Therapy Works

In today's episode, a letter to the Agony Aunties sparks a deeply honest conversation about what it means to love two people at once. The writer shares her experience of being in a long-term marriage of 33 years while also falling for another man. The hosts explore the emotional weight of this dual connection and the very human complexities of desire, loyalty, and longing.Drawing on the insights of relationship experts like Dan Savage and Esther Perel, the discussion unpacks the prevalence of extramarital affairs and the often-unspoken struggles within committed relationships. From trust and secrecy to self-reflection and growth, this episode invites listeners to sit with the grey areas and consider how we reconcile love, truth, and our evolving sense of self within a marriage.Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Nadiya Hussain shares her journey from a housewife to a renowned baker and author, detailing the challenges she faced along the way. She discusses the impact of her immigrant background, societal pressures, and personal struggles with anxiety and panic attacks. Nadiya touches upon her career’s milestones, including her victory on The Great British Bake Off, and how each new project brings its own set of challenges and expectations. She also reflects on family dynamics, the significance of open communication, and the importance of maintaining dreams and aspirations despite obstacles. The conversation highlights Nadiya's relentless determination, love for family, and the unique challenges she faces as a British Bangladeshi Muslim woman in the public eye.00:09 Nadiya's Multifaceted Identity00:54 Challenges and Overcoming Them02:15 Facing Criticism and Bias06:25 Childhood Dreams and Realizations09:34 Family Dynamics and Cultural Expectations11:35 Pursuing Education Against All Odds23:57 Marriage and Personal Growth25:06 Navigating Family Dynamics and Adaptability27:47 Understanding Parental Decisions and Forgiveness29:23 The Legacy of Courage and Change32:08 Overcoming Personal Challenges and Achievements36:31 Facing Cultural and Professional Hurdles41:39 Family, Fame, and Open Communication48:11 Embracing Challenges and Personal GrowthFind Nadiya:Website: https://www.nadiyahussain.com/Instagram: @nadiyajhussainBuy Nadiya's new book 'Rooza': https://www.nadiyahussain.com/book/rooza/Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties discuss a delicate and complex issue brought up by a listener whose partner's brother has two adult daughters conceived using a sperm donor. Despite being aware of the donor conception, the daughters have never been told, and the listener seeks advice on whether and how they should be informed. The Agony Aunties emphasise the importance of the biological parents handling the conversation and suggest seeking support from organisations like the Donor Conception Network. They also recommend exploring personal fears around disclosure and preparing for the conversation through therapy. Throughout the discussion, they highlight the roles family members can play in providing support and maintaining strong relationships.Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Julia Samuel welcomes Lucy Brazier, the author of 'The Honesty Box', who candidly shares the challenges she faces in her marriage due to her husband's longstanding struggles with depression. Lucy discusses the transformative impact of an eventual ADHD and autism diagnosis on their relationship, their coping mechanisms, and the critical role of honest communication. Their story also highlights systemic issues in mental health diagnosis and treatment. Additionally, the episode features a discussion among Julia and her daughters about the broader implications of these struggles in marriages, underscoring the importance of understanding, patience, and resilience.00:32 Struggles with Depression in Marriage00:59 Decision to Divorce02:25 Emotional Impact and Resentment03:20 Challenges of Supporting a Depressed Partner11:32 Discovery of ADHD13:04 The Honesty Box Project16:46 Impact of ADHD Diagnosis26:44 Dual Diagnosis: ADHD and ASD30:54 Understanding Family Dynamics31:17 Balancing Openness and Protection33:02 Collective Agency in Mental Health34:23 Navigating Differences in Marriage36:31 Embracing Imperfections and Courage39:14 The Importance of Honest Conversations40:24 Coping Mechanisms and Adaptations54:05 The Role of Diagnosis and Acceptance57:08 Reflections on Divorce and RelationshipsBuy Lucy's book: https://amzn.eu/d/990KhdlInstagram: @brazier.lucyPlease subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this engaging episode, Owen O'Kane, a psychotherapist, former palliative care specialist, and ex-NHS clinical lead for mental health, shares his professional journey and deeply personal story. He reflects on his transition from nursing in palliative care to training as a psychotherapist, a shift inspired by witnessing the profound psychological distress many patients faced. Owen also opens up about his upbringing in Northern Ireland during the Troubles and the personal struggles of coming out as gay in a Catholic family. He highlights how his lived experiences shape his therapeutic approach, emphasising the power of empathy, trauma awareness, and emotional resilience in mental health care.Drawing from his latest book, Addicted to Anxiety, Owen introduces the concept that anxiety can function like an addiction, offering a false sense of safety while keeping individuals trapped in cycles of fear. He discusses practical strategies for managing anxiety, including learning to acknowledge, accept, and even befriend the anxious self rather than resisting it. His insights provide a fresh and compassionate perspective on understanding anxiety, helping listeners develop greater self-awareness and healthier coping mechanisms to break free from its grip.Buy Owen's new book, 'Addicted to Anxiety': https://amzn.eu/d/cxRKYCDFollow Owen: @owenokanetenPlease subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, broadcaster, author, and political commentator Iain Dale shares an intimate look at his career and personal journey. He opens up about the pressures of public life, imposter syndrome, and health struggles, as well as the deeply personal experience of coming out to his family. Through candid storytelling, Iain reflects on the importance of being seen and validated by loved ones, the impact of childhood experiences, and the complex emotions surrounding his relationship with his mother.Iain discusses the challenges of navigating a public career while staying true to himself, offering insights into the role of therapy, personal reflection, and overcoming self-doubt. A thought-provoking and heartfelt episode, this discussion reminds us of the importance of embracing vulnerability and finding strength in our personal stories.01:22 Challenges of a Public Role10:15 Health Struggles and Personal Reflections19:36 Coming Out and Family Reactions28:10 Reflecting on a Mother's Love and Regret29:04 Complex Emotions and Unspoken Wounds30:04 Career Reflections and Family Dynamics30:45 Navigating Public and Private Life31:47 The Journey of Acceptance and Identity33:03 Thoughts on Parenthood and Personal Choices35:33 Imposter Syndrome and Professional Growth38:06 The Role of Education and Early Influences39:34 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Finding Confidence40:36 The Breakthrough in Radio44:49 Final ReflectionsFind Iain: Instagram: @iaindaleX: @IainDalePlease subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, the Agony Aunties respond to a heartfelt message from a listener struggling with the loss of a close friend. As an atheist, they feel isolated and alienated by the predominantly Christian language surrounding grief. The Agony Aunties explore the importance of finding grief support that resonates with non-religious individuals and suggest alternatives like The Grief Gang. They acknowledge the profound pain and loneliness that can come with grief, emphasising the need for open expression and validation of loss.The conversation also delves into the role of anger in the grieving process, highlighting its importance as a natural emotional response. The Agony Aunties share practical ways to navigate grief, including emotional regulation techniques and finding therapists or support communities that respect non-religious perspectives. This episode serves as a reminder that everyone deserves compassionate and inclusive support, no matter their beliefs.Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this deeply moving episode of Therapy Works, Lottie Clark shares the story of her husband James’s battle with motor neurone disease. She opens up about the emotional and physical toll of his diagnosis, the challenges of caring for a loved one with a terminal illness, and the difficult decisions their family faced—including James’s choice to pursue assisted dying at Dignitas. Lottie speaks candidly about the impact on their children, the process of saying goodbye, and the long road of grief that follows loss.This conversation offers an intimate look at navigating life when faced with unimaginable circumstances. Lottie’s story is one of heartbreak but also of deep strength and unwavering love. She reflects on the power of open conversations, the importance of honouring personal choices in end-of-life care, and her ongoing campaign for assisted dying legislation. This is an episode about grief, but also about the extraordinary courage it takes to walk alongside someone through their final chapter.00:55 Facing a Terminal Diagnosis04:41 The Emotional Impact and Initial Reactions06:36 Planning for the Future13:01 Communicating with the Children15:11 The Decision for Assisted Dying26:55 Reflecting on the Impact of Loss27:26 Honest Conversations with Children29:32 A Final Family Trip31:44 Saying Goodbye33:12 Campaigning for Assisted Dying36:29 The Journey of Repatriation39:20 Finding Strength in Love50:22 The Complexity of Assisted Dying57:34 The Long Road of GriefIf you are looking to campaign, please find out more here: https://www.dignityindying.org.uk/This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try atbetterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self.Please subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we discuss navigating the challenges of finding a suitable therapist, especially when finances are a concern. We cover various aspects such as therapist fees, the importance of a good therapist-client fit, and practical advice on utilising sliding scales, group therapy, and recommendations from friends. We also touch on the value of accredited therapists and the benefits of support from voluntary organizations and training institutes. The conversation includes tips on making initial free phone calls to therapists and emphasises the power and affordability of group therapy.00:36 Challenges in Finding the Right Therapist00:59 Financial Considerations and Sliding Scale Options01:34 Importance of Therapist-Client Fit04:10 Exploring Group Therapy07:04 Alternative Therapy Options and Final ThoughtsPlease subscribe and leave a review—it truly makes all the difference! Follow Julia at @juliasamuelmbe for more insights, tips, and conversations on life's challenges and how to improve your mental well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week on Therapy Works, Dr Julie Smith—clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and online mental health educator—joins Julia Samuel for a deeply personal and insightful conversation on health, success, and the importance of mental well-being.Julie opens up about the unexpected success of her first book, the challenges of navigating a public career, and how her values—particularly as a parent—help her stay grounded. She also shares how her cancer diagnosis and treatment impacted her both personally and professionally, reflecting on how she managed to balance her roles as a parent and an author while facing one of the most challenging experiences of her life.The conversation also explores the power of language, books, and storytelling in helping people navigate difficult emotions and experiences. Julia's daughters, Emily and Sophie, offer their own reflections on the discussion, delving into the role of books as a source of support, the complexities of motherhood, and the ongoing challenge of work-life balance.Buy Julie's new book: https://amzn.eu/d/fR4P4j2Website: drjuliesmith.comInstagram: @drjulieTikTok & YouTube: @DrJulieSmith Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices