The Calmer You Podcast

Nicky Clinch is a Maturation Coach &  Facilitator. Maturation is a process of growing out of who you thought you were into who you were born to be.Her mission in life is for you to break free of the confines of your past traumas, self-defeating patterns and suffering so that you can realise and come home to who you truly are.We chat about:* Nicky shares her tag on anxiety (it’s not your usual perspective and I love it)* How we can heal trauma* Nicky shares her powerful story of transformation through plant medicines* Why she scrapped 50,000 words of her book to start from scratchSponsorSweaty Betty – Pop into one of their stores with your old leggings to grab that voucher towards a new pair. Head to https://www.sweatybetty.com/sustainability to find out more. Get 20% off online purchases with the code calmeryou.TranscriptIntroductionChloe: Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge, I’m a coach, a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of “the anxiety solution and brave new girl,” and this podcast is all about helping you to become your calmest, happiest and most confident self. In this episode, I'm talking to the wonderful Nicky Clinch, and Nicky is such a special person, she came over to my house to recall this episode, we actually live quite close to one another in London, in Hackney, East London. And we sat together on the sofa, and I honestly felt like this conversation was so healing for me, and it really came at the right time for me personally and I really hope it helps here as well. Nicky is a transformational leader and facilitator, she has studiedintegrative counseling and macrobiotics, she is also a spiritual mentor andit's her mission in life to help all of us to break free from the confines ofour past traumas, ourselves defeating patterns, and our suffering. So that wecan realize and come home to who we are. So Nicky and I get into lots differenttopics, we start off by talking about trauma and how it can be the root of somany of our issues and how we can start to overcome the traumas that held usback. Nicky gives us her take on anxiety and where that comes from and what wecan do to start to manage our own anxiety. And Nicky advice definitely isn't the standard 3 tips to curing anxiety something that you might read day-to-day, it really does go very very deep and it's very very powerful. She shares some really moving personal stories about how she's healed her own trauma, how own experience of plant medicines, her own transformation and how she helps other people to transform. She also shares the incredible story about how she was 50000 words into writing her book, she had publishing deal with Hey house and how she actually scrapped the whole 50000 words and went on a different path and this is incredible for me, as someone who has written a book to let go of 50000 words, that's just terrifying to me. So I love this story with Nicky, it was incredibly inspiring. So I wouldlove to send some free resources to help you grow your confidence, boost yourself-esteem and calm your anxiety, if you want these freebies you can head overto my website; calmeryou.com/free, put your email address in there and I'llsend you those freebies right away. So let's get into the interview with Nickyclinch.Nicky Clinch: So we’re rolling. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on the Calmer You podcast I speak with voice coach and author of Find Your Voice, Caroline Goyder. She knows a thing or two about how to find your voice and get out of your head. We chat about:* What is confidence?* Why nerves are good* How to overcome blushing or shaking when you’re speaking* How to improve your confidence when it comes to speaking* Phone phobia * And lots more!TranscriptIntroductionChloe: Hello and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge, I’m a coach, a hypnotherapist and I'm the author of “the anxiety solution, and brave new girl” and this podcast is all about helping you to become your calmest happiest and most confident self. Today on the podcast, I have the pleasure of speaking to Caroline Goyder who is a voice coach, and she's the author of the new book “Find your voice.” She is also a Ted x. Speaker and her Ted Talk has had 7 and a half million views which is really incredible. In this episode we're talking all about confidence, particularly confidence when it comes to speaking, whether that’s speaking on a stage, speaking up in a meeting or speaking on the phone. And this is I hope such a reassuring chat because both Caroline and Ihave struggled in this area before, we both admitted to having blushed in thepast. And so it's really coming from a place of her having experienced thenervousness and the fear that comes along with speaking, and having learned alot about herself, made a lot of progress and she actually gets to help otherpeople with that as well. So we talk about Caroline's definition of confidence,and I think this is really interesting, not what you might be expecting. Wetalk about why nerves are actually a good thing and why there's nothing to beashamed about if you do experience nerves before speaking, it's actuallycompletely normal and I hope this conversation helped to normalize even moreand how to know there's nothing to be ashamed of. We talk about how to overcome the specific things that can hold us backfrom speaking like blushing or shaking or speaking to the fast and Carolineshares lots of tips on growing your confidence in general, when it comes tospeaking, phone phobia and people who experience this will know what I'mtalking about if you're scared of being on the phone in front of the people inthe office for example or if you're someone that maybe doesn't like to answerthe phone when people call, if it's an unknown number for example, I'm one ofthese people by the way. And we just got into loads of helpful ideas around the topic of speaking confidence, and finding your voice. So if you want to get some free resources from me on growing your confidence, boosting your self-esteem, calming anxiety, I've got loads of freebies on my website for you, if you had over to calmeryou.com/free and to enter your email address there, I'm going to send you mp3’s, worksheet, podcast updates and loads more. So head over to Calmeryou.com/free, so let's get into the interview with Caroline Goyder.Chloe: So welcome Caroline, thank you so much for joining me, how are you? Caroline Goyder: I'm good, pleasure to be here. Chloe: Please can you tell us what it is you do and how you came to do that youtoday? What is a Voice Coach? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on the Calmer You Podcast I speak with Julia Samuel, Author of Grief Works and her new book This Too Shall Pass. We chat about:* What is the ‘fertile void’?* How busyness stops us from healing * How to handle changes in your life * What to say to someone who is grieving* The particular struggles that millennials faceTranscriptChloe: Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. Welcome. I am a coach, a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of The Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl. On today's PodcastAnd today, on the podcast, I've got the wonderful Julia Samuel, MBE, who is a psychotherapist, and she's also the author of two books; Grief Works, and her latest book, This Too Shall Pass, which is all about how to navigate changes. And you know, we're so scared of change, aren’t we? On one hand, we really want change, we want transformation. And on the other hand, how many of us can get stuck keeping things the same because change just feels too scary, and it feels safer to stick with what we know even though it's uncomfortable. So, wetalked about this whole topic of change. We discussed what's known as thefertile void, and I love how Julia explains this and how we can cultivate thisin our lives, and it can help us to handle changes in our lives. We talkedabout how business stops us from healing and what we need to do instead. Wealso get into the topic of grief and what to say to someone who's grieving andhow to handle that yourself about something that's affecting you at the moment.We also touch on the particular struggles that millennials and those of asimilar generation face. So, I want to let you know that I have some freeresources for confidence, self-esteem, and anxiety. If you want to grab thosefreebies, head over to my website, CalmerYou.com/Free, and I'll send you lots of resources, worksheets,downloads, updates about the podcast. Head over to CalmerYou.com/Free. So, let's get into the interview with Julia Samuel.Welcome, Julia. Thank you so much for joining me. How are you today? Julia:Really well. Lovely to meet you, Chloe. Chloe: Couldyou please share with us what it is that you do and how you came to do the workthat you do today? More about Julia SamuelJulia: So, I'm a psychotherapist and I've been a psychotherapist for 30 years. 25 years I worked in the NHS at a big NHS hospital supporting families when babies died and children died. So, I was the counselor for pediatrics and maternity. From there, I helped started or established and launched a charity called Child Bereavement UK, which was supporting families when a child died or when a child's bereaved. From there, I sort of taught a lot and lectured a lot. I've gone into private practice in the last few years, about the last five years. And I wrote another book before and this is my second book. So, I'm a seasoned therapist and a new author. So, one is kind of an old hat and the other feels exciting and scary. And I'm not even sure I can call myself an author. Chloe:Amazing. And I can't imagine work more, I don’t know, intense than working withpeople that have lost a child. I think that's incredible that you've done thatwork. What was that like? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Caroline Foran is the number 1 bestselling author of Owning It and The Confidence Kit. She is currently working on her third title. She's the host of the ‘Owning it' anxiety podcast. We chat about:* Her experience with anxiety* Why so many of us are anxious* Practical ways to deal with anxiety* How to support a friend or ask for support from others Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week I speak to personal trainer and yoga teacher Shona Vertue. We discuss:* Her experience of therapy and SAD * Attachment theory and why there's nothing to be ashamed of if you are needy or codependent in relationships  * The pressures and boundaries of social media  * And of course, ask her the question – how are you really?  TranscriptMentally fit with Shona VertueChloe Brotheridge: Hello and welcome to the ‘CalmerYou’ podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. I am a coach, ahypnotherapist and I'm the author of the ‘Anxiety Solution’ and ‘Brave New Girl’.Thank you so much for listening today. I have an amazing guest this week Shona Vertue.Shona is known for being a fitness instructor and yoga teacher. But for somereason, this conversation isn't actually that much about fitness. We get intosuch a varied number of topics. She has had her career so far in the fitnessindustry, but she is now studying psychology and so this is a real passion ofhers.So, we get into topics like her experience of therapy, why it's totallyokay to have therapy and we talk about things like how to find a therapist. Wetalk about something called ‘Attachment Theory’ and you might have heard thisbefore. Some of us might be anxiously attached for example and it has to dowith things that happened in our childhood. We really get into why there'snothing to be ashamed about if you're somebody that is perhaps needy orcodependent in relationships because it's not your fault and it can often goback to these things in childhood. So, we chat about that.We get into the pressures and boundaries of social media and I also ask her my favorite question to ask people which is. How are you really? I love Shona’s answer this, she's really honest and open and talks about something that I think a lot of us can relate to particularly at this time of year. So, I think gonna love this episode. I felt like I was chatting to an old friend where I met show know even though we just met ten minutes before. Confidence ChallengeAlso, I want to let you know that my confidence challenge is coming up on the 24th of February 2020. You can sign up at Calmeryou.com/confidence.It's going to be 5 days of community, fun challenges, helping you tothink differently and take some action. So, that you can take a few stepstowards living the life that you want to live, being the person that you wantto be, accepting and loving yourself more, building your own self as and justfeeling better about being you overall. Last time I ran, it was really reallyamazing to see how people made profound changes over just five days and madenew friends and expanded their idea of what's possible for them. So, I'd lovefor you to join us as well. You need to sign up and register to get all thedownloads and workbooks and access the community. You can do that on my websitecalmeryou.com/confidence.So, let's get into the episode, with Shona. Welcome Shona, thank you somuch for joining me. How are you?Shona Vertue: I am good. Thank you forhaving me.Chloe Brotheridge: I would love to know a bitabout, what it is that you do people that don't know.Shona Vertue: Okay.Chloe Brotheridge: And how you got to where youare today? Can you share a bit about that? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode I speak to author Laura Jane Williams. We chat about:* The ups and downs of work* Her experiences with anxiety and mental health * Giving yourself the recognition you deserve * When your life is “amazing” on the outside but inside you’re struggling* The complexities of adulthoodTranscriptChloe:                        Hello, and welcome to the comedy podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. I am a coach. I'm a therapist and the author of the Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl. I welcome you to this podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Thanks for being here. I'm talking to the wonderful, brilliant Laura Jane Williams. Laura Jane Williams is an author. She has written several books. The latest of which is called Our Stop. If you’ve read her books or you follow her online, she is just one of these people who has an amazing way of putting words to things that so many of us experience but find it hard to express. She's got an incrediblymagnetic personality, an amazing way with words and she talks a lot aboutmental health. We get into discussions about the ups and downs of work and thisthing that can happen so often when our life seems really amazing from theoutside. Maybe people are congratulating us on how well things are going andyet inside, we're really struggling. This can happen to so many of us and wechat about this. We talk about herexperiences of her journey with her mental health and anxiety. We talk aboutwhy it's so hard to give yourself recognition for things. She shares a practiceand an example of the experiences she's had where she's really been able togive herself that recognition. I think in having this discussion, it also givesus, the listeners, the permission to give ourselves recognition as well. Wetalk about the complexities of adulthood and just get into that whole topic,which I think all of us will be able to relate to.I love this conversationwith Laura. I think you’re going to love it as well and get loads from it. So,I just want to let you know that my amazing, if I do say so myself, confidencechallenge is coming up at the end of February 2020. I would love you to join us.It’s completely free. It's a five-day challenge. I am confident that if youjoin us, you will notice a change in your life and how you feel. Here's what Michelle said,someone who joined the last on that around there. She said, “This challengegave me the courage to go out of my comfort zone and try something new. It alsogave me the nudge I needed to reach out to some old friends and reconnect. Moreimportantly, it's made me realize I'm not alone. I now understand it's okay tobe open, honest and vulnerable.” So many people have said this from this freechallenge that I run, they met new friends. They took action that they wouldn'thave taken before. They learned things about themselves.They took a step outside of their comfort zone and I would love all of these things for you and more. You can sign up for free if you head to my website calmer-you.com/confidence. Pop your email address in there and I'll send you all the details about the challenge. That's calmer-you.com/confidence and I hope to see you there. Let's get into the interview with Laura Jane Williams. Welcome, Laura, thank you so much for joining me. How are you today? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this solo episode, I discuss:* The thing I teach all my 1 on 1 clients about confidence* The most important belief you must develop in order to transform * How to get to the root of your issues with confidence in order to change it* Simple steps to boost your confidence and self-esteemMy confidence challenge is coming up at the end of Feb:5 days to become more confident, connect with others on the same path and have fun. It’s one of my favourite offers and totally free. Join at www.calmeryou.com/confidenceA special offer from our sponsorThis podcast is sponsored by Blinkist. Get a 7-day free trial and 25% off when you head to www.blinkist.com/calmeryouTranscriptHello, and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host, Chloe Brotheridge. I'm a coach and a hypnotherapist and the author of two books, The Anxiety Solution, and Brave New Girl, which is all about how to grow your confidence. So, today I'm going to be sharing with you a number of steps that I think if you follow them, will help you to be calm and your most confident self, to tap into the innate courage that is within you, and start to feel better about doing the things that you want to do, being you in the world, and going outside of your comfort zone. Journey to becomming a more confident personAnd so this is really an area that I'm passionate about talking about having to struggle with my own issues around confidence and self-esteem for so so long and going on a journey to become a more confident person. And I'm not saying that it's the case that we will just one day emerge like a butterfly out of the chrysalis a new person. But the reality is that it's a journey. It's a process. And little by little, we can start to make changes and we can grow. And we can discover more about what's possible for us and expand what is possible for us. So, I'm going to share with you eight steps for becoming your most confident self. Believe that you can changeSo,number one is to believe that you can change. And I can't tell you howimportant this step is. It sounds so simple, but actually is an incrediblypowerful shift that so many of us actually need to make before we can start tomake a change. Because when we are in a bad place, when we struggled withsomething for a long time, when we feel that we've tried a lot of things andthey haven't worked, it can be so easy to tell ourselves, that we are just notconfident people and we are going to be stuck, feeling this way forever andthere's not much we can do about it. And yet, and yet, the reality is thatchange is always possible. We are always changing your brain is alwayschanging. Depending on what you do, depending on what you think, what you focuson, those neurons are being created, old patterns of thinking, old neuralpathways are degrading as you use them less and less. And so [??? 02:18]neurological level it is possible to change. And there's that old classic quotefrom Henry Ford, “You believe you can or you believe you can't. And either way,you're right.” And this really encapsulates, even though it's quite a cheesyquote, by now, it will encapsulate this truth, that when we believe we canchange, it makes it easier to change. And so even if you are just experimenting Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today's Calmer You Podcast I speak with Marianne Power the Author of Help Me! We chat about:* Facing your fears (Marianne has done some incredible things!)* How Marianne upgraded her identity to be a more confident person * The things that Marianne has found most (and least) helpful on her self help journey * How to overcome a fear of public speaking * Powerful and Reassuring advice for those with anxiety and depression.My confidence challenge is coming up at the end of Feb: 5 days to become more confident, connect with others of the same path and have fun. It’s one of my favourite offers and totally free. Join at www.calmeryou.com/confidenceA special offer from our sponsorThis podcast is sponsored by Blinkist. Get a 7-day free trial and 25% off when you head to www.blinkist.com/calmeryouTranscriptChloe:Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is the place to be to becomeyour calmest, happiest, and most confident self. And this is your host, ChloeBrotheridge. I am a coach and a hypnotherapist. I'm the author of The AnxietySolution and Brave New Girl. Today, I'm so lucky to get to speak the MariannePower, who is the author of the brilliant book, Help Me, which is herexperience of reading a different self-help book every day for a year, andputting things into practice, and seeing what the results were for her. Andthis book is firstly, very, very funny, and secondly, very helpful, comforting,inspiring, reassuring. There are practical assets in there as well. I reallythink you're gonna love it. And so myself and Marianne talked about facing yourfears, and Marianne really has faced a lot of fears and she shares some of theincredible things that she's done through the course of writing this book, andI think it's quite amazing. I'm very, very in awe of her. Wetalked about the things that Marianne has found the most, and also the leasthelpful from all the things that she's tried on her self-help journey. We alsoget into how to handle her fear of public speaking. So, many of us strugglewith this, and Marianne shares really beautifully about her experience of thatand what she's doing is overcome it. And she just gives some really reassuring,lovely, comforting words of advice to people who are struggling with anxietyand depression. And this podcast, I hope is going to feel like a big hug and areassuring message that you are actually okay. And you're not as bad as youthink you are basically. In fact, you're wonderful. So, I really hope you’regoing to enjoy this episode. If you're looking to become a more confidentversion of yourself in 2020, then I want to invite you to come on over to seemy website and join me in the upcoming confidence challenge where every dayI'll be sending you free resources and invites to connect with our community togrow your confidence in five days in very, very simple, simple and fun stepsand with simple fun exercises. So, you can join us, we're going to be startingsoon over at CalmerYou.com/Confidence. So, let's get into the interview with Marianne Power.Welcome, Marianne, Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week's Calmer You Podcast, I really enjoyed speaking with Laura ‘biceps' Hoggins, PT & Head of Brand @foundryfit. She has introduced a form of fitness that celebrates effort over results and empowerment over appearance.We chat about:* How to overcome gymtimidation * The mental and physical benefits of lifting weights (some of these will surprise you)* Getting back into exercise after a break * Weight lifting for anxiety and confidenceMy confidence challenge is coming up at the end of Feb: 5 days to become more confident, connect with others of the same path and have fun. It’s one of my favourite offers and totally free. Join at www.calmeryou.com/confidenceTranscriptChloe B.:                Hello, and welcome to the calmer you podcast. This is your hostChloe Brotheridge, I am a coach and a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of theanxiety solution and brave new girl. Thank you so much for listening today. I'mtalking to you, Laura Hoggins, and she is sharing all about the power and themagic of weightlifting and why it's so amazing for us, particularly if we arestruggling with anxiety and confidence.GymtimidationAnd she gets into telling us abouthow to overcome gymtimidation, because this is a real thing guys, I'veexperienced it myself. A sense of walking into the gym not knowing what to do,intimidating people everywhere how do we overcome that and start to feelconfident enough to go into the weights rooms and try something new, and wetalk all about that. We also get into what are the mental and physical benefitsof lifting weights, and some of these actually really surprised me, I wasn'texpecting one or two of these. And as a way of hopefully motivating you to wantto give it a try.We talked about getting back intoexercise after a break; this was just a personal thing that I'd experiencedrecently. It can be so difficult if you haven't worked out in a while to thenget going again. How do we overcome those barriers and struggles? And Lauratells us exactly how to do that. And we also get into weightlifting for anxietyand confidence specifically, and what is it about weightlifting particularlythat can really change our perception of ourselves and our bodies, and how wefeel about ourselves, and calm us down in a different way than other types ofexercise.So I think you're going to love thisepisode. If you're looking to grow your confidence in 2020, I'm running a freechallenge in the next couple of weeks, the brave New Year confidence challenge.The last time I ran it, I absolutely loved it. Seeing you guys, helping each other,taking action, growing your confidence noticing real shifts in how you'respeaking to yourselves, and how you're feeling about yourselves in the world.It was really moving for me, and I'm so excited to be able to offer this again.It's a free challenge, you can enter your details at Calmeryou.com/confidence,and you get all the details of when that's starting and how to get involved. Solet's get into the interview with Laura Hoggins.Chloe B.:         &... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week's podcast, I speak with Jess Lively. She helps people experience more joy, fulfillment, and presence through flow and the power of their subconscious. We chat about:* The story of her changing consciousness * Why allowing things to be easy is an option* How to listen to the inner voice, the intuition * What is manifesting My confidence challenge is coming up at the end of Feb – 5 days to become more confident, connect with others of the same path and have fun – it’s one of my favourite events I offer and totally free, join at www.calmeryou.com/confidence Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.