Relationship Advice

Our relationships go through natural rhythms and cycles just as the rest of nature does. If you can understand that your relationship will go through different seasons, you can better navigate the changes. Listen to this episode to learn about the different seasons of your relationship and life. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Becoming aware of the patterns in nature and working with them in your relationship Understanding that whatever is happening in your life will change How we can personally change with the seasons of the year and throughout our lives Why we shouldn't change too many things at once in our relationship And much more! John G. Cottone, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice; a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the Renaissance School of Medicine at Stony Brook University; and a researcher with peer-reviewed publications in psychology, psychiatry and neuroscience. He is also the author of a personal growth book entitled "Who Are You? Essential Questions for Hitchhikers on the Road of Truth." Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/247 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Policy Genius is America's leading online insurance marketplace. Compare and buy in just a few minutes. We all get things wrong from time to time. At least we can get life insurance right with Policy Genius. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine This show's title sounds like a big project, huh? Well, we believe it's definitely one worth pursuing! Listen to today's show to get the tools and information to start creating more meaning, purpose and happiness in your relationship today! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to create meaning and reach goals in your relationship Importance of not looking to your partner to make you happy Building something bigger in your relationship The two phases of our realities and the key to understanding each How to keep things fresh in a long term relationship And much more! For more than 13 years, Peter Lynn and Tod Jacobs have been helping their students develop a mature and idealistic vision of marriage as the primary vehicle to create wholeness, meaning, purpose and happiness in their lives, and on working to perfect the character issues that lie at the core of a successful spouse -- giving, empathy, focus, staying power and a strong desire to help build the other. Their work combines practical and mystical Jewish wisdom with modern theory and techniques, and with experience accrued through years of real-world implementation and practice. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/246 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go ​to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine You're not alone if the current crisis is causing you to feel stressed and anxious. Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. The sense of uncertainty, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don’t let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How anxiety can manifest as reactivity to your partner and how to change this to responsiveness Why some anxiety can be good and how to best channel this energy Becoming aware of your anxiety and taking steps to manage it How to slow things down rather than approaching everything with a sense of urgency How anxiety lives in the body and the physiological responses we can create to cope with our anxiety And much more! Dr. Denise Fournier is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist and coach in Miami, FL. Through her practice, Evergreen Therapy, she works with individuals and couples using an approach that blends modern research and Eastern philosophy. In addition to her work with clients, Denise is also an adjunct professor at Nova Southeastern University and a regular contributor to the Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/245 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Manson is a NYT bestselling author who has written books about hope, living a good life and now an audible original about love and relationships. Listen to today's show to hear Mark's perspective on relationships through his own personal experiences and through putting together an audiobook about them. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of recognizing the false 'Disney narrative' about love and relationships Learning to be skeptical of yourself as a tool for living a good life How to decide who you should date Why Mark believes love is not scarce What Mark has learned from his own relationships and from putting together this audiobook And much more! Mark Manson is an OG super blogger turned best-selling author. His international smash hit, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, has sold millions of copies, inspiring a generation of no fucks given. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/244 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our personality is created by a multitude of complex factors to create a way in which we view the world and relate with others. One theory on the dimensions of our personality comes from the 19th-century spiritual philosopher George Gurdjieff. Today's guest, John Cottone, Ph.D., walks us through Gurdjieff's personality theory and shows us how we can apply it to ourselves and our relationships. Gurdjieff believed that personality types can be divided into physical, emotional and intellectual categories and that each person would be well-served by following the spiritual path that resonates with her respective personality orientation. We really enjoyed this conversation and hope you do too! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn about the physical, emotional and intellectual personality dimensions How to determine which personality dimension you and your partner align with the most Understanding if some personality dimensions are incompatible? How to work with your partner's personality Why understanding you and your partner's personality type can be valuable during these difficult times And much more! John G. Cottone, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice; a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the Renaissance School of Medicine at Stony Brook University; and a researcher with peer-reviewed publications in psychology, psychiatry and neuroscience. He is also the author of a personal growth book entitled "Who Are You? Essential Questions for Hitchhikers on the Road of Truth." Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/243 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Coronavirus pandemic is on everyone's minds, and is likely adding stress to your life and relationships. Listen to today's show with Dr. Melanie Joy as we discuss how to navigate your personal and relational life specifically during these difficult times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to help yourself and your partner feel secure during times of insecurity What to do if your partner does not care about the health situation as much as you do Why it's important to understand innate personal views on hygiene How to communicate in the most productive way when discussing important decisions and views Making decisions that are good for your relationship during stressful times And much more! Melanie Joy, PhD, is a Harvard-educated psychologist specializing in relationships, communication and social change. She is the award-winning author of five books, including Getting Relationships Right: How to Build Resilience and Thrive in Life, Love, and Work. Dr. Joy is also an international speaker, trainer and organizational coach. Her work has been featured by media outlets around the world, including The New York Times, BBC, and ABC Australia; and she has been granted a number of international awards. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/242 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go ​to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Personal finances and insurance are not the most sexy topics when it comes to working on your relationship. However, these things can pull two people apart and even end relationships all together. Listen to today's show to learn how to get your financial and relational life in order with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn a recommended route to a more financially responsible partnership Where to start when talking about insurance and financial responsibilities with your partner How does a financial planner budget for his wedding? Contributing to investments for retirement And much more! Patrick Hanzel is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ on the advanced planning team at Policygenius. He has eight years of industry experience and previously worked as an advisor and associate at Northwestern Mutual. He has a degree in Business Administration from Nebraska Wesleyan University. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/241 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coercive control is a seriously negative strategy introduced in some relationships. Listen to today's show to understand if you are in a coercive control relationship, and how to navigate this territory. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Coercive control as a strategy for your partner to dominate others through manipulation, isolation and other toxic behaviors How to stand up to a coercive controlling partner How to determine if your partner exhibits coercive controlling behavior Changing the negative patterns and seeking professional help And much more! Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD is the author of Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship. With a PhD in Psychology, she has spent 25 years as a researcher, advocate and teacher on topics related to violence against women and children. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/240 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Thrive Causemetics: Start thriving and help women in need today by going to ThriveCausemetics.com/IDO and use code IDO for 15% off your first purchase! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our romantic lives with our partners will inevitably change over time. How can we navigate these changes in long term relationships? Listen to today's show to learn some tools and insights into this thing we call LOVE. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Experiences of early intense love contrasted with longer term profound love How can we make love and sexual desire last long term? The importance of focusing on the profound aspects of your partner Options for relationship styles depending on age and life circumstances Answers to the BIG question: Is love best when it's fresh? And much more! Aaron Ben-Ze’ev is a Professor of Philosophy at the University of Haifa. His most recent book is The Arc of Love: How Our Romantic Lives Change Over Time. (University of Chicago Press, 2019). He is a former President of the University of Haifa, and he is the Founding and Former President of the European Philosophical Society for the Study of Emotions. Professor Ben-Ze'ev is considered one of the world's leading experts in the study of emotions. Most recently, his research has centered on love and the impact of time on romantic love. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/239 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Much of a successful relationship involves properly apologizing to your partner and repairing the relationship. Relationships are not necessarily about preventing disagreements and arguments, but apologizing and moving forward positively. Listen to today's show to learn how to apologize the right way! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough The five apology languages that you and your partner will likely fall into Blame and its role in apologizing How to communicate if you are desiring an apology from someone not giving it How to make your apology sincere And much more! Dr. Jen Thomas is a TED speaker, psychologist and author. She enjoys teaching what to say when challenging conversations arise at work or at home. Today’s world requires that you know the essentials of successful apologies. Simply saying you’re sorry is usually not enough. Dr. Jen helps people like you turn bad situations into good outcomes based on your love and apology languages. She is one of a handful of approved presenters for Gary Chapman’s #1 New York Times best-selling book series “The Five Love Languages.” Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/238 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go ​to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices