in Tatler's Guide to Britain's 250 Best Doctors. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/169 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app.   If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dollars and cents don't sound like the most romantic relationship topic for your next date night. However, properly communicating about finances in committed relationships is a key tool for relationship happiness. Listen to today's show to learn how and why you need to talk finances with your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How communicating about your budget can create more intimacy. Why it's a good thing that finances force us to adapt and change within our relationship. Understanding your individual emotional connections to money. How to communicate your core principles around money and why it's so important. Steps to have constructive arguments surround finances and other relationship issues. And much more! Russell Baxter is a Licensed Professional Counselor that runs Foundations Counseling in Grapevine, TX. He has created a specific curriculum for both couples and counselors to navigate finances in relationships. He is currently finishing his new book "Sharing Your Heart, Sharing Your Treasure", which will be released by the end of 2018. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/168 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course:Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is the most honest and open conversation we've had on this podcast to date. We're no different than any other couple when it comes to relationship issues. We've dealt with control issues in our relationship, and we were happy to talk through our struggles with the help of today's guest, Wendi Dumbroff. Listen to today's show if you want an honest and useful conversation about how to deal with control issues in your relationship. Topics from this episode include: How to identify the cycle of control in your relationship. Does this sound familiar? Your partner tells you to do something, and it makes you want to do it less. Identifying the triggers that occur when your partner is being controlling. Importance of recognizing that we cannot help how we feel, but can help what we do. Dropping below surface communication in your relationship and examining the roots of an issue. And much more! Wendi L. Dumbroff, MA, LPC, is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Madison, NJ, where she specializes in individual, family, couple and sex therapy. She is a highly trained couple and sex therapist who provides a safe, non-judgmental and sex-positive environment. Additionally, Dumbroff is a teacher and practitioner of mindfulness and meditation which are skills she brings into her therapy practice. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/167 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course:Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Life is busy. Work, kids, Netflix, your phone. There are more things than ever pulling us away from our partners. Maintaining connection is a key component of a happy and healthy relationship. Use the actionable tips from today’s episode to stay connected and nurture your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the importance of greeting your partner when you leave or enter the house and how to do it Creating and implementing a going to bed ritual How to avoid letting technology negatively affect your relationship. Fun games to play to engage with your partner and keep things new and exciting The importance of asking your partner on a date and how to do it right And much more! Dr. Jennifer Lagrotte, DMFT, LMHC, LMFT, a therapist in practice in Parkland, FL, specializes in working with couples. She is an expert on showing couples how to stop fighting and start communicating. Her passion is couples, and she has dedicated her work to exclusively working with couples. Her speciality is affair recovery and uses the Atone/Attune/Attach Method, learned from in-person training with Julie and John Gottman. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/166 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course:Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices